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17/f. A little over a month ago I was hospitalized for suicidal thoughts. I was there for a week and then did out-patient therapy for a week. I was after school late and I finally had enough of feeling like that. So I went and talked to a teacher. I have talked to him before about my panic attacks and mood swings. So, I've been out of therapy. But I'm still feeling really depressed and I have been getting panic attacks again(I'm on meds). I almost just cut myself, but I just scratched my arm til it went red. I also snap my wrist with a hairtie til it goes red and numb. I can't go back into therapy. I just need to talk to someone. It's just, I could talk to my teacher but if I tell him about my arm, and something else that may happen, can he keep it confidential, as long as I am not suicidal? I feel like I just need to talk and I really can't go back inpatient or outpatient. Can he not tell someone as long as I'm not suicidal? To what extent can he keep something confidential? He is someone I can talk to; I don't open up to people very often, especially if they aren't people I know. So...yeah.
Teachers are mandatory reporters, so they have to report anything like that. They are required by law, so he can't keep that secret even if he wants to.
You said you don't open up much, but is it easier on the internet? There are some help websites and discussion places on the internet for dealing with depression and anxiety. Some of them are 18 and over only, but I'm sure there are a few that allow teens, too. One that I can think of right now is The Bathroom Sink and Advice, which are both cults (basically clubs--they aren't actual religious cults) on vampirefreaks.com. The members are really helpful and many of them have been through the same kind of things you have. You need to make an account to join the cults, but it's worth it.
Here are links to the two cults:
http://vampirefreaks.com/cult/The-Bathroom-Sink
http://vampirefreaks.com/cult/Advice
I think you should still talk to your teacher, just be careful when telling him things you want kept confidential. Talk to him about what he can tell and can't tell; he has no reason to lie to you about it.
what's STD and how do you get it?? please don't give me a website about it, but actually tell me about it =p
thanks!!
STDs are sexually transmitted diseases. You can get them from any contact between a penis and a vagina, a penis and a penis, or a vagina and a vagina. You can also get them from bodily fluids associated with sex.
The most famous STD is HIV, which turns into AIDS over time. You can get it through bodily fluids such as blood or sexual body fluids. Condoms do a lot to protect you from getting HIV or some other STD during sex, which is one of the reasons why it is so important to use them when having sex.
I am extremely preppy. Like sweater vests, oxfords, Top-Siders, the whole nine yards. And not just clothes. The issue is, I get very upset when I see magazine articles where it says how preppy is a new trend everywhere, and has come back, etc. Preppy has never left. It has followed me around rural New England my entire life. It's not a trend. It's a lifestyle that's been around forever. I get extremely miffed, and just want to scream and stomp and rip up the article, but that would be unladylike, of course. How can I deal with this? I have tried counting to ten and things like such, but they do not help because I still know how wrong these articles are and that I can't do anything about it. It's more than just that, I get angry over a lot of things, and it just gets all held up, since it isn't entirely proper to throw a fit. What should I do? I have OCD and split personality, but I don't have ADD or bipolar, I mean I'm not a retard.
Don't let it get to you. Just tell yourself that it really doesn't matter. Clothing is not that important in real life; people are pretty much the same under all their clothes, whether they be preppy or whatever else. But if you really identify with the style then just remember that the writers don't know everything and are probably only writing what they want to be true.
I would try writing. You could go on a rant about how amazing the style is, or rant about what idiots those people are. Or tear up the magazines and burn them (but be careful burning around other flammable things...). It's not unladylike unless you do it where other people can see. It's good to get rid of your anger.
By the way, ADD and bipolar disorder have nothing to do with mental retardation. The four mental disorders that you mention don't affect intelligence any if they do at all, so I don't think anyone would mistake you for a retard unless they're an idiot.
I'm skinney but there's some fat in my legs. I have this excercise machine that's like a bike but it only does my upper leg good. Below my knees, there's like some fat in the back.
What can i do to get my legs like her?
http://ca.youtube.com/watch?v=KYcRE3sXciI&feature=related
Oh, and i'm shorter than her, is that maybe one of the reasons why? i'm really skinney but i don't get why there's fat in my legs =/
She's too skinny to be healthy, so don't use her as an example of normal people. She has got to have some sort of eating disorder. Don't compare yourself to models because they are pretty much all starving themselves. Their bodies are not realistic depictions of healthy and pretty human bodies, no matter what you may have seen or heard from other people.
Everyone has fat in their legs if they eat enough. Fat on the body is healthy as long as you don't have an extreme amount of it. Besides, a good bit of that 'fat' is probably muscle, especially if you exercise regularly.
