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Q: Where do I start? life is really bad.
I'd kill myself but im a coward.
I've cried myself to sleep every night the past year, i cant say it feels like anyone heard me cry for help or helped me at all.. so where do I go from here with my religion? what do I do? Why is the devil putting me through this (assuming its him) and howcome G0d isnt helping?
help me find answers please.

because you're relying to much on god. what can he do to help your life out, if you're not making attempts yourself. god isn't the only one who makes your life.

Q: okay, well I had an xanga and I wrote something mean about a really popular girl in school. And I said "do you think people actually like ****** for her personality?!?! no, people like her because shes GORGEOUS!" and I honestly meant to say it because people in my school are shallow and dont like people for their personality! I wasnt even saying she had a bad personality. Shes not one of my friends...Ive never talked to her so I cant just IM her and apologize but the thing Im scared of is that ALLLL my personal personal stuff was in my xanga like people I liked and stuff!! :[ What do I do!?!? IM FREAKING OUT I already know she's told a really popular guy because he had it as his away message......YEAH. thats how bad this is. I cant transfer schools. What do i do??!? Basically I just want to know if anyones been through this and can help me! So please tell me your experience and give me advice on this! I have to go back to school in a week and Im scared Im going to be a loner and traumatized.

... i know the feeling.

my private xanga was discovered by just one kid in school. the next thing i know? every kid knows; who i like, who i don't, and why i hate certain people. i went through a state for about two weeks, where no one'd talk to me, and every 'popular' boy would laugh when i spoke in class. and the truth is it never really got better. except when i learned to shrug it off, and my actual friends stopped caring too, and hung out with me again. i actually went on my very own hunt. and found one of those popular boys' xanga. it's weird how everyone writes about the same thing, trashes the same people, has the same secrets. i just laughed at it. all you can do is ignore the laughter ridicule. because you're not alone.

... unless you want to tell your parents? but that may just make it worse.

Q: i really didn't know what cagtagory to put this in but...

whats wrong with using all capital letters. why could you be banned if you do it. i just wanna know whats so bad about it

thanks

from experience at this, typing in all caps is considered, yelling. or a harsh tone, not respectful.it's considered rude, which i don't much get either, but that's basically what i was told when banned for it.

Q: ok so i live with my dad, and we r very close. i can talk to him a lot too. but when it comes to the puberty subject, i can't talk 2 u anyone about it. what should i do? i just turned 13 about 1 month ago, and i have arm pit hair, hair "down there", and discharge, but i havn't stated my period yet. 1. this discharge is ruining ALL my underwear, and i'm guessing i should get pantyliners but...... how do i get them with my dad, and how should i bring up the subject? what should i do!?!?!?? p.s. sorry this is so long. plz help me!!!!!!!!!!!1

discharge shouldn't ruin your underwear ... but if you've given your dad your underwear to wash already, he probably knows about that. if you want to get pantiliners, just ask your dad to drop you off at a local cvs or convenience store. i get that it's embarrising, and without an older sister it's hard. i know that. but trust me, you'll dad will understand.

... if anyone, i don't think dad's make a big deal about such things. :D

Q: Lately, all i think about is excersizing. Even after i have just exercized all i want to do is start excersizing again. and whenever i eat something i always feel guilty. im not anorexic because i eat normal but it just i want to get in shape so bad i think its hurting me. is there something wrong with me???

you have some type of disorder. most likely something obsessive compulsive, which is causing you to eb obsessive about your eating as well as the constant excersize. this could and possibly has alreayd developed into an eating disorder. i don't know what advice to give except to reccommend seeing a doctor.

Q: What was the name of the girl who played Dina, simon's girlfriend, on 7th Heaven???

thanks in advanced

Nicole Cherie.

Q: hey
i am 15 and he is 16.. should we have sex??
we really love each other and we think its time.. plus.. how do you have sex? we don't know how..

... well, if you don't knwo how to have sex, i reccomend not doing it. and i don't think that complete strangers telling you over the internet is the best way to find out how. ... just one question, how can you think it's time for you two to have sex when you barely know what it is?

try later. when you have more knowledge of risks and commitments.

