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I know that when in a relationship 'Trust' is the key element. Well, I trust my boyfriend with everything I am, but that's not the problem. I know that he thinks other girls are pretty and that he looks at other girls like that upsets me. I know, I know. I probably sound really immature, but I know that ever since I've been dating him I don't really look at guys that way anymore because I don't need to look- I have him. I haven't got upset over this, but I can't help but think he's checking girls out while he out with me. Any advice? (link)
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It's ok that he looks, as long as he doesn't touch. It's naturall for guys to crave relationships with many different women, wouldn't you rather he was just looking and thinking, but not touching and doing? If you don't want to look at other guys, ok, fine, but guys are guys, and there gonna look, it's unavoidable, and I know it's irking, but it's ok.
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ok here is the sitution i am 13 and in 7th grade there is this boy i like and i thought he liked me because all the time he grabs ma hips and rubs his you know what on m butt. and i sorta like it but when my friends ask him if he likes me he says no whats up with that please help i rate high (link)
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uhm, well I suppose if you like it it isn't but if the way he touches you EVER makes you uncomftorable, and you tell him, and it doesn't stop, it's sexuall harrasment, and you should report his ass. He may just be embarrased that admitting he likes you will damage his masculinity (darn fragile male ego) or he may really not like you in that way. I suggest you confront him yourself, in privacy if at all possible (so he doesn't feel like he needs to be wierd and like he is around his buddies) if he really isn't interested, then it's really no loss, but if he does than that's great.
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Well, I am currently a junior in high school and my schedule is jammed packed. I go to work (i tutor), go home to do my homework and if by some miracle, make it to bed before 2:30 in the morning and then wake up at five for early morning classes. I am currently taking: AP US History (early morning), Honors Chemistry, Accounting, Honors Algebra 3, Spanish 3, Band and Honors English.
So my question is, how do I deal with all the stress...or I guess, what are some ways to deal with the stress besides what I do...which is tone everything out while drawing, listening to music that really doesn't help my situation (Getting Away With Murder by Papa Roach) and just sitting somewhere and balling like a baby. I need other ways to deal with this, and my mind is drawing a blank. Thanks in advance.
-signed-
stressed to kill (link)
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Relax, slow down, listen to happier, calmer music (that you like) and take a hot shower/bath or lay down and stretch. For a quick fix, sit down, stretch your legs out in front of you and curl your toes, then let them go, and continues tensing and relaxing all your leg muscles in turn. Crying is fine if you feel like it. But you need to get sleep!! at least 8 hours, more if at all possible, because lack of sleep is definately a major factor in the stress overload.
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okay I need help big time!!! There's this guy I like a lot I love him soooo much!! We went out once and he broke up with me because he thought my best friend was running our relationship! which she wasn't(stupid excuse)but I thought I was over him and everytime I see him my fellings get a hole lot stronger! I really want to be with him but I don't know if he feels the same way. Now please don't tell me to talk to him because he's one of those guys that won't understand where I'm coming from!!! Please give me advice!!! (link)
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Winter break is coming up, right? Go on a guy fast, be with your family and do things that make you happy! No Guys, think abput them as little as possible, go as long as possible without looking at any boys. (I know this is cheezy but...) Find yourself, learn to love yourself (even if you already do, you can't love yourslef too much unless you forget to stay down-to earth and start thinking your better than other people) Remind yourself how fun life without him is! Let him go on his merry clueless way!
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couple questions..
GUYS! what do you prefer blondes or brunettes, or do you like brunettes with blonde highlights?
and also what's the sexiest color on a girl? im going out and just want to know what you like. (link)
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BE YOURSELF!
I might not be a guy, but I know that changing yourself to fit someone elses standards sapps your self esteem (though it kinda seems that you don't have any anymore...) and drives you crazy. If you are a brunette, rock the brown hair, if you're a blond rock that. If YOU want to switch, rock whatever makes you happy. Wear whatever the hell you want (well, I'd still avoid lime green capris and a faux-fur top, but I think everyone knows that).
