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ok, my boyfriend is shy enough not to be able to kiss me. we've been going out for a while now and theres only been 1 hug. and 0 kisses. Since i kno he loves me and i kno he's too shy to kiss me, i decided to make the move (cheek tho) i was planning on saying "_____ come here, i need to tell you a secret" and when he leans over to hear, i kiss his cheek...but is there any better wayto kiss him? Thanks. bub byezz

i like that idea..but if you two are alone just cuddle with him if your at the movies,by a pond, etc and after awhile look him in the eyes and just go in for the kiss. saying what you were going to say is a good idea..but not saying a word is also good

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My good friend is having a pool party tomorrow and she invited many people to go. One of the people going is her boyfriend. I don't think I have ever hated anyone more than I hate her boyfriend. He treats me like shit, he treats HER like shit and they honestly make me sick when I see them together. I originally wasn't going to go because of the fact that he was going to be there, but then my friend Cara convinced me to go as well as my boyfriend. I made the decision not to go because I don't want to start anything with them. I know everyone is going to be there to have a good time, and I want to have fun but I CANNOT have fun if he is near me. I can't even begin to describe how much I loathe her boyfriend. I sort of feel bad that I'm not going but I know I'm making the right choice in staying home because I don't want to ruine it for anyone else just because I'm going to be misterable. But my question is, do you think I should go anyway? She really wanted me to go but I seriously will not be able to keep my anger inside if I see them together.

if it was me i would go. i would go and keep AWAY from the guy...just hang out with your other friends. i would also call my friend and explain everything...about how you were thinking of not going but decided you couldnt miss out. Explain if you feel like things will gget out of hand you are going to have to leave early nd you hope she understands. just try going and having fun..if things start gettting crazy...leave earlt. if i were your friends i would be happy just with the fact you will try

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OK, this may seem weird, but it's something that really scares me. Im really scared of being kidnapped. Now that it is summer, i really need to keep my window open, but what if someone cut the screen? If my parents are already in bed, I go around the house, checking to make sure every door is locked. I wanna stop being afraid. Am i being way too paranoid? HELP ME !!! I RATE HIGH

i think you are paranoid because if someone wanted to get you that bad..they can always break your window. just try concentrating on not living your life in fear. if you really dont feel safe sleep with a knife by your bed oor something

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hey..ummm..well i like this guy...but he has a girlfriend and his girlfriend is one of my good friends. But she is gone for 2 years..so..how should I get him while she's gone..or is that wrong? please help! :)

Dee

i dont think its right to do that..i know how tempting it is..but think about how hurt your friend would be if she ever found out..think about your conscience..you would feel horrible. i would however talk to the guy and saay something like "wow..i cant believe your gf is gone for 2 years..are you going to end it with her or stay together?.." see his response..
you can get a friend of yours to tell him "you know..i really think (your name) likes you...what do you think? and if he says yes..wait until he breaks up with her.
it would be a lot easier if someone else camee into your life but i know how feelings are trust me..
good luck!

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hey,
ok my boyfriend, Ben told me to call him in a half hour like, 45 minutes ago. His ex *who is my friend* Grace told me that she knows Ben and that i should play hard to get. Funny thing is, they broke up so i dunno if i should listen to her. She said just wait for him to call me, but i dont want him to think i'm dissing him. should i listen to Grace? PLEASE HELP! I'LL RATE HIGH!!!

no i dont think you should listen to her..she could be jealous or something. theres no reason to play hard to get so just call your bf in another 15 minutes or so

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ok, well my friend got raped by her dad and is abused. I dont know if he does it alot, or if he did it just once, but still, my friend is in deep shit if she dosent tell anyone. Fortunatly she told me cause we're really close, but she didnt tell the social worker *she was adopted* cause she said she dosent want her world to turn upside down and change. She told me to keep it as a secret and when she told me i was half asleep *i'm awake now* so i promised i wouldnt tell anyone that could arrest him or anything. Should i tell my parents and make her suffer but have her world the way it is and how she wants it to be? or should i break my promise to my friend and tell my parents? Please help, it's a big problem! i'll rate high!

