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I think i love him...
I've been dating my boyfriend for almost 3 months. We've had sex and he was my first but i def. wasnt his. I'm head over heels for this guy.. its just that feeling when he holds me or kisses me i've never felt this way before and i've caught myself almost sayin i love you twice now but i stop myself. Is it too early to say it? should i even say it? what if he doesnt feel the same way and he freaks out n thinks its getting too serious.. ahh help.
p.s. he has made little comments like when he picks on me he'll go ha you love me.
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3 months may not seem like a long enough time but alot can happen in that short amount, and in my opinion i definatly think that if you have all those feelings about him that he has them for you too. He's probably having the same problems you are right now. Nexdt time your about to tell him you love him..definatly say it and I bet he says it right back.
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I think that if you're having sex with someone then you should be able to tell them your true feelings.
Sex is a very intimate thing, most of the time, unless you're having sex like a prostitute.
If you can't tell someone you love them then how would you deal with an unexpected pregnancy by them? How would you deal with coming to find yourself with an STD that you may have passed to them (yes, virgins can have STDs)?
If he runs away when you say, "I love you," then should you have really shared that intimate side of you with this guy, really? I don't think so. Sex is a very vulnerable activity that can left people with emotional scars. I don't understand how anyone could have sex so freely with another human being but be so afraid to tell the person how they feel about them.
He probably knows you have strong feelings for him. He may be confused as to why you haven't told him even. Either way, I definately think you should go on and tell him.
If he runs away then he wasn't wanting to love you back. If he's afraid of that sort of commitment then he wasn't worth the time. You should be with someone who cares strongly about you. If you're going to have sex with someone then being loved should be a requirement to avoid emotional damage.
In addition, if you want your relationship to survive long-term then you need to be open and honest to your partner about everything. Most people have many difficulties in this, but it's the only way any relationship ever survives in this crazy world. Tell him how you feel and go with the flow. If he freaks out then did you REALLY want to be with someone who didn't care about you as much as you cared about them?
In addition, you are never too young to fall in love. It's never too early to fall in love. I fell in love with my boyfriend very quickly, very strongly. When love happens, it happens whether you want it to or not.
Sit down and tell him how you feel.
It'll be worth it.
If you have any more questions, please feel free to ask me! :)
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Hi,
you didn't say how old you were; not that that makes a difference when it comes to your feelings, however it makes a difference when determining if you're really in love or simply infatuated because the relationship is so new.
I think when you're really in love with someone, you feel so comfortable with them that nothing can stop you from saying it. YOu just do.
It may be a little early if you're trying to protect your feelings and you want to be sure about his. There's no harm in waiting a while longer. If you're in love, for the most part, your feelings should remain the same.
If you're really curious about his feelings, ask him how he feels your relationship is going. That should give you a clue of where his mind and heart is and you can go from there. I hope I helped.
Good luck,
Ediemarie
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