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so, I'm naturally really quiet. My sister posted on twitter "when I was little my sister tried to kill me. Real sh**.. Over a lego."First of all I didn't try to kill her, I just threw something at all, that's it. She follows alot of people. I don't want people to think I'm a murderer or something You know the saying "its always the quiet ones" I don't want people getting the wrong idea, I'm a nice quiet person. I don't have a twitter, I was told by a friend that she put this. What do I do?! I don't want her bashing me like that on twitter. Heeeeelp! (link)
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You're over-reacting. She likely put it on her twitter because she thought most people yourself included would feel it funny or cute. How they'd get that you're the equivalent of a murderer from that I don't know.
As for bashing you unless you see further incidents or have past ones she did on twitter you can't make a case with parents or others that she's deliberately putting you down on purpose all the time.
Here's what you can do either laugh and let this one incident slide if she's never done this before or tell her that you NEVER speak of her even as joke in a negative light or at all on any social network to people she does and doesn't know.
Tell her that what she writes is seen by anyone who logs onto twitter and isn't fair. If she doesn't see she needs to be more responsible and it continues than build your mountain of evidence and tell your parents that it's to put it bluntly pissing you off and affecting your social status at school and you're the butt of jokes.
For now if this is the first time it happened try and laugh it off and realize that you are reacting with hurt feelings and haven't thought through whether it was a bad attempt at humor or malice. I would speak to her about it and ask how she would feel if you posted that about her or something equally or more embarrassing.
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im really sick to my stomache, i have had a headache all day and last nigt,im shaky right now and feeling like im going to throw up, so nauseous, im jitterly and feeing really tired, anyone know what this is, any advice will help, thanks,
for info, i have a thyroid problem,i have hashamto thyroiditis,a enlargedgoiter, are these sins of it (link)
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Only a doctor could tell you with 100% certainty exactly what is going on. Being tired all the time no matter the situation is but one symptom of thyroid problems, as is feeling super hot, cold for no reason that won't cease. But, that can be signs of other things too.
What you need to do right now is go to an emergency room. Do this if you haven't been able to hold food down for several hours. You can become dehydrated from constant vomiting if in fact that's the issue.
Even if you haven't you should go anyway and tell them you feel sick to your stomach, non-stop shaking or tremor, being jittery and that you have preexisting thyroid and goiter issues. They'll check things out. Better to be safe and or wrong than not.
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Is the Secret Garden a love story? or like a love story? like do Collin and I believe her name is mary fall in love or like each other? Im comfused I havn't seen it in a while so I forgot. Well Thanks(: (link)
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Colin is her cousin and lives in a part of the house in which the protagonist is never to venture. He is treated like broken glass and as though he is sickly when he may or may not really be as bad off. I saw the play awhile ago and remember that particular plot detail well. Dickon is the brother I believe of the girl.
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ok can you see your hymen yes or no if yes how? (link)
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http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hymen See link.
A better link that explains it and shows a medical diagram (not picture) depicting the different types there are can be seen here: http://www.mhhe.com/socscience/sex/common/ibank/ibank/0010.jpg
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20/f
CAUTION: I know there are some young people on this website, THIS IS AN ADULT QUESTION! Only people 18 and older please :)
My boyfriend likes to talk about other people when we're having sex. He likes talking about other guys that want to have sex with me, which guys "jack off" to me, and so on. He also likes to talk about watching me have sex with another man. He says he wants to watch me go down on another man, and other sexual acts, as he watches. He wants me to talk about people I hooked up with in the past, very graphically. He says he likes it because he likes that I'm desirable, but it seems degrading to me.
I hate it. I love him. I love him SO MUCH, and I absolutely hate the thought of any other man touching me. I look at sex as something special I only share with him, and I'm OK with being dirty with him... but when he talks about other people I feel so uncomfortable. The second I start to picture someone else.. I'm turned off. And he wants me to talk about it, a lot, and I have to stop enjoying sex to concentrate to make up some sick story that I think he'd like....... it makes sex not enjoyable for me.
