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my ex best friend..
Ok, so my ex friend hates me because she thinks i was talking bad about her. i feel pretty bad because i kind of was by telling my guy friend about her, he rephrased what i said to her, so my ex friend thinks what i said was all too wrong. All I said to him was that she dumped me for her new best friend and her ex boyfriend used her, and that's what she told me word-by-word. in a way i feel like it was wrong to say anything (guilty on that one), but my guy friend rephrased it saying her ex used her sexually or whatever and she dumped me and started hating me when her new friend came along. i didn't say any of that...
I feel horrible for saying anything but what she heard was a lie. yet before we argued over this she wasn't treating me like a friend at all. she would always hang out with her new friend and it'd make me mad. i don't mind her making new friends but what she did was inconsiderate. so my question is, what should i do? forget about her and make new friends? or try to talk to her again? thanks in advance
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well i know it really sucks to have the person you tell (or used to tell) everything to not talking to you and it might be hard to stay away but maybe you should stay away for a while, you know just let her cool off. in that period you can get to know other people and make new friends. maybe later when she's not mad and gotten over herself and missing you you can talk to her and explian and maybe patch up your friendship but for now just let her cool off. you'll be fine on your own for while. i hope that helped.
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i had a friend exactly like that. what i advise you to is tell her that you didnt mean what your said to your guy friend in a mean way just. then tell her that the only reason you told him that stuff was because you felt that you guys havent hung out in awhile and were drifting apart. if she still is being a bad friend after you told her that: ditch her. a good friend would care about someting like that
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From what you have written I think that your friendship had run its course. You cannot go on trying to be friends with someone who treats you badly or finds other reasons not to hang out together.
Don't feel bad that this friendship has now finished, but I suggest that you learn from your mistakes regarding other peoples lives and how gossip can be turned around which may cause pain.
When stories are told over and over again, like chinese whispers, the story will change constantly. If you feel that you want to clear the air then I suggest you write her a note explaining the truth. You don't need to ask for forgiveness and accept that she might not even bother to acknowledge the letter.
I also feel that you are being unduly critical of yourself. We all make mistakes and we all have the capacity to learn from those mistakes.
You will, in time, make new friends and your experiences will help to make you a better, more understanding friend. I wish you well for the future and all I ask is that you believe in yourself. All the best.
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