Guys like confidence. If you are confident enough too be yourself, he'll like you. If he doesn't like you because of the color you wore, or your hair color (unless it's a horrendeous dye job) then he's a shallow bastard and won't be able to do much better than some air-headed trailer-park hoochie.
BEYOUtiful!!
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I took one of my friends to play tennis and he wasnt very good. But the thing that really got to me was that he kept critizing me and telling me what a bad player I WAS!!
I told him that I was just learning to play and was taking lessons. Then he said "what kind of lessons are you taking" and that I was "holding the racket all wrong".
He also said my stamina wasnt very good. What a jerk!! I was nice enough to drive him up to the court and be patient with him even though he was terrible. I may not be a pro but I was certainly better then him.
Well I havent asked him to play since then but he has been asking me if I want to play again.. Should I tell him the truth that I just don't want to play because of how he made me feel?
He also insulted me by saying he bought his wife a tennis racket and that she is "at my level". And I know that is an insult because she isn't athletic at all.
What should I do? And do I have a right to be upset? (link)
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Yes. He was very rude. Tell him so, but in a calm, polite, sincere manner. Remember that he may have only benn saying thoses things to mask how bad he felt about his own playing. No ego-bashing either, if you tell him how bad he was you'll put him on the defensive, and that'll drive him to say more awfull things.
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hi. umm i am 13f and i havent started my period yet.. which is fine. but umm i am completely am totally flat. im not one of those girls with small boobs who just says shes flat. i really am quite literally FLAT. and i hate it. all of my friends (again, not exagerating) have boobs. how come i dont? will they ever come? because i do see adults sometimes that are flat. i really dont want to be like that. i have never had a boyfriend. my friends have. guys like girls with boobs. and dont say its not true. sorry huns, but uuh it is. guys used to like me in 5th grade and below because i am pretty, and then, nobody had boobs. but now that they do, im just a "little girl" compared to all of my friends. i really hate being flat. i dont know what i can do. obviously i cant magically make them appear.. but aah i hate it. i dont want to wear a padded bra because if someone bumps into me it will be obvious. what is a water bra? and wtf do i do????????
i rate 5. just pleease give me some good advice. (link)
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uhm, a water bra is a bra with water or gell padding so they look or feel more real, but they pop. sometimes during class. and that's really embarrasing. so is stuffing. just learn to be happy, they'll come eventually you're still young(ish) it'll be fine. the only worthwhile guys can look past small boobs and see the you inside, and that's what matters. and you don't have to start dating at 13 or even 14, wait untill you are comfy with it and find a guy you REALLY like.
BOTTOM LINE:
Love yourself and boys will love (or at least like) you, and boobs don't matter, your cup size is part of what makes you unique, and unique is what is REALLY beautiful, because you can get a million identical CZs, but it's the diamond that people are drawn to.
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Can anyone translate the line from 'Romeo and Juliet' for me?
Romeo, Romeo. Wherefore art thou, Romeo? (link)
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Romeo, Romeo Where are you Romeo?
or is this like a symbollic thing, where you have to analyze what it means.
She lusts for him. She can barely stand being apart from him, it foreshadows her killing her self for him, kinda, sorta, but not really. yeah... we haven't done that book yet...
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OK sorry if this is long
My friend is 13 and she is very nice, an A student and is always pretty good, well she went to new Jersey during Thanks Giving and she met a really hot guy there named ****. and well 2 days after she met him they went to a party and she had sex with him. She only did it 4 like 5 minutes then she chickened out and left. he is 14 and she hasnt started her period yet so she cant get pregnant but she feels so bad because it was her 1st time and she wanted to save herself for someone special. Last night we were at my friends party and we were all playing Secrets, and she told us she wasnt a virgin anymore but i am the ONLY one who really knows she isnt because everyone else thought she was joking. and last night we didnt get to sleep til 3 and i woke up to her crying at 4 and we talked for like 2 hours and she said she wished she didnt do that and that if her parents found out, they would literally kill her and that she was really scared because she thinks her cousin might have found out that she did it because she was at the party and everything and she doesnt know what to do and I am really worried about her because she is really good and that she might get into a lot of trouble because of it and I am really worried for her and she said she couldnt stop thinking about him (the guy) and I dont know what to tell her!!!!!! I am afraid she will hurt herself because she said she used to cut!!!!!