The worst part is that now I think about other men, and it upsets me. We talk about it during sex now when I see those men I'm attracted to them, and it makes me feel very guilty - even though he's OK with it.
I've talked to him over and over again. I've been very blunt about saying I hate it, and have stopped in the middle of sex because of it, but he continues to do it. I don't think he can help it... I think it's the only thing that turns him on.
I want to please him, so I thought maybe I'd try to join him in it, but I'm really unhappy. It makes me feel unfaithful, even when I haven't done anything. And it makes me feel objectified.
What should I do? It's a really big issue, mostly because we're different in a big way, but I am very in love with him and I want it to work. Should I relax and be more open? Or tell him he has to change who he is??
Sorry for the length, thank you for your time. (link)
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It would appear that he really doesn't care how this makes you feel. That's a major red flag. If you have told him forcefully and blunt that you aren't into this than he should have stopped. It shows he's not concerned about what it's doing to you emotionally.
If I were you I would tell him that because he hasn't respected your wishes that you no longer will engage in sexual activity unless he knocks it off. The thing is this may just be built into him and how he is. It doesn't look to me like he's going to change for good at least.
As much as you love him I think it's coming down to a final decision. Either he stops this behavior with you or you move on. Never back down from what you know is right here.
Another concern is that if this is what he's into, doesn't care about your feelings etc. what's to say that he won't act on his own fantasy and want to make this reality? There's something there about him and this that's beyond you and not right.
I know you want to make it work but ask yourself these questions first and then lay down the gauntlet and tell him where things stand period. No means No when you told him before. If he doesn't get it it's because you haven't really enforced it and how you feel and make him see the consequences. That's my take.
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what does pop your cherry mean? (link)
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Slang for when the mucous membrane called a hymen is stretched or torn near the vaginal opening in a female. See Wikipedia link here: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hymen Contains medical diagram and different types of this membrane and its function.
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I have a bunch of brownish spots forming on my teeth. I never forget to brush my teeth, so I don't understand why they are forming. If they were cavities, they would hurt a ton or be really sensitive, which they aren't. I think I had my teeth sealed when I was younger so I would not get cavities, so I am quite perplexed. I don't know whether I will be able to go to the dentist soon, though, because I haven't been able to
go in two years, even though I'm supposed to go every six months because I have braces. What should I do?
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Are you unable to afford it or just haven't gone for whatever reason? If you have braces and haven't gone back in 2 years I think you definitely need to. You usually see a dentist every 6 months for cleaning, sometimes every 3 if your teeth are really bad unless you need work done.
Believe it or not not all cavities hurt. I know this because a dentist told me I had cavities I never felt or knew about until they showed up on his TV screen camera as he poked around. Fillings on that camera looked grey and dark brown is how cavities looked on the camera.
I'm not a dentist but have had a ton of stuff done this year. I can't say nor can anyone here exactly what your brown spots represent and nobody could without that knowledge or your dental chart and x-ray.
I've never heard of teeth sealing before either. Might you mean caps? I'm not sure what you mean but either way do get to a dentist. It's time. From what I know anyone can get a cavity. Make an appointment, get it checked out and talk to them about payment options if need be.
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I'm 19/f and i have a pretty good sex life. I don't finger myself though is that weird or uncommon? I'm just kind of creeped out by vaginas and id rather not touch it haha does anyone else have this problem? (link)
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I don't understand why you would be grossed out by your genitals. The fact of the matter is that it's the cleanest part of your body being self-cleansing and constantly doing so. Also, it's where babies are born from.
There's nothing dirty or wrong about touching that area nor uncommon to do so or not do so. The other posters listed the stats on that so I won't repeat them as it's redundant. However, I would ask yourself why that body part 'freaks' you out and learn to accept your body better.
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Ok so I'm playing piano at my chorus concert. I'm playing imagine by John lennon and its the finale so it's got to end it a big bang. I'm technaclly composing it as my teacher says. I'm playing for over 2,000 people (parents, family, friends, the adminestration) I need help on makin it one of the best best performances of any chorus concert at my town. Need ideas (link)
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I think what you need to affirm in your mind is that you know this piece backwards and forwards. Know that your teacher knows you can nail it and wouldn't have put you in this position if you couldn't handle it.
