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Q: Well, as soon as I get home from my game, dad jumps on me because I changed the password to my computer so my sister wouldn't be able to get on because she was online for four hours at the library and she doesn't need to be on for more than an hour. Well, some background information, my sister ids depressed, and she cuts, and she's been like this for like three years and her medical expenses is what drove my family in the poor house basically. Any hoo, I get home and I hear it from my dad. and I tell my mom that I already got bitched out from my dad and I don't wanna hear it from me. Then I don't even know what happened....we started going at it because of my sister. Yada yada. And this fight went on for like over an hour. I said some horrible things. So after a while, I went to talk to my mom for an hour because for some reason I made her cry, and that puts a big cloud of guilt over me. So I went and talked to her and even though she said she's sorry, and I said I was sorry, and she told me that she loves me and yeah, she still seems very upset at me. Or it just might be the guilt talking. But how can I make things right with my mom again? And also, how can I control what I say cussing wise to my mom and dad?

Hmm this is a hard one. I would say think before you talk. I sometimes go off on my parents and regret it after. With your mom just act kindly and offer to do things for her. Show her you care for her and really like her for a mom.

Sorry if this advice isn't the best, this is a hard question!

Q: I need a job, I'm 14 and i havn't had much experience in a professional job setting. SO im looking to become a caddie. and this is on the golf website "Employment Opportunities, Send all employment inquiries to "email." what exactly should i write. I really want this job and i could really use some advice, thanks.

you should tell all of your experience even like baby sitting so they know you have responsibility, i once took a class on writing a resume and it really helped. Here, heres a website for you- http://www.resume-help.org/

Q: i have a little bit of hair growing like, around my nipple area. is that really weird? i have hair on my stomach too. should i shave it off or leave it? is it really weird or do other people have it too?

No! Every girl has hair on her stomach and nippiliar area. You can shave it but forever you will have too. Black, thick hair will grow. This is a choice you will have to make. Most hair though it light or blonde.

Q: i have a lot of hiar on my arms
i want to make it less noticable
is it bad to wax,shave, nair it?
should i just bleach it or forget about it?
any suggestions or comments,
thanks

My sister shaves her arm hair because she thinks she has a lot of hair on them. It works for her and her arms look amazing. You could bleach them too, if you don't want to shave them. If you shave them once, you have to shave them forever, because black hair will grow.

Good Luck!

Q: do girls like giving blow jobs, or is it just something that girls do cuz the guy asks them to?

some girls do. some girls feel forced to do it. but it just depends on how it feels for you. I personally like it. but thats just me.

Q: 15/f

I have bright red lips but I would like to have paler pink ones. Is there any product/technique I can use to do this?

I'm also aware that your lips fade over time, is there anyway to speed this up?

Thanks! =)

you could put foundation over your lips then put a pale pink lipgloss or lipstick over it. it works.

Q: how much is this? http://www.walgreens.com/dbimagecache/208524.jpg

Hey it cost 9.43 for 2. or 6.49 for one.

Q: ugh, guys. i have 2 guy friends (that are each other's best friends), and one of them likes me. i definitely don't like him, but he won't give up! it's really annoying and stressful. i'm considering breaking off our friendship. but i really don't know if i should.

Also, his best friend is... really amazing. I think i might like him. i'm trying not to, but we get along so well, and its sorta hard not to. I just don't know what to do. i doubt he'd ever like me...so i should just give up, right? that seems best for everyone (theres a ton of girls liking both guys, by the way) but should i take my own feelings into consideration?

ah i'm confused.

Okay first, just dont talk to the first friend who likes you about the love thing, it makes the friendship awkward and if he brings it up just say we are friends and i would like to keep it that way. and the second friend, go for it. if you guys get along so well then just flirt around and give it a chance.

Q: I have an urge to splatter paint and, well, I have an empty room in my house and here's the idea I have:

First, cover the floor with painter's tarp then, I want to cover the walls with either huge white paper (like from the big rolls of paper), but I don't know where to find the huge white rolls.

any ideas?

easy go to like micheal's or hobby lobby. They have huge rolls of paper and im pretty sure there cheap.

Q: well my problem is that i have this friend and she is older then me and in a higher grade and she does everything like me, i cut my hair, she did it the same way, i dyed it and messed up and she dyed it and tryed to get it look the same, i want to be a photographer and she said too me she wanted to be a fashion designer and now she says she wants to be a photographer. i am skinnyish and she is kinda bigger and she said she wants to go on a crash diet(which i told her was very bad) to get skinnyer. i don't want to hurt her feeling but i want her to stop and be her own person. I'm not sure if this helps but me and her liked the same boy, and that boy asked me out and i asked her if it was ok to go out with him and she said yes. So maybe she is trying to be like me to get to him, but please give me some ideas to stop this, irs getting really annoying.

I understand exactly what you're going through! I have this friend who always tries to act like me! And yeah its the most annoying thing ever! You need to talk to her about it. It might hurt her but if you two are friends then she should be okay about it. I confronted my friend and we're still friends except now, we're two different people.

Good Luck!