Please help me i will rate 5s THANKS!!! (link)
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Well first off, she does need to be checked out, because she had unprotected sex, and all kinds of nastys other than preagnancy can be tranmitted, before the first period.
As for the emotional thing, if she's really feeling awfull about it, mabye she should see a therapist, but remind her that it was a mistake, and everyone makes mistakes, and that she just needs to learn from it and everything will turn out ok.
Also, please tell her that cutting only makes things worse and more complicated (trust me, I know) if it at all seems like she may try to end her life, get help!!! She may not speak to you for awhile, but at least she'll be safe.
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I hate to say this at this time of year, but in a nutshell my younger sister drives me nuts.
She is AWFUL to me. Well she is 23 and still lives at my moms house. She is actually house sitting while my mom and stepdad are on a 5 month holiday. She has always been spoiled. For instance I had to be on welfare and find my own appartment when she always got to stay with mom.
Well my sister is very self centered and has never once invited me over to the house since my mother left on holidays 2 months ago. I just phoned her and had a very unpleasant talk with her. I tried to be nice and told her I got her a xmas gift, she just said "Oh". Then she said "why havent you sent my a xmas card?" I told her that because I would be spending xmas day with her and our mother (when she got back from her trip), and that I only sent out cards to family and friends that lived out of town and that I couldnt see before xmas.
She started arguing with me and I told her she was stressing me out and she yelled "FINE! and hung up on me. The worst part is I know she will twist things around and tell my mother that it was all my fault about what happened in our converstation, and my mom always takes her side. What am I going to do? I'm dreading Xmas now. (link)
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Send a card saying that you had a nervous, stress-induced breakdown but you want them to have a happy christmas anyway. Then jet off to vegas or somewhere equally fun with your other lonely on x-mas friends, or go see some of those out-of-town buddies. Just because your sister is immature doesn't mean you can have fun over the holidays.
I think it was very rude of her to demand a card. The point of cards is to be all spontaneously nice and say "I'm thinking of you, and it's happy thinking" otherwise I'd have a job as a card-writer by now...
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I have gym and I am 13 and dont know who to ask, anyway gym class you know how girls go through theire monthly surprise and I dont know what to do! and i cant miss a class or I have to make it up and do like 40 laps alone! (link)
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go to class anyway, being on your cycle doesn't mean you can't participate, in fact, the endorphins from the exercise make you feel better!!
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Something really bad happened to me when I was a senior in highschool with a guy. I thought that I had put it behind me and had moved on, but the thing is my tenth year reunion is coming up next summer and I'm terrified of running into him again.
I still get nightmares of what happened. Well he was really popular and I was a nerd. He found out I liked him and basically made sure I would be either humiliated or uncomfortable around him. He never once talked to me but he would wait for me to walk down the hall and then make out with his beautiful and popular girlfriend just to see my reaction. He would laugh whenever he caught me blushing, and would come right up to one of his friends whose locker was next to mine just to see me skirm. At my prom he walked right up to my best friend and hit on her and ignored me. He also treated me like this my first year of university because his girlfriend went to the same school as me. The last time I saw him was at the bar when I was 19. I walked up to him to tell him it was my birthday and he just ignored me and walked away.
Well the reunion is coming up and if he's going to be there I know I'm not going to have a good time, it will just drag up all these memories. The worst part is that I never told any of my highschool friends about this because they all liked him and thought he was a great guy, and I didnt want it to get out. It would just make me look bad and he would deny it anyways.
