about

Hello There!Erm where do I start?Well, my name is Vikki-Kimberly =)Im a good person. I dont bite =)I give people thousands of chances.I like to eat healthy... and... I have advice on practicly anything.I am in acting/signing/dancing groups.Yeah... Im just... easy to talk to. =)

advice

I have been masturbating for the past year or so and but I've never really masturbated with something because I can't buy a dildo without my parents finding out. Well, I was thinking today about tampons and how they go inside you when you're on your period. Can I masturbate with a tampon? Is it dangerous to do something like that? I want to be safe so does anybody know anything about this before I try it out? And I mean using it to masturbate when you're NOT on your period.

& yes I've used tampons before during my period so I know how to put one in and everything.

do not dooo itt using tampons whilst not on your period will firstly probally hurt like hell and secondly create problems. ive heard it can trigger that condition connected with tampons. something syndrome.
do not do it!

[view]

I have been having my period for like 2 years now and I always use pads. My best friend is really pressuring me to wear tampons so we can go swimming next week but I'm afraid to. I really just don't want to do it. I've read things like it can hurt and I really don't want my vagina parts to hurt because I put a tampon in during my period. Im happy with using pads. Is that normal to be afraid to use tampons?

first of all NEVER let your friends push you into stuff!
i started my period when i was like 12. i didnt firt use a tampon till i was 16. out of the same fear your feeling.
and im teeling you now. it didnt hurt me at all :)
maybe a bit tight as i wasnt use to it. but it definately didnt hurt =)

evryone is afraid to use tampons because there is so many myths about them. dont worry though relax and take your time with them =)
good luck

[view]

My boyfriend is going camping this weekend with a group of friends.. part of that group of friends is his ex girlfriend..I can't go because i have to work. should i be worried?

course not. he is an ex for a reason.
honestly i wouldnt worry about it, although iff you are. text him :)
maybe tell him your feeling abit worried before he leaves. just so he knows :)
honesty is the best policy :)

[view]

Is it bad or umhealthy to wear your bra in bed? Is it a bad habit to get into, or is it okay?

its generally whatever you feel more omfortable with. all of the time i take it off because it feels uncomfy altho other times it feels fine or i just cant be bothered to take it off hehe
it honestly doesnt matter.
there is a myth that keeping it on with stunt your growth but is absolute rubbish.

[view]

I recently took a mid management position with a retail chain , this being after I held a temp position at another retail chain. While working the temp position I was basiclly tormented and then assualted by a black coworker for no reason other than she just did not like me. I now have the duty of supervising a "young lady" who is also black and has given me hell since I walked in the door. When it is convenient she bullies me and will go to "the bathroom" and talk on the cell for for up to an hour if possible. I am a married woman, I am 5'0 tall, slender because I work my --- off, blond and blue eyed and at the same time probally 20 years older than this employee-but was told that she resents me because of my appearance. - I have already talked to my manager but she makes sure she acts okay when he or coworkers are watching.

i would continue to tell your seniors what is going on... maybe start a log or what she does/says and then show it to your seniors.

[view]

After my boyfriend and i broke up, i was really upset so i starting talking to another guy to make him jealous, but then i realized i wanted my boyfriend back. So I went to try to fix things with him, but he was really hurt about what i did, ad said he couldnt trust me after it. But we both love eachother so we want to make things work. But he said that i needed to figure out a way to make him forget about what happened after the break up and make him forgive me....what should i do to earn his trust and forgiveness?

ok so you talked to a guy so what no big deal i dontsee why he is upset about you talking with other guys but whatever
here is what i would do
just act normal. if he sees you treading on eggshells and acting your way back into his good books it could do more harm than good.
i would just tread carefully every now and again though...

but like the previous advicee said
you need to earn trust.. you can just have itstraight away.

