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Q: well I do know the whole "always use a condom" thing, but every now and then its just not there right? SO I was wondering if you keep up with your birth control taking it the right time every day and you dont use a condom what are the chances of gettin pregnant?
As high as what the both control says. I don't know what type of birth control you're using (if you are using any, i dont know if the question is about you or just out of curiosity) but most are about 95% protection.
But remember, condoms are the only thing that can stop you from catching STIs and diseases so you should use one even if you are using birth control.

Q: if a guy says he luves and then wen he wit his friends he starts to act diffrently tease and hurts me but i dumped him but when i did i felt so lonely and empty inside like i'm missing something then i kan't stopp thinking about him should i get back together with him or stay alone until i find someone better?
I know a guy who's like this, we're not dating but its the same sorta thing.
Ask him to come round or go for a coffee with him and tell him that you still have feelings for him but you don't like the way he teases you when hes with his mates.
Hopefully he'll understand, if he seems like he does, then ask him if you two could give it ago. If he says yes then date him again.
But if when you're dating him he carries on teasing you when he's with his mates, then tell him that its not owrking out because he keeps teasing you, dump him, and try to forget about him.

Q: i really need help, the other day i was really drunk and kissed another guy, and i have a bf..its completley killing me and i feel horrible..should i tell my bf, what should i do? has anyone been in this position before..thanks.
I havn't been in this situation but my friend has, it was this guy (lets call him B) and he was drunk and he snogged this other girl. (lets call her L) B told L not to tell anyone (when he was sober) because he had a girlfriend (lets call her M). L told some people, and they told some other people ...... and soon the whole school knew, including M.
M broke up with B, she said that if he had told her straight away that he was drunk and had snogged L and he was sory then she wouldn't have minded. But M didn't like it that B had tried to keep it all a secret.
So, what you should do, is ask your boyfriend to come over, then say 'I'm really sorry, but the other day I was drunk and I snogged this guy, I was drunk and I got silly and I didn't know what I was doing, I didn't mean to hurt you'.
Hope it goes well, xxx

Q: So theres this guuy, lets call him "rick".(( we are both 13)so he always does this thing with me where he will start flirting like he likes me, then when i start liking him, he ignores me completley like he doesnt care anymore. well anyways this has happened about 3 times already. hes not even going to my school next year, so i was trying to forget about him. then he just starts texting me like saying "hey sexy" and stuff like tht. then i flirt back and after awhile its like he gets bored or somthing and just stops tlking without saying anything at all. i have no idea whats up. its like one day he likes me, the next he doesnt even care. i have no idea what to do. what happens if he does it again? should i flirt back or just ignore him? and im afraid to ask him upfront cuz i dont wanna like make it seem like i care too much or turn it into a big deal. what do i do!?!?!
Hi
Just thoght id say that im 13 and in the exact same situation. Except for with me its like il hang out with him outside school and he will be really flirty and at school he ignores me.
Anyway, I think this guy sounds like a player. Hes only in it for the chase.
You should just ignore him


Q: tomorrow i am meetin my boyfriend of 10 months mom. i would like to know some do's and dont's about. i was wondering if it would be okay to wear make-up and what is something to wear. thanks 4 everyone who answers. i will rate
Do's
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* Be yourself, she'll spot if your being fake
*Be polite
*Compliment her, but only on things you think should be complimented, eg. dont say nice things about her awful haircut, say nice things about her gorgeous house (what i mean is compliment her on what you like).
*Wear natural makeup - some mascara, sheer lipgloss and bronzer or blusher.
*Wear a colour cami (tank) in a colour that reflects your personality - eg. if youre calm wear blue, if youre kind wear green, if youre confident wear red, if youre happy wear yellow, if youre daring wear orange, if youre girlie wear pink, if your smart wear white and if your independent wear black.
*Team your cami with skinny jeans and heels, or a knee length skirt and flats

Q: I am not very good at putting makeup on. Also, i am almost all irish...so i dont tan very well so i'm kind of pale. What is a good way to (and a good kind) of makeup to use to make mayself look tanner AND OLDER i look kind of younger than i acutally am.
I'm quite pale too. Recently i went to the Body Shop looking for bronzer but the staff said that it would look too fake and ark on me.
Then they showed me this blusher/bronzer called Shimmer Waves 03. Its really great, its peachy gold shades will will not look harsh on your skin (bronze would). It makes you look slightly tanner as well as adding a touch of shimmer. Its good if you put it on your cheekbones because it really highlights and enhances them. Its fourteen pounds so quite expensive, but worth it. Oh, and it makes you look much more radiant and glowing.

