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Tired of giving everyone attitude.
So me and my ex boyfriend are having alot of problems right now. I love him to death and want him back. vice versa. But we dont want to get back together until I sort out my problems. For some reason I keep exploding on EVERYONE and taking out anger that I shouldn't even have on everyone. I don't know whats wrong with me. I've been like this since I was raped at 7 years old. Its like I don't want to let anyone into my life. or i dont wanna have anyone stay in my life. I havent even been able to keep an actual friend for more then 2 years. I just ruin it all by being a bitch to them or just shutting them out. It's like as if the rape ruined my entire life and i cant fix it. and at first I didn't think i would need couseling cause of how long ago it happened. but i think i need it now. Though I dont have the money for it. I really need advice so I can have my ex back and so my life can get back to the way it was. please help me.
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Hi Sweety,
I agree you need to sort this out, i couldn't imagine nhow you feel after being raped at such a young age. You may not be able to fix the fact you have been raped, but you can patch things up with your ex, and relieving anger and rape problems.
Just because it was long ago doesn't mean it won't affect you now. The best thing to do is talk to a close woman such as your mother or aunty about it. Ask them for money for counselling, i'm sure they'll help you out, but in most cases you don't even need to pay. How about your school? Every school has a counsellor if your in high school. Ask there.
Does your ex boyfriend know about your rape? If he doesn't talk to hima botu it. Sort this out by going counselling, and even anger management to relieve stress and yoy anger towards other.
This can be fixed and will, don't worry you'll get their, and your ex will be sorted, so you'll be together again.
Good Luck!!
Mandy
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I can't blame you for being unable to trust people after being raped. Still, you need to learn to trust some people. Not everyone will betray you. Some will, but that's a risk you have to take.
Have you told your ex about you being raped and how you've been like this ever since then? If you haven't and you really want to get back together with him, you should try to tell him. He could help you with this if you let him. If he is any kind of decent person, he will understand why you get angry and at least put up with it if nothing more.
If you are in high school (you never gave your age), you could go to a school counselor free of charge. Outside of high school, I'm not sure. There may be some cheap or free counseling centers in your city, depending on where you live. Maybe check the phone book? I don't know what section it would be under. You can always call local hospitals and ask them to give you information or direct you to someone who can.
Feel free to message me anytime and I will do what I can to help. Good luck with whatever you decide to do.
Oh by the way, here is a website and a hotline number from the website:
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1-800-656-HOPE (4673)
The hotline is for free counseling for rape victims. It doesn't matter that it happened a long time ago; they will still help.
The website also has a chat for rape counseling:
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Yet again, it's completely free. You just need internet access. I hope those help.
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