so...my name is Rebecca and I'm 17, going to be a senior in high school . i am currently at either the 2nd or 3rd spot in my class academically, but plan to graduate as valedictorian...so if you have a problem academically I'd love to help! i want to be a journalist (and kind of am), which means i may be a little harsh, but i do have a not-so-sharp edge (don't get me wrong, i can be sassy, I'd just rather smile :) ) . I love knowing that i can help someone and I'm actually of use to someone. When i was younger i was more shy, and all people knew about me was that i was a good friend and for the people i answer...i hope you think so too!
Also, God is big in my life. Like my whole life. And for anything I help you with...I give Him all the glory. It's all about Him and what He's given us. :)
E-mail: nellybly22@gmail.com
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My girl sais that I am the one making her happy. She is gone for 3 weeks now (28 August today)and I will see her again in the middle of Septmember.She always sents messages on the phone yet she never calls and most of the times she wont pick it up when I call cause she sais she is shy of her mom when she is around. In three weeks she never called not even once. What do you think my future is?
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i read the beggining of defind eyes' comment but i wouln't start freaking out just yet. alot of people are shy to talk to thier boyfriend/girlfriend around thier parents, it's awkward.you do to talk though. text her and tell her to go somewhere where you could call her. ask what's up. if you relly do make her happy and you feel the same way about her than you should be fine. but things do change so talk.
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ok so i live with my dad, and we r very close. i can talk to him a lot too. but when it comes to the puberty subject, i can't talk 2 u anyone about it. what should i do? i just turned 13 about 1 month ago, and i have arm pit hair, hair "down there", and discharge, but i havn't stated my period yet. 1. this discharge is ruining ALL my underwear, and i'm guessing i should get pantyliners but...... how do i get them with my dad, and how should i bring up the subject? what should i do!?!?!?? p.s. sorry this is so long. plz help me!!!!!!!!!!!1 (link)
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seriously you shouldn't be too stressed about it, but i know you will be anyway so....
you need to bring it up with your dad. you know that. you don't have your own allowence and you need some way to get that kind of stuff and you will more later. just explian how you need a couple things like that before you go to the store and go off on your own and get them. i'm sure your dad won't push you on why and he's an adult, he's not gonna be giggling; he knew you werew gonna grow up sometime so he should just except it. so relax. i don't think he'll have like a phsycological breakdown over losing you and you'll still be able to get what you need.
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okayy .. i have quite the dilema. my (ex) boyfriend, craig.. of 5 months and me broke up .. its been about a month .. and i thought i was over him. i could see other people and i am currently dating a guy named mark. well mark could be in jail for quite some time for breaking his probation by transporting drugs .. but craig was that one guy, the one you will NEVEr completely get over .. you know. and he feels like he fucked up and he wants me back. i want to be with him. i miss him like crazy. but i guess ive keepen it hidden .. even from myself ..
i dont want to be a bitch and give mark nothing to look forward to getting out for .. but me and him have been togehter only one week before he got sent to jail .. we barely started a relatioship. and while i like him. i can only tink about craig .. i dont know waht to do .. i dont want to be that bitch who leaves her boyfriend cause he went to jail .. (link)
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if your still in love with criag it isn't fair to any of you to be leading mark on. i think it would be worse in your case to stay with mark and still be thinking about the other guy. talk to mark and tell him that you just can't see him knowing that he isn't the one...well he's not the one you never get over and it would be easier to break things offf while you havn't been seeing him for that long. and mention it has nothing to do with him going to jail becuase if he really was the one that wouldn't matter. if criag is really sorry and wants you back and you still love him give him another chance
p.s. i know it might be kind of hard to talk to mark if he's already in jail but you have to. like i said it isn't fair to anyone.