The best thing to do while performing is to try and connect with the piece and think of what it means to you and convey that and your love for the piano to your audience. Mentally block them out and play just for yourself or spot one person in the audience and focus on playing for them and not 2000 people.
I know you will do well if you keep this in mind and just go out there and forget about anything else. Don't be bothered with what they think because you can't control it. Do your best and leave it at that.
You might also want to design your own lighting and have images that relate to the song as your backdrop so even those in the worst seats can connect with you at the piano. Just a thought as it does work well.
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I'm a 17 year old girl from Australia who planned on going on a schoolies trip with a few friends a while ago. I paid half of my share but afterwards decided to pull out because I was going to go overseas with my family instead. Because of my last minute decision, I was content with letting them keep the money.
However, after a series of events, the family trip got cancelled. One of the friends (who I'll call Girl A) suggested that I go with them. So I asked the rest of the group, who were hesitant and frustrated with all my sudden change of attitudes and because they had already planned the rest of the trip (transportation, budget, things to bring etc.). I agreed to the list of things they set me to bring and even offered to get my own transportation (since there's no more room in the cars because of their luggage) which will cost me a lot of money.
I know it was wrong of me to mess up their plans but I did pay for it and most of them weren't willing to give me back my money at this point.
Because of all this, they're all now frustrated with me and I'm afraid that I'll be nothing but a burden the whole trip. Girl A is the only one who isn't upset with me and said that she'll stay by my side, but I don't want to hold her back from having fun with the rest of the group.
Now I'm trying to mend friendships with the rest of the group, but they're still reluctant to forgive me. I genuinely want to go especially since my best friend Girl A wants me come, but I'm afraid I'll be excluded from the rest of the group most of the time.
If I decide not to go then I thought that I'll try to negotiate with them to get my money back after the trip because money is a bit tight with them at the moment (which I think is why they didn't want to pay me back before).
Basically, I don't want to go if my 'so-called friends' don't even want me there. I have to make a final decision within the next 24 hours. Should I stay or should I go? Is it worth it? (link)
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If you paid for this trip and they have your money already and are keeping it regardless of excuse than you need your parents involved. There should be none of this 24 BS.
Who cares if they don't want you there? I can understand them being miffed and having to change things but big deal. Go and enjoy yourself or have your parents approach theirs and go after your money.
If you truly want to see Australia you should speak up and make sure other adults put them in their place so there's no more BS and they don't try to ruin a good time that you paid for. They are 100% in the wrong regardless of circumstance to not refund your money and keep a hold of it and then try to do the trip and make you feel bad for going.
You did back out, they kept the money and yes you came back but as long as they have your cash you better go as I have a feeling unless adults are involved that you'll never see a cent of it again. Have your parents call their parents and raise hell over the cash. If you don't get it back in a timely fashion you could make a lawyer get it back as the funds aren't rightfully their own.
Tell your parents the situation and that they demand a flash 24hr decision and have all your money and I'm sure you'll see within 24 hours or less a reversal in their attitude as nobody has to put up with this. Don't deny yourself a vacation even if they are going too or take your money back and go alone or with someone worthy in the future. I think not going let's them win--it's a victory to them getting what they want. I'd go and afterwards have ZERO to do with them. They need to grow up and accept all of this was out of your control.
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I'm a 14 year old female and I have terrible acne. Its all over my face and at random times. I have very pale skin so every little thing is very noticeable. By the end of the school day I look so oily its disgusting. Home remedies? Products? HELP pleasee I'm so embarrassed. (link)
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Home remedies and over the counter stuff will not cut it. They don't contain any medicine in them and aren't potent enough and cannot eat away at what causes the problem. What you need to get is a prescription cream that destroys acne and prevents it from coming back. For that you need to see a dermatologist but some family doctors can give you sample tubes for starters. Unless you do that the problem won't yield.
