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sister from hell
I hate to say this at this time of year, but in a nutshell my younger sister drives me nuts.
She is AWFUL to me. Well she is 23 and still lives at my moms house. She is actually house sitting while my mom and stepdad are on a 5 month holiday. She has always been spoiled. For instance I had to be on welfare and find my own appartment when she always got to stay with mom.
Well my sister is very self centered and has never once invited me over to the house since my mother left on holidays 2 months ago. I just phoned her and had a very unpleasant talk with her. I tried to be nice and told her I got her a xmas gift, she just said "Oh". Then she said "why havent you sent my a xmas card?" I told her that because I would be spending xmas day with her and our mother (when she got back from her trip), and that I only sent out cards to family and friends that lived out of town and that I couldnt see before xmas.
She started arguing with me and I told her she was stressing me out and she yelled "FINE! and hung up on me. The worst part is I know she will twist things around and tell my mother that it was all my fault about what happened in our converstation, and my mom always takes her side. What am I going to do? I'm dreading Xmas now.
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Send a card saying that you had a nervous, stress-induced breakdown but you want them to have a happy christmas anyway. Then jet off to vegas or somewhere equally fun with your other lonely on x-mas friends, or go see some of those out-of-town buddies. Just because your sister is immature doesn't mean you can have fun over the holidays.
I think it was very rude of her to demand a card. The point of cards is to be all spontaneously nice and say "I'm thinking of you, and it's happy thinking" otherwise I'd have a job as a card-writer by now...
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(Oh dear, another sibling rivalry...)
It seems to me that your sister is rather immature for her age. Perhaps, to some degree, you both are - silly, childish sibling rivalry at your age? Tut, tut...
First, get used to your sisters selfishness; it ain't going away anytime soon.
Second, If you are really so worried about your mothers wrath, send those christmas cards to your family, not just your sister, but to your mother as well. Make sure to assure your mother that you will be spending time with her on christmas, and your early card was just a expression of your happiness and love for her escaping a tad early.
Then, spend a nice time with your family. If your sister brings the phone call up, casually explain(for your mothers benefit) that the whole matter had been sorted out, hadn't it? Your sister really ought not to complain, as you are spending quality time with her, plus you did spend a few cents to send your cards early, like she wanted them to be.
Next, make up with your sister. Make it clear, in the least offensive or confrontational way, that both of you are part of the family, and that you both deserve to reap the benefits of having a mother whos house is open and hospitable. Do not allude to the fact that she is selfish, self-centered, or spoiled. That will simply spoil the goodwill.
And have a Merry Christmas.
-AgonyAnt
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