Q: ohkay, everyone is telling me that the world is going to end in 4 days (6-6-06) (the devil's number.) I AM REALLY SCARED OVER THIS. I CAN BARLEY SLEEP. im like pettrified. is what they're telling me true or is a myth? and do you believe it? and should i be scared?

thanks guys.
People tell me that too, but its just because its the devis number. And really, someone just made the devils number up, its not like the devil has even come and said '666 is my number', the devil miht not even have a number.
I wouldnt believe it because there have been so many other dates when the world was supposed to end, and nothing happened.
So chill, dont worry, get busy and take your mind of it.
*+*TropicalBabe*+* &hearts

Q: You will be put on my website for credit of making up the name. All you have to do is give me a name i like and i will use it. The website is going to be exactly like this: www.influxplus.com it will have a forum, games, profiles for members, message sendings, It will be similar to myspace. I rate 5'S FOR A WEBSITE DOMAIN NAME GOOD OR BAD. THANKS!
You could try:

www.partyhouse.com
www.teenarena.com
www.mingleandmeet.com
www.mingleparty.com
www.partypringle.com
www.gossipfriends.com
www.gossipmates.com
www.communityfair.com

Hope i helped,
*+*TropicalBabe*+* &hearts

Q: i REALLY want to shop at a&f and hollister and stores like that. it's not because everyone else does, it's because personally i like there clothes. my parents make me shop at wal mart and it's messing up my social life. i hate wal mart's clothes and shit and my friends ask me why i don't wear the good brands. and it's not like my family can't afford good clothes, because my dad's a multi millionaire. they just don't understand WHY i want to spend so much on clothes. i've made up my mind and don't tell me it doesn't matter what i wear because i'll give you a 1. i need to prove to my parents that shopping at the expensive stores is worth it. and i can't make any money on my own because if i do, my parents say I CANT spend it on a&f and hollister clothes. it's messing up my social life. i wont have friends ever again because i cant wear nice clothes. im done with wal mart so what can i say to my parents so they'll let me shop where i want ?!? i'm old enough to choose where i want to purchase my clothes, especially when my dad was over 1 million dollars.

anything good will get you a 5
i promise
If I were you i wouldn't listen to dangerwrench, mayonnaise and kakeline. I understand where they are coming from, but they havn't really answered your question.
What clothes you wear shouldn't ruin your social life, so when you go out in your walmart clothes just telll yourself you look great and get on with it.
I'm not exactly sure why your parents arent letting you get these clothes. If its because they think its too much money then tell them you'd just like to get some of your clothes from abercrombie and hollister, and that you'll still get some stuff from walmart. You can mix and match your a+f and hollister clothes with walmart clothes. Hopefully, after a while your parents will realise how much better the hollister clothes suit you, and will stop making you get walmart clothes.
Whatever you do, DONT say the whole 'its ruining my social life' thing. They will just say your being a drama queen and will go on about the type of stuff that dangerwrench said.
So, make a compromise, say you'll get clothes from BOTH stores (that means walmart and other stores) and it should work out.
Hope i heped,
*+*TropicalBabe*+* &hearts

Q: Ok, this guy asked me to a school dance. But, he is fat, and he is a real nerd. He was the first to ask me. Im afraid that people will laugh at me for going with him. I really want to go because it will be fun and we get to go to six flags afterwards. What should I do? Go to the dance with the fat nerd... or stay home?
Why is evryone being mean to you?
Its like, i totally understand where you're coming from, and yeah, i know its mean and a bit shallow. But when you're a teenager in high school there's alot of pressure and i know i would rather turn him down and say i just wanna go with some friends than have people laughing at me and teasing me.
The other advice columnists might think im selfish and horrible, but its hard at high school.
Anyway, soz about that, i'll answer your question now. Really, i think that you should tell him that you just feel like having a laugh with your friends and going with them, tell him he can come with you and your friends, but you dont wanna go with a date.
Hope i helped,
*+*TropicalBabe*+* &hearts

Q: hey i was going to get my hair done (colored) a certain highlight of blonde. The kid of blonde i want is NOT very "yellowish?" haha sorry i dont know how else to describe it...i think it is a really light blonde, but how would you describe this to a hair dresser? (color not highlight type)
Thanks :)
Probably ash blonde, thats quite light but not at al yellowy, but the best thing to do would be to look through magazines and show your hairdresser a piccie of a certain celeb whos colour you like.
Hope i helped,
*+*TropicalBabe*+* &hearts

