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Last Update: August 14, 2007
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Hey Every One i been dateing my boyfriend 1year and 2 mounts i love him so much he mean everyt thing to me i dont know what i will do with out time well i will just asked the question well here i go he is talking about getting marryed 1 day and have kids soon and he talk about have sex to when ever i talk to him an the phone i say i am ready when ever i see him he say are u ready to have sex then i well just not saying anyting i dont want to loser him he say that he well not but what should i do?
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Well, he shouldn't be rushing you into things. If you tell him that you want to wait longer, he should understand. Being with you should be worth it for him. :)


my school is having a talent show. i dont know why, but i cant sing in front of people. i've sang in front of my friend and she said i was really good. i think im good too, but im still scared about singing in the talent show. I have the perfect song and i keep telling myself i can do it but im still really nervous!! help me. how could i make it so i could sing and not be shy or scared? (link)
Everyone gets butterflies on their first time, unless they just don't care. There's the saying "Imagine the audience in their underwear" But yeah, I never used it. Just go with the flow and imagine that only your friend was watching. And take comfort in the fact that they aren't as good as you. :)


when i get older i want to have big money. i want to be able to buy a home for 1,000,000 +
how will i get rich? im 16 now..so should i just get a job and keep saving and live at home with my parents for 10 more years or something? i just dont know how these people with so much money do it
any tips? (link)
Sometimes people get lucky, the majority of very "successful" people out there today aren't even really successful. Just lucky or come from wealthy families. But there are people with actual talent.I know that people in Real Estate are very wealthy and I also know that if you study enough, you can become a lawyer. There's so many possibilities as long as your commited.


When i was younger my dad used to beat me with anything and yes sometimes i deserved and sometimes i never anyway. Now if anyone talks about there dad or people hiting people i get all red and i panic and i just want to be out of that conversation but i dont want people knowing or wondering why i get like this so how could i change. anyone help please (link)
Well, some people are just troubled by the idea of parent's hurting their children, you don't need to tell your friend's that you were beat but let them know that you are uncomfortable with the subject. There's lot's of people who have nice dads but are uneasy about the subject of abuse.


ok,
i have a bf and everything, and he is great to be around. but when im with my family im always frusterated, angry,etc.i love my family too, but when im with my bf, its just the best feeling..but now i can't see him anymore during the summer, cause last night, we went for a walk in the woods, and i got all scratched up, eaten by bugs, bleeding, and now my mom won't let me see him anymore, or go for a walk.
i don't no what to do,with my family, bf, and all my bruses..


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Your family doesn't accept and doesn't trust your boyfriend. Have you given your family any reason to trust him, though? Why don't you try to show them who he is and now who you both are together.As Boyfriend and girlfriend is one thing, as people is different.


hey what some good website for quotes??

P.S. i will rate high (link)
http://www.wisdomquotes.com/ A place with many topics and is very organized, I go there often. :P


Yeah, so my guy and I have been together for almost 20 months, and he proposed awhile back.
The thing is, about a month ago we had a big fight over something INCREDIBLY stupid and almost broke up before realizing that it was completely fixable, and that we'd both be miserable without each other. So really, we never broke up...but I want to know if we're still engaged. It's getting close to a year since he proposed. Should I just randomly do something like "You remember what you asked me a year ago today?"
I mean, he still talks about our relationship as if it'll never end, so I think he still feels the same way. I know he still loves me (if anything, he seems to love me more, and I love him)
So...how do I go about bringing this up? (link)
In my opinion, you should just stay put. Be patient, as long as you love him and he loves you, that's all that matters. If he wants to get married, he'll remind -you-. So if you're patient the time -will come. You two love eachother and you both know that. ;)


Usually I get my hair dyed and highlighted blonde professionally. But now I want to dye my hair a medium brown and I was wondering if the hair dye boxes at the store did a fairly good job at it? Is it even that possible to screw up on brown? If you have used anything in particular that you've tried and it works, could you please tell me the brand and price, etc? I've use hair dye kits PLENTY of times before, but i always used blonde (which looked horrible) and was just wondering if brown worked. Thanks. (link)
I've always gone to http://www.wisdomquotes.com/
They have quotes for just about every subject and the website is very well organized.


hey my mom wants to go to see moster in law but i have all ready seen it what should i do (link)
Tell her that you've seen it.


