I am too old and out of shape to beat around the bush so I'll give it to you straight. If you want sugarcoating go to the candy store, you won't find it here. Sometimes a little good old fashioned honesty is just what the doctor ordered!
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Is Diamond puppy food THAT much better than the rest? Is it really all natural? (link)
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I have some recent experience on this one. I just got a new Bullie puppy from my daughter who's dog just had her first litter. I started him on Diamond high protein puppy chow at 8 weeks. He is 14 weeks now and almost twice the size of his litter mates who are not on Diamond. I was amazed at the difference it made. His muscle tone is so much better and he is taller and heavier. He was the same size as the others when I got him at 8 weeks. He is very healthy and playful. I would definitely recommend this product. I know it is a little pricey compared to some other puppy foods but for the difference in growth and muscle tone it has been worth it.
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hen I was 12 years old,I met a young man about 13.We met in church.We hanged out alot and we were close.He left the church with his dad who was singing there at the time.
I am 24 now and he is 25
I moved to another state,and he is still in California
3 years ago we got back in touch through Facebook.At first we were texting and talking always,and throughout this period we had times of seperation due to personal problems,not neccesarily with eachother. The times that we kept texting we just kept getting closer and closer.And we love eachother.
We are planning to see eachother in September.Ive saved money and Im happy.
The problem is is that I have beliefs.I am not Jewish,but I keep Shabbat and Bibical Feasts.And the Bible clearly states that I cant be un-evenly yoked with a non-believer.He does not believe in any of this stuff,whereas,I havent talked much about it.Hes very serious about me and wants to marry me.My mom is very strict about our Bibical beliefs and she won't have a heathen with her daughter.I also don't want to go to hell and lose the beautifullness I have with this man that I love.I feel torn.Should I stay or tell him goodbye and be with someone who shares in what I believe? I dont want to leave him,even thinking has left me crying for hours at a time.Please,what do I do??
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Issues of faith are something that must be taken very seriously, especially if you plan to marry and have children. You really must have this talk with him as soon as possible. Have you explained to your boyfriend how important your faith is to you and your family? If he is serious perhaps he will consider converting but perhaps not practicing the faith. If he refuses to do this then you will have to decide how important it is to you to continue in your faith. You will also be risking your relationship with your family. If he loves you I believe he will probably make this concession for you even if he chooses not to practice it.Good luck!
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A long time ago I was hurt very badly by someone who cheated on me. It took me a decade to recover from this and unfortunately it involved substance abuse (some illegal, some not) and a near death experience as a result. I also had to get tested for various STDs which was also very unpleasant and stressful.
I have moved on, and have found myself with a new man who I am very happy with. We live quite far apart which means that currently we only see each other at weekends and this doesn't allow our relationship to grow. A few weeks ago we discussed it and decided to move in together. During this discussion, one of the (many) reasons he gave for living together was that we only get to have physical relations on the weekends which is frustrating for both of us, and if it continued the way it is he would have to start to consider local options.
This has had a HORRIBLE effect on me. On the one hand I know we are solid as we both want to progress and moving in together is a massive step in the right direction. On the other hand, now all I can think about is that he is considering cheating on me, or has entertained the idea. So every time he mentions another woman he is spending time with (he sees a fair number of women on their own as part of his studies) my alarm bells start ringing. I hate that this has made me so stressed and I don't want to turn into "that" girlfriend who is always worried about who her man is seeing. Until that comment was made I was very confident and happy with our relationship and now I am just an insecure, emotional wreck!
What do I do? I don't want to lose him but I feel like my jealousy will drive him away if I don't get it under control. In my heart I know he won't do anything stupid (and if he does he will respect me enough to break it off before too much damage is caused) but I can't stop obsessing about it. I definitely don't want him to stop seeing these other women because this is something I need to change, not him.