I don't know what you look like, but just jogging and using your exercise machine should be enough to keep your legs shapely.
Just don't worry about it; I'm sure you look fine as you are. Appearances are not everything.
The other day I saw the SunSilk Anti-Esponja shampoo at Eckerds. Why the heck so spanish speaking people have sponges in the hair? My friend and I couldn't figure out what it meant, lol any help!?
This is a picture of the product:
http://gethairapymedia.com/photogallery/images/product/Snslk_Anti_Esponja.jpg
It's a different kind of spongy. Spongy hair is really frizzy and gross because it is extremely damaged. Hair like this was probably dyed or straightened too much. So I'm assuming that the shampoo is supposed to repair spongy hair.
m/14 like 2 weeks ago i was walking around town with my friend took out a pack of cigarettes he had stolen from his dad. He was walking around smoking and offered me one. I couldn't just say no so i took one. As soon as i grabbed it i felt like i was so powerful, and, i don't even no how to describe the feeling. it was great. i hadn't even lighted it yet. Then i lighted it up and started smoking. It tasted horrible but i just couldn't stop. I really liked it for some reason. now, two weeks later, i can't stop thinking about it. i want a cigarette so badly. i only had one but i want another so much! what am i supposed to do? it's ruining my life cause thats all i can think about now, and i am only 14, so i can't go get more. please help me!
Try finding another healthier addiction for now, and do that whenever you feel like smoking. Like how some long-time smokers start chewing gum or drinking soda while they quit? Chewing gum would be a much better addiction than smoking.
If it's the power trip that you are after, I'm not sure on what you should do. But you should definitely find another way, because smoking is expensive, bad for you, and a lot of girls think it's absolutely disgusting (like me). Good luck.
On new years I took my birth control pill at 10pm (my usual time) but I had a little too much to drink and later that night threw up. That night I also slept over my boyfriend's house and had sex a couple times (no ejaculation inside, but no condom either). A week later (this past monday) I got some spotting that was pinkish and that's when it occured to me I possibly threw up my pill. I know you miss one pill and you can get pregnant, so is this implantation bleeding? It only lasted about 1.5 days and was very light.
It could definitely be implantation bleeding, and it sounds pretty likely that you did throw up your pill.
I suggest that you take a pregnancy test as soon as it would be accurate. Some tests claim to be able to detect pregnancy on the day of your expected period. But even if the first test is negative, keep taking tests until you get your period, because false negatives are possible.
i really didn't know what to put this under because it has a lot to with a bit of everything. Just this month especially this week i have been horribly depressed and the things that are happening are just making it worse. I used to have a big depression problem about a year ago and i began to cut myself. Lately i have started to cut myself again and i cry a lot and i feel like crawling in a hole and dying. School isn't fun anymore and things that normally wouldn't bother me are. Home isn't very nice either my mom and my sister are having a big war and i'm the reason. my sister is blaming me for stuff and my mom knows it's not true. but that isn't what is worng the problem is i don't know what is wrong.Everything was fine a month ago when i started feeling like this so i din't have any stress or anything bad happening. I want to ask if it's possible that depression can just pop up out of nowhere even if everything was fine? I really want to know if it's just a once in a while thing or if i have a depresion disorder because it does happen a lot but not usually this long and i never feel this bad. what's going on?
Of course it can just pop out of nowhere! Depression is considered to be a medical disorder, and some of the causes are definitely physical. You might have a chemical imbalance that causes you to get depressed for no real reason, and it can happen any time. Since it is an imbalance in the brain, it will probably stay with you unless you get treatment for it.
You need to talk to your mom about this and try to get her to take you in to see a psychologist or a psychiatrist. If she doesn't see a need to, go to a school counselor and explain how you feel to him or her. The counselor could probably arrange a conversation with your mom. It's really important that you get treatment for this because it could get worse over time.
Here are some good websites that explain some of the causes of depression as well as a lot of other stuff about it:
http://www.kidshealth.org/teen/your_mind/mental_health/depression.html
http://www.nlm.nih.gov/medlineplus/depression.html
http://www.nimh.nih.gov/health/topics/depression/index.shtml
I am doing a report for school that is going to average about 160 pages. I need to do a draft first to have people look over, then I need to pring a final copy. I was just wondering if I recycle the paper from the draft if it is the same as if I didn't use it in the first place, because I hate to waste all that paper! Thank you!
Recycling paper takes energy because it has to be processed for reuse. It also has to be transported to a recycling center before it can be processed. Both of those take energy and create waste. So recycling isn't the same as never using the paper in the first place. Still, if you have no choice but to print the report twice, you should recycle it anyway. It doesn't make it like you never used it in the first place, but it does help.
does anyone know the band that plays this song?