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Okay I really need help. I am having my birthday in September and I can't think of anything fun. It needs to be cheap and fifteen girls are coming. Ideas please! (link)
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pool party-cheap and who doesn't love swimming?
go bowling- make fun of yourself when you roll the ball between your legs. it only costs about $20 a game.
go to an amusemaent park that has group deals or hang at a local arcade all day. heck, go to Chuck E. Cheeses,we did it at my best friend's 14th b-day.
After that have a sleepover. Play truth or dare, sing karaoke and do other sleepover-ey stuff. Hope that helps at all.
p.s.i strongly suggest the pool party. if it's outdoors you can do water baloons and what not.
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Does anyone know anything about Fung Shui?
Like where to put stuff in your room and stuff?
Thank you SO much! =] (link)
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hey. you asked this quesion like 10 days ago and i saw it before but i didn't relly have an answer and you might've already found what you were looking for but if you havn't i saw this book at my dad's friend's house called "Feng Shui: do's and Taboo's" that has advice on feng shui everything(you car, your friendships, um fertility...and yeah your room). it's written by Angi Ma Wong i think. i didn't memorize it or anything so you might want to look at your library or book store or something.
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is it true that the average joe only uses about 10 percent of their brain and that people like psychics or w/e have learned to "tune in" to the other part of their brain and thats how they "see" stuff? (link)
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okay first of all let me say i'm not supposed to beliv ein psychics but this is how i see it. yes everybody does use only 10% of thier brian (i personaly think some use it better than others but that part's true) and this is including our imagination and the part of it that we use when we dream. that's the prt i think psychics "tune into", thier imagination. i think some people (like psychics) can read things and people better than oothers can and that's why thier "visions" or wutever can be true, becuase they can read the people and the situation and kown more-than-likely what will happen. i however don't think that they use more of thier brian than anyone else.
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I have a best friend,
and we've been friends for a few years now,
but I'm really getting annoyed with her.
She always wants to hang out and its really frustrating to me to have someone constantly need me, I have other friends, unlike her.
She uses that as an excuse to make me hang out with her too.
What do I do?
I've already tried explaning to her
how I feel about it too.
But really shes getting on my nervous.
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i'm sorry if this first part doesn't really help but you should make some time for her (keep reading) just not all of it. if you ahve more friends try introducing some of them to her.if you know something she likes to do find some group that does it (ex.basketball team, drama club, etc.) and suggest she try for it (try out, audition). mention someone in your class that sounds cool that you don't really know that well and suggest she go over and talk to them. really she just needs to make friends, but she needs to do it on her own. don't be annoyed at her clinging to you, help her meet new people. like i siad she really just needs someons to hang with, everyone does. no one likes to be alolne.
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I'm totally lost in the types of Christianity there are. I know I believe in God, and the fact that Jesus died for us to get into Heaven. But what I do not understand, is what exactly God did, and what exactly Jesus did to get crucified in the first place.
Also, I was wondering if someone could explain the differences in denominations for me, or give me a link to a site that can do so. Thanks so much. (link)
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i'm not sure i really understand the questions but i had to look since that's kind of how i feel all the time: confused about my religion. well like cathliocism is a branch of christianity and they belive the same kind of things (like how Jesus was crucified and all) but they usually also belive in praying to saints and cristians don't. they belive in praying directly to God becuase they don't have to go through the saints. then theres Jahovahs Witness which is another popular branch of christianity that seems to come mainly from mexico, i htink they belive in the saints and everything but they also sacrafice everything to thier church. if i'm just confusing you now i've named cathlioc-christian, christian-christian and Jahovah's witness-christian. those are the 3 types i know.
Whew! now the second question: since you refer to Jesus being seperate from God your probably talking about God the Father whom created Earth and all it's people, who most people seem to pray to and hear when "God talks to them". He's the first out of the Holy Trinity and He created Jesus and the Holy Spirit. without Him...nothing would exist...nothing.
and third: Jesus didn't do anything except claim to be the Mesiah, which He was. That's why people were skeptical and thet's why they arrested Him. They crucified him however becuase becuase of these non-beliver's opinions. Panchus Pilot asked the people if he should crucify him and the people said "yes"(very loudly and all at once).