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I recieved a toshiba laptop as a present last year and it only dosen't work because I spilled water on my keyboard :( and now like ten to 15 of the keys don't work and it's slowing down rapidly now with the processor and the function. :( So I am in the market for a new laptop. So I am thinking of an HP or macbook. Which one should I get? I need it for school, and also entertainment like surfing the web, and watch movies?? which one do you guys reccomend?? (link)
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HP just reversed a decision to get out of the business of making PCs. I have a Toshiba Laptop and it's not as exciting as the Mac Book to be sure. However, if all you want to do is watch movies and surf the web a laptop works fine but for value the Mac Book is better.
If you love to create, design, do anything with Photo Shop etc. Mac is best. It's the perfect time to buy because they just re-designed Mac-Air laptops with new processors and the faster Lion operating system.
My brother just bought one and loves it. I have used a Mac desktop since 2006 and it's still really fast and 100% reliable. Mac's also don't get viruses so that's an enormous plus, nor error messages, or glitches like Windows does. You'll never need Anti-virus software either as it's already built like Fort Knox.
I find that their word processor is better than Microsoft and easier to do really creative presentations and reports. It's called Pages and it's art of ILife or Iworks which sells for about $90.
When it comes to entertainment pretty much any laptop is good for movie watching, web surfing although the Mac's browsers are easier to use and free of errors, re-directs, malware etc.
The processors in the Mac-Air are dual Intel and the best out there right now and really fast. Anyways, read up on it http://www.apple.com/macbookair/
My advice is to get one preferably from an Apple Store or by ordering direct on their webpage to configure it the way you want. Base model is $999. Should be all you need. By the way don't buy one without Apple Care which gives 3 years extended warranty, no question repairs (unless you went out of your way to damage) and 24hr tech support on the phone. You'll need it as switching from Windows to Mac suddenly will take a while to figure out new things. But once you switch you'll never want to use a PC again.
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I'm 11 and my babysitter is touching me wrong.He's 16 and he babysits me everyday after school. When I finish homework and watch tv he makes me sit on his lap and he puts his hands up my shirt.I say stop,but he says its okay and to just come down.Sometimes he even puts his hands down my pants.I know what he is doing is wrong and I want to tell my parents,but I'm to scared what do I do? (link)
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Understand this first and foremost: The guy is a GRADE A creep with a really disgusting problem. None of this is your fault in any way, shape or form either. Your parents won't be upset with you at all. And you MUST TELL.
They need to know the truth so they can help you and he gets punished. Also they need to know so that you never have to see him or go through this crap again. He may have victimized other girls and not just you. By telling the truth to your parents it will help others babysat by him and end victimization for them too.
You can't keep this secret. No matter what you need to yell it from the rooftops and tell every last adult you know including teachers privately about this. They'll know how to get the police involved and you the counseling you will need to move on. You're the victim he isn't. Everyone will be on your side.
If telling your parents or others in conversation is hard write it all out in a letter and give it to an adult you trust and let them do the rest. It has to come out one way or the other. Nobody said this would be easy but you have to be brave and put a stop to this by speaking out. Tough to do at any age let alone 11 but you have to get this out to adults who will do nothing but help.
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im 19 years old female and my boy is 22 years old. my boyfriend made plans with me well in advance to go out to dinner. but since the new cod game came out his best friend wants to play it. they share the xbox and the game. so instead of going out to eat and going back to my house to watch movies we are going out to dinner with his best friend and we are skipping the movies so that they can go and play after. our last real date just one on one was my birthday march 17, since then people have been tagging along on our dates. im very disappointed because i was actually nervous and was looking forward to it. i never say anything cause i dont want to be the typical girl , how do i even handle this? (link)
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The fact you say nothing all the time is a signal to him that he can always pull this. You have to be stronger and stand up for yourself. It's not fair for the plans to have been changed so his friend can play some game.