[view]

ok so my dads bday is in november and my friends being in october. so i dont know what to get them help

okay i cant help you for your mate but i got something useful for my dads birthday
he lost his job
so i got him soem ties (to wear for an interview)
some shaving stuff ( to shape up for an interview.. cant be looking scruffy)
and i got him a T shirt :)

[view]

i am a virgin point blank and i plan to stay that way for a long time. the other day some guy really wanted to have sex with me but i refused. he ended up managing to get all my clothes off but still nothing happened. i guess he was mad abd i was just uncomfortably laying next to him... he statred jerking off and his *** splattered everywhere. i remember it hitting my arm and thy but idk if it splattered on my...or where else. immediatdaly got up wiped it off. got dressed a and nd left... im a very paranoid person and need to know... do u think im pregnant???

no. their is a myth that if it touches down there whilst wet from your own wetness that itcan swim in.. but even then its still a VERY low possiblity.
his cum really has to be Inside of you to actually do anything
so i really doubt that you are pregnant.

to settle your mind though i would think about buying apregnancy test. or just sit it out till your next period. (if its over four weeks go and see a doctor/buy the test). as someone that is exually active (altho still a virgin like you) i can relate to you situation, its scary, i know. but dont worry.

[view]

I use the sock method to curl my hair because I don't like using heat when I don't have to. However, they seem to fall out pretty easy, even if they have hairspray AND gel. Any ideas?

hair dressers usually use this thing called "set" i dont know the technical term.
if used rightit will make ursl stay in for days.. you know if you dont brush. next time ask your hairdresser when your there if its available to buy

also on the gel front. having lots of poducts in cirls can weigh them down. misty/snowy weather will also moisten your hair to make them "uncurl" too

[view]

Ok so when a guy asks "will you go out with me?" what do they mean? Do they mean "do you wanna be my girlfriend?" or "do you wanna go on a date with me?" and if it's the date one, how do you tell the guy that you wanna be their girlfriend bt your parents won't let you go out on dates? Anyone know?¿?¿?¿ thankyou in advance.

First Question - how do you know the difference.
"will you go out with me"
"on a date or as soemthing more?"
easily sorted just ask him what he means =) guys vary from guy to guy.

second question - parent trouble
"look id love to be someone specail to you and go on a date, but my parents wont let me" something to that effect.
just be honest :) honesty is the way forwardin any relationship

[view]

Ok. So i just turned 13 this june and i am overweight but i am just a 36A . and i really want BOOBS!Bacause i am entering 8th grade and next year entering High school ! but i am wondering when i loose wieight will i grow boobs ? and also i have already had my period. and i am just about 5'5 HELP ! any advice ? (:

your title made me lol a bit hehe.
dont worry hone your fine!
i was just a little bigger than you at that point but honestly its nothing to worry about. ive always been busty and trust me i wish i was flat.
dont worry about ithon.
weight wouldnt affect your boob growth much.
if you ARE really that worried about it. maybe looking into buying a padded bra or two.

you are actually only young and its not unusual at all for someone of your age to be wanting to be more curvy. altho settle your mind, if you have started your period you are obviously on your way through pubertyville.

[view]


I know this older guy and he's hit on me before but he also treats me like as if i'm his little sister or something. At first I thought he was a gentleman (he would walk me back to my place even if it was far away just because he wanted to make sure I was safe) but then it started to get kinda crazy. I live downtown in a big city, and now he wants me not to go out unless I'm with somebody. I understand his worry, but it was noon in bright daylight on one of the busiest streets in the city. He also lectures me if i lie to my parents or anything like that and i kinda get the feeling that he thinks it would be better if i just stayed home and never go out because when I do stay home he tells me that he thinks it's good for me not to go out. He says that he thinks I shouldn't go out unless I'm with a group of friends cuz there will probably be more guys like him (much older) hitting on me other than him, and i understand where he's coming from on that one, and I'm flattered that he cares about my safety but I wish he would relax just a little bit. I don't even know him that well yet even. I do know that he's attracted to me but when we hung out when he was talking it was like a half lecture/half flirt. He was talking about how i should dress younger (i don't dress revealing.. i know when some people say "she dresses older" they immediately think low cut tops) and at the same time will tell me how sexy/pretty he thinks i am and look. Oh and even though he doesn't like me going out, he still does ask me to meet up with him. Anyways how do I get him to realize that for the most part I can take care of myself? He actually worries about me more than my parents do. He chases after me when I wanna do something by without him I kinda have a small crush on him even though that's probably really wrong and I want to continue our friendship (he doesn't know) but today I got a bit mad at him for treating me like I'm 10. W are both 16 and Im not immature either. I think i'm more mature than the kids in my school they don't take education serious, I don't goof off, I make good grades and Im in the top 10 % of my class. I tell him to stop treating me like a baby and he doesnt listen.How do I get him to stop treating me like a kid?