But i know nothing about denominations, sorry.
So i hope i shed some light and i'm sooooooo sorry if i made you read all that and just confused you more. but just consider yourself christian and belive in God and don't worry you'll be fine.
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This girl named Leah lives in my neighborhood and goes to my school.
We used to be best friends sadly, until I kind of tried to keep my distance from her. The reason why I wanted to keep my distance from her is because she acted like total jerk to me for no reason (I'm not gonna list what all she did to me) and then went and cried to me telling her to forgive her. All of my friends were attacking me, so I forgave her and I really wish I didn't do that.
She's is an effing stalker and I'm not kidding. She copies EVERYTHING my friend and I do (Yeah, it's supossed to flattery. Well, it's driving me crazy) All she does is talk about my other friends and when I'm not around all she does is talk about ME behind MY back. She wrote my friend a note today and my friend showed it to me.
This is what it said:
You probably are wondering why I was upset this morning. (I talked to my friend who she wrote the note to and my friend said that she didn't even notice and plus she didn't really care. ) Well I was confused, annoyed, mad, and upset. Katie (Me) has a problem. Dayna (one of my other friends) yelling at me for copying you two didn't help either. I'm already upset enough and plus I'm on my period (I'm on mine too so wtf.) She wont even get within a bazillion feet of me (She's obsessed with me and my friend. I was a foot away from her today so I guess she's blind.)
God, she goes crying to her everytime she has some stupid problem with me and says all this crap about me.
ALL she does is talk about how she hates all of my friends. She started cussing at me when I tell her to stop and I stand up for them. She will sit there and talk and talk and every word she says is a lie. She has seriously changed so much since I first met her. I know she isn't going to go back to who she was. I honestly think she forgot who that actually IS!
She's been a jerk to me lately and I want her to leave me alone. I don't want to be her friend anymore and she can't get that through her head! I know this kind of sounds mean, but if I told you what all she's done to me you would know she's the one who is mean...not me.
I have her screen name if that helps.
How do I just slowly let our friendship fade or just plain out tell her I don't want to be friends with her anymore?
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ok so this is kind of a short answer relating to the question but obviosly you already tried just letting it fade away and that didn't work. so tell her how you feel the same way you found out how she did(write to her) or if you think she'll do some thing like pretend she didn't get the note just talk to her while no one else is around. tell her you think you've grown apart since you first met and give her some of your reasons like the many you've told us. if you don't want her as a friend just tell her that(maybe leave out the "get that through your head thing!!") andsay you don't want ot try to meand anything, right now you just need your space.
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Well, my birthday is in 3 days. I'm turning 14.
My friend Jessica is supposed to come along with my 4 other friends. Jessica hasn't contacted me in 2 days and she didn't even mention my party. I invited her and she said she can most likely come!
But now I want to invite my friend Anne, but I'm not so sure I should because Jessica will get rather mad at me! I'm afraid she'll show up or call if I invited Anne, and I don't want her getting mad because I invited someone else because she didn't call me about it. That's the only reason I would have invited Anne, because Jessica hasn't contacted me in any way.
What should I do!? (link)
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(okay first let me say that you already have 6 other answers which i haven't read but i want to help anyway). ok so if you really want to invite anne becuase she's a good friend and you want her to celebrate with you than ofcourse you should invite her. like you siad it's your birthday and you should be able to invite who ever you want. or like if they have some fued going on but you still really want her there and you don't want any drama so you think it'll be fine without jessica there then invite her(just keep in mind jessica could show up).but if she isn't a really good friend and you don't really want her there, your just inviting her as some revenge thing agianst jessica that isn't really fair to her. if it's a practical thing like you have 5 tickets to a concert and you'd rather invite someone you know is gonna be there i suggest you just call jessica and find out whats up. i mean two days isn't that long, she could still be coming. anyway i hope taht helped and have a good birthday whoever is there.
