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were both 15. hes just geting out of a bad relationship of about 8-9 months. im getting out of a bad bad bad realtionship also. but heres my(our)story
please tell me your imput:)
me and adam have been flirting for about 2 weeks now. and we talk about sexual things some times and he knows ill give him head and stuff. i asked him if that the only reason he "LIKES" me he said no i like you bc your smart hapy and have the cutest smile i have ever seen. okay so today he promised me the bigest hug ever beacuse we didnt get to hang out this weeknd. well i didnt get my hug instead i got a look like hey your cute. do i get home and text him saying oh man i didnt get my hug that means i get two tomro right? well he never texted back and that was like 3 hours agoo! so i got on myspace to see if he was on. well he deleted me from his myspace. and now im really confused on everything! does he like me or is he playing with my heart?. (link)
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Humm, let's see. LOTS of flirting on both sides for a couple of weeks ... during a time you are both somewhat emotionally vulnerable after a bad break-up and looking for a little pick-me-up and attention.
You 'promise' oral sex if he 'promises' that isn't why he likes you (btw, all he hears is 'if you really like me I'll give you a bj'... duh, because he no longer has any blood in his head it isn't too hard for him to like you, in that moment at least).
Then week 3 he suddenly: 1. renigs on the hug 2. fails to text you back 3. removes you as a friend on myspace ...
This boy is back-peddling big time. It doesn't matter WHY (ex is mad because he is talking to you, he is getting back with ex., he lost interest, he is interested in another girl, he is interested in a guy, he decided you were too easy so going hunting for harder prey to catch, he had homework, he was flirting didn't think you were serious, he found out his best friend likes you, he found out his best friend hates you... he is stupid) Doesn't matter.
Read the clues, back off, and find someone that deserves you. Have fun and live your life.
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me and my bf just went on a break. he said he just needed some time away from the whole relationship love thing. i didnt really understand but i said ok. not like i could really make him change his mind. at 1st he said he still wanted to talk. just not hang out. so i was like ok then. then wen i told him how upset i was about the break he sed he couldnt deal with all the compliments and i love yous and i care u dont? so i guess maybe i was being too clingy? i dont know becuase he said all that stuff to me too and he seemed fine with it all until one day out of the blue he said he needed a break. but now we are not even talking at all because we were texting and he said well ill talk to you later. so i said ok? and he said yep bye. so i dont know but he seems mad and doesnt want to talk to me now. i am really upset becuase i love him alot and dont know where all this came from. could there be another girl? or is he afraid of commitment? should i talk to him or give him space? should i make him jealous? what should I do? i have so many unanswered questions and i just want to do the right thing because i really want him back because i love him so much and he told me he loved me too (link)
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I am not trying to be mean, but this guy is clearly not ready for a relationship, or at a minimum not WANTING a relationship with you. He is clearly trying to put distance between you.
The 'love' he professed was 'love' in that moment to the best of his ability to 'love', but clearly not the same 'love' you are feeling for him.
He tried the 'break' and 'just talking, not dating' route vs a harder break-up...probably because he was scared to say "I want to break up". Now he is pushing back on the talking. He is acting angry because he wants you to just 'go away' and quit 'pushing' him for more. Your pushing/needing/hurting makes him uncomfortable and that is what he was trying to avoid by saying "break" instead of 'break-up'.
He knows he is hurting you, and that makes him feel guilty - but guilt will NOT make him feel more for you than he does. He is not hurting you on purpose - but you want something different from the relationship than he does. What he is trying to do is disconnect.
I know you are hurting. Break-ups suck. What you should NOT do is play games (make him jealous/feel guilty/give him space thinking he will come around.
Concentrate on moving on. There is no right thing you can do to make him feel differently than he does. You can only control your own behavior and emotional state.
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16 female
ok. um, this is kinda...akward...and scary.
so, me and this guy (we'll call him L) have been going out for the past year. he's one year older than me. L's always been real sweet about the whole sex thing, but lately, he's been...pushing, and i'm kinda scared, cause he's getting kinda angry/violent. i'm scared he's really gonna hurt me, cause he hit me last week when i made him stop, taking of clothes and stuff.
I dont know what to do.
Help?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!? (link)
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RUN, don't walk away from this relationship.
He is using bullying tactics to get you to be submissive. Date rape is very possibly his next move. At a minimum, he will continue to escalate his violent behavior to meet his own needs.
Also, talk to someone you trust about your fears. if you don't have anyone in your life you want to open up to, call a hotline for abuse.
If he is threatening in ANY way - verbally, physically, go to the police and get a restraining order put on him. I would even consider it now since he has already hit you. When (not if) you break up with him, do it in a public place and have your own ride home.
You are smart to be concerned. Don't allow him to make you a victim. Empower yourself.
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what is spooning? (link)
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When two people lie on their sides, both facing the same direction, cuddled up together. Remember, spooning leads to forking!
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last week i went on a school trip, skiing, and there i met this guy; nothing happened. but now, i can't stop thinking about him!!! and theres no way of contacting him or anything. but i can't get him out of my mind!!! do have anything you think i could try to get him out of my head? (link)
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Try to figure out why you are fixating on this person you've known for a few days. Are you making him what you are wanting in a guy ...are really seeing him as he is, or how you WANT him to be? Are you in love 'with the idea' of him?