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it has a boy singing, and a girl singing in the back round. the band has a lot of piano in it
here are the words to one of their songs, the "___" is what i don't remember.
sing like you think no ones listening
it can be soft and ___
loud and out of key
sing me anything
the song name is
ex______ of your prom night
i think the band's name begins with an "S". i've been looking everywhere! thanks :]
It's by Straylight Run.
This is their website: www.straylightrun.com
OK so I have been with my boyfriend for nearly a year now and i always thought he was super good looking but I kinda got used to it.
He always compliments me and says i am the hot one, but lately i have come to realise that he is actually way better looking than me. I took him to a party and i had 3 seperate people comment to me on how good looking he is, and then the next day someone else did.
Just now I was talking to a friend of his on msn and she said something along the lines of, i am not surprised you enjoy showing him off, he is HOT!
I suddenly feel like everyone is looking at us and wondering what the hell he is doing with me??
Especially it also doesnt help that he has a more posh job than me too...
Any advice would be good. Thanks
Looks aren't everything. So what if he is better looking than you? That doesn't mean he's going to suddenly run off with a model because you aren't pretty enough for him. If the two of you have been together for almost a year, there is obviously something in you that he is attracted to that goes deeper than the skin. He must love you for more than just your face or, if he is as attractive as you say, he would be with the most attractive girl he could find. But a relationship based on lust would never last for as long as a year. You should be proud of the fact that your boyfriend loves you for more than just appearances, and you should also be proud that such a handsome boy is yours to show off. ;D
Just ignore what everyone else is thinking or saying about the two of you and listen to your boyfriend. He knows more about why he's with you than anyone else.
what are the symtoms of clamidia, gonorea n herpes. im really scared
These websites will give you the symptoms of those three STD's as well as a lot more:
http://pediatrics.about.com/od/stds/a/04_std_symptoms.htm
http://www.stdsymptoms.org/
http://www.coolnurse.com/std2.htm
If you think you have an STD, especially something serious and incurable like the ones you listed, stop having sex of any kind (including oral) because you really do NOT want to spread it to someone else! Also, it's really important that you get tested for these and get treatment as soon as possible. Chlamydia could kill you if you don't treat it.
A good place to go to get treatment is Planned Parenthood. These are practically everywhere across the U.S. They price their treatments according to your income, so even if you don't have much money it shouldn't be a problem. And if you are under 18, you can still get treatment there and they can't tell your parents. Here is a link to their website, and if you look at the top of it there is a search where you can find clinics in your area: http://www.plannedparenthood.org/
Good luck! If you have even the slightest fear that you have one of these STD's, get treatment right away. I can't tell you how important that is.
Okay name codes. My friend who asked us to comment his MySpace formal pictures will be called "Chris" my friend who had the conversation with me will be called "Adrienne" and "Chris'" friend shall be called "Tyson"
Okay, well Chris asked a few of his friends to comment his formal pictures, as a joke me Adrienne were having a conversation through his pictures. One of the pictures was a picture of Tyson with his hair all over his face, so me and Adrienne said the picture LOOKED emo, and we made it very clear it was a joke.
This is a while ago. Now Tyson doesn't know I exist, and I don't know anything about him other than he doesn't seem to be a very good friend towards Chris. I just got a message from him saying:
And im emo?
go back to wearing your my chemical romance shirts and wallow in the dark you chubby pathetic loser
Now, at first I felt bad he took it seriously and I was going to apologise because I really didn't mean no offense, but I don't want to give my apologies to someone who's willing to try to offend me back.
I was then going to say he's the pathetic one, you know going through my pictures to look to insult me. I know if someone insulted me I'd just forget about them (Well usually, uh in this case...maybe not) but him and Chris have been having big fights that are really doing damage to Chris' life, and I didn't want to do anything else.
So now I'm stuck as to what to say back. I'd usually ask Chris what to do, or ask Adrienne if she got a message abusing her either. But they're both on holiday so looks like I'm stuck on my own. I know I should just ignore the message, but I don't want him to think he made me so upset that I did "go wail in the corner" but at the same time I don't want to basically be like him and feel I have to try and upset him. I want to say something witty, something that will make him look stupid.
If you insult him back, it's just going to start a fight. But I do agree that someone who would insult back over something so stupid doesn't really deserve an apology anymore. I would say something like, "It was just a joke, man. No need to get so serious about it." Something like that doesn't offer him an apology and doesn't give him a legit reason to get even more angry at you.