I have spoken to him about it and he knows why I am stressing. He is being patient but I don't want this to become a bigger problem and would like to sort it out ASAP. Any thoughts? (link)
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Yeah I have a thought alright and you are not going to like hearing it! This man is using emotional blackmail to get you do what he wants which is to give him a place to live and more sex! By giving him what he wants out of fear you have now established a pattern that he knows will work in any situation. I know you love him but this is NOT going to end well! Again I hate to be blunt, but this man does NOT care for you. Honey, someone who really loves you would never threaten you with cheating! No dear really, it's NOT you it's HIM! Please take my advice,and drop him like a lead balloon! Yes it will hurt for a while but I promise it will save you a thousand times more pain in the long run. It will also teach him the lesson he deserves for ever attempting to treat a woman that way. He may think he is God's gift but that boy is nothing but an empty box!
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My room is a darkish red color and we are renting the house so I can't paint it a different color. It's summer and I want to add some summer flare but I don't exactly know how with the wall color which to me is more of a winter color. I also have zebra print curtains which I don't know if my mom will let me get new ones because she just brought them a little before spring. I don't know what I should do, please help! (link)
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Pittguy has some excellent ideas. Running with his summer theme here are a few more ideas.If mom won't let you get new curtains you could try this: take down the zebra print but leave your blinds up. Buy some of those fishnets at the dollar store (like people use to hold stuffed animals), tie a knot at each end and wrap them over your curtain rods. They are very inexpensive. You can probably do this for under $10. Now you have sandy and red theme! Add a poster of a beautiful sunset, some flowers with yellow and orange(Hawaiian style),some sea shells,hang a couple of colorful leis around the room(maybe over the bedpost) and voila! you now have a beach house bedroom! Don't forget the ambiance, ask mom to get you some Hawaiian scented air fresheners and for some great beach theme lighting put some sand in mason jars and add those little battery operated flicker candles, then tie some raffia or twine around the jar and maybe glue on a few sea shells. (You can buy these candles at the dollar tree for a buck!)Oh, girl there is so much you can do with this and so much fun doing it! Good luck!
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Ok, so, my brother will be going to middle school very very soon, so I really need help to help him improve his difficulties within 2 months. He really has a lot :
- immaturity
- reading comprehension
- keeping his concentration
- writing (formulating his phrases)
- getting ideas
- perseverance
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He's very smart, but when it comes to school, its as if he erases all the strategies he has in his head and everything. I think its principally beacause of the language. In our school, our main language if french, which im not so good in my self.
I just want him to improve. So, can somebody please give me some activities or games or whatever that'll help him improve but at the same time having fun... after all, it is summer. (link)
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You don't say whether or not French is your native language but I am going to assume since you say you are not so good at it, that it isn't! If he is relatively new to this language then the problems you describe are understandable! First of all allow me to say that I think your concern for your little brother is very admirable! He is a lucky boy to have such a wonderful and caring sister! There are quite a few web sites to help children learn french, maybe you could find some games and activities to help him with online. You might also want to ask your parents if they have any suggestions for how you could help him as well. Do you have any friends who are fluent speakers? If so invite them over as often as possible. Immersion in the language is probably the best thing for him right now. Once he really starts to "get it" then he will show more of an interest in his studies. One day it will all just "click" and you will realize that you now speak the language! How exciting for you both that you have been given this opportunity! Best of luck to you and your little brother!
