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this question dosent really go under friendship..but there was nothing else i coul put it under...anyway..i got a dvd player for christmas and i have some good dvd's like napolian dynamite but i get sick of it if i watch it alot and the day after tommorrow but that is pretty long and finding nemo but that aso gets kinda boring... the only movie that i enjoy watching is my favorite movie ever...sweet home alabama...i dunno what it is about that movie but i never get sick of it...does anyone have any other movies that are good and they never get sick of? cause i would really like another movie to watch! lol =)
Well, I don't really know your taste in movies, but I really like Drive Me Crazy, Josie and the Pussycats, The Matrix, Pirates of the Carribean, and Edward Scissorhands. :-) If you watch these, I hope you like them!
this is kinda long but i seriously need help...my bf of 4 months now who i really love and things are going GREAT...well his ex is trying to talk to me now. she IMed me this morning and said hey you dont know me but i know derek, how are things going with him? and then we just started talking....she said he broke her heart and she loved him and he was her first kiss and all this shit. and she said he told her he loved her too. and shes like yea we hung out all summer..does he ever mention me? becuse it was a crazy summer! and shes asking me to talk to derek ( my boyfriend, her ex) and asking him to just be friends with her. because they dont talk at all now. shes really nice..but i KNOW she still has feelings for him...shes saying how she just wants to be his friend now and if i could please talk to him for her but im afraid if i do...shell try to take him away from me...what do i do about this? im getting really jealous and i told her i would talk to him abuot her and stuff..im trying not to be that jealous overprrotective girlfriend...HELP
♥ JaDe
Well.. you already told her that you'd mention her to him.. Just tell him that his ex has been talking to you, asking you to tell him she wants to be friends.. Warn him that she's still got feelings for him.. If things are going great, you probably don't have a problem. Remember, people can't be "stolen" unless they want to be. Hope this helps!
i feel like im growing apart from some of my close friends..is there any way to prevent this??
Signed,
Missed Friend
You need to try to hang out with them more - if you spend more time with them, it probably won't feel as if you're growing apart. The worst-case scenario is that yes, you are growing apart, and there isn't anything you can do about it, but try anyways. You never know! Hope I helped!
There's this guy at my school that I really like, and think I am in love with (I have thought this for YEARS). But I'm afraid to start anything with him because he has kind of been the center of many jokes between me and my friends, and he's not exactly the hottest guy on earth lol. He is kind of short, in fact, I think I'm taller than him. But he's kind of cute in a way and I really like his personality. I know I could probably get a hotter guy, but for some reason I feel like he is the only one I could be happy with. But I am afraid of what my friends will think if I tell them I like him. So what should I do?
Ignore your friends!! If you like him, go for him! It isn't your friends relationship, it's yours. You can like whoever you want and if they make fun of you for that, screw them! (Not to be taken literally, of course.) I hope I helped!
okay so heres the thing.....i am really depressed, and i know it and so i cut myself....but not my wrists or anything just my legs and my ankles.......and i think about death alot, but not ohters just myself....what do you think i shuld do
Hey hun, I'm sorry you're depressed and cut, I know what its like.. You need to get to a doctor. They can prescribe anti-depressants and those help a LOT. And you need to find some way to stop cutting - get everything sharp away from you, quickly. I have scars on my ankles and wrists from 2 years ago that people still notice and ask me about, and it is SO awkward.. They never go away. It's a constant reminder of all the crap you go through, and trust me when you get past it, you won't want that reminder. Please go to a doctor and try to stop cutting! And if you need to talk to anyone, even though you don't know me, I'm always here.. I hope you get better.
There is this guy at my school Rick who asked me out 2 years ago (and told me he loved me), and i rejected him. But now, I think I am in love with him. I have been in love with Rick from the moment I rejected him, and I don't know what to do about it. And if I go up to him and be like "Hey I love you" then that will just be really akward and he'll be like wtf? I talk to him at school sometimes, but never about dating or anything. It's just casual conversation. And the conversations usually only last about 2 minutes or so, because then we have to each start heading different ways for our next classes. (And I look forward to those 2 minutes every day.. they are the highlight of my day, they are what I wake up for.. hah i know that sounds corny but it's true!!) What can I say to Rick, but make it sound casual? And also, I'm not sure if he still likes me or not. Sometimes in the halls he will catch up to me and talk to me. But I can't tell if he likes me or not. Please help, I don't know what to do, but I know I need to do SOMETHING. Please don't delete this!!
