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drunken hookup?
ok so i've always been like a really good girl and stuff.. all honors, does extracirriculars, doesn't fight with parents, the whole deal. well this summer(after freshman year) i started drinking just to have fun but now its gotten me in a little bit of trouble. k. so when i was really drunk with my friends with decided to call up this senior kid who is friends with my friend.so he comes to the house at like 2. and ALL of us kinda take turns hooking up with him... but i only let him go to like.. a little past 1st. sooo the next day he IMs me and is like hey wanna hang out? and so im like sure and we've hung out a few times and now i think i really like him... but ever since that first time we've never done anything physical. my question is do you think its trashy to go out with him because we met so awkwardly? and do you think my drinking has gotten out of hand because of the situation its put me in? thx. 15/f by the way.
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Hey. Well first of all consider if you really like this guy or if you just like the fact that he likes you too after that night. If you really like him than no, it's not trashy at all. A lot of people meet at bars and such and then go on to get married =). But if your parents found out you were drinking they would be really hurt and you're hurting yourself so please don't drink so much =). Also your experiences with this guy will be harder to remember. But anyways, I would seriously decide if you really like this guy and he really likes you so why not keep going out with him? I really hope this helped and good luck! =)
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I don't think you went to far, personally. I mean yeah you made out with him but it's not like you did anything that bad. I think he might just wanna get some and seniors usually know that if they wait a little while and talk real nice they can get what they want eventually. You could go out with him but if he gets physical.. lose him. I don't think your drinking is out of hand but i don't suggest doing it...send one to my inbox if you need anything. <3
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My advice, stop the drinking. No good will come out of it. Next, before you consider going out with this guy, consider this: he came over that night and fooled around with you and ALL your friends. Why would you want to date a guy that does that many girls in one night? Who's to say he wouldn't do that while you two were dating?
I'm not saying you are trashy. But I hope you reconsider dating him.
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I think that you should be on your toes with this guy. It doesn't matter that you haven't done anything physical with him since then; He probably knows that he can do stuff with you, since he already has once.
Honestly, I really don't recommend going out with him. The fact that he would hook up with a bunch of drunk girls makes me kind of doubtful. I know that's probably not what you want to hear, but that's just my perspective.
Drinking at fifteen, whether it's a lot or a little, isn't good. Not only is it against the law, but it can really make you do things that you'll regret later.
You met a guy that you really like while you were drunk, but that doesn't make it okay to drink. You haven't had a bad experience with drinking yet, so you might not see anything wrong with it. I suggest that you quit before you do have a bad experience.
I hope I helped, and if you have any more questions, feel free to leave one in my inbox!
-Manders
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No i dont think its trashy to go out with him. Do it if you like him, and if it doesnt work out then just dump him.
easy as that. um...just watch out for the drinking next time.
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How strongly can I disagree with the first answer?!?! Listen, ANY drinking a 15-year-old does is out of hand! The relationship with the boy is neither trashy nor acceptable, it's just a new relationship. But yes, you need to stop drinking. You are not old enough or mature enough to handle the responsibility that comes along with drinking. If someone gets alcohol poisoning at one of your parties, who is going to make sure your guest doesn't die? Are you ready for possibilities that come with sex while drunk, such as pregnancy, STDs, and rape? Please, stop drinking. Not for your parents or for anyone else. Do it because you want to safeguard your future!
Sabine
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it`s not trashy. it`s not like you`re friends with benefits or anything. &besides, you were drunk. your drinking isn`t out of hand. just make sure you don`t do anything that you`re gonna regret. don`t go too far with it.
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