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So I'm only 15 and a sophomore in high school. I remember when I was a kid my classmates would call on me to read the next piece of the book and I would read it extreamly fast but I prounced every word and didn't studder, I am a very good reader but since we were younger they couldn't keep up. So after awhile my teacher stopped calling on me to read because I read to fast for them to comprehend the infomation , but I didn't mind that. Example is in 7th grade I was reading at an 11 grade level not a 7th graders. Then personally I started reading really fast too but I maintained all the information perfectly still. For example I read a book that was 600 pages in one day. And now as I'm 15 I've realized over the years that I jump from topic to topic. Like when I was with my grandma telling her about my day I wouldn't even give her enough time to transseion with me to another topic, but after I finished saying whatever I got back on the original topic. Now I noticed this past year that my brain is thinking too fast and my mouth can't keep up. So then when I'm talking to someone I accidentally leave out a few parts of a sentence because my brain thought I already had said them but my mouth really hadn't yet. Then when I do tell a story I literally have to give exact specifications or it will bug me and I won't move on or I'll move but I'll come back to it. Also when I'm talking and my brain is thinking to fast sometimes I just literally can't keep up with my mouth speaking what I'm thinking and I just make a goofy sound in the middle of what I'm saying juat to stop and play it off as being silly or something because I jusy cant keep up. I can't even remember what I was going to say because again my brain has already sped off. I also know I dont have ADHD. So my question is what's up with this? Is there a way I can teach my brain to slow down ? Or is this tied to something like a condition ? I'm not really sure but its been giving me a lot of issues these last couple of years and I just at least want to know what's up with it. So any thoughts and advice is welcomed thank you :) (link)
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You do need to have this evaluated. Talk to your family doctor first and then take it from there. I think this may be an issue that could be helped with the proper medication. It must be very frustrating for you to hold a conversation! I believe you may possibly have a very high IQ as well. If you have never been given an IQ test perhaps a teacher of guidance counselor could administer one for you. I am guessing you are probably going to score in an extremely high range. At any rate I don't think this is something you should try to handle on your own and it is very unlikely that you will outgrow these mind racing issues. In fact it may get worse as you get older. Please tell your parents you need to get a check up and then discuss this with your doctor.Good luck to you!
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Last night i was on my bf fb and i seen a message he sent to a girl saying "happy birthday cute girl" then she replies with "thank you" then he told her "you welcome" & he put a whinky face. & he searches for her on fb everytime & likes her pics! Am so sad. What should i do? (link)
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For all you know this girl could be a cousin or a childhood friend! "Thank you" and "you are welcome" does not sound like flirting to me! If he was trying to hide something he wouldn't post where you could see it on fb would he? Why don't you just casually ask him "oh, who is that, she's cute!" He will tell you who she is and how he knows her and then hopefully you can let it go! There is no reason to be sad! You are looking for trouble where there isn't any. If your guy wanted to date HER then he wouldn't be dating YOU now would he? Getting all jealous and possessive scares guys away very quickly so please don't come off like that no matter what he tells you about her. I really don't think you have anything to worry about!Good luck!
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Mam how much days of conception (the day u did) you are 100 percent sure for pregnant that means whether you are pregnant or not please help.me (link)
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You can only be 100% sure you are pregnant by taking a pregnancy test. Many women miss periods even when they are not pregnant. If you can not afford to buy a home pregnancy test look for a free clinic in your area that helps pregnant women. They will probably test you for free. Good luck.
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Once I have anal sex and it didn't slipper to my vagina, am I still a virgin? (Stressed) (link)
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I believe the question you are asking is if you have anal sex and your partner does not enter your vagina with his penis are you still a virgin? The answer is yes. Your hymen would still be intact and you are still considered a virgin.
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So this morning I got a letter from the health department & it said to call their number asap concerning my health. I've had chlymadia twice.. & I took a hiv test back in march. & I don't know If someone reported me recently & that's why they are trying to contact me, or if I had hiv or aids. I'm very scared. The last time I took a HIV test it came back negative.
& I haven't took one since. (link)
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Confide in a friend or family member so that someone can be with you when you call. If it is bad news they can help you through it. If it is the worst, HIV is not a death sentence anymore and the SOONER they begin treatment the better your chance of a complete cure.It may not even be that serious but you need to find out right away. I am guessing one of you past partners has contracted an STD and probably gave your name. You really need to call them ASAP no matter what. Good luck!
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15, female, USA, Christian
Okay, let me explain a little...
I have met gay people. I had a friend who was gay, I don't hate gay people and I don't like it when people are hateful to homosexuals.
But.
I don't agree with it. I'm not sure exactly why though...it just rub's me the wrong way.