Ok i think this guy maybe made some mistakes whilst younger... or saw some girls he was close to make mistakes he is lecturing about.
If i was you i would talk to him and tell him that your a big girl and you appriciate his advice every now and then but you dont want a baby sitter.
and you seem to be a girl that has got her head screw on right so hell soon see that and gradually learn :)

honestly i think he just wants you to be safe. he obviously cares about you. it might seem annoying but just try and take it n your stride. think of it and a protecting arm around your rather than an arm pushing you from behind

[view]

Are there any symbols to represent the past? Like tattoo symbols, please no jap/chinese things.

i dont know if any symbols represent the past. but aything can respresent the past if its personal to you, for example, the numbers 340 represnets the past because it was my form room through high school.

[view]

I am applying to a performing arts program and I want to stand out. Since the application shows nothing of my personality please give me some ideas to set me apart from the rest. Should I send a video? Pictures?...etc be as creative as you can with your ideas!

im not sure about performing art apps and stuff. however when going for a normal interview aswell as loking formal i would wear something that makes me stand out. so if i was a guy i might wear a bright red tie. as im a girl i might wear a pretty hair assesory or something.

im going to try my best to apply this to your situation but im sorry if it turns out to be complete whack hehe. if your able to send a video a video could be cool. just make sure you show you personality AND show your best abilities.

good luck

[view]

I'm a dancer, and I have to choreograph a dance to one word: Purity. That's the theme. Does anyone have any song ideas?

Bob Carlisle - Butterfly Kisses

song on this vid i dunno what it is
youtube (dot) com / watch?v=IELDvXJ6Cm8&list=QL

stuuf by eric levi / the era for example depending on chreoography you could use ' the mass' =)


Cirque du Soleil - Patzivota would be a good one to use!

[view]

Never posted this kind of stuff online but I really need someone's opinion V.v I'm having some issues with my bf which don't think its him think its me...seem to be crying all the time yet I'm happy whenever I talk to him on the phone but then sad again when I get off of the phone X-x so far I've had 14 relationships an they all ended up being cheated or left me V.v one time my best friend even pulled a stunt on me an made up a fake bf for me... dunno whats going on in my head x-X guess I'm just venting but would like to hear what people think V.v

agreed.
talk to him.
be there for him =)
maybe he is happy on the phone because he cant be sad and actually verbally express his feelings. talk to him about it. it might take a few tries... or a few methods... but seriously. talk to him

[view]

hey i'm a gymnast..have been most of my life (i'm 18). i went to watch the olympic trials and i'm wondering if anyone knows what conditioning/dieting the girls on the team do. if you could be specific that'd be great! thanks

check some of the girls fluffs
ie bridget sloan fluff
shawn johnson
nastia luikin
generally look various gymnasts on youtube and you see training montages etc. then put you own conditioning programme together on top of what you already know. and
there you have it! =)

[view]

Alright, I'm 16 and not athletic at all. I hate sports with a burning passion. Not a big fan of getting all sweaty and I'm definitely not good at the whole "team player" thing. Lol, just not me.

But as of this year my school is requiring everyone to do some sort of physical something (like a sport or something) or else they have to take gym.
My question is do any of you have any suggestions about what I should do? The physical activity could be like swimming lessons or gymnastics or something.
My problem is that I'm 16 and have never actually played a sport. I took dance lessons like 6 years ago, but I doubt my parents would be keen on sending me back to dance. So I'd need something that's easy to pick up that I'd only really do for like two years until I graduate.
Thanks for the help in advance.