definately tell someone so she can help and her asshole of a dad can get what he desserves. its only hurting her by not telling anyone. i bet the longest she will stay mad is a few days (she might noot even get mad) and then she will realize what you did was the right thing

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How do I let a guy know I want to kiss him? What kind of signs should I give him? And how do I approach this whole thing? Please give me any other advice or suggestions because im going for my first kiss soon!

ok it depends on the setting of where you are..if your at a party l;ets say..just leavee you two together and look up at the stars and talk about how b eautiful the moon is..llook into his eyes and look at his lips..gradually get closer to him and hopefully he will join in too and get closer..snuiggle and look at him..then go for it!

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I am 13 and a girl who has never had a boyfriend and I think think this is my chance.There is this boy who has gone to mostly every school I have gone to(were in the same grade).But I think he likes me.Its like he has been drooping clues like he stares at me all the time with this serious look on his face,he saved me one time(if thats what you wanna call it)because I was walking and I wasn`t waching where I was going so I was about to bump into the wall then he said somthing to me then that made me look up,and his friend heeps on looking at me.So how do I figure out if he likes me without talking to him and can you give me information on how to tell if a boy likes you.

well these are some pretty good signs..if you want more i would do things like:
-give him your number and tell him to call to hang out sometime...i bet he will call you right away or a few days later

-at parties does he ask you to slow dance?

-play truth or dare...if one of his friends dares u to kiss him..you can guess that the guy probably told his friend to dare you.

-another thing you can do is ask one of his guy friends to ask if he likes you..friends are good at hooking friends up

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Hey.. i'm a girl and i used to look at porn, but i'm really trying to stop. and i want to masturbate, but is there any other way then actually having sex and sticking things "up there"? i mean, i've tried fantasizing.. but it doesn't work.. will rate high thanx!!

yeah you can use your fingers and rub the cliteris..its a sensitive place (not up the hole) but if you rub it long enough you will have an oragasm

have fun

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Ok well today I had sex for the first time and it kinda went bad because it only lasted for about 5 min becuz my partners penis kept falling out!!! It was his first time to so I don't know if it was my fault or his..it was really akward after we stopped..because we didn't talk until I told him I was going home. I just don't know what to do should I call him or something and tell him im sorry? Or I don't know PlEASE HELP! ILL RATE 5's!

ok i would call him because sex is an emotional thing...just be like
sorry yesterday was kind of weird..it was our first time and everything..but next tiem (if your planning on a next time) should be a lot better.
then just ask when he wants to hang out or if he wants to do something later.

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Ive had sex wit one guy and everything and Ive been on top and done the whole reg. position. But I wanna know how many positions are there, what are they, and how they work? People always ask me what muh fav. position is and I have no idea. Im not that experienced so I have no idea. I juss wanna know so I wont look stupid in any way and I can know for muhself..Thanks! Hope you all can help me

ok im a virgin but i can still give you some help

-guy on top but hes kind of kneeling and has your legs wrapped around his waist

-guy sitting up and you sitting on top of him


-standing

uphttp://www.sexpositionspics.com/Topic7.html?POSTNUKESID=395b43f5c82eee1b41a8837da0ff0007

http://www.sexpositionspics.com/Article95.html


copy and paste that website..it has more unique positions i cant really describe to you

they have some pictures (non graphic) on how to position yourself for the positions

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yo wut up pasty face
can you shank me real hard ')
peace peace

lol

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I am datin this guy but he checks out all these other girls and today he was like (name) has a nice butt.Then he was like man look at them titties and it makes me so mad what should I do?


sign,
confused

i would break up with him..i would hate that if a guy i was dating constantly did that..you desserve a guy who is totally into you..and wont constantly be checking out other girls and telling you about them

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well i was walking home from school and an old man came up to me he groped me so i punched him in his nose it was the first thing that came into my head,and it started bleeding he told me he was going to press charges what should i do?

you totally did the right thing! i would have laughed at him because no way will you get in trouble...you jsut defended yourself and you did the right thing. i wouldnt be scared..he knows there is no shot in hell he would win this case..plus he doesnt know who you are!

