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16/f I'm renee!
Alright well i am sorta "talking" to this guy i really like. Right now, we are just talking as friends and getting to know eachother. Well, we were really starting to click and get closer until my friend told him that i have never kissed a guy before. He still calls me but 3 of my friends have been coming up to me and telling me that he told them that if we ever go out, me not being expirienced would be a BIG problem. He told them he still likes me and he dosen't care about that, but it makes it a little more hard on the relationship if we ever went out. I don't know what to do because i am a junior and i haven't ever done that. I know people might not think it's a big deal, but it is in highschool. If a guy finds that out, they get turned off. It's horrible! I don't know what to do!!! Please don't say it's not a big deal because to me and everyone else in my school it is!!! What should i do? Thanks!! (link)
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Hi,
of coure it's a big deal. The first kiss always is. I know how tough high school is. The pressure can be enormous. First, a little bit of advice off the subjuct. Never tell anyone all of your business. No one needed to know you hadn't kissed anyone before. He didn't need to know that.
I don't know why it should matter to him whether you have or not. If it doesn't matter to him, what's the big deal. A kiss is a kiss. It gets better with practice. Any time you kiss someone for the first time it's different. The only thing I can think of is that he wants to do more than just kissing. Are you ready for that? It seems like you like to take things slow.
I think you should just have a talk to him about it and stop having your friends in the middle. YOu need to know where he stands. Things get all screwed up when you have people in the middle. I hoped I helped.
Good luck,
Ediemarie
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I was wondering if there is the same type of "debate" that the presidential candidates have only for the vice presidential candidates?
I saw the presidential debate that happened on September 26, 2008 with Barack Obama and John McCain already. It happened at the University of Mississippi, if I recall correctly. Barack Obama's running mate (candidate for vice president) is Joseph R. Biden Jr. and John McCain's running mate (candidate for vice president) is Sarah Palin.
So, will there be a vice presidential debate with Sarah Palin and Joseph R. Biden Jr. sometime? If so, where will it be located and when will it be aired on television? Will it also be available to watch on the internet? (link)
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Hi,
yes there will be a debate between the two vice-presidential candidates. It will be aired Thursday evening between 8-10 @ Washington University in St. Louis. I'm not sure about the internet.
Ediemarie
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Okay,
I often have the same dream over and over again if not the same dream something very related. I dream about tornados all the time, I've never exsperienced being in one nor do they even come around where I live. In my dream the clouds move fast, they dark.. and quickly approaching and a tornado touches the ground and rapidly spins like crazy and sometimes there are multiple tornados at once. I remember running and feeling a panic feeling, Praying everything will go by quickly in my dream...
What do you think this means?! and WHY am I always having the same dream?
BahaiMa22 (link)
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Hi,
I'm not 100% sure since I don't know your personal situation, but since you'haven't been around any tornados, maybe you feel as though your life is out of control and it is scaring you. Maybe you have a lot of things going on in your life and you're having a hard time juggling everything. A lot of young adults feel this way when they want things to be perfect and are trying to do the right things in life. It's hard trying to keep a balance. Keep your head up. If this is your situation, things will work out. I'm sure the dreams will subside when things balance themselves out. I hope I helped without actually knowing you.
Good luck,
Ediemarie
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where can I get good tips and stuff about weight loss online? I also don't have much money or time to lose weight so whats the best advice? (link)
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Hi,
WebMD Diet Assessment is a good place to start. They give good advice about what weight you should be for your height and age. They also ask you a variety of question about your current diet and assess the situation to get you started on your weight loss. Hope I helped.
Good luck,
Ediemarie
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I've been dating my boyfriend for almost 3 months. We've had sex and he was my first but i def. wasnt his. I'm head over heels for this guy.. its just that feeling when he holds me or kisses me i've never felt this way before and i've caught myself almost sayin i love you twice now but i stop myself. Is it too early to say it? should i even say it? what if he doesnt feel the same way and he freaks out n thinks its getting too serious.. ahh help.
p.s. he has made little comments like when he picks on me he'll go ha you love me. (link)
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Hi,
you didn't say how old you were; not that that makes a difference when it comes to your feelings, however it makes a difference when determining if you're really in love or simply infatuated because the relationship is so new.