~16/f

right so im going to give varying sports with some drawbacks. im not gonna sugar coat it all the way if you get me.. sport is generally tough.. but fun :) choose what you think would suit you best

-Cheerleading
not your school sideline stuff. I mean your allstar cheerleading team. Message me if you want some help finding a squad :) ost squads these days have a team for all levels for all ages :)
and itll get you in touch with your dance again.
the drawback thoughis that it can be dangerous. maek sure you go to a good gym :) with good coaches :)

-gymnastics
Its fun you get to learn how to flip and you stay flexible. drawback though, is that its a very tough sport mentally, although you get the chance for you to be by your self its not necarrily a team sport :) it can be in certain disclipline but something like artistic gym, is generally individual.

-Swimming
gives you alot of me time :) it also works out your whole body from your legs right the way up to you fingertips and neck. one drawback though is the whole chlorine smell thing, and training could be early mornings. lso if you scard of deep water not the place for you, however overcoming fear of water is the best thing someone can do :)
oh and the best thing if your not the fan of sweat... no one can see it!

-Diving
simalar discirption to swimmingm but it involves flips, a drawback would be that if your scared of heights, this probally isnt for you.

-Tennis
it can be individual. Also your sixteen, 16 yos get angry. Tennis would be a good way to take anger out, it heighetens coordination and balance. However you need to be prepared for you batting arm to become stronger than your non batting arm.

-Horse riding
it is dangerous, your relying on an animal not to freak out and topple you off it, but from what ive heard its very fun AND buils alot of muscle in the abs abd thighs. something eery girl dreams of =)

-Ice skating
simalar explination to cheerleading and gymnastics,
drawback.. its slippery.

[view]

Hi!

I was talking to a few girls from the year above me and they were kind of giving me a heads-up on what to expect next year at school. We were discussing some projects that I will be required to do, most likely, and I had this idea for one.

Bands, musicians, musical artists that just disappeared overnight.

We talked about it and came up with some of the 90s boybands (nsync, backstreet boys, five, lfo, hanson) but beyond that we're kind of clueless. Does anyone know of any music person or group that just suddenly seemed to disappear overnight? Like they were suddenly not popular any more. Any suggestions at all would be GREAT!

Son of dork
Busted
Mcfly
Peter Andre(sort of)
Britney (altho she came back)

[view]

15/f

so my step dad works for NCR. long story short, im moving to GA. not sure when or anything but my house gets put up for sale late next month. well this may be my last summer where i live (which i have lived my whole life) and i want to mmake it the most memorable summer ever. I dont drink, or have sex or anything like that, im not looking to get into trouble, just some fun. with moving comes other problems, i told my dad that i feel like i should move to GA and i want to reinvent myself there. im not really sure how. i love the 1920's, love converse and live in jeans. but at my school now i kind of just am average, i dont really talk that much unless someone else talks back. is there something i can do to make myself stand out?

i found in high school that frequently changing my hairstyle got me noticed.. for example.. curling my hair one in a while got people form my year/grade to go
"wow that looks really nice" - comments from both boys and girls, (girl are intrested in hair.. guys like the eye candy =) )

i also found that making my eye stand out with make up got me noticed.. however i understand if my too first suggstions are not practical or... favored.

Some people have their own trend.. for example in my high school (im from the UK) i used to wear my tie differently to most people in my school.
I know people that used to wear hair clips on their jackets because it was their trend.

bright colours get yourself noticed sometimes... maybe a couple of bright accesories would help?

the think i find makes anyone stand out is a smile and a laugh... make sure you smile... make sure you giggle =) that the thing i look out for in people... and friends. =)

Stnading out maybe you could join a new club... i do cheerleading so i would recommend that... maybe a drama club.. taekondo.. or maybe just a new hobby in general...

The more you get your self out there and break down barriers the more 1. people will see you and 2. you will find things out about yourself =)

good luck in georigia. i plan to go there myself one day =)

[view]

<<< Previous Advice Column
Next Advice Column >>>
eXTReMe Tracker