I suppose it has something to do with the Bible(considering I am a Christian). But I know the Bible also says "Love your neighbor as yourself" and also not to judge others unless you are in a position to do so, such as being a judge or jury in court. So for that reason (among others like just being a decent person) I try not to judge them, and basically just have the mentality of 'let them take it up with God'.
Plus the fact that, a male and female can reproduce, yet two of the same sex can't. Species reproduction is nature, and homosexuality somewhat counters that. I understand adoption or not wanting to have kids, but in adoptions case they're still not reproducing, just raising a kid without a home.
But before you call me homophobic or something of the sort, please understand I do not hate homosexuals. I simply don't agree with their way of living (I guess you could say) for a multitude of reasons, most of which I'm unsure of.
And in the case of them being born that way, I do believe I heard somewhere that it has something to do with a hormonal imbalance that can be corrected with a shot or something, though I am unsure if that is factual.
Basically, I'm a little worried I will be judged throughout my life for not agreeing with homosexuality completely. Even though I'm not completely sure why.
Plus I just wanted to vent out my thoughts a bit. Though understand I am not trying to change anyone's opinions or beliefs. Believe what you will, I am simply stating what I believe, and I want to hear/read other peoples responses.
Any thoughts (or anything you want to correct me on) you have on this matter I would greatly appreciate reading. (Though do try to be polite)
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First of all you have a right to your feelings. Whether I agree, or your parents agree, or the rest of the world for that matter. They are YOUR feelings and you have a right to them. You are not acting on those feelings in a way that is harmful to anyone. You are still in the process of trying to understand them and sort them out. You do not have any reason to feel guilty . It is okay to question things you are not sure about. You do not need to even share your feelings publicly on this matter unless you choose to do so. I think your worries about being judged for these feelings are completely unfounded. In all honesty a lot of people are riding the fence on this issue just as you are. The most important thing we need to do as human beings is practice tolerance toward toward one another especially those who have different lifestyles or beliefs from our own. It seems to me as if you are handling your feelings on this issue in a very mature way. I really can't offer any advice other than to be true to yourself. If you do that I think you will find peace with this issue.
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Jist of what happened in the past
- I liked his best friend, same college
- We met and even though things got messed up ended up liking each other
- Started dating when he passed out (im still doing my undergrad)
- we have been dating a year. I'm 19 he's 22
- our parents know about us and we have met both sides
- we met in college and then he passed out and started giving exams
- he couldn't clear the exams he gave so his parents got paranoid about him going on the wrong path or getting distracted because of me
- he promised his mom hed clear the last exam for us to prove to her he can do something
- he started working with this ngo in town so we would see each very often
- our friends knew and he even told his best buds that he'd marry me if we continue dating for a while
- we never had any problems even though he is a bit flirtatious with other women he was loyal to me
- Had a few fights because of the guys friends I had but it was all sorted out
A week back since I'm on vacation across the country he texted me saying that his result came out and he didn't clear it so he had to break up to concentrate on his career
He said he still loved me but he had to let this go since we were mad about each other. He said he hoped we got back together but couldn't promise anything for the future and didn't want to give me false hopes.
He said I was the best thing that happened to him. He also said his parents raised him and he needs to make them proud by achieving something in life and hence he needs to give up all the distractions in his life.
Its been a week and he wouldn't answer any of my calls or messages and has completely cut off. He told his friends he called it off and didn't give a reason and he wouldn't reply back to my friends at all.
I don't know what to do. I want him back because I love him even if it involves waiting but I don't know what is going on in his mind. I am also scared out of stupidity hed go any do something really reckless to get over me.