So me and my ex boyfriend are having alot of problems right now. I love him to death and want him back. vice versa. But we dont want to get back together until I sort out my problems. For some reason I keep exploding on EVERYONE and taking out anger that I shouldn't even have on everyone. I don't know whats wrong with me. I've been like this since I was raped at 7 years old. Its like I don't want to let anyone into my life. or i dont wanna have anyone stay in my life. I havent even been able to keep an actual friend for more then 2 years. I just ruin it all by being a bitch to them or just shutting them out. It's like as if the rape ruined my entire life and i cant fix it. and at first I didn't think i would need couseling cause of how long ago it happened. but i think i need it now. Though I dont have the money for it. I really need advice so I can have my ex back and so my life can get back to the way it was. please help me.
I can't blame you for being unable to trust people after being raped. Still, you need to learn to trust some people. Not everyone will betray you. Some will, but that's a risk you have to take.
Have you told your ex about you being raped and how you've been like this ever since then? If you haven't and you really want to get back together with him, you should try to tell him. He could help you with this if you let him. If he is any kind of decent person, he will understand why you get angry and at least put up with it if nothing more.
If you are in high school (you never gave your age), you could go to a school counselor free of charge. Outside of high school, I'm not sure. There may be some cheap or free counseling centers in your city, depending on where you live. Maybe check the phone book? I don't know what section it would be under. You can always call local hospitals and ask them to give you information or direct you to someone who can.
Feel free to message me anytime and I will do what I can to help. Good luck with whatever you decide to do.
Oh by the way, here is a website and a hotline number from the website:
http://www.rainn.org/?PHPSESSID=e525cf60293a4a04181eb83be8d5609f
1-800-656-HOPE (4673)
The hotline is for free counseling for rape victims. It doesn't matter that it happened a long time ago; they will still help.
The website also has a chat for rape counseling:
http://www.rainn.org/ohl-bridge.php
Yet again, it's completely free. You just need internet access. I hope those help.
I've been acting really weird lately. Like there's my boyfriend.. and we're going through a rough time... and like a keep freaking out when he tells me he's gonna call on the weekends and he ends up calling like and hour later... and then he'll tell me he's going out and I'll flip out... but like that just gets me going crazy and I totally freak out. But then I also get upset with other stuff too... like stuff that's happened to me is I cry all the time, for no reason what so ever... i feel like i don't belong here at all and like I feel like I don't want to live (sounds horrible I know)... I get angry really easily...I feel like I don't want to do anything anymore... I sleep really weird.. like I'll sleep and then wake up from a horrible dream or just keep waking up... or it takes me a really long time to go to sleep... and like sometimes when I fall asleep while waiting for my boyfriend to call I'll wake up and then just freak out and jump up and get my phone and start calling him a million times.. and i can't concentrate that well.. and like this is on a DAILY bases... I have no idea what's wrong with me.. but please give me some advice
You most likely have some sort of mental illness like depression. This could explain all your weird pains and feeling sick, as well as your mood. The best thing I can tell you to do is go to an adult that you trust or think you can trust and explain your problem. If your school has good counselors, try talking to them. If you don't know how much you can trust them, maybe test them with smaller problems before talking about cutting and taking pills. But this is really affecting you, so you need treatment as soon as possible. Therapy could help, and so could the right medication. And if nothing else, it will help to get these troubles off your chest by telling someone.
You also seem really dependent on your boyfriend. Is it like your life revolves around him and without him you would die, or be really really miserable? Calling him all the time, and staying up waiting for him to call... it's not healthy to rely on someone so much and this could also be hurting your emotions and self-esteem. I can't give you much advice on this because I have the same problem, but a counselor could definitely help you. Asking for help online is the first step, now you need to tell your problems to someone in real life that can directly help you.
I sincerely wish you luck in getting yourself out of this situation. Taking pills and cutting are not good ways to cope, and you could end up accidentally overdosing from taking Motrin. It's important that you get some help ASAP. If you do have depression and you don't treat it, it will only get worse. But with treatment, the worst that can happen is that nothing with improve. But if there is a good chance that it will solve everything, why not take the chance?
15/F
I write for my highschool newspaper and I mainly write (satirical) articles for the opinions page...and I'm usually down in the principals office after the newspaper is published. This month I am totally out of ideas, and I need to have my story idea in a couple of days. Does anybody have any good sory ideas, school related preferably...like things that go on in school that some people might not know about. Or maybe even something that has to do with everyone in the united states...I'll take any ideas really.
It doesn't matter if it's school "innapropriate" I usually get in trouble for the articles I write anyways. The school is not very open minded...and it doesn't help the the class is totally run by students. I live in New Mexico if that helps any.