Q: ok well recently one of my best friends max just transferred schools...a couple days ago so that day at school when i found out i was crying hysterically...i cried 3 times that day and cried again twice the next day and again the next night and i know i will continue with this. i think i might be depressed. im sad all the time and i have a lot of back pain which they say is a symptom. on google i looked up symptoms of depression and i have all but one and they listed about 15-18. im constantly thinking about max now that he left and i really need help! i dont know how to talk to my parents because i act like im happy and you'd never guess i was depressed if u saw me around people. if i try to tell them theyll be like..."ohh honey youre not depressed if you were you'd be acting like ____" when while they arent around im acting like that. they wouldnt get me medicine without knowing the cause and its really embarassing to say "well because max transferred" and theyll be like "oh its just a phase it will pass" but they dont know how i felt about him even though im only 13/f and have only known him for about 4+ months. what do i do?

If you think there is a possiblilty of being depressed, go to a physcologist. or another doctor. As for Max, call him up and ask him to hangout next weekend. You can always hang out with him on the weekends. Stay strong, you'll work it out.

Q: okay so i have really really thick straight hair. its pin straight and you cant even imagine how thick it is

because of this, my hair doesnt scrunch and when i put braids or use a curling iron, it looks horrible.

i might want a perm i dont know....

could i get a perm to make my hair like this???
http://img262.imageshack.us/img262/4778/newfv6.jpg

and if not i need a way to curl my hair i have used every moose and curling iron out there.nothing works!!!!

i suggest using a curling shampoo and curling conditioner (herbal essences totally twisted) and then the hair gel and mousse they have too. Then scrunch your hair and dry with a diffuser. that works for mine!

also you could see a hair specialist like your own hair dresser. They should have some professional ideas.

Q: 15/f

I shave my pubic hair and I have a few questions.

1) Shaving leaves irration and red bumps.. how do I prevent this or make it go away quickly?

2) How often should I shave, when I get stubble or when my hairs get longer and softer?

Thanxx!

answer1-usually red bumps come if they shave it too much.but try using shaving cream. thats what i do.

answer2-every three days if you are sexually active. just do it every time you think you are gonna do something with a guy, if not lay off for a while.

Q: does anyone know of a catalog that has an almost identical style to gypsy moon only with alot cheaper prices

wow, sorry just trying to help. You couldn't be acting any more immature. Just to let you know, gypsy moon style? what the fuck? GET NEW STYLE.

Q: 2 questions..

i got the Plus White 5 Minute Speed Whitening Gel [in the toothpaste-like tube] and was wondering if anyone's used it and how well it works?

also, i brush my teeth everyday and use whitening toothpaste but my teeth are really yellow! its so embarassing i try not to smile in pics and stuff bc it looks like i smoke or something. its awful! i drink milk 2-3 times a day so i get a lotta calcium and stuff. but its chocolate + i drink tea a good bit but can that really be staining my teeth that bad? i know tons of people who drink choc. milk and tea and their teeth are still white! ahh its aggrivating.

Okay. brush before school, after, and at night. eventually they WILL get white. thats what i do. or see a dentist and get a professional whitening job if its so bad. if you want some moderate quick reslults use crest white strips.

slow-brushing teeth 3 times a day
moderate-crest white strips
fast-professional whitening

Q: ok there is this guy i really really like but im not sure if he likes me he is sooo funny and cute but there are other people that like him to but he doesnt even give them the time of day so i started talking to him on myspace but he never answers back every time i see him or talk to him i get butterflies in my stomach im not the prettiest girl in the bunch but im definately not ugly people tell me im pretty but i dont think i really am so i was wondering what i could do to make him notice me more i would also like to know from guys wat they look for in a girl PLEASE
HELP!! by the way im 13 and female

okay here we go. just get the nerves to go talk to him. too bad if you have butterflies in your stomach, your never gonna get noticed if you back down! so just go up there and say "Hey,I'm (your name).

Hope i helped.

Q: ok so i've always been like a really good girl and stuff.. all honors, does extracirriculars, doesn't fight with parents, the whole deal. well this summer(after freshman year) i started drinking just to have fun but now its gotten me in a little bit of trouble. k. so when i was really drunk with my friends with decided to call up this senior kid who is friends with my friend.so he comes to the house at like 2. and ALL of us kinda take turns hooking up with him... but i only let him go to like.. a little past 1st. sooo the next day he IMs me and is like hey wanna hang out? and so im like sure and we've hung out a few times and now i think i really like him... but ever since that first time we've never done anything physical. my question is do you think its trashy to go out with him because we met so awkwardly? and do you think my drinking has gotten out of hand because of the situation its put me in? thx. 15/f by the way.

No i dont think its trashy to go out with him. Do it if you like him, and if it doesnt work out then just dump him.
easy as that. um...just watch out for the drinking next time.

bio

hi. my name is natalie, im 17 and im really good advice giver, all my friends say so. I've been through a lot so i can probably relate to you. Ask me anything, i wont judge or laugh just be honest.

I cannot give you the formula for success, but I can give you the formula for failure--which is:
Try to please everybody.

really just express yourself and dont care about what others think, its a waste of time and they're opinion is not as important as yours.

i truly hope i can help.

_natalie_