I don't know what to say to him when we meet when I get back but I am willing to do anything to rectify this. Do you have any advice as to why this happened and it could truly get him back? Or am I living in a dream world where fairytales exist and he is truly over me? (link)
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I believe he is telling you the truth. He really needs to put his education first right now and he was apparently not able to focus on his studies and have a girlfriend at the same time. He probably feels that the only way to achieve this is by cutting all contact or he will change his mind and then get distracted again. I know this must be very hard for you but you really need to just back away and let him alone for now.If you would convince him to continue the relationship and he flunks out and ruins his future he is going to always blame you for it and so will his family. If you really care for him the kindest thing you can do is let him go right now. If he really loves you he will come back when he is ready. In the meantime focus on your studies and what makes you happy as an individual. Maybe after taking a break from the relationship you will have a different perspective as well. At this point you really have no choice but to respect his decision in an adult manner. I think he will in turn respect you for allowing him the space he needs to pull his life together and get his education back on track. In the end I think everything will work out for the best!
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My husband is in the military and after 13 years he is separating due to medical reasons. He wants to move back to our hometown to be near both of our families, primarily his mother and aunt. Well, I am hesitate. I didn't have the best childhood due to both of my parents being alcoholics. They both still drink heavily and can get violent and emotional when doing so. My oldest brother still lives in the area and drinks excessively as well. To top it off, my sister-in-law and her husband live about an hour away and love to drink and party and are somewhat open swingers. Their sexually active 15 year old daughter is free to do as she pleases and their 12 year old son is often left on his own. While I respect my husband for wanting to be near his mother and his disabled aunt, I am having a hard time dealing with the fact of being near the rest of our family. While it would be nice to be near family, this is not the situation I have envisioned. I don't want our children thinking drinking excessively and having multiple partners is okay. Should I accept the fact we are moving back and deal with the situation as it comes or continue trying to talk my husband into moving somewhere else? (link)
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Maybe you could try to reach a compromise with your husband. Rather than moving back to your home town you could perhaps find a beautiful location in your home STATE within a 1 1/2 to 2 hour driving distance. This should deter your not so desirable relatives to be in close contact but close enough to visit his mother and aunt often. Another option might be to discuss the possibility of relocating his mother and aunt to be closer to you. I think you have a very valid concern about your family and I do not recommend making the move and then trying to deal with the fallout. Many good marriages have been lost this way. I would try to reach a suitable compromise but I would put my foot down on moving back to the actual town where they live. Your children could be greatly affected by this move. You have to make your husband understand their welfare has to come first. Good luck!
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How much do puppy shots cost? (link)
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I am not sure where you live but if you are any where near a TRACTOR SUPPLY store they sell the puppy shots for under $10. They sell the booster shots as well. The directions are on the package, it is very simple to do. This will take care of everything but the rabies shot. Most areas sponsor rabies clinics two or three times a year. Call your local ASPCA for times and dates. They are about half the cost of what you would pay at the vet. Make sure to worm your puppy as well. It is always a good idea to get your puppy a thorough check-up to make sure he is healthy! You can get a list of local vets and call them to find out which one has the best rates. Hope this helps! Good luck!
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I have always heard Africans were not interested and their culture did not allow/accept them dating/marrying African American people - any thoughts? (link)
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I am a firm believer in the old adage "Don't believe anything you hear and only about half of what you see!" I seriously doubt if this rumor is true. I think if two people fall in love it would transcend any social or cultural boundaries. If you really want to know more about African culture and beliefs go to a college that teaches African culture and ask the professor if there is any truth in what you have heard. If you know any native African people, you could ask them as well. I really don't know the answer but what you have heard just doesn't make any sense to me!
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I was wondering if anyone or someone they know has any suggestions for books that help with CMA exams.
I bought 2 anatomy books already and then I have one that I got that has 2 sample tests included but after I bought it, numerous people have given reviews that some answers in the book are incorrect. But then before I take the test, I figure that I can then use that book and test myself to know exactly what's right and what's wrong. So I'll use that later. The book only covers exams and explanations. But I need something else.
I just got into the program at school and I won't be done until next May so I figured I could go ahead and study now instead of later which is why I got some things now.
Suggestions?