Aww, I'm sorry, the same thing happened to me with someone.. I would say to just try to talk to him more often, find out his screenname and talk to him online and stuff, and get to be good friends again and then maybe tell him you like him. I guess it all depends on how good of friends you get to be.. I hope this helps!
Ever since I started taking taekwondo, my back has been hurting a lot. I'm only 15/f and I don't want a bad back at this young of an age and I don't want a bad back when I am older. And I would never quit taking taekwondo, I love it so much and I am trying to get my black belt. Any advice on what I should do? Thanks in advance.
I don't know much about this, but maybe it's just sore? Have you been taking it for long? If you haven't, its probably just muscle soreness from stretching muscles you don't use all the time more than usual. I hope I helped!
Im a 15 male.. and im gothic, is it wierd that i wear black nailpolish? give me some details and convince me if it is..
Nahh, its not weird. Why does it matter, anyway? You can do what you want, they're your nails..
Alright yall, i believe in God and that Jesus is the son of God. But i dont like church one bit, and i dont like the bible. I think i'm a good person, but i do also sin (obviously). And i have a wonderful relationship with God. So am i going to hell because i dont like church, and because i dont believe alot of what the Christians believe? Please help me out if you can. Thanks alot.
Have you researched some other types of Christianity to see if they believe what you believe? I think that as long as you believe in God, you won't be going to hell. Don't worry!
my boyfriend n i havnt been going out long....but we argue all the time.....i mean i love him and all...and its not like he makes me mad or pisses me off or anything....we just argue a lot.....weve even had a cuple fights....i mean we are complete opposites....but we hav a lot of fun together n all that jazz.....so is it a horrible thing that we fight all the time?
Well, if you mean fight ALL the time, then that may be a little weird, but I mean can you imagine a relationship where you NEVER argue about anything? It's just creepy! Besides, if you have a lot of fun together, who cares? You can deal with a couple fights, right? It adds a little bit of "spice" to the relationship haha;-) I hope I helped!
ok my bf and i have been going out for 8 days and we went to the movies he didn't act like he was going to break up with me, but he has not called me today and he calls me everyday. what do i do? I have tried calling him and he didn't anwser on either his cell or home phone and i don't want to seem like an obessive gf so i don't want to call again what do i do? How long do you think i should wait b4 calling again? plz help i rate!!!!
Maybe he's just not home? Wait until tomorrow - you already seem like an obsessive gf.. no offense. I'm sure he doesn't want to break up with you just because he hasn't called you in a day. He does have a life, you know.;-)
Hey! Ok: so I have hundreds of pictures in my a box in my room. I take a roll at every other week. My question is: How can I display them in my room (without frames) I have some along my mirror. But what is a cool way of hahging them up? Thanks so much!
Well, if you have a LOT of wall space, you could sort of make a collage and put them up all over your wall - i have a friend who did that and it looked awesome. :-)
Well!My friend a while ago started cutting herself, but then she stopped. Today I hit her arm and she said ouch. I knew right away what she did because she gave me this look. Then she laughed about it. I honestly don’t think that it is funny. She is one of my best friends and I don’t need her going off and hurting herself. When she laughs about it, it makes me feel like she doesn’t want me to care or anything. She showed me her arm and it looks pretty bad and shes like ooo its not that bad. I don’t want to tell an adult but she has been pretty depressed latly and I don’t kno anymore if I should continue helping her about it or just give her her own space.
She doesn't want you to care - because if someone cares, she'll feel guilty. You need to tell someone - for her sake. She'll hate you for a while, but in the long run, she'll thank you. I hope this helps, and I hope your friend gets better!
ive been cutting for a while now but recently its gotten much worse than it has ever been. like two of my really close friends know about it but i cant talk to them about it. last year my mom and dad found out and i went to a therapist but it didnt help and they think ive stopped. just knowing how upset theyd get if they knew i still cut i cant talk to them. i hate my mom and dad.i cant trust them and feel like most of the time they hate me. i am depressed all the time and dont know what to do anymore. im so close to just killing myself. ive almost gone through with it in the past. i just need some advice. thanks
Wow, I'm so sorry. I went through the same thing - you're not alone. I know you think you can't trust your parents, and they hate you, but the thing is they love you and don't want to see you hurt. That's why it would make them upset! My parents were so scared for me when I went through that - it hurts them more to see you sad than anything else. Whatever you do, don't try to kill yourself - it DOES get better. Besides, if you try and fail, they WILL put you in a mental hospital. Nobody wants that, right? (Trust me, you don't). You have to trust your parents enough to get you to a doctor - get anti-depressants. I swear, I never even knew what it WAS to be happy until I got some of those. And since you can't talk to your friends or your parents or a therapist, you're going to have to find someone else to talk to. It doesn't matter who, I mean, it could even be a journal. That's just to get things off your chest. You've already done the first thing to getting better - you've asked for help. Now, just try to find a little courage and tell your parents you need medicine. I'm sorry if that wasn't what you wanted to hear, and I wish I could've told you something else, but it's the only way. I hope everything works out!
my dog died...and i am having trouble getting over her death...what should i do?
