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Q: my wife is 41 year old recently she met younger man and they started loveing each other she love me also but she can not leave him also i am unable to understand what to do
Your wife? So I assume you are married? That is ubsurd. You need to have a conversation with her and straighten all this out. If she is married to you, she vowed to be with you. Not you and someone else. No one on here can really solve your problem, I'm sorry. But the answer for leaving her or staying with you is going to have to come from your heart, as corny as it sounds.

Good Luck and I hope all works out for you!
-Ali

Q: everyonr says when they go into my myspace, it takes them to a false add. if i delete all my html codes (layouts, contact boxes, etc..) and re-do everything, will it be fixed? if not how do i fix it?
I don't totally understand your question. But you could try these things:

- Refreshing the screen
- Copy everything in your about me section, submitting it. and then pasting everything back in

Good Luck!
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Q: one of my abercrombie skirts keep shrinking,and when I mean shrinking i mean getting shorter. The skirt isnt hemmed at the bottom. Any suggestions on washing it?
You could wash the skirt regularly and then now that the nicer weather is coming, you could hang it outside so it doesn't shrink in the dryer.

Good Luck!
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Q: Ok so my hair is long...when I say long i mean like past my hips long and I'm 5'4"! Anyway my mom doesn't want me cut it but I don't want to cut it all off...I jus want about 5 inches off! I told her and she keeps saying when i get older blah blah blah. If it was for my family i'd keep it but sometimes I can't wash it in the evenin cause i hate to blowdry and then sometimes i get up late and it takes about 20 mins to comb it neat to go to school. And also because alot of kids tell me " you always have your hair like that...it m ust keep tired"! And I'm sick of it..I jus want it a few inches shorter!!!

Please help me to get a way for her to get me to cut my hair and I don't want her to know kids truble me because then she'll make me move to a nex school n i relly like this one!!!!

I have about 4 days...so help me please
- messy bun
- really curly
- braids

or you could try to convince your mom that it's just SO timeconsuming and tiresome to manage your hair. Tell her that you will compromise with her and only cut it a little bit.

Good Luck!
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Q: I've been trying to model for some time now and I just cant find any modeling companies!!! do u know of any websites of good modeling companies???? i rate high!!!
www.modelsearchamerica.com
www.instantcast.com
www.modeling-modeling.com
www.starnow.com

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Q: ok well how do u flirt with a guy..like i kind of know how but im like not pro on it..so does anyone kno any good tips for flirting and to get a guy to notice you?
thanks
http://www.romantic-lyrics.com/flirtideas.shtml
http://www.links2love.com/teens_flirting.htm
http://www.seasonsindia.com/romance/rules_flirting_sea.htm

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Q: i have a few questions. i want a pair of dior sunglasses they are black big and have dior in big whote letters on the side of them. i cant seem to find a site with them. also for the burberry scarves... im sure you know what i am talking about the plaid ones what is the brown color called that there are two, camel and nova check but which is better?

ill rate 5's for all!
http://www.eyewearpalace.com/category_list.asp?CatID=49
^ dior sunglasses


http://www.burberryusaonline.com/family/index.jsp?categoryId=1862200&cp=2119969&view=all
^ burberry scarves

I didn't totally understand your requests but here are pictures describing what you wanted =)

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Q: Ive been raped before and everytime im with a guy i get flashbacks. its been about 10 years since this has happened but im still scared its gonna happen again. how can i get over the feeling?
The only way to get over a rape is to attempt to forget about it. I know it's impossible. But surround yourself with friends, family, and people you love. I'm so sorry that you had to go through that. It's my biggest fear.

Just try to think positive when you are with a guy. Think how much you're attracted to him, not what he is capable of. I thought that I was going to get raped for a few years, just because of all the scary shows I watched. But now, I realized that if a boy really cares about me and seems trustworthy, then you should believe him. Again, I'm SO sorry that that happened to you =(

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Q: ok im running out've ideas for my hair. i always have to wear it up in a sloppy bun, because my hairs so curly. it's like ethnic hair, but i'm not ethnic. i can't straighten it, so i don't even wanna get into that. scrunching it makes it weird too. idk if i should brush it all out, dry it & juss leave it go er should i curl it with a curling iron?? any ideas?? i have side bangs if that helps.

thanks!
There is this girl I know that has the same kind of hair. There are a few things she does with it.

- Gels it so the curls look really pretty and shiny
- she puts it in a half ponytail.
- she brushes it a lot and then puts it into two braids coming down from both sides.