I think when you're really in love with someone, you feel so comfortable with them that nothing can stop you from saying it. YOu just do.
It may be a little early if you're trying to protect your feelings and you want to be sure about his. There's no harm in waiting a while longer. If you're in love, for the most part, your feelings should remain the same.
If you're really curious about his feelings, ask him how he feels your relationship is going. That should give you a clue of where his mind and heart is and you can go from there. I hope I helped.
Good luck,
Ediemarie
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for the past couple of months i've been losing weight and i've hit a plateau. i really want to lost more weight and i tried changing up my diet but NOTHING WORKS.
i don't want to take a break from the diet because i know i'll end up quiting.
so are there any ways i can lose weight?
ideas please!!! (link)
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Hi,
I think the reason you probably hit a plateau is because your body is getting used to your routine. If you haven't incorporated excercise into your routine, try that. Pick a cardio activity that you enjoy and I guarantee you will see quick results. I hope I helped.
Good luck with your weight loss.
Edidmarie
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So it goes like this.. me and this guy have been friend for about 3-4 yrs. I had feelings for him in the beginning but they subsided b.c. "we're friends" and i didnt want to ruin that. I always said i would only get with him if he told me he wanted to be with me first.. one day about 3 weeks ago we were hanging out and he kissed me. for about a week and a half after that i would get txts everyday and we'd always talk but then the txts stopped coming. we would chill and still kiss but i wasnt sure on letting him go further. when i denied him the txts really never came and now idk what to do. i want to tell him that i have feelings for him but i dont want to look dumb. I dont want him to hurt me b.c. i dont want to jeoprodize our friendship.. URGH what do i do? (link)
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Hi,
tell him exactly what you just said in your statement. YOu expressed yourself very will. Go with that and see what he says. Be careful. YOu have to wonder why he stopped texting you just because you wouldn't let him go further. Listen to his answer and go with your gut. It never steers you wrong. I hope I helped.
Good luck,
Ediemarie
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Ok so im sure youve gotten a lot of questions about relationships...but maybe not like this. ok, so i have a black boyfriend. i'm not black but im mixed and have been brought up into a white family so yeah.
Im pretty sure my moms boyfriend isnt racist but when i asked her if he could come over here, she said he'd throw a fit and that it was a completely different ballgame just because he is black. the way i see it, is boys no matter what skin color are all basically the same in general.
So ive already been to his house after convincing her i could and she said not to tell him about the whole situation. So yeah, my boyfriend and i are almost to a month and arent like in love yet but i mean we do like eahcother alot and i just dont know what to do. And eventually my moms boyfriend is gonna have to meet him. (link)
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Hi,
that's a tough question. It's hard to say if someone is a racist or not without meeting them, but according to your question it seems that he may very well have a certain dislike for people who aren't white.
You should probably talk more to your mother about it and just ask her why he would have a problem with your boyfriend coming over. Also ask her if she is in agreement with his decision considering the fact that you are mixed.
I agree with you that everyone is the same no matter what color their skin is.
I don't know if you want to choose between your boyfriend and your family. YOu have to ask yourself if he is that important to you.
I hope this helped.
Good luck with your boyfriend and your family,
Ediemarie
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I'm 18 (female), and I've been dating a guy through the internet and we talk on webcam and texting as well and I really felt like I was in love with him, and he told me he loved me too. We were doing okay, but last night I did something stupid, and I'm not sure what to do to make it better, if I can. I have trust issues that I'm working through, and it makes it harder to trust your partner when you live 10000 miles apart and court through the Internet. So he wasn't responding to my messages and, honestly I wasn't trying to "check up on him" as he put it, I was just trying to see if he didn't feel like talking to me or if he simply fell asleep or something. Or even if there was a problem with the messenger again, because we've had problems before with it not sending our messages. So, I asked a friend to talk to him to see. Somehow he found out and now he's mad at me. I apologized and last night I was crying nonstop and I was so angry at myself that I scratched myself all over my arms. =[ (I'm dealing with that issue too.) But I'm not quite sure what I should do- he hasn't talked to me since, and I can not lose him. I know what I did was stupid, but I need to find a way to make this work. I think he's the one. =[ What should I do?? (link)
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Hi sweetie,
try not to be so hard on yourself. We have all been there. Although you say that you've had problems with your messenger before, I think the real reason that you asked your friend to talk to him was because you were feeling a little insecure about him and the relationship because you live so far apart. Like I said, it's normal. It's hard to have a long distance relationship. YOu have to be really secure to keep it going, an you're so young.
