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I did something to upset my boyfriend and I don't know what to do. =[
I'm 18 (female), and I've been dating a guy through the internet and we talk on webcam and texting as well and I really felt like I was in love with him, and he told me he loved me too. We were doing okay, but last night I did something stupid, and I'm not sure what to do to make it better, if I can. I have trust issues that I'm working through, and it makes it harder to trust your partner when you live 10000 miles apart and court through the Internet. So he wasn't responding to my messages and, honestly I wasn't trying to "check up on him" as he put it, I was just trying to see if he didn't feel like talking to me or if he simply fell asleep or something. Or even if there was a problem with the messenger again, because we've had problems before with it not sending our messages. So, I asked a friend to talk to him to see. Somehow he found out and now he's mad at me. I apologized and last night I was crying nonstop and I was so angry at myself that I scratched myself all over my arms. =[ (I'm dealing with that issue too.) But I'm not quite sure what I should do- he hasn't talked to me since, and I can not lose him. I know what I did was stupid, but I need to find a way to make this work. I think he's the one. =[ What should I do??
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Hi sweetie,
try not to be so hard on yourself. We have all been there. Although you say that you've had problems with your messenger before, I think the real reason that you asked your friend to talk to him was because you were feeling a little insecure about him and the relationship because you live so far apart. Like I said, it's normal. It's hard to have a long distance relationship. YOu have to be really secure to keep it going, an you're so young.
I'm not quite sure why he's not responding to your messages. It could be a number of reasons, one being that he could be angry or hurt.
Personaly I think you had every right to know why he wasn't responding to your messages. After all, he said that he loved you, but you have to keep in mind that there is the possibility that he wasn't responding because he was no longer interested. I'm so sorry if hearing this hurts you, but it is a possibility.
If he still won't respond to you, you could always ask your friend to talk to him again just to get a straight answer. If he loves you and wants to make it work, he shouldn't have any problem talking to you. If that still doesn't work, you're going to have to let it go sweetie.
I know it's hard, but you will find someone else to love and who loves you back.
Please don't let yourself get so worked up that you get into a nervous frenzie and start scratching yourself again. This is not healthy and can lead to other more serious nervous conditions. I really hope I helped you and that you'll be okay. Please keep me informed through my inbox.
Good luck to you,
Ediemarie
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