Tell your boyfriend that you haven't had one night devoted entirely to you both being alone together since the start of 2011. Tell him that his friend won't suffer any by waiting to play a video game another night. It's not going any place new game or not. Insist on dinner and a movie without anyone else. If he can't do that it says something's not right.
What does he want more a relationship with you or one with his friends and his XBOX. Don`t be afraid to get pissed at him as he`s earned it and you need to show a backbone so he never does it again. He thinks he can walk all over you. Don`t let him. It`s time you let out a roar. As far as the typical GF thing that`s an irrational fear. Speaking up for yourself now and then needs to happen.
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Will colleges care if I fail one class on my transcript if I make good grades in my other classes?
I have all of the credits I need to graduate high school. My Gpa is 3.8 and I'm doing good in all of my classes except for JROTC, I don't need to pass this class because I have enough credits, but will colleges care if I just fail this class, but I pass all of my others? (link)
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If you don't need the course see if you can drop it without academic penalty. I would only be worried if you did poorly G.P.A. wise in multiple courses.
The transcript is mainly to prove to them that you have a GED or diploma from high school and secondly that you have great grades in courses that relate to your program of choice.
Let's say you're applying for journalism for example. They would care that you have a good mark in history and every English course you ever took and knowledge of current events.
If you flopped in a writing course it would hurt you. If you stunk at a math course or something else it wouldn't matter all that much. It wouldn't cost you an interview nor a placement.
If you're passing everything else you're fine. If anyone ever asked (and they won't have the time) about a grade in a course tell them it was at an advanced level, you didn't need the course, found it too challenging and did your best. It won't come to that.
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Hey Im 16 and a senior in highschool. I met this guy in an interschool competition. He's the same age but is a senior in some other school. We started talking after the competition and became good friends. We have gone out on three dates till now. And yeah, we have kissed each other and made out a little. We cannot resist each other at all. And hence the makeouts were a mutual desicion. I am falling for him. But the problem is that even though he says he is falling for me, he keeps on telling me he cannot date me cause he's a bad guy and he cares for me too too much to hurt me. He says he is not one of those dateable guys who will love their girl completely and he might find a new girl and dump me.That would hurt me and he doesnt want to do that! He hasnt had a past record of cheating or anything it's just that he tells me he wants to be sure before he asks a girl out that he will be completely loyal to her and not flirt around with other girls. He also liked this girl a year back and he says he feels guilty that he got over her and fell for me! But when we meet we actually act like we are dating, cause he gets me stuff, he tells me he loves me, we hold hands. we actually act like a couple in love. we also talk all the time. I dont know what to do. Because I really want to be with him. But cant figure out how to make him ask me out? and if he is really a bad guy? HELP.
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Tell him that his fears are irrational fantasy not based on reality. He shouldn't fear hurting you or being disloyal when he hasn't to anyone else. Either this is his way out of being in a relationship or he doesn't know how to handle this situation or just wants physical.
Issue an ultimatum and tell him it's either a relationship or a friendship but choose. You can't have both as it's not working and the feelings you are developing could cause a problem if he continues jerking you around on the issue. If he continues doing this find someone else as it's not fair. You have to spell out to him what you want and that the risk is worthwhile.
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Hi!
I'm thirteen years old and in the eighth grade. There's this guy at my school who I like...a lot. He's a really sweet guy, but I've only known him for about a month and a half. I don't know how he feels, though...we've only really had conversations when we did group projects in class. Whenever I see him in the hallway, he usually just smiles in my direction. Sometimes he'll call my name and wave. The problem is that this really popular girl likes him, too, and at the last school dance they slow danced together (she asked him). He seems like the "too nice to refuse" type, but I don't know whether they're dating or not. HELP! (link)
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It's best to ask around and get a consensus on whether there's anything between them. When it comes to school dances it's not unusual for both girls and guys to have multiple dance partners. It doesn't mean they're together but you do need to check.
You'll never go out with anyone if you don't talk to them and let them know you're alive. Talking to him is no different than talking with a friend. Talk about both you interests and expand from there.