I'm not quite sure why he's not responding to your messages. It could be a number of reasons, one being that he could be angry or hurt.
Personaly I think you had every right to know why he wasn't responding to your messages. After all, he said that he loved you, but you have to keep in mind that there is the possibility that he wasn't responding because he was no longer interested. I'm so sorry if hearing this hurts you, but it is a possibility.
If he still won't respond to you, you could always ask your friend to talk to him again just to get a straight answer. If he loves you and wants to make it work, he shouldn't have any problem talking to you. If that still doesn't work, you're going to have to let it go sweetie.
I know it's hard, but you will find someone else to love and who loves you back.
Please don't let yourself get so worked up that you get into a nervous frenzie and start scratching yourself again. This is not healthy and can lead to other more serious nervous conditions. I really hope I helped you and that you'll be okay. Please keep me informed through my inbox.
Good luck to you,
Ediemarie
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alright..soo iam 16 iam going to be 17 soon and i really dont want to have sex. like i think my age is wayyy too young to even be thinking about it. but all the guys my age or older already expect it. i really dont know what to do, cause you can never really find decent guys anymore that will wait. and if you tell them you dont want to have sex they will either keep pushing you or just leave you right then and there...i dont really know what to do, and i DONT want to have sex expecially not yet. (link)
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Hi,
the worst thing you can ever do is to have sex before you are ready. It's not what you want right now, so by all means stick to your guns. Trust me, if a guy is not willing to wait for you, he is not worth your time anyway.
From the sounds of it, you have high self esteem and certain standards for yourself. Don't settle. YOu will regret if for the rest of your life. If a guy treats you in a wrong way because he can't have his way with you, he always will. It will never work out. There are guys out there who feel the way you do. You just have to be patient. If the others want to leave, show them the way. I hope I helped.
Good luck,
Ediemarie
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Ok, so naturally I am a very skinny girl. So I have a flat stomach. But lately my stomach has been big and sometimes it is soft and other times it is hard. I know I am not pregnant, I think I might be bloated , but do you think I am bloated or I am gaining weight?
Also, I get bloated nearly EVERY TIME I eat and it is really annoying. I already have celiac disease, so I was wondering maybe there might be something else wrong with me.
So...
Question 1) Am I bloated or am I gaining weight?
Question 2) I get bloated after I eat, so is there something wrong with me?
Sorry it is so long, and thanks in advance. (link)
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Hi,
there are so many reasons why this could be happening. I'm sure your celiac disease has something to do with it for the most part, but also, it coulde be related to your menstral cycle if it's located in your lower abdomen. Sometimes the uterus fluctuates between soft and hard depending on what time of month it is. The menstral cycle is also associated with bloating. It could be something associated with your bladder. It could also be irritable bowel syndrome. This condition could cause these symptoms too. As you can see, it could be a number of condidions. If it continues or causes you pain, please see your doctor and tell him/her about it. I hope I helped.
Good luck,
Ediemarie
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okayy, i'll start with a short biography.
well i'm 17[next month]. haha. im a female. and.. i've NEVER had a boyfriend. [unless elementary school counts]. i have been asked out alot in middle school. not so much highschool. in highschool i got really insecure around guys, and i didn't dare to flirt with guys because my past experiences with flirting.. and once i was playing rate you, rate me with a bunch of frinds plus other people. and this one guy rated me a 1 on a scale from 1-10. that really got to me. i couldn't get over it for a LONG time. and i started to pick out my flaws alot more in the mirror till that was all i saw, so i got really unconfident. i would keep asking my friends if they thought i was ugly and stuff. i just felt so ugly, so i got really insecure around guys and if they tryed to flirt with me, i would turn away or pretend they had no impression on me when they did. so after that game, i've had no luck with having guys ask me out. haha. sad. but some how, this year, i'm confident again[i think it's my emo medicine or god] haha. i just don't care what other people think any more and i'm not insecure, instead i laugh when i do something i use to would've thought would be embarrassing.