Q: ok well you know jessica in season 2 well why is she also in season 3 of laguna beach? im really confused lol thankss.

she is actually in all three seasons.

in season one she was on the show because she was dieter's girlfriend. & season two she was a main character, senior, etc. and season three she's on because she's linked to cameron; and all of that drama. without her in the show this season there'd be no tension with kyndra and cameron and herself.

it's sort of like why stephen and lauren were in season two after their turn at being seniors were done.

Q: Ok, when I take a shower, my hair would be nice and thin. But then after a while, when my hair gets dry, it gets poofy and thick.

I want to know, is there any ways I can keep my hair the way it is when I come out of the shower, but dry.

Any tips? Amy steps? Any conditionor or hair products that are not that expensive, and really works?

Thanks. I'll rate 5's for anything useful.

first, go down to the department store & purchase some leave - in conditioner. towel dry your hair & then smooth a dime full into your hands. spread it on the roots of your hair and a little bit above. then, wait about 2 minutes & get out the blowdryer. blow - drying your hair makes a world of difference, i don't know the science, but trust me ... it works. seperate your hair into sections & dry them one by one. and once finished, do a once over of them all. prefferably use one of those brushed that are round which you can find at a beauty store or a local cvs. smooth out even less than a dime once done and run it through your hair again.

trust me when i say your hair will look really good.

Q: i am really scared. (no this isnt anything to do ith 6/6/6 its just that 666 got me thinking of this) when the world ends, how exactly is it going to end? i do not have very good knowledge of the bible. i know that no one knows, but everyone says all this horrible ways like it will go up in flames. but why would god torture us like that? why can't he just make everything dissappear in a split second? why would god want to make the world end in a horrible way, and why would he even want the world to end. please explain this is a clear way cause im not good with this stuff. and pleaaaaaaaaseplease don't say "don't worry about it wont happen/it wont happen in your lifetime"

i think that when or if the world comes to an end very many years from now, it will happen slowly. it won't just be all one second, happy & smiles, and the next going up in flames and blowing up sending pedestrians into orbit. it'll go slowly. if i'm not mistaken it may take a few years. you know, it may start off getting really warm, and trees fall down left & right. and after a while the less trees the less oxygen. maybe there'll be plate movements because of the warmth and many earthquakes. i could go on, but honestly i don't think it will be one abrubt thing of mass destruction. god may not want it to end in a horrible way, but is there a good way to end earth. no, not really. so when or if it happens in a while, it will be a bad thing. no one really knows when or how the earth will go. but with everything we're doing to the earth it will happen sooner or later. just don't worry about the whole earth flaming up and falling out of orbit and getting sucked into a black hole and getting sucked into infinite time & space.

Q: OK, what does it mean when a grown man has naked barbie dolls in his apt. with their hands & feet tied & tape over their mouths?

it means he's doing weird sexual things either to them or with them.

this man is quite sick, if you ask me.

i don't know based on this if he's using them, or if he's playing with them & making them do things to eachother.

and again it's just sick.

Q: My parents are what you would call...overprotective. Yes, thats a good way to some it up. Lets put it this way, i am in higschool, and i am still not allowed to have more than one friend over at a time, i have never had a party, i have never went TPing, nothing. Thsi is the first year i have been allowed to go to my school's football games and i had to beg to go to homecoming.

My mom hates my best friend, she thinks shes a "bad influence" and refuses to let me go to her house and my house is totally lame. Whenever seh invites me over, my mom gets soo mad at me and we get into a fight. I have asked my parents mroe than once to try and trust me but they say they cant. WHat can i do to make my parents ease up a little?

*note* i can be trusted, i have been an all "A" honor student my whole life while juggling 3 seasons of varsity sports....i am MORE than responsible*

maybe there's more to the situation than you know.

rate me a 1, i don't care. just think that maybe she's not doing this to hurt you ... maybe not even to protect you.