Q: i have medium brownish/reddish/golden colored hair with brown eyes and slightly tan skin. i have trouble finding the right clothing...everything looks boring on me! what are some good ideas for fashion styles/colors that would look awesome on me??
Well, if you think that everything looks boring on you then go for bright colours, green is very fashionable right now, and you could also go for turquoise and yellow.
White will look good too, and i often find that navy suits people with your colour hair (i have a friend like it, with sort of blondey/brown/red hair), you could go for for a navy and white striped top as this is totally fashionable and would really suit you.
Hope i helped,
*+*TropicalBabe*+* &hearts

Q: I really need some help with my make-up application because I SUCK at it!!!

I have brown hair, brown eyes and a fairly pale, uneven complexion. I don't get many spots but have loads of blackheads, which has made my skin look a little blotchy. I have very long eyelashes and quite like my mouth because I have full lips but I don't know how to make the best of what I have.

I need to know what sort of colour eyeshadows and lipsticks I should wear, how to apply them and so on. Also, if anyone has tips on eyeliners and foundations, that would also be helpful because the foundation I picked out is too dark!!
You have brown hair, brown eyes and pale skin so you're probably a cool medium (you can be different types).
I think you should make the most of your lips and lashes by applying volumising mascara and sparkly gloss.
You would also suit silver, blue and taupe (browney-cream) for eyeshadow as it will bring out your eyes.
Go for dusky pink blusher and bubblegum pink glosses.
You would look great with dark brown eyeliner!
Whatever you do, never wear lime eyeshadow orangey blusher cos they really wont suit you.
To find the perfect foundation, try this:
1. make sure you buy the right type for your skin - if you have if you have dry/uneven skin then go for creams. If you have normal skin then go for liquid, powder or tinted moisturiser. If you have sensitive skin then go for gels. If you have oily skin then choose matte. If you have combination skin then pick powder.
2.go to the shops and have a testing sesh, make sure you're not currnetly wearing any foundation.
3. pick three shades close to your skintone then apply them on your jaw.
4. stand near a window and look into a hand mirror, the colour which you can see the least is the one you should buy.
5. remember that your skin looks darker in the summer, so you should also buy on a shade darker.

Hope i helped,
*+*TropicalBabe*+* &hearts

Q: im supposed to think of 3 different types of songs for our 8th grade farewell dance (im on student council) and i need a "Rap/hip hop" song, a "slow" song and a "overall" song..by overall they mean how the year meant..and it was good and bad and i cannot think of ANY!

5s for anything.and i mean anything!
Rap/hip-hop;
SOS - Rihanna
Run It - Chris Brown
My Humps - Black Eyed Peas
Pump It - Black Eyed Peas

Slow:
Stick Wit U - Pussycat Dolls
We Belong Together - Mariah Carey
Dont Forget about us - Mariah Carey
So Sick - Ne-yo

Overall: (the year has been different for everyone but i think the following would be good)
Put your records on - Corrine Bailey Rae
Feel Good Inc. - Gorillaz
Dare - Gorillaz
I predict a Riot - Kaiser Chiefs
Touch the sky - Kanye West

Hope I helped,
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Q: im moving into a new house, so i get to totally re-do my room. i want to do someting either vintage or retro. i need everything from curtains to blankets,furniture to paint, anything you can think of or find online.i dont know exactly how much money i get to spend on my room yet,so please try to find things that dont cost TOO much.
whatever you can find from either styles, or things i can make,ect. would really help!thanks!
Hye, i love retro and polka dots and stripes too and im thinking of making my room like that. I think a good idea would be to have comfy bean bags, polka-dot duvets, lava lamps and bright colours.
Hope i helped,
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Q: I know this may seem stupid. but i cannot stand freaking "popular" people. i have an advice collumn, and everyday i have a different message in my inbox from them like "stop being jelous of the popular people" or "why dont you wear preppy clothes and dress like everyone else? you'll never be popular if you do." and i sware im not jealous, and i wear all the same clothes they do. why do they think there the best? there really not that great. and i know im not a loser, so why do they call me one? they are all extremely mean, and full of themsleves. i dont want to be friends with them, but is there any way i can make them stop this? i really cant take it anymore and its really lowering my self esteem. pleaes i need help as soon as i can get it! thank you so so much!
love always.