Thanks. (link)
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You need to understand how this column works. We are NOT experts, we are caring people donating our free time to try to help people such as yourself who ask for advice. You didn't provide enough information to begin with and even then I took the time to search the internet FOR you trying to find some helpful information! I also saw that one of my fellow Advicenators took the time to try to help you as well and you respond to us with a snippy comment and a rating of 3! I did not randomly choose your question, it came to my inbox. I hope in the future you might show a little more respect for our efforts.
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I was in a car, my mother driving me to a baseball game, and we drove pass a black cat. It seemed to be about to cross my path, but when we crossed it, and it looked at me almost supprised, with these green eyes, DIRECTLY at me. I'm emphatic, and meditate never really practiced magic maybe 3 or 4 times, what doe this mean? Will I get good luck or bad luck? (link)
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I have a black cat and he crosses my path several times a day and looks at me with his big green eyes. The only bad luck so far has been his! I took him to the vet and had his testicles removed! I pretty much believe we make our own luck!(unless you're a cat!)
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There this guy I like and I feel like he likes me too but not sure. He would ask me what time and I'm leaving work and said he wishes he could leave with me. Then he was gone for a wile because he got really sick but when he came back he asked if I missed him. He always sings love songs when walking by me randomly and he always smiles and looks at me so I think he likes me but I'm scared about asking him out. I am friends with one of his friends and thought maybe I could ask him about my crush's situation. What do you think?
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Sure, why not. But better yet you could try talking to HIM. You don't have to ask him out just start a conversation with him. He may ask YOU out before it is over! Good luck!
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i am a young lady aged 22 and my boyfriend is 25years,we are both still at university,i am from Botswana in Africa,i am my boyfriend's bestfriend and he is my bestfriend too..he has cheated,hurt me,betrayed me countless times and i have always learnt to trust him,give him all the attention and love i think he deserves cos i love him.lately he has changed from the cheating behaviour and he is trying to be a good man,i can see that and i appreciate it,PROBLEM,he is controlling,he never wants to to let me go out with my friends or sisters,he wants to know my passwords,he gets so angry when i miss his calls,he does'nt want me to have any male friends,HE DOES NOT TRUST ME,and i have never given him any reason to not trust me..everytime we hav a misunderstanding he raises his hand and voice at me..he has a high blood pressure problem,when he is stressed his bp goes high,and i dont know how to do this,cos i am scared he will get sick.SUNSHINE (link)
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I don't care what country you are from this kind of behavior is NOT acceptable! He most certainly does NOT love you dearly! He is NOT your best friend. Friends support each other and build each other up! Friends trust you, he does NOT. Friends are understanding when you miss their call. He is NOT! Friends never raise their hand to you in anger. Are you getting the picture yet ? He is NOT your friend. He is NOT a lover because this is NOT love! This man has serious issues and you are what is referred to as an enabler. YOU have a bigger problem than he does! You were probably raised to believe this is how a woman should act with a man but ...NO. If you want to break up with him then do it, his blood pressure isn't going to go any higher than it does when he is yelling and threatening to hit you! Good luck!
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really weird question i know, i love women 100%, i've only been with women, i prefer deep relationships and i love foreplay, every inch of the female body is amazing.
but if im out of a relationship and its been a year or two between sexual encounters on a few occasions being insanely alone i enjoy to put on a womens bra, stuff socks inside and masterbate, thinking of a girl just getting love whether with a man or female, i have no female qualities and very secure in the fact that i am a man but is this a fetish of loneliness? why do i do this? i feel guilty and disgusted afterwards but when im in the moment feeling what would be breast is amazing at times. I don't know, scared to talk about this so if you have nothing nice to say please don't say anything at all. i am 23 (link)
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Oh, for heaven's sake that is not even in the realm of weird! There is no reason to feel disgusted either. Guys love breasts, it's just fantasy that's all! Do be careful that you don't turn it into an obsession where it becomes necessary to do this in order to get off. that could be a bit difficult to explain when you begin a new relationship!
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