My name is Lyndsey and I'm 17 years old. I live in Lexington, South Carolina. I pride myself on being mature for my age with a good head on my shoulders, but I find I can be snippy when I hear something that just hits a nerve. I have a lot of strong opinions and I have no problem arguing them. I'm a very open-minded person and very tolerant of most things.
Immaturity is a big pet peeve of mine, as is self-centered, narrow-minded, and ignorant people. I can be cruel when it comes to these things, but sometimes certain people need to be told their faults. I know mine and I have no problem being confronted with them. If someone has a problem with me, online or in person, I'd rather they tell me and we can resolve the issue in a mature fashion. I won't tell you want to WANT to hear, just what you NEED to hear.
On a less serious note, I'm a laid back person and I enjoy shopping, the internet, and my favorite TV shows (Queer as Folk, The L Word, Friends, American Idol, Will & Grace, House). I don't have a large group of friends, but the ones I have are close and I love them to death. I generally enjoy life, minus the whole school deal. I'm a junior in high school and I can't wait to move on to college. I am an honors student and I hope to go to the University of South Carolina and then eventually into the medical field, possibly psychology.
If you have any questions or want advice, I'm here for ya, babes.
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I feel so alone right now.
I'll start from the beginning.
About 6 months ago I found out my parents were having marital problems. I was really shocked because everyone looked at my parents as the "perfect couple" and so did I. My dad was always my best friend. Everyone knew I was his favorite and he spoiled me so much. and then I found out he cheated on my mom with a 28 year old nurse he works with. I was crushed. He moved out just to clear his head for 3 months but he promised not to see this girl. Right before christmas my mom got a strange feeling and went to a restaurant near his work and she found my dad and that girl at the bar. After that my dad begged to come back. So we let him. It was great for a while until 2 months later when he told us he was going to move out again. So i stopped talking to him. The day before he left I got very hurt on a school trip and had to be rushed to the hospital. I guess my dad realized he was making a mistake and decided to stay again because of my injury. But then a month later when I was almost healed he said he was moving out again but this time for good. It's been 3 months now and he's dating this girl. I havn't talked to him since. My brother, sister, and mom all talk to him, but I just can't. I'm usually pretty strong, but once in a while I'll just break down and cry. Another thing is one day I drank way too much and decided to have sex just so I could do something my dad wouldn't want me to do. Now everyone thinks I'm a slut because I've down this 2 other times when I was drunk. So now I think I have a drinking problem because I drink almost 3 times a week. And I don't know how to make people think I'm not a slut. By the way I'm 15/f.
Any advice is appreciated! (link)
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I'm sorry this happened. It sucks when parents split up, I know.
Something you have to understand, though, is that no couple is perfect. Things happen and people sometimes separate for one reason or another.
If your father fell in love with this other woman, it was something he couldn't help. No, he should have never cheated on your mother, but you can't help who you fall for. He just could've handled it in a better way.
You also have to realize that none of this is your fault. You didn't sound guilty, but I know a lot of children blame themselves when their parents split up.
I know you'd probably love it if your dad moved back in and your parents resumed their former relationship like nothing ever happened...but that's not going to happen. It's something we all have to realize. And it is probably best that they aren't together. Would you rather them be miserable together or happy apart? Parents should never stay together for the kids, and your father realized that.
You can always talk to your father about how you feel about the whole situation, but the only thing I see that he did wrong was cheat on your mother. He fell for another woman, and that's something you can't change. It's just something you have to accept and move on from. I think it would be best to continue a good relationship with your dad. If you don't, you may regret it later.
If you honestly think you have a drinking problem, you should talk to your mother or a counselor about it. Once you move past this hard time in your life, you should be fine and realize that alcohol doesn't help anything or make you hurt any less. As for the sex, you just have to stop. Stop getting drunk and making bad decisions. You don't want a reputation as a slut over this, so you're going to have to make a change. Maybe stop hanging out with the people you drink with...separate yourself from that world and focus on your parents and your relationship with your father and the rest of your family.
Good luck.
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15/f. the other night i was out with my sisters friends who are all 17 & 18 and apparently they all think i'm hot. and i know that when i go places that guys notice me. so i must be pretty. but its weird because in school it seems like guys don't even notice me. like i've never had a boyfriend.
why is this? i'm not saying i want the guys at school to be like staring at me and stuff. its just weird because my sisters friends couldn't believe it that i've never had a boyfriend because they think i'm really pretty.
also i'm not a bitch or anything. i'm really nice and i have a lot of friends. could it maybe be because i'm a little shy? like around my friends i'm more outgoing but around people i don't know i'm a little shy.
so what can i do to get more guys to think of me as a potential girlfriend? (link)
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It could definitely have to do with you being shy. But what I think it is MOSTLY is that high school guys are dumb. And a lot of them are simply intimidated by girls. The thought of rejection just freaks them out, so they don't even try. Older guys have more guts, especially with girls they don't really know.