How should I act at the reuinion if he is there? (link)
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Act cool calm and collected, and no matter how much you squirm on the inside try to appear oblivious to him. Look like your having fun (Have fun, for that matter!) with out him. Don't let him phase you, it's obviously what he wants. If you HAVE to see him, wait a bit and try to get him to come to you.
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my period is late by a few days which is really weird for me because i usually get it right on time. basketball season started up this month & i was wondering if it was because of that. my mom said that if you exercise a lot & you haven't exercised that much in awhile, that could be the reason. what are some other reasons?? idk if i should worry er not. i guess i should wait a few days & go to the doctor if i dont get it?? any ideas??
thanks!! (link)
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don't worry, it's normal to skip around a bit. I heard somewhere stress has something to do with it, but I dunno. Don't worry, I skipped a few months and I'm fine!
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how can you change what it says on your xanga instead of "Add Comments" "Add Eprops" and "Sign Out"?
ex.) make it say "Add Hugs" "Add Kisses" "GTFO" (link)
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theres a code on
http://www.xanga.com/xanger_help_here 's as well as the codes to to change birthday, interests, ect, and an eprop picture changer.
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i know that alot of people say only guys masterbate and yeah i know that isnt true its just more accepted that guys do right? i mean tons of girls do too? (link)
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That is one of the biggest double standards ever. Tons of girls do it, but because of societiys male-focused views, we're shamed into thinking it's dirty and denying it, but guys can talk about it all they want, it pisses me off so much!
If you're wondering if it's ok for you too, it is, it's perfectly natural, and even if you think it wrong for religious reasons (assuming you are a christian, I know, I suck) the bible only really says guys shouldn't [something about it being wrong to "spill one's seed" on the ground", wich girls don't do] and no-one listens to it anyway.
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does anybody know the shirt where it says hugs not drugs, and its blue ? where can i find this shirt cause i really want ittt (link)
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well, it might be on the hot-topic website.
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my friend asked me to tell you guys if anyone knows how much abortion cost.. we live in C.A if that helps.. and do you have to tell your parents if you going to do it? (link)
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you don't have to tell your parents, that prop failed, but parents care about you, and are supposed to be there for emotional support, so I suggest telling them, but it's really the patient's choice...
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This guy that I'd been seeing just bought his first house. He makes about 4000 dollars a month. He also owns a nice trailer and bronco. But the thing is, although he has quite a bit of money he is still very cheap with me. For instance he told me not to phone him on his cell unless it was after 6. He was also complaining about how much money the moving company was going to charge him for moving his furniture to his new house ( and took it out on me). All in fact he ever talks about is his money, or how much things cost him. He also makes snide remarks about MY financial situation, because I rent an appartment and don't have that much money. I do have my own car that's all paid for but I don't think that impresses him too much. I also got a job that pays minimum wage but I don't think he likes that either.
I'm beginning to think he cares more about money than me.
Should I dump him? Or is this normal behavior? (link)
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This isn't normal, but is curable. Tell him how you feel about that stuff. If he's an ass about it, and the behaivor doesn't change, leave his ass.
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i have really bad acen probelms and i cant stop crying. its so bad. what are some good produts i can buy and anything but proactive cuz that shit dont help me. any pills??? i really want some pills (link)
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well, if you want pills, you need to see a doc, because there are no over-the-counter acne pills. I like retin-a (another over-the-counter, but it doesn't work as well after a while.
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i have a LGVX9800 and i have no idea how to use mp3 feature thats supposedly theere...
and also..i want to know the pros and cons of having sex..thank you (link)
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wowok. I know nothing about the phone. But sex...
PROS:
It feels damn good.
It's fun.
It burns lots of calories.
CONS:
Possible preagnancy.
STDs/STIs and in some cases death
Trashed reputation (If you're in highschool)
Regrets.
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