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Q: should i have sex wit my boy friend i am 18 years old should i

if you talk like that, no. You should be mature and ready for what might result into becoming pregnant. So if you dont think you can support a baby right now, use protection or dont even do it all.

Q: how do you know if a guy has a crush on you?

touches you a lot, makes fun of you, compliments you, looks at you a lot..stuff like that..

Q: Is there any way that I would be able to restrict certain sites from my computer? Something like parental controls but I don't have AOL. Thanks.

If you have high speed, well open up your explorer and go to Tools (at the top) and then internet options. Then go to Content and the first button you see will say "Enable" then it comes to a place where you can block nudity, langauge, violence, etc.

Q: heyyy cute column!! i was wondering, at the top you know? where it says lets be firends and rastings instead of what it usually says? how do u get it like that?? thx=)

OK well you can only do it if you have been here long enough. If you get a paid account your aloud to make your own column and edit the columns already made(what I did). Well before we could do it without a paid account so the people that still have it are lucky. like me. I hope itsd not confusing, and paid account started happening a couple months back. So if you can edit columns, tell me and I'll help you out:)

Q: How can you get rid of hickeys. and if you cant, how long does it usually take for them to go away?

Concealer. Like the stuff you put to hide zitz or the bags under your eyes...you could also get this really good cover up at MAC that covers so good it covers up tatoos!

Q: can u get a virus from going into an aol chat room? or talking to someone that is in it? thanks alot

You cant unless you click a link someone gives you. So dont click any links!

Q: OK, my family is getting rid of AOL, which has my aol e-mail account. Through that account, I have my AIM screenname. I don't want to lose that screenname, because everyone knows it and it will be a hassle. How can I keep the AIM screenname even though I am deleting the corresponding e-mail account?

I dont think you can. Once you delete your aol account you cant sign onto aim. I tried that. Just get a smiliar name. Like if your name was hottie567...do like hottie756 haha...sorry if I didnt help much

Q: ok, if this makes any sense, plz help. what are the levels in a relationship? i know there's like friends, dating, kissing, french kissing, etc, but what's after that?

Are you talking about bases? 1st base-kissing, 2nd base-feeling/fingering, 3rd-oral sex, and then home which is sex!

Q: my computer works like a piece of crap. its really anoying, and thats not the worst part, i really really really really really really really want aol instant messenger.i had it but then my dad was like "it ruined are computer" when it was his kazza that gave us viruses. any way the only time i can ever go on is the rare occasion when
i visit my aunt and i have to share the time with my sisters. i know this is a dumb question but i really really really miss aim! thanks!

Well you can try Aim Express! Its like a really bad version of AIM for people that cant download it for whatever reason. All you do is click on AIm Express, sign in..and your there! Go to www.aim.com and on the right side look where it says "Get in touch" and click AIM Express! Its easy, you dont have to download, and you dont get like profiles,icons, or anything...but its better than nothing!

Q: im gonna be going on vacation..and i was just wondering if theres any way to regulate your period..i mean who wants to go on vacation while meenstrating? sometimes my cycles get screwy...i just dont want to menstrate while i go on vacation

Well you cant do anything to change it...it comes when it comes. All you can do is hope you dont get your period! Sorry!

Q: i heard about people being level 2s and 3s and stuff and i was wondering how do you become a level?

Well level 1 moderators you have to be a member for a month and have a average rating of 4 or higher. When your a level 1 you get to rate questions (more info on that from the link everyone gave you). Level 2's , well its sorta hard to become a level 2 because the site can only have 10 at a time. And you just need to rate your questions and stick around for a long time to be a level 2. Now for level 3's, you probably wont ever become one...the level 3's have been here for like 2+ years and can contribute to the site (like with html) and stuff. So its almost impossible to become a 3, really easy to become a 1, and its not that hard to become a 2. Just stick around and you'll at least be a level 1:)

Q: ok i like the scruncy hair look !!! but i havent found a scrunching gel that i really like !! do u have any suggestions??? thanx

Tressemme. You the song tressemme tresseme ohh la la..lol yah that! it works great!

Q: Has anyone ever been in a depressed mood for no reason?

Yup. Its hormones..one time I started crying my eyes out because I couldet get the radio to work..haha

Q: I know that this might sound stupid but, today my mom was just telling me stuff that I don't know about my family, and she told me my sister got pregnant at the age of 21 (shes 28 now) and got an abortion, because she got pregnant not from being raped or anything, just with her boyfriends baby n stuff. I've been brought up to believe women have equal rights, and I have believed in abortions up until now. Knowing that I could've had a nephew//niece, and I don't because my sister got an abortion is really weird. I'm only 14, and I know I'm going to get a bunch of life altering situations, as this one. But, if my sister asks me one day if I believe in abortions, should I tell the truth, and say, no. or yes? Thanks.