Q: i REALLY want to shop at a&f and hollister and stores like that. it's not because everyone else does, it's because personally i like there clothes. my parents make me shop at wal mart and it's messing up my social life. i hate wal mart's clothes and shit and my friends ask me why i don't wear the good brands. and it's not like my family can't afford good clothes, because my dad's a multi millionaire. they just don't understand WHY i want to spend so much on clothes. i've made up my mind and don't tell me it doesn't matter what i wear because i'll give you a 1. i need to prove to my parents that shopping at the expensive stores is worth it. and i can't make any money on my own because if i do, my parents say I CANT spend it on a&f and hollister clothes. it's messing up my social life. i wont have friends ever again because i cant wear nice clothes. im done with wal mart so what can i say to my parents so they'll let me shop where i want ?!? i'm old enough to choose where i want to purchase my clothes, especially when my dad was over 1 million dollars.

anything good will get you a 5
i promise

sit them down, talk to them. tell them everything you just said. that because you don't wear name brand clothing, people don't appreciate you the way the should. now, they may fight back and say, "if people like you for material possesions, they are not worth it." & knowing how parents think, they'd argue something like that back. explain how much it hurts that you can't make new friends because of it. if all else fails, break down. when your so upset you can break down on command, i'd know. when your so emotional you tell them the things you normally wouldn't. they will probably get it. if they have the money to spend, why not spend it? tell them that you don't need to take home the whole store if maybe they think you'll go crazy. instead, reason with them. set a dollar limit.

skip steps, add steps, whatever you choose. parents tend to see the light, just hand them the bulb.

Q: heyy! i was just wondering if venders in nyc.. like on canal street would take travelers checks! thanks i really would like to know

i really wouldn't count on it, actually, no they don't. i know from experience. vendors don't really want to have to cash in checks, just bring some money. those kinds of stands are cheap, so it shouldn't be a big hastle.

Q: THIS MAY S0UND LIKE A STUPID QUESTION; BUT HOW DO YOU KNOW IF A GUY LIKES YOU? ♥

it not only sounds like a stupid question.

it is one.

Q:
now be honest when you see a person with acne or just some pimples maybe just a break out ... what do you think of them? do they seem ugly to you? would you talk to them even? become their friend? or are you grossed out and do you judge them right away, even if they are really pretty but have acne?

yes. i run & scream and throw eggs at there faces.

i hope you understand that i'm kidding? you do? oh, good. if the person's face is normally clear & is just having one bad day, i'll notice it - but think nothing of it. if this person keeps constantly showing up with acne on their face, and i mean all over, i would be disgusted. and no matter how much we like to think that it's what's inside that counts, if you have tons and tons of acne, people won't get close enough to get to know what's inside.

so yes i do judge. but maybe it's just me.

Q: Ok so tommarow is my last day of school, what are somethings I should write in yearbooks for like guys or just like any cute quote? dont give anythiing general like hags and hakas and crap cause no one likes readding that!

you rock. don't ever change. *insert smiley here*

always works.

Q: So, I gave my boyfriend a handjob and after I did it he had to "adjust himself." He didn't cum, but I am worried about precum. He fingered me after that and ahh I am all paranoid that I could be pregnant. What are the chances that I am?
Thanks.

SPERM DOESN'T DIE WHEN IT HITS THE AIR. just to clarify. it does not. i really can't answer your question, but that's what i know. and i had to just contradict what the users had said so you'd know that it doesn't. :)

Q: whats emo? liek i know there are preppy people, gothic people, what are emo people? thnx

there is no such thing as an 'emo' person. 'emo' is a type of music; emotive hardcore. it's been adapted to a term for people, and there really is no classification for it. everyone has a different view on it when it comes down to it, because it's not a saying for people.

Q: my friend and i and her boyfrind went to the movies the other night and we were having fun,until those to got in a fight and she hit him,he ended up having a bad cut and then me and him went to my apartment to clean it up the n we started to hookup and then we got so in to it clothes were takin off and then she walked in on us!!i am trying to apoligize to her but she wont take my calls or anything!What shall i do?

Boyfriend stealer/backstabber :'(

she's right not to talk to you. sure, she slapped him, and was mad at him for maybe, what, five minutes? But you don't hook up with a guy your best friend is either with or just broke up with. The truth is that she may or may not forgive you, & if she does, it'll take a bit of time. It may have been a mistake to hook up with said boy, but it could have been stopped. an innocent kiss at the spur of the moment would be no big deal. but going all the way, just because you felt like it, isn't easily forgivable. you could lose your friend if she takes things personally. & if she forgives her boyfriend, and not you, she shouldnt be your friend anyway, because he could've stopped it just as much as you could have.

there's nothign to do but apoligize, and be straight with your best friend, don't deny anything. try and get your friend back. but if she pushes herself away, let her go. like i said, you can't forgive what happened easily. let me know what happens.