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okay tonight i was at a party and mea nd this guy had a bet at playing basketball..if i lose i have to kiss him and if he loses he has to kiss me..well of course i lost..and we did kiss..but he was like touching my butt and playing around with me..do you think he'll ask me out..or is he just messing around?

it really does depend on the guy. some guys will just mess around with all these girls just to mess around..not because they want a gf. So think about what the guys history is like..is he a playa or does he usually have bf/gf relationships. the best way to find out is to talk to one of his close guy friends and get him to ask the guy if he wants to go out with you..then his friend can report back to you what he said

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Ok, I'll have been going out with my boyfriend for 2 weeks, tomorrow. I've heard rumors that if his g/f wont have sex with him that he dumps them after a month. And I'm 13 and I don't want to have sex. He is having a party next weekend and invited me to it. Its a pool/birthday party at his house. If my mom lets me go, I'm going. But if that rumors true...he well might wanna ya know. What should I do?

please listen to me...if the rumor is true and he starts making moves on you and wants sex...dont give in!! say no because your only 13 first of all./..plus you definately dont sound ready..save it for later on in your life...just tell him no im not ready for sex and you need to understand that. IF he truly cares about you..he will back off right away and not pressure you again. if he keeps pressuring you and brings it up..break up with him because thats a sleezy boyfriend. hopefully that rumor isnt true. just dont give in and have sex with him...save it for sometime special...i know i am! (and im 16)

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how do you know if your bi-sexual ?? because i think i might be but im not sure .. like whatsz a sign of it ?? cuz like .. id have no problem hookin up with a girl or like eatin her out or somethin like that .. idk why but i juss like think its not a big deal .. an could bi-sexual lead to like lesbian ? because seriously i dont have any problemsz with gaysz or lesbiansz but i jus dont wanna be one .. like bi-sexual ? eh aint that bad n i know i proly dont have control over it or not .. but can someone PLEASE HELP ME

i RATE G0OD !!

dealing with what you just told me..yes it sounds like you can be bisexual. Straight girls dont think its ok to eat a girl out. strong signs of you being bisexual is developing a crush on a girl and wanting to do things with her. if you have fantasies about girls..its another good sign your bi. Being bi doesnt mean you lesbian..it could lead up to you staying with girls for awhile.
being gay and bi is becoming more accepted in society...dont be ashamed of your sexuality..its ok!

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Okay well im in 8th grade, class of 13-2boys 11girls (yes it sucks), and we're graduating next week.. we've all been together since pre-k so we're all extremely close and well i like one of the boys and i want to tell him really bad but im scared it will change EVERYTHING, i was gunna wait til the summer but still i dont know how, im not really shy im somewhat of the crazy/wild type but when it comes to telling someone that u like them im like all weird i guess.. but yeah idk what to do

have a friend tell him you like him..
write him a note
tell him online
call him
talk to him in person..just say your seein him as more of a bf than a friend



any one of those ways will work out great...gather all the courage up and just go for it...dont chicken out because you will so regret it!!!

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Hey Icey, Thanks for the advice. You are really cool. Lets meet. Do you live in New York? If so are you near Liberty. If so, meet me tomarrow (Tuesday) in the 900 wing of the Liberty High School. OK? Peace baby cakes.

lol...my friends are funny arent they.

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Im a 16/f and my boyfriend is an 18/m(duh lol) and we have been dating for 1yr and 2 weeks... are aniversary is on the 22nd of this month and he is graduating on thursday.I want to plan an amazing night for me and my boyfriend...because things are getting better. What should I do to show him how much I really love him... because i want to make this night perfect. He likes my cooking but i want to be alone with him. So give me a perfect night..thanks

a perfect night...maybe taking a walk in the park and maybe having a picnic dinner..*your cooking* with candles and the works. then during your romantic dinner (choose a park that has a lake if possible..it makes watching the sunset so much better) show him pictures of the two of you from way back in the beginning...talk about "remember when..." all the memories..go online and print out a poem and bring it with you..read it to him and give him a romantic kiss.
then maybe back to his house if nobody will be home to cuddle up and watch a movie..or for a late night swim in the pool if you or him have one(

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