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does the veet rasera bladeless kit thing work very well?
and about how much is it? and is it really better than just a normal razor and shaving cream? (link)
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my sister used it and she thinks "n'air" is better which i've used. that you can use on your bikini area and it stays longer than shaving. but if it's just veet or shaving i'd keep shaving.
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does anyone know the song that is played on the ABC Family commercial where its like "a new kind of family" "a new kind of journey" blah blah blah.. and it shows scenes from a whole bunch of shows on ABC Family like Kyle XY, Gilmore Girls, and the movie Fallen...
thanks for any help
I want to put this song on my iPod because I really like it...
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the song is "high' by James Blunt(he's the same guy that sings"your beautiful") and it's on his one and only cd "back to bedlam" which came out a few months ago.
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There is no dance instructor living in my town, and I really want to leaarn how to dance like they do on cheetah girls (on the previews for the second one). What is that style of dancing called and is there a site, video or book that can help me out? Thx in advance! (link)
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well i'm sorry. i can't offer you any books or anyting but i took hip-hop one summer and that was when i was all into the cheetah girls 1 and thats how they danced, hip hop. but i saw one of the previews and i know they also do a tango in the second movie. sorry i couldn't give you more info but i hope i helped a little.
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I have this friend. well i think he's my friend.
he told me that guys at school don't like,like me
because they think i'm gay. or like girls.
what the hell. am i gonna do.
do i have to be mean to get them to like me.
cause i'm not that desperaite and i'm not gonna
make out in public unless it's someone i really like. cause just cause i don't worship the ground
they walk on.and i don't date assholes.
just because i would rather be just friends with the nice guys.i do like some of the nice guys
but i be there friends than nothing at all.
i don't date ass's I'm not gay. what should i do? (link)
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well first of all if this guy's your friend shouldn't he knowyour not a lesbian and tell people who think that? and second it's totally cool that you don't like blush and giggle if you think a guy might be looking your way or like guys who treat you like crap and you do need a guy who's going to respect you. if you really do like one of these guys, these "nice guys", tell them. then they'll know your not gay right? and maybe (whether he realizes it now or not) he likes you too.
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Ok, so my ex friend hates me because she thinks i was talking bad about her. i feel pretty bad because i kind of was by telling my guy friend about her, he rephrased what i said to her, so my ex friend thinks what i said was all too wrong. All I said to him was that she dumped me for her new best friend and her ex boyfriend used her, and that's what she told me word-by-word. in a way i feel like it was wrong to say anything (guilty on that one), but my guy friend rephrased it saying her ex used her sexually or whatever and she dumped me and started hating me when her new friend came along. i didn't say any of that...
I feel horrible for saying anything but what she heard was a lie. yet before we argued over this she wasn't treating me like a friend at all. she would always hang out with her new friend and it'd make me mad. i don't mind her making new friends but what she did was inconsiderate. so my question is, what should i do? forget about her and make new friends? or try to talk to her again? thanks in advance (link)
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well i know it really sucks to have the person you tell (or used to tell) everything to not talking to you and it might be hard to stay away but maybe you should stay away for a while, you know just let her cool off. in that period you can get to know other people and make new friends. maybe later when she's not mad and gotten over herself and missing you you can talk to her and explian and maybe patch up your friendship but for now just let her cool off. you'll be fine on your own for while. i hope that helped.
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Around a month or two ag, I called up a frend that i haven't talked to in 5 year. I'm not sure whether to keep talking to her or just to cut the tie. Can you help? (link)
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well why'd you call? you didn't give much information but in any general friendship if you can trust herand she doesn't judge you and...well she's a good friend than you should keep her as a friend. if she's not or she just didn't want to talk to you all those years than don't. basically if you have no reason not to be friends you should be friends. does that help?