It's pretty much the same with me. I've only had a couple people in my school like me. But if I go to where my sister works or with any of her friends, all I hear is how hot I am. I don't agree, but I understand where you're coming from.
Just try to be more outgoing and approachable at school. Flirt with guys you like to show that you aren't just going to look at them like they're idiots if they try and talk to you. Sometimes a girl's gotta do what a girl's gotta do to get what she wants.
Good luck!
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Ok..im 17/F and i am not experienced at all in the sex department if you know what i mean..and its not like i cant get a guy but i just dont want one..the truth is..i dont like to be touched..not even by my mom or dad..and exp not by a guy..and im not gay..i like guys its just i dont like to be touched..its hard to say this because i feel weird and abnormal..none of my friends understand this problem..what should i do about this and what do you think? (link)
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It's not that out of the ordinary. Don't feel insecure about it. If you don't want a boyfriend right now, then don't look for one. I'm 17 as well and just recently got my first REAL boyfriend and experienced my first sexual experiences (not sex, but pretty much everything else).
Maybe the fear of being touched is a psychological issue. Maybe you could see a therapist and see what he has to say. It couldn't hurt, right?
But really, people have things like this. My sister and 2 of her friends can't stand feet. If someone touches their feet or if they accidentally touch someone else's food, they freak out. They're disgusted by it. I also know a girl who can't stand even the thought of someone touching her nose. If she talks about it she constantly plays with it trying to "put it back in place".
Yours doesn't seem as severe, but it could be, I don't know you. Try not to worry about it too much right now. It could pass, and if it doesn't, then therapy may help. :)
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What exactly does an orgasm consist of (or what is it defined as) for girls? I know I have felt so much pleasure that I shaked uncontrolablly for a few seconds, but nothing has ever "squirted" out. Please help me clear this up. Thank you! (link)
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Most girls aren't squirters, so don't worry about that. If you've felt so much pleasure that you shook uncontrollably, you've had an orgasm. :)
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okay so i am 16/f. I currently have a friend that i hook up with sometimes. I was wondering, since we both like eachother, what is a really cute/hot/sexy thing i can do when we are kissing?it would be great to get answers from guys, but anything would be fine. thanks! (link)
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I'm not a guy either, but I have one question for the first person that answered your question. Why would it sound gross to touch a guy? That's ridiculous. If you think it's gross to touch the guy you like enough to make out with him, there's a serious problem.
As for your question, my boyfriend likes if I gently bite his bottom lip while we make out. He also likes if I kiss his neck or reach around and scratch his back lightly either on top or or over his shirt. Let him know you're into it by pulling him closer or putting your hand on his face or neck while you kiss. Another sexy thing is humming/moaning while you kiss him. It'll boost his ego, which is good when you're kissing him. Like a "mmm" type thing.
Another thing my boyfriend likes is if I run my hands through his hair, scratch at his scalp, or even pull his hair a little bit (some guys don't like that though, but you can test it out). If it works on my guy, it should work on yours as well.
Good luck!
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hey i have 2 quick questions about girls.
1. where in the girls vaginal is the clit located?.
2. where is a girls g-spot?.
thanks for answering my question's. (link)
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1. The clitoris is the flap of skin at the top of the vagina. Spread the lips and you'll see it.
2. The g-spot is within the vagina. It's about 2 inches inside on the walls of the vagina. It feels spongy.
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okay im 14 and im about 5' 2'' and 97 lbs. these guys at school keep calling me anorexic and i want to take it as a compliment but its getting annoying because they always shove food at my table at lunch. i usually dont eat at lunch because im not hungry. (we have lunch early and i eat breakfast) what can i do to make them stop?
thx! (link)
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Being called anorexic is NOT a compliment. Anorexia is a mental disorder, not something you seek to be. "You're so small/slim" can be considered a compliment, but not "You're anorexic".
You should not be skipping lunch. It's very unhealthy. You should be eating 5-6 small meals each day. Like the other person says, have cereal for breakfast and yogurt and fruit at lunch.