Tell the truth. Everyone has a right to believe what they want to believe. Thats your opinion and I dont think she would get mad at you if you told the truth. She's 28 and mature and wont shoot you for being against it.

Q: Theres this guy I like at my school. Since school started, we've been really good friends and I've liked him and we've actually acted and seemed like we were more than that. Everyone around us seemed to think we were. We flirted a LOT.
Well, earlier in this month, he tried to ask this girl out whos a grade ahead of me and him and she turned him down. He really wanted to go with her but he still got over her very quickly. And even through all of this(school started in late August so its been about 4 or 5 months) he's flirted with me a lot and at least in my opinion, we've gotten closer.
So last night, I was talking to him on the phone and his mom got online under his screenname and I talked to both of them for a bit and his mom said I should come over and meet everyone sometime, that was cool. So then Josh and me hung up and he got online. Then he asked me for a picture of me and I asked him what for and he said because his mom wanted to know what I looked like. So I sent him a picture and he said his mom said I was cute. I was like, ok thanks and then I asked him if he thought I was cute. He said "Yes, I do" so then I told him about how people in our school have been telling me constantly that he likes me and I asked him if he really did and he said he wasn't ready to answer that question yet. So then we just started talking about music and out of nowhere he told me that he really did like me but he wasn't sure and stuff. He said, he likes me but he doesn't like me. Like, he's not sure if he wants to start something yet. He also told me that he thinks I only know the "school" him and not the "whole" him. That I only know part of who he is. And I accepted this, I was fine with this. So, I suggested me and him hang out together sometime and he was cool with that. Bottom line, he says he likes me a lot but hes not sure about everything completely yet. And I looked at his sun sign and he's a Libra and Libra's are known for being very indecisive. Now, I really want to get together with him because I'm really into him and well, you get the point, I suppose. But, I just wanna know, what can I do? If anything? Should I just wade it out and let him figure out how he feels himself? Talk to him about it more? Just try and get to know him more and let him get to know me more as friends? What should I really do because I just wanna be with him...?

Well since you dont know the "whole" him yet. Just hang out with him more outside of school and you should wait it out. Once you starting getting to know him better, and liking him more (hopefully)...then he'll probably open up more to you and you guys can hook up. I know it sorta sucks to wait but once you guys go out the wait will be worth it. Good luck, and if you need any more help..leave it in my inbox!

Q: i need so help.. please help me.. what do you do when someone really close to you like a family memeber or a friend doesnt like your boyfriend cause of what he soposivly did in the past? he is a really nice guy when u get to know him but he made a few mistakes in the past and he has changed alot since then.. but my family meber/friend doesnt like him.. and they say they never will.. im ttrying so hard for them to like him.. because i like him alot and want this to last a long time.. and i think im in love with him..

please help me!

i love you stephanie

You dont need family members/friends to approve of your boyfriend. Everyone has someone they dont like, and your friends dont like your boyfriend. You just need to let it go and still be with your boyfriend..and if they talk crap and bug you about it..tell them not to worry because their not the ones going out with him!

Q: I have a problem with my clothes. I don't mind the way I dress or anything...I just feel I need to change something..add more style to me. I usually wear jeans, skateboarding shoes, hoodies and fitted tees/layeredtees, what can I ADD to this to make my clothes more......exciting? Lots of tips would be great, and I'll rate you a 5 no matter what.

Try wearing braclets, cool looking neckalaces, wrist bands..stuff like that. Maybe even try to wear new colors. Like lets say you like wearing a lot of dark colors: purple, brown, black, etc...try a light blue or light purple..or pink..hope I helped a little!

Q: Are you suppose to wash your hair everyday?Not Because I wash my hair everyday.Someone told me It like ruins the hair or bad for it.Thanx

You could wash it every other day. And just wash your body everyday. So on the days that your not washing your hair, just put your hair up or put a shower cap on.

Q: i was laying on my bed and out of nowhere..my left leg started to have a really sharp pain and i can't walk right now. it's right at the back of my leg right below my knee. what could of happened? i played 10 hrs. of volleyball today - could that be the cause?

You probably pulled a muscle. Wait a few days and if the pain isint gone, go to the doctor. I had that exact pain because I didn't stretch out for dance, and like 3 days later it was ok. So i think you be fine!

Q: this guy who likes me (Kyle) and i like him well we haven't gotten into a relationship just yet! but there is a rumor that me and another guy (Mark) are going out! and when i see Kyle looking at me when i'm flirting with Mark! and that gets him upset. what do i do? and what if mark does ask me out?! what do i tell kyle?

If you guys do go out, just tell Kyle that you and Mark are going out. Thats all you can do. He might get upset but you cant always have what you want. Also, keep fliritng..its fine..do what you want..even if it makes kyle mad..you guys arent going out so yeah.