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depression
ok well recently one of my best friends max just transferred schools...a couple days ago so that day at school when i found out i was crying hysterically...i cried 3 times that day and cried again twice the next day and again the next night and i know i will continue with this. i think i might be depressed. im sad all the time and i have a lot of back pain which they say is a symptom. on google i looked up symptoms of depression and i have all but one and they listed about 15-18. im constantly thinking about max now that he left and i really need help! i dont know how to talk to my parents because i act like im happy and you'd never guess i was depressed if u saw me around people. if i try to tell them theyll be like..."ohh honey youre not depressed if you were you'd be acting like ____" when while they arent around im acting like that. they wouldnt get me medicine without knowing the cause and its really embarassing to say "well because max transferred" and theyll be like "oh its just a phase it will pass" but they dont know how i felt about him even though im only 13/f and have only known him for about 4+ months. what do i do?
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It's hard dealing with losing a friend. Perhaps you will feel better if you keep in contact with him. Send him emails and call him every once in awhile. If that doesn't help, talk to your school counselor for advice to make you feel better. If the counselor thinks it is serious enough, he or she will contact your parents.
Always try to focus on positive things: at least you still have your other friends, at least nothing bad happened to max and you can still talk to him etc. You know more about the good things in your life than I do.
Not to sound rude, but things are only as bad as you make them. If you sit around, cry, and feel sorry for yourself, you're not going to get better anytime soon.
So do what I told you: keep in touch with Max, appreciate your blessings, and spend time doing things you love.
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I have depression too- but I would like to ask you this question: are you a Christian? Because the Lord allowed me to "just snap out of" my depression. I was saved and he took care of all the things in my life that were upsetting me.
I think you need to ask God to help you too. But you really have to believe- with every corner of your mind. Because this depression could be a test of your faith. Ask him to fill you with his joy and wonderment. (i'm not kidding)
It's normal to feel sad about your friend Max. Wait until you feel better about it- and if you are still depressed THEN- you might really need to talk to a counselor or a therapist.
I hope this helps and I want you to know that you are in my prayers. Let me know how this all works out.
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If you think there is a possiblilty of being depressed, go to a physcologist. or another doctor. As for Max, call him up and ask him to hangout next weekend. You can always hang out with him on the weekends. Stay strong, you'll work it out.
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Okay, just remember that just because Max transfered schools doesn't mean you two can't still keep in touch! Call, email, write letters, whatever you want to do. You can still talk, but yes it will be harder, but not impossible. I hope that makes you feel better.
If you really think you have depression you need to bring it up with your parents, even if you don't think they will believe you. If you've been having any disturbing thoughts tell them about it, I'm sure out of their love and concern for you and your mental health they will take you to see a doctor and get some medicine to help you through all of this.
I wish you the best of luck, and remember that writing your feelings out in a journal or talking to someone always helps!
-Katie
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