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How do I prove myself
my ex and i may be getting back. but first he wants me to prove to him i can be loyal. the only reason he worries is because he used to cheat and worries i want to get back. plus we broke up cuz i had feelings for someone else. we still love eachother, but he doesn't want to get back together because he is worried i won't be loyal. how can i prove to him he is the only one for me, and not have to wait forever. also, my bf may be going to jail for awhile, and it will be hard to prove it.
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He cheated and you need to prove yourself? Am I missing something here.
Look, you can't 'prove' loyalty, or love for that matter, in some grand gesture. If you say you will be loyal, well he is just gonna have to trust you. The exact same what that you just have to trust that he wont cheat, agian.
Don't wait. Tell him he can either trust you, or he can not trust you.
If he can't, move on.
If the only one for you is a cheating felon you are likely better off alone.
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HE is the one who should be proving his loyalty. If he cheated on you, why should you prove your honesty? He wronged you by cheating on you, not the other way around. Even if you had feelings for someone else, you can't help what you think. And you didn't take any action on your feelings, unlike him.
Your ex sounds like he is trying to manipulate you. By making you prove your loyalty to him, he is testing how far you will go for him and how easily you forgive him. If you make an effort to prove anything to him, he is going to keep walking all over you and cheating on you in the future because he will know that you will bend over backwards to get him back again.
It sounds like you are determined to make this relationship work, but I'm afraid it wont end well for you. If he is in and out of jail, bosses you around, and cheats on you, then you really need to start letting him go and getting him out of your life. It might hurt, but it will be for the best.
You say he is the only one for you, but what happened to the other person you had feelings for? You must have had a few doubts about him being the perfect guy if you developed feelings for another person. There are plenty of fish in the sea, so why not do a little more fishing? ;D
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Wow, he is really playing you. He is the one who needs to prove himself, since he is the cheater, and the one going to jail. He is afraid he might get what he deserves and does not believe you will be faithful, because he knows he would not be and cannot imagine anything outside of his own selfishness. The real challenge for you is to convince yourself that you are worth more than this guy is evaluating you to be. In his eyes you are as scummy as he is. You deserve to be with a man who sees only you and not himself in you. You need a man to accept you for your actions and not reduce you to his own paranoid fears. Why should this loser be the only one for you, when he has never wanted to be loyal to you??? You are old enough to start thinking for yourself and demanding more from life. You think right now that he is all there is, but soon you will see that he was a waste of your time and emotions. Quit rescuing lost puppies and save yourself.
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he doesn't want you to prove youll be loyal, he wants to 'sow his wild oats'. once a cheat, always a cheat. hell cheat on you again. he doesnt love you.
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