So the answer to your question is this: If you want them to stop shoving food in your face and calling you anorexic because you don't eat lunch....EAT LUNCH!
According to your BMI, you are underweight. Gaining a few pounds of lean muscle would do you some good.
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whats PMS? (link)
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Pre-Menstrual Syndrom
It happens the week before you get your period where the girl is more emotional/moody/sensitive because her hormones are all out of whack at that time.
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ive never seen shrek the third, but in a commerical i saw him and fiona in a bed and it looked clear that shrek was naked.. what was this scene about? i thought little kids watched this? if anyone watched shrek 3, can you please explain this scene to me? thank you! (link)
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It was just them in bed waking up one morning. They're married, they sleep in the same bed. It was nothing kids would understand or figure out. No big.
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What does it mean when someone says " he went down on me" (link)
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It means he gave the person oral sex. For example, "he gave me a blowjob" (gay guys only here) or "he ate me out" (for guys giving to girls). Pretty much, giving anyone oral sex qualifies as "going down on" them.
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Do guys like girls with small, medium or big boobs. Small, medium, or big, ass? Tall or short? What color hair? And what qualities? (link)
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You know how some girls like muscular guys and some girls like skinny guys? Well, you can't really judge what a guy likes in girls. All of them have their own tastes and are attracted to different things.
You can't say: he's popular so he only likes tall skinny blondes with big boobs and long legs. That's not true. My boyfriend pretty much knows and is liked by everyone at his school. He's good looking and athletic and if you just looked at him, you'd probably think he was a jerk. However, I'm only 5'5", not very skinny, don't have big boobs or particularly long legs. But he was the one that went after ME.
You just have to let guys come to you. If you're short, you'll find a guy who likes short girls. If you have big boobs, you'll find a guy who likes big boobs. You just have to be yourself and the right guy will come to you.
The only things I can think of that MOST guys like about girls is a good sense of humor, fun, interesting personality, and basically nice/civil to other people. But those things aren't looks because, like I said, you can't judge by looking at a guy what type of girls he likes.
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for guys---- any special things you want a girl to do to you when you make out.
for girls------ anything you did that a guy liked?
any make out tips? (link)
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My boyfriend likes it when I gently bite his bottom lip. He does it to me as well. Just being playful is a turn on.
While making out, we also sometimes take a break from kissing on the mouth and he LOVES to have his neck kissed. Especially behind his ear, it's really sensitive there.
If all else fails, ask HIM what he likes. He'll tell you.
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what is giving head im so clueless how do you give it??? and what does you cherry pop mean is it just some weird way of saying having sex for the first time just wondering (link)
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"Giving head" is another term for giving oral sex. It's mostly used when talking about giving a MALE oral sex, but I've heard it used both ways.
As for the cherry thing- When you have sex for the first time, a thin layer of skin called the hymen must be broken (on the girl, of course) by the guy's penis when he penetrates the female. That's called "popping the cherry".
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I need some ideas for a unique, teenage girl's name. It's for a novel I'm writing. (link)
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Stevie
Kendall
McKayla
Arden
...that's the only unique (out of the ordinary) names I can think of for a girl.
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unfortunatly, ive fallen in love again. im 13/f and can thelp the way i feel. the guys name is matt. hes a grade above me, and school is going to end soon, so how do i get him to notice me? the second i saw him i felt some kind of connection. hes really nice and sweet, but im not suure what to do? all help is appreciated, and if you have any questions ill clear them up
thanks (link)
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If what CheerCandi said didn't sound so desperate, it would be good advice. You probably already know to look your best around your crush. Don't try to make it seem like you're trying so hard to impress him though.
Just talk to him as a friend and see if he likes you back. Flirt a little and go with the flow. Be yourself.
Another thing that a lot of people do is mix up love and lust. Love at first sight doesn't exist. You may really like him, but you can't love someone you don't really know that well. And a lot of guys are scared of the word "love", so I sure hope you don't throw that around in your relationships. It isn't something you say on the first date...or even the second or third. When you REALLY fall in love, you'll see the difference.
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Hi, I am 15/f. This will be long--sorry.
I have never had a boyfriend, first kiss, etc. The thing is, I always thought I would, by now.
Many people have told me I can get any guy I want, that I'm pretty, I should be a model, etc. But when I look in the mirror, I don't see a pretty person. I see a person who has to wear makeup to look pretty.
I'm tall (5'7") and I think I'm smart too (2nd in my class of 400).
A few guys have liked me and I have almost went out with one, but then he went out with someone else.