Unless this fixation is keeping you from living your life, then fantasy is harmless and will gradually fade. Don't pass up what is under your nose and real for what never was. Live in the moment.
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17/f
my boyfriend has been having some health problems this week with his heart and he's been in an out of the hospital and can't go back to school for a while but in the meantime he's stuck at home and has run out of things to do. He's tired and can't do any real physical activity so all he's been doing is sleeping, eating and watching tv and hes bored. I've been to his house everyday just to keep him company and watch movies with him.
I want to come up with some things for him to do.
Any activities that don't require a lot of movement or energy?? (link)
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Now is the time he needs to be alittle 'bored' so his body can rest.
See if you can borrow vidio game units and games for him to play with. A computer would connected to the internet would be another way to game, read, blog, etc. and keep him connected. Then there are the old board games you can play. Don't underestimate the entertainment value of reading.
Don't be a lone ranger. Encourage his friends to drop by too, so the entertainment isn't all on your shoulders.
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hey my name is sarah. i was just wondering if you could give me some advive i last came on my period on the 13 of january could and i havn't came on yet. could there be a chance that i could be pregrent but i am getting really bad period pains (link)
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Yes. If you had unprotected sex you could be pregnant. Or, you could just have a late period and the pains are cramping.
There are pregnancy test kits at any drug store or grocery store. You don't even have to ask the pharmacist for one.
FYI- if you are mature enough to have sex, you are mature enough to buy a condom already! Take care of yourself.
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So I'm 15. and I really want a boyfriend who's like, a senior in high school at least or older. I want an older boyfriend because older guys are much more mature and most of my friends are older than me anyway. And plus I want to be able to have a real relationship, not just one that will fall apart within a few months, like most high school relationships do. I want real love. And I know that most high school senior or college age guys like to have sex with their girlfriends. And I think if I'm in love I'm ready for that. But I need help trying to find a guy and I need a way I can get out of the house with him without telling my parents. (link)
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I know at 15 those 18yo's driving cars, smoking, drinking, acting cocky and getting ready for college look really mature. Trust me, they aren't... and Sr.HS/College relationships fall apart in a few months just like Jr high relationships.
Sex doesn't make a relationship last longer, so even if you are truely ready for it, it isn't the answer to true love.
Plus, a real, mature relationship doesn't involve sneaking and hiding from your parents.
You sound a little like you are in love with the idea of being in love...
If you have problems you want to resolve - like bordom, loneliness, depression ... a relationship isn't going to fix those things, no matter how old the guy is.
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Hi. Recently, I've been having some problems down there. I vagina has been stinging badly, even more when I go to the bathroom. And it itches, a lot. When I do go to itch, it hurts even more. Also, it hurts to put in and take out a tampon. This has been happening for about 2 months. And, any discharge is thick and yellow and it smells very strong (stronger than it usually does), and it even has sort of a urine smell to it. Could it just be from my underwear rubbing against it? Often, to be on the safe side if someone's home, my boyfriend will finger me through my underwear. Let me clarify this, my underwear DO NOT go inside of me, it just rubs against it. Do I have an infection of some sort? Can it be more serious? What could I do to fix the problem? Would it sound suspicious if I told my Mom about it? Any answers would be a great help. Thanks. (link)
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Yes. You have an infection.
Yes. It can get more serious if you don't get treated.
Yes. You need to see a Doctor.
No, this is not caused by your underwear 'rubbing against it'.
Tell your mom you think you have a yeast infection or urinary track infection and would like to go to the Dr.. Those are common female complaints and not neccessarily sexualy related. The Dr. is NOT allowed to disclose your diagnosis with your mother. That is confidential.
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hey i was wondering can a girl get pregnant if you have sex during her period (like the week that its going on)?
i know thats kind of gross but im just wondering. =-) thats about it. (link)
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Yes, Yes, Yes. There is a chance that you can get pregnant if you have sex during your period. Sperm stays alive for several days once in the vagina -- that means that, even if the last time you had sex was three days ago during your period, you could now be ovulating and therefore you could get pregnant.
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If my boyfriend put his penis in me a couple times(without protection) but we didn't have sex, am i able to get pregnant?
i start my period around the first and right now it is the 24th.. i don't understand 100% how ovulation and all that works so i dont know if i have a higher risk right now.. (link)
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You need two things to get pregnant. A sperm and an egg - if your bf's penis is inside your body/vagina, even if he doens't thrust or cum, his sperm is in the right place to reach your egg. So yes, you are able to get pregnant even through you don't consider what you are doing as 'having sex'. Semen could leak out before he actually cums, and sperm could swim through moist tissue to enter the vagina.
Two things. One is to quit being in denial and start using birth control. The second thing is if you are playing around with sex, wise up and educate yourself with reliable resources. If you are mature enough to make the decision to allow this kind of sexual exploration, be mature enough to take care of your body.
I used the 'ovulation calculator' to answer your risk question. You ovulated (dropped your egg in place) around Sunday, February 15, 2009. So if a sperm was especially determined, you have an egg in there just waiting to make a baby.
Also, 90% of woman who participate in unprotected sex get pregnant. So if you are not pregnant now, but contiue your habit of allowing a penis inside your unprotected vagina, you may have a special pink or blue delivery by Christmas!
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