Just do it and don't think about it. You're making it into something bigger than it has to be by allowing yourself to be afraid. Remember guys feel the same talking to girls. You just have to do it to get what you want.
If needing to figure out if he's in to you I would invite him to go to a movie, bowling etc. etc. with a group of friends. If he decline you would then know without asking for a real date where you stand with him.
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OK to start off I go to a online high school and in 9th grade. My mom picked all of my courses at the beginning of the year so I take English, Modern World History, Pre Algebra, P.E. Physical Science, and Spanish. My grades are mostly all A's but the problem is my Math course. OK I LOVE math it is my favorite subject but right now there are some students that still don't understand fractions. In 8th grade the last thing that I remember going over was slopes. Which by the way are really easy. So today I asked my teacher when we were going o go over slopes and she said that it might not be till 10th grade or so. So she asked me if I would considerate going to a higher level of math. I don't know what to do. I tried to call my councilor but she isn't answering her phone. Should I stay in that class even thought I found out hat it was not a graduation requirement but stay there to get an easy a or should I got to a higher level of math. Please help if you can. Thanks.
P.S. This might not have nothing to do with this but my grades are English a 111.65% Modern World Studies 94.63% Math 95.67% P.E 111.23% Physical Science 82% and Spanish 86% I you want to comment on any of my grades I don't really care I would just like some answers. Thanks again. (link)
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You would forever be annoyed at yourself if you didn't take the opportunity. Your current math teacher knows you're unhappy and can do what he/she is teaching sleepwalking. That person would never set you up to fail. They know what you can do.
What you need to do is tell your parents that your math teacher thinks you aren't getting challenged enough in that class and need to skip ahead a level.
I'm sure your parents will like that. Have them bypass the counselor who can't give a damn to return a call and talk to and get your current teacher to do all the arranging.
Mention to your teacher that the counselor can't be bothered to schedule an appointment or call back. They'll take care of you then. I'm sure the counselor cares but after leaving multiple messages it shows she doesn't bother with being prompt when people need answers. In that area it shows she doesn't care about that or is too swamped to get to people. Either way she didn't put your concern first.
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i have a self esteem ,self image problem .i know it effects everyone and everthing in my life but do not know how to fix it.i take evrything said the wrong way and respond the wrong way. i dont trust anyone.i gained weight because someone called me a skinny bitch a few times and over heard a women tell another that they should watch their husbands around me.now 10 years later i am 50 lbs over weight,have now friends,no job,no life.i went to see a counciler and she basically said until i want to change she cant help me, somehow i think that was what i was paying her for?maybe i am just ment to be this sad pitiful person that i am (link)
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Never trust a councilor or therapist. They don't have authority to deal with a psychiatric issue which this certainly is. Such a mental-health specialist will know where your anti-trust issues truly stem from, self-esteem issues etc. and the proper course to take. They see this issue daily.
If you can't work or function normally due to this it's a mental health emergency where you can go to an emergency room. It's this type of professional you need and visit. While the therapist was clueless he/she has ONE valid point.
If you expect a doctor or therapist to see you and suddenly "fix" all your troubles you're i wrong. Therapists and lack of qualifications in mental health can be dangerous especially if they plant the seed that you need certain medication.
Psychiatrists can only do so much such as prescribe medication, counseling, and monitor you so you don't wind up in hospital and can function in life. The rest of the leg work and putting what they tell you or suggest to work is solely on you. If unwilling to do the leg work you'll remain where you are now. That said go to an ER or get a referral to a mental health professional from a family doctor and work in tandem with the psychiatrist to overcome this.
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I'm 18 years old and I had my tonsils removed at the beginning of June, and it's now November but I still get sore throats which my doctor said should not occur as often, if at all. But I'm getting them just as often as before. Why is this? Could my tonsils being removed have not been effective? This is miserable to keep getting sick with (link)
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We aren't doctors so we cannot tell you why you still have sore throats and illness with your tonsils out. What you need to do is call up the surgeon who took them out and tell them about the sore throats and being miserable since June. They'll be able to see you and assess the situation and help you.
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