okayy so im getting a little better with guys, yet i think i still kinda suck because i have no experence. i think this one guy liked me, but i dont think he does anymore. [i didn't like him/ prylly why]
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okayy, well this is about another guy, haha.
he goes to my school. he's drop dead sexy. i don't know his name :[
he is in my advicement, but we only have advisement maybe once a month. and the only other time i see him is when going from first to second, but i would have to run to catch up, haha.
well, i have spoke to him before. last year after school at soccer tryouts. i tryed to get his attention so i kicked a ball really hard at his head. it was funny. then he was like bragging "that girl kicks hard" haha. well, like i said before. i was insecure. like the next time we had advicement after that, he was still bragging and trying to talk to me. but i ignored him because i was so scared and you know insecure. i really regret that now. im pretty particular when it comes to guys and he is so my type, haha. i really want to just talk to him but i barely see him, and who knows when the next time i will have advicement again. sometimes when i stay after school, i see him playing football out on the field[he's not on the football team].
any advice with what to say, or how to get his attention, or catch up to him, haha. i don't think any of my friends know him, and i've never had a class with him. i just really hope he likes me. my friends now say im pretty or cute..etc. i just hope i'm his type, haha >.<
please help, any advice, any stories, or just any words to say is appreciated.
also thanks in advance :] (link)
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Hi,
I'm glad you got your self-esteem up and got your confidence back. That's hard to do. Good for you. No one is perfect. Someone is always going to find something wrong with you. YOu just have to shrug it off and move on.
As far as the guy is concerned, he probably thinks you don't want to be bothered since you ingnored him. That's okay. Don't dwell on it. Try this. The next time you are in advicement with him, try to sit next to him and just start up a conversation. Just say something simple like "how's your head?" That should break the ice a little bit. Once that's done, say "why aren't you on the football team? I see you playing on the field a lot. YOu're really good." Men love compliments. That should get thing going. Hopefully after that everythimg you see each other you'll talk and maybe exchange numbers. Start off slow. I hope things work out for you.
Good luck,
Ediemarie
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so i have been losing so much weight, ,i used to be 160 pounds but now im 119 so im still losing moreee even thou im skinny but i wanna lose my tummy, but every month i get my period but this month it hasnt come, idk why, even before when i used to work out but i was still a little big it came but it didnt come this month
its because im losin weight rite?
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Hi,
You are exactly right. I don't know how tall you are, but it seems like you're losing too much, maybe too fast. I would suggest seeing a doctor and getting it checked out if you miss another one. I hope I helped.
Good luck,
Ediemarie
Hey again,
I hope you get this ammended message. I think 21lbs in 4 months is too much weight for your height sweetie. What did you do to lose it? I agree with the other advice columnist too. YOur periods could be irregular. YOu are young. However, it's still best to get it checked out with your doctor if it persists. Please be careful when losing so much weight. I hope I helped.
Ediedmarie
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what exactly do guys realy go through and feel after a break up..
compared to girls.
for us everything reminds us of them
we think about them almost all the time
get sad when were alone but ok when were with friends
just other things.. any info would be great
thank you! (link)
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Hi,
I have 2 teenage sons, and they tell me that basically everything is the same for them except that sometimes they immediately go out with someone else to get the breakup off of their minds, but they suffer just as much. I hope I answered your question.
Good luck,
Ediemarie
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my bestfriend and her boyfriend just broke up about a month and a half ago
she kinda plays guys. like she will get what she wants out of relationships and then leave me and go with a different guy so i wasnt suprised the breakup happened.
but he was really heartbroken and he gets all depressed and like talks about killing himself and stuff.
but lately we started talking abut and texting and stuff. and im falling for him. i told myself i would never like a guy that went out with my bestfirend becuase thats just wrong and you just cant do that haha
but idk. lately ie been having stronger and stronger feelings for him. we flirt and he calls me babe and baby and stufff. and idk what to do
thers anothe story behind this too. my bestfriend told her parents she was sleeping at my house but really she went and slept at her new mans house and they had sex and stuff. and somehow her ex found out and i guess to like get back at her for stuff he told her parents and now she is is hugeeeeee trouble and is grounded till shes 18 and stuff. so my friend and her ex dont talk anymore and all my friends hated him for that and i was the only one who didnt because yes she is my bestfriend, but the problem is between him and her and its non of my business or problem so i cant hate him for that.
and he asked me out yesterday but i said not right now.
and i know if i do go out with him im gonna get alot of crap for it and i may not have any friends left. i love my friends to death
but im realllyreally crushing on him.
someone help me!
sorry that i was long
and probably confusing haha (link)
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Hi,
I'm just going to go with my gut on this and tell you that you knew the answer to this before you put the question out there, right?