Aww I'm sorry about your dog.. I was the same way when mine died a couple years ago.. It still makes me cry sometimes, but I just remember all the good times I had with him, and all the happy times, and it makes me feel better. Also remember she is in a better place.. Don't think you'll get over her really fast though, it takes time.. I hope I helped
Okay, so I have had a lot of downs with my mom and i even went as far as not living with her for while. Now I am back with her because social services said that they couldn't do anything. I am living a normal life now, only not getting along with my mom, now social services wants me to go into foster care, but I have made several new friends since we just moved and I don't want to hurt my mom, but I know that being with her isn't the best place for me! She has NO JOB, lives with a guy she met off the net, has severe health problems and I have been in a mental institution and am on medicines. I don't deal with stress very well and with Christmas almost here, I know it is going to be stressful, especially if I end up in a foster home, WHAT DO I DO??????
You need to explain to your mom what's going on. Tell her that if she doesn't change her behavior, you might be forced to leave her - that might wake her up a little. If she continues what she's doing, you might be forced to go to the foster home. I know it would suck leaving your friends and your family, but you just have to realise what would be better for you. I for one hope that your mom changes because it would suck going to a foster home at this season. I hope I helped.
i've been with my boyfriend for 19 months and i love him more than anything. the other day i had a dream i was making out with this hot kid at school. does this mean anything? by the way, this is like the 3rd or 4th dream i've had of this kid.
This dream probably doesn't mean anything - it's probably just because you think the kids hot. Besides, if you love your boyfriend, I don't think there's a problem. Only problem would be if you start developing real feelings for this guy. :-)
Just yesterday i was playing on my computer trying to zone out from my problems and my sisters. Well anyways i'm juast asking for tips to help me out because i cant use my computer anymore and i need to zone out instead of remaining depressed like i have been for a while. I would tell people about my depression but i am very shy and i dont really like to talk. I need any tips to zone out and i will rate high for them............................. please help me out im going crazy!!!
If you're depressed, "zoning out" isnt the way to deal with it. You need to tell someone - it doesnt matter if you want to or not. If you're uncomfortable talking to people you know, maybe you could see a psychaitrist. It takes time to be able to open up to people with things such as depression, but you need to! Please work up the courage to tell someone, soon. Music is good for zoning out - but please tell someone how you're feeling. And let me know how things work out.
my ex boyfriend and i have fights and don't get along very well, and he can be quit of an asshole. But the problem is- were still deeply in love with eachother (sounds weird.. but its really true) We have had problems in the past but we are so in love its like crazy. I lost my virginity to him and we were so close. But we've been broken up for a while and somtimes we fight. I just don't know if i have to move on because he's not 'right' for me?.. [even tho i love him :( ]or i should still talk to him more. Its so hard and i can't get it off my mind ..help
Whoa I used to have the same problem!! Everyone told me to "move on" but I couldn't. If you love him, why don't you try getting back together? I mean, if it doesn't work, then ok, but if you can't get him off your mind and he still likes you, why can't you try again?? Good luck and I hope things work out between you and this guy!
hey um its austin m and i hate my mom and my sister my mom is trying to control my life and i dono what to tell her so she gets out of my life and my sis to she is like im gona tell mom u smoke and acting like a 10 year old and she is like 17 they both are ass holes and i know how to run my life what should i tell them so they back off
Hey hun - sorry about your mom. Most parents try to control their kids lives - think it'll keep them from screwing up, you know? I don't really know your mom, but maybe if you show her that you're mature enough to handle your life yourself, she'll back off? Or you could just tell her how you feel (might be smart not to tell her she's an asshole - be NICE). Just be like "it's like you're trying to control me, can you let me do things myself?" or say it nicely enough.. It usually works;-). And your sister is just trying to look out for you (probably) - you already know how i feel about the whole smoking thing, so im not going to go into it - you just need to talk to your sister! I mean she's probably acting like a bitch for a reason.. I hope I helped (and I hope you quit your insane dope quest).