oh bye the way if you are one of the popular people at your school, i'm really sorry im not being steriotypical and saying all popular poeple are like that. so please dont take thi the wrong way!
Hey, i'm not one of the popular people and i know what you mean, because they're 'popular' (popular people usually arent really popular, usually everyone knows who they are, but the 'unpopular' people have just as much, or more friends than them) they get big headed and think they're better than everyone else. Its like with celebs, cos everyone knows who they are they start to get big headed and try to take advantage of people just because of that.
They think that they can get away with more because no one is going to stand up to them.
I think the only way to stop then from doing this to you is to stand up to them, if they do something you dont like then say something. The key is to bring them down to earth, to show them that they're not better than everyone else.
If one of them ever comes up to you and says something like "I got this really cool new top, it was really expensive' in a sort of bragging way, then simply say 'cool' and carry on with what you were doing. If you ignore them then they'll think you're jealous, but if you make a big deal out of it it will make them big headed. So just saying 'cool' is the best.
If you sit next to them in class, talk to them about things like the how hard the work is. You're not gonna become friends with them by doing this, which is good because i know you dont want to be friends with them, but they will realise that you're equal to them (again. being casual with them is the best, cos you wont make them more big headed or sound jealous) and they will probably stop it.
Hope i helped,
*+*TropicalBabe*+* &hearts

Q: I've never had a boyfriend befor. Whenever im upset i just want one so bad because i want the feeling someone loves me and that there is someone there i can talk to. I think im pretty and so do my friends but im a little chuby. Im blonde,tall,pretty eyes, and im very nice. The only problem is that im really shy. I try to be outgoing but i care to much about what people think. How do i get over that? How do i get a b/f? Thanks to everyone that answers my question and ill rate high for good answers.
Guys do like outgoing girls and i know how you feel, cos im uite shy too.
First - wear what you like, dont think 'oh thats nice, but i dont think i would ever have the corage to wear it because its quite bright/skimpy/unusual' - dont care about what other people think, just wear that top/skirt ... whatver .... that you like.
It might be hard at first to not care what anyone thinks, but just wear what you like, go out and try not to think about what anyone else is thinking, just think 'i really like this top, its so cool that i bought it'.
Also, to seem more outgoing you need to wear maybe, um, sexier clothes, go out with either - a mini skirt, crop top, backless top, boob tube or a cleavege-flashing top, you might think these sound slutty but if you wear, say, a mini skirt with a tank top and a jacket it wont look slutty. If you're going out somewhere (like to a party) then i think its ok to wear a boob tube/backless top with a mini skirt, but not a crop top with a mini skirt. But whatever, its bst t just wear one of those items of clothing all the time.
Guys like confident girls so at first, just fake it, go out of the house while thinking to yourself 'im gorgeous and all the guys love me' cos you will start to believe it and that will make you more confident.
At school/college/uni if anyones having a light convo (say about last nights tv, the school disco or whether orlando or johnny is cuter) then join in.
This should make you seem more confident, sexy and outgoing.
Hope i helped,
*+*TropicalBabe*+* &hearts

Q: hey every one its my birthday and i want to have a party but i dont kno wat to do it's gonna be boruing because i diont kno wat to do plz help me =]
If your birthday is in the summer then you could have a garden party, set up a marquee where people can dance and play loud music, have a barbeque (with veg kebabs for the veggietarians), you could set up a volleyball/tennis net, have a basketball hoop. In the marquee you could have half of it filled with bean bags and stuff. And on the patio (if you have one) have tables and chairs. People can chat, play sports, dance, eat .... etc.
You could also do a theme, maybe of your fave tv show (big brother is a good one, i have done it and we made our very own diary room with camcorder and put BB eyes around the house), a-list (dress up as a celeb), hawaiian, cavemen (well cool, you can all wear furry skirts and boots!) and tons more.
You could have a disco, ask your mates if they have disco balls and put them on the side/hung from ceiling. You can also get other types of flashing lights and serve people cocktail-style drinks but with no alcohol (or with alcohol if your older). If you do decide to have a disco then its good to let the boys have breakdancing competitions and play limbo!
Hope i helped,
*+*TropicalBabe*+* &hearts

Q: I have freckles all over my face and am thirteen years old. three questions-
- are freckles considered pretty in today's society?
-what are some good techniques (ie: masks, serums, ect)
-good makeup to cover them up?

thanx!
I have freckles and i'm proud of them, you