So many women have been in this same situation. The fact that she doesn't know how to treat a man is really not the issue.
He was her man and he is off limits. That's just the way it is. He might be the cutest, nicest guy in the world. I'm sure it's probably hard for you to keep pushing him away when you're developing feelings for him.
It's even sadder that he is so hurt that he even talks about hurting himself.
The only thing I would suggest that you can do is to try and be his friend. I think that's fine since everyone has alienated him. Try and keep his spirits, but you can go no further. YOu're just going to have to think of him as the one who got away.
What if it were reversed? Would you be okay with it? I really hope you take this advice.
Good luck,
Ediemarie
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hey again,
you answered this question for me about a week ago:
okay so i really really like my boyfriend of 2 months. we haven't been going out all that long but we've been making out and stuff and i know he really cares about me. thing is, when we make out he doesnt really move his hands...i move mine around his face neck and hair alot and he kinda just wraps his arms around me and thats where they stay the whole time...is there any hints i can give him that would tell him he could touch me? thankss
17/f
well i took your advice and took his hands and put them where i wanted them and then he just kept them there the whole time really. how can i show him that its okay for him to move his hands around me? i don't really wanna feel like a slut but when im making out i kinda like to move my hands around him and it feels weird when hes not doing the same to me...my last option is telling him that, because id much rather show him...do you have any ideas of what i can do?
thanks so much. (link)
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Hi,
I'm glad you got back to me and kept me informed.
It seems that he's the type that needs you to just come out and tell him. He is definitely not picking up the hint. Lol, that's cute.
Okay, here's another suggestion. If you're still not ready to come out and tell him, the next time you're in the moment and you move his hands once again, just keep moving his hands every few seconds or so. Everytime you want him to put his hands somewhere else, do it for him. He should get the message. If he doesn't, honey you are just going to come right out and tell him what you like. Assert yourself. Simply say, "baby, I like it when you touch me. It makes me happy." Some men just don't get it and that's okay. That's why they have us.
I hope this helped you again. :) Please keep me informed!
Good luck,
Ediemarie
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i havd these werid bumps under my right arm and on my stomach. there skin color and arent itchy or anything thay just are werid (link)
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Hi,
they sound like they are flesh colored moles. I hope I helped.
Ediemarie
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so i like this one dude "bobby"
butt so does this girl "molly"
he sat next to me at church.
and we held hands.
then.. molly started crying
which is totally stupid and pointless to cry over something like that.
but then today at school he was huggin her and holding her hand cuz she was upset or somethin?
is he even worth my time? (link)
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Hi,
no I really don't think he is worth your time. He probably gets off on the fact that he has two girls that like him. Guys love to play the hero.
Hope I helped.
Good luck,
Ediemarie
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Okay, so I'm kind of chubby. Just a little. And my lips are kind of big. So if I lose weight, will my lips get smaller? And what features lose weight the fastest on your face? (link)
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Hi,
I don't think your lips will get any smaller if you lose weight. Your cheeks will probably be the most noticeable difference on your face. I hope I helped.
Good luck,
Ediemarie
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okay I will keep this short I have written a book and I was wondering if you could tell me how I would go about tryin to get it published?
p.s. its a romance!!
any help is appreciated
lxx (link)
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Hi,
getting a book published can be a difficul task. It depends on how you want to publish it. YOu can self publish in which you put up the money to get your book out there. You also have to do your own promotion of the book. It has had success with some authors. Dorrance Publishing is one website.
If you want a publishing house to publish, you have to do your reasearch. Since it is romance, you should go to the internet and look up romance publishers. There you will find a array of publishers with different guidelines for their novels. Pick the one that best suits their needs and follow through with how to present your manuscript to them.
Note: some don't like unsolicited manuscripts, so make sure you read the guidelines carefully. I hope I answered your question.
Good luck,
Ediemarie
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