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So im gonna get a new cell phone this weekend .. i have verizon. idk which phone to get .. cost really isnt an issue. is the razor good? or the chocolate? i wanna get something reallyyy cool that everyones gonna love. any advice is appreciated (link)
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(this answer is asuming you have verizon).Honestly if those are your two options i would go with the chocolate. i have a razor and i love my phone but it does cost alot and it really doesn't have that many cool features, it doesn't come with any games and it only has a few generic ringtones. it does have a megapixel camera and people do think it's cool(like i said i do love my phone) but the chocolate is newer AND n mp3 player. i think with either of them you would have to buy a different plan for texting so that isn't any different. i think chocolate is more expensive since it's only avialable on the computer but if price is no object i would go with that.
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Okay so I have this friend who I horseback ride with and she's three years younger than me. Well, you wouldn't think that would matter because she acts more mature thatn she really is and it's almost like she keeps me in touch with my innocnet side. (at our age, 3 years is a big difference). However, every time I mention her, my best friend goes, "Ew, you're 5th grader?!" (going into 6th)So my question is is the age difference okay? (link)
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o please your going into 8thor 9th grade and your friend (whom i assume is your age) is going "ew" just becuase you have a friend that's younger than you are. NO it doesn't matter as long as theyre there for you and don't criticize(i know i spelled that wrong) you! if you ask me your friend's the one acting like a grade-schooler. tell him/her that. you can be friends with anyone you want.
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My mom won't let me date till I'm 18 whicu basically is never cause once I'm 18 I can date anyways so its never I want to tell her 13 is a good age but I'm too scared of a NO and I just need advice on how to tell her and what I should tell her like reasons point and ideas please help I do not want to get my first bf and 30 or my first kiss at 28 please help me...
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Yeah i wouldn't want to either but you should probably wait for a guy you really like and really know to come along to have for your first boyfriend. not just want one because 13 is a good age. if you have that talk about him with your mom; let her know he's a really good friend and you really like him and you aren't goona make any stupid mistakes. let her know your independent and you want to be responsible for your own actions and even if she thinks it's a bad idea ane she just doesn't want you to get hurt tell her you have to make your own mistakes. otherwise you may just end up being rebelious and doing something you'll regret. tell her you need to be able to think for yourself; you have to grow up and decide what's best for you, what will make you happy and stronger and more independent(etc.). bottem line talk to her, don't worry. i seriously doubt your first kiss will be at 30.
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so if people agree and think that smoking is bad and alcoholism is bad why do people think that suicidal-minded rock bands and stuff like that push the limiting line of "individualism" is not bad and is just being individually unique? surely you cant say that child pornography is just uniqueness that someone has that you shouldn't try to take away someone from doing because you dont wanna interfere with their individualism? or alcohol addictions or smoking? so what makes the difference?
i just dont understand beccause ive had a number of friends whos fallen into the wrong paths (serious depression cutting themselves and suicidal attempts and one actually killed herself :() after being "emo" and the "misunderstood kid" who's always considered herself depressed. i dont mean to label but a general trend was they listened to songs about deaths 24/7 and stuff. theres no hard proof that emo bands and their intense promoting of "individualism" and "being yourself" beyond the line cause these things but then again, there's no scientific proof that child porn is bad, it just is... so why wouldnt anyone agree with me? (link)
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i totally agree with you that lyrics that promote suicide suck. like i read about some kids that heard the lyrics "just do it" or something and they commited suicide. but not all music labeled "emo" is bad. and being yourself is usually mentall healthier than, well, trying to impress people. but if yourself (or your friends) is someone that is hurting they need to find a way to be happy in thier own skin (counseling or maybe a different home situation). then they shouldn't want to feel like killing themselves or listening to people trying to kill themselves. as for those bands they need help to but unfortunatly we can't be all "hey shut up your making my friend feel bad" becuase maybe telling people is just how they feel better. i'm sorry we can't change the world and make eveyone understand and feel better but atlest we can try to help our friends.
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