You could always write about a minority group in your school (gays, Hispanics, handicaps, etc.) and the challenges they face from other students. You could interview a student of that minority group to get a true perspective on how that minority is treated in the school. Then you could write about how things could be changed to help this and other minorities. This would be very eye-opening if your school is really that close-minded.
You could also write about cliques. They are everywhere in high school and they are common writing subjects, but maybe take a different perspective? For instance, you could write about how cliques will affect teens after high school and in the workplace.
Or write about technology in your school. How common is texting? How many people have internet access at home and how long do they spend on the internet? You could take a poll and then interpret the results. Like, how does this affect grades if students neglect homework to socialize on Myspace? Or how will this impair/improve their social skills? How much communication and technology is too much?
These are just some ideas, but they sound good. They would definitely catch the interest of your readers, and they are about subjects that your readers are familiar with. I hope I helped.
Is there anyway at all to veiw a private journal in Vampirefreaks.com?
Please someone help.
Its kinda important and urgent.
Or if you don't know a way to view a private journal in that site maybe you can suggest a way it will work on another site and I will try to do it that way.
Thanks so much to anyone who can help me
C=
So do you want to view someone else's journal or do you want to view theirs?
I don't think there is a way to view a private journal on vampirefreaks.
On Myspace you can make a blog and set entries to 'Preferred List' as you post them, and then add people to your preferred list by searching for them and clicking the little link that says "Add to Preferred List". Then only people on your preferred list will be able to view those entries.
my ex and i may be getting back. but first he wants me to prove to him i can be loyal. the only reason he worries is because he used to cheat and worries i want to get back. plus we broke up cuz i had feelings for someone else. we still love eachother, but he doesn't want to get back together because he is worried i won't be loyal. how can i prove to him he is the only one for me, and not have to wait forever. also, my bf may be going to jail for awhile, and it will be hard to prove it.
HE is the one who should be proving his loyalty. If he cheated on you, why should you prove your honesty? He wronged you by cheating on you, not the other way around. Even if you had feelings for someone else, you can't help what you think. And you didn't take any action on your feelings, unlike him.
Your ex sounds like he is trying to manipulate you. By making you prove your loyalty to him, he is testing how far you will go for him and how easily you forgive him. If you make an effort to prove anything to him, he is going to keep walking all over you and cheating on you in the future because he will know that you will bend over backwards to get him back again.
It sounds like you are determined to make this relationship work, but I'm afraid it wont end well for you. If he is in and out of jail, bosses you around, and cheats on you, then you really need to start letting him go and getting him out of your life. It might hurt, but it will be for the best.
You say he is the only one for you, but what happened to the other person you had feelings for? You must have had a few doubts about him being the perfect guy if you developed feelings for another person. There are plenty of fish in the sea, so why not do a little more fishing? ;D
14/f
i think i'm gay.
i've been thinking about it a lot lately and really think i am. like ok when all the girls in like fifth grade started liking guys and getting "boyfriends" i was just never interested. i know that could be normal for a kid but still. and like when i'd play with barbies or some doll like that with my friend a long time ago she'd have the boy and girl kiss, ha i'd have the two girls kiss mostly. and now my friends always sit around saying how hot guys are and i just sit there you know? i'm normally thinking about the girl nowadays. i've gone out with guys but it just never felt right to me. i alwyays felt uncomfortable.
but what i don' get is how on the internet most lesbians say they knew when they were like 7 or 10. i'm just now starting to realize it. maybe it's hormones? but i think it's more than that. maybe everyones different? what do you think? what should i do?
-anyone who answers thanks. =]
Every person develops differently, so just because you didn't have a moment when you were 7 when you said," Ahah! I like girls!' does not mean that you aren't one.
It really does sound like you are gay by your description. Making two Barbie girls kiss at such a young age suggests that it was always there. But it's also natural to not squeal over hot guys and all that. None of my friends do it, and we aren't all lesbians. ;D
Keeping that in mind, you are not finished sexually developing at age 14. I am 15 and I have never had a boyfriend (except in first grade, but that didn't count). I may be a lesbian and you might be a lesbian too, but at this age anything is possible so in a few years you might like guys and girls or maybe realize that liking girls was temporary.
The best thing you can do is give it time. There's no need to rush to label yourself. Let things happen as they will and eventually something may happen (like falling in love with another girl) that will make you realize that you are undoubtedly gay, straight, or even something else entirely. Good luck.
How can I hide or make my breasts look smaller,im a trannyboy at a young age and i need help with this.im already a small size but i really want to look flat chested...-P.S NO BINDERS!
If you have smallish boobs you could just wear baggy shirts. Hoodies are also good for hiding your shape. I'm female with short hair and people mistake me for a guy all the time because they can't tell that I have boobs.