I'm not overweight and I'm not muscular so how long will it take for me to look sexy in the stomach region and maybe the arms too if I work out every day for a half hour to an hour really hard. (link)
Well if you're skinny, you may not have enough mass to create the muscles you're looking for. So you may need to gain weight then start working out. It can take from about 2 to 4 months. A slow process, but if you're determined, so be it.


I know this is grose but what does it mean when your poop is green. Please help lol. (link)
Eating a lot of veggies can turn your fecal matter green. And some foods just turn out that way.


Just wondering and don't ask why ( you might not want to know ) if there is anyway I could knock a guy unconcious without him knowing or waking up for an entire night or at least a few hours or being to ovious like hitting him with a vase or anything. Just wondering. :) (link)
Chloroform. You can find it at a pharmacy, it's a liquid that knocks the person out when breathed in, the only evidence is the odd taste of the gas in your mouth when you wake up.


i have two friends and one of these friends i like much more than the other. the friend i like more is called "rosie" and the friend that im not fond of is called "mary". so mary is really boring and not very social, im only friends with her through rosie. when im with both rosie and mary mary kind of shuts down and it looks as if she is very uncomfortable. i dont want to her to feel uncomfortable anymore. we dont really have a lot of stuff in common. what are some things that i can do to make mary feel more comfortable around rosie and me? thanks so much. i rate. (link)
Sorry, I didn't read the question right. Well it's obvious that Mary likes Rosie more than she likes you. Which is something you can't control. Why don't you confront the two of them of your problem? Tell them that you want to be as close as they are to eachother with them. Friends requires team works, and you have to pull your weight for everyone.


To be blunt about the situation, I want this guy and I feel threatened. I hang out with this guy and this other guy and I feel that I'm in competition with the other guy for this guy. Is there anyway to seal my victory even if that be for something bad or misfortunate to happen to the other guy? Give me your advice. Oh and Im not going to kill him if thats what it sound like lol. (link)
If you don't want to compete, act like you aren't. Competing is low and unnecessary, if the guy likes you, he needs to see that he does. If you need to stand out to make him notice, it's not worth it in my opinion. Show him who the best man is and don't compete, just be yourself.

And if that doesn't work, ever heard of the phrase "Embrace thy Enemy"? Just become friends with your competition, maybe you'll understand why the person is competition in the first place. Or..you can find out weak points.


13/f

ok so my best guy friend is moving. i used to like him but now im trying not to b/c he's moving and i no it won't work out. but i still want to be friends. how can i still be friend's with him if he's moving like 2 hours away. will being friend's work with him so far away? (link)
If you really like him that much, distance shouldn't matter. It will only build up the passion for when you see him again. As long as what the two of you really have is special, distance won't destroy it, only preserve it. But at the same time, you need to be committed to him.


whats a blow job? (link)
Oral secks. "Lol"


So I have the worst stomache in the history of man. Now, thinking back to elementary school, the Nurse always recommended a saltine cracker or two. QUESTION IS: WHY was that? Was is something SPECIFIC about the CRACKER? And is there any other food the average household stocks that can beat this intense pain? I will be soo thankful of helpful answers - this pain is sooo bad it could ultimately take my life. =/ gr. (link)
Have you considered it not being a stomach ache?


i wanted so badly to look good in my bikini this summer so i did lots of sit-ups, i ran alot, and i ate healthy. but now, i realizd my bone structure is really big.. so it kind of makes me look fat. like my theighs are really wide. can someone give me some tips on slimming them down??
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You're big boned, lots of people are. It's kind of hard to get rid of something like that. But I bet you'll look better than you thought, just find a bikini that hides it well.


I'm having a really hard time looking for a job. I applied to all the really good jobs that I like. And they said they would call, but they don't. Then my cousin got a job and said that she called them back. And she got an interview and got a job. Now I'm job-less. I did what she did, and they said that either their manager was on vacation or they're not hiring right now. Why can't I get an interview? I'm still applying and I made sure that my handwriting and answers on the application was acceptable. Does anybody have any tips on how I could get a good job? (link)
You can't always get a job you like. You need to make sacrifices and work somewhere you don't necessarily like. And plus, if you work at some place you like, you'll get bored of the place. So pick a job you can get, instead of a job you want.


I'm going to softball camp this summer and ive never played before, so can someone give me good websites to learn the game? (link)
The whole thing about camps, they will teach you how to play if you don't know how. Because if it's a softball camp, there's obviously people there that know how to play.




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