Some of the guys I push away (not intentionally, but I'm not sure) by being mean to them if I don't like them. And unless a guy I like is outgoing and talks to me first, I usually ignore him and pretend that I don't like him.
I don't know why I do this. Is it because I subconsciously don't want a boyfriend?
And here's an extra factor: I'm Chinese but I live in a small town where there's very few other Chinese kids (3 in my entire school pop. of 1700). I have grown up with mostly white kids, so I like mostly white guys.
My question is:
Why don't I have a boyfriend? Am I too smart? Too tall? Not pretty enough? Is it because I push them away? Or because I am Chinese? Does race matter?
Thanks. (link)
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Don't worry about not having a boyfriend or not having your first kiss yet. You're still young and have plenty of time.
Never think you aren't pretty enough. I sense a big self esteem problem here. You say you THINK you're smart, and you're 2nd in your class. You ARE smart, don't be afraid to admit it.
A lot of guys like tall girls. Long legs=good stuff. And most guys like smart girls too. I'm sure you're a very pretty girl, it's just that sometimes you don't get a boyfriend as quickly/easily as other girls your age.
If you want a boyfriend, you're going to have to come out of your shell. Try flirting, or at least TALKING to guys you like. No, race doesn't matter. You just have to have confidence, because that's the sexiest part of a girl. If you think you're hot or ACT like you think you're hot, guys will think you are as well.
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What is the big deal about fingering a girl. I am one and i dont really see the big deal, does it really feel that good? and I know that a guy fingers your pussy, but what else would he do while fingering? please be detailed..thanks (link)
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What you do with your fingers while fingering someone is not only pulling in and out a million times. He should also gently massage the vaginal walls and hopefully search for the g-spot.
As for feeling good, if he does it right it should feel good, especially if he finds the g-spot. And even if he doesn't, a little clitoral stimulation will do the trick.
As for other things you do while fingering, making out or grinding/feeling up are probably what most people do. Or maybe the girl will give the guy a handjob at the same time.
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okay so i've heard rumors that if someone has tear drops tattooed under their eye, it means their in a gang or killed someone. is that true? (link)
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Yes, it is MEANT to mean you killed someone, but a lot of people get it just to look cool. My brother did that. It's just stupid.
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15/f
I'm on the slim4life diet and have been for about a month. I keep cheating. It's making the weight loss slow down. I don't tell anyone I do but I am and I feel like I can't help it. Iv'e gotten a little better on self control but it's hard not to cheat. especally being a teenager and all my friends eat food like I want but can't have. I'm really trying my hardest not to cheat. Anyone have tips to stop eating off plan foods? (link)
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I was on Atkins for 3 months and low calorie for another three, so I know all about cravings and being a teenager on a diet.
It's all about motivation and KEEPING yourself motivated. When you see something bad you want to eat, just think about making yourself more healthy and think about when you'll be thin and hot. You don't want to ruin that. Also, think about how guilty you'll feel for eating that later.
One thing that worked for me was giving myself ONE day per week (I chose Sunday, my weigh-in day) that I allowed my self to cheat a little bit. Eat some of your favorite "bad" foods one day a week to get rid of the cravings. It shouldn't slow down your weight loss as long as you don't go crazy.
Hope this helps. Good luck on the weight loss!
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i understand love but my 2 bffs are in love and dating. but their my 2 best frinds and their dating(girl and guy). im 13/f. i dont want then to break up and fall apart and me be in the middle which i think theyll never hate eachother. but their soooo lovey i guess. and they have alone time but around me or on aim or the phone their so 'oh i love you sooooo much and ooooo stop that there tickeling eachother and kissing and they always lick and suck on eachothers ears wats up with that. anything anywhere like ill say when we go out as friends can u stop kissing long enough to get in the car gawd. i dont want them to end up hating eachother. and i dono what to do to keep them together or as friends. and i dono what to do when their so gushy. what do i do? im lost? (link)
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Well the fact that they're practically humping each other at all times, even when you're around, is just plain rude. Maybe you should talk to them about not being comfortable and feeling like the third wheel when they can't remove their tongues out of each others mouths long enough to hang out with you as friends. Sure, they like each other, but PDA is pretty much gross.
As for keeping them together, I'm afraid that's not up to you. The only thing you can do is, if they do break up, talk to them and remind them of the friendship they had. Sometimes couples stay friends after they break up and some don't. If they're going to hate each other, their maturity levels need some tuning, but aside from that there's not really a way you can fix it.
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