Good Luck!
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Q: i am singing at my church and i am suppost to pick a song to sing.... does anyone know of a good christian sing and worship song that i can sing?....and if it helps im a 15/f and i have a pretty good voice.thanx and god bless
"you raise me up" josh groban
thats always fun to sing

there you'll be - celine dion

Q: ive had my period for a year now. is it normal that im getting it every 2 weeks? please help! im kind of scared < 3
Dont worry about it .. You are stil very young. In your younger ages, your period will be extremely irregular. As you get older, it will come in a cycle. As for now, just always be prepared with what you need!!

Good Luck!

Q: does anyone know any good songs for a lyrical dance solo? thanks!
You Raise me up - josh groban
man i feel like a woman- shania twain
Lipstick on your collar - dont know who its by but its cute.


Good Luck!
-Ali =)

Q: do you guys think lockin arms with a guy would be considered as cheating on your boyfriend. when the guy you are locking arms with is only a friend?
Well, I mean they shouldn't if it's only in a friendly way. If thye boy you are locking arms with likes you and both you and your boyfriend know that, I'd stop so he doesn't think things are getting fishy!

Good Luck!
-Ali =)

Q: Just wondering what you other girls may think.

In a guy, is it more attrative if he is shy and sweet. Or if hes confident and secure.

I think I find it more appealing if a guy is sweet and shy. Its adorable in my eyes, what do you think?

-Sara.
A little bit of both

Q: its gotten tot he point where I feel so low about myself I could crawl into my bed and never come out. I want to be with someone that makes me feel special.. Why cant i find that guy?

Ive never had a bf treat me good and for a long time now i havent had a bf.

Im a normal girl and I know im not realllly ugly.. I actualy sometimes think im pretty..

I have talents and yes I have flaws. But i think id be a really good girlfriend.

what can I do?
Wow .. I used to feel exactly like that. I bet your a teenager right? In my opinion, every teen goes through that stage, whether they are readyu to admit it or not. I already went through that so I'll tell you what I did.

I dropped all the bad habits and bad friends I had. That will give you somewhyat of a clean slate.

As for looks, you probably are very pretty. But loks aren't the only thing that guys go for. What you need is a guy that will like you, for you. You need to find a guy that you dont have to impress with make up, expensive clothes and other things of that nature.

At the moment there is nothing really that you can do ecept this:
Open yourself up a little bit more. Make new friends. If you really want a boyfriend, make friends that are boys, get to know them, and if you feel any "chemistry" ask them out!

Good luck! and if you need any more help .. feel free to IM me!
UNPREDiCTABLEx01

xO'ali

Q: hey there guys n' gals.

so im making a warm up cd for my volleyball team.

and well im in need of a few more good pump up songs.

so if you could just tell me a few...that would be amazing.

oh ps. i cant put songs on it with a bunch of swearing and stuff.
pump it - black eyed peas
everytime we touch - casacada
lose control - missy elliot
run it - chris brown
move ya body

Q: Well i really need some good quotes about love. does anybody have any good ones or good sites? I need the quotes kinda quickly but i can wait a little.
I rate
Thanks in advance
Quotless in Chicago
www.firehotquotes.com


Q: Does anyone have any sites that have sad, heartbroken, teen love quotes?
www.firehotquotes.com

Q: can anyone think of any reason why a bf wouldnt be happy for his gf if she found a job that she really liked?
I'll right anyone who answers with a 5. Thanks!
1.) maybe it will cut out of time they will be together

2.) maybe he wanted that job?

That's a really tricky question for any of us to answer because we dont personally know you're boyfriend, sorry!

xO'ali

Q: OK so im a 14 year old .. im pretty over weight. I'm like like a DD too, and im really self conscience about it. I also have a sweating problem, so w/e i wear i have huge stains under my arms. Im a tomboy .. but i still wanna wear jeans and a nice sweater sometimes! So, i dont think boys like me .. like at all. How can i look better and more cute, and feel more confident about myself?
Think about this: People look good, in what fits them. So dont get something TOO tight, or too baggy. Wear something you feel makes you look good. As for the sweating, Been there! You MIGHT have what I have. It is called hyperhydrosis. Hyperhydrosis means that you have overactive sweatglands. Go to your dermatologist and they might prescribe you something called Aluminum Chloride. That is a tube of liquid you put on under your arms and it dry's out your sweatglands. It's awesome. I used to use but I moved onto a heavier thing. Its a pill that dries out your whole body. It doesnt hurt or anything. Your mouth just gets dry in the morning lol. But if it's not that, Ban and Certain Dry work good for most. Good luck. Anymore questions? IM me at gre3neyedxgirlx3 xO ali. If you wear make up, or want to start, go to JCPenny or The Body Shop and ask for them to give you a make over and then buy the things they use. And if you dont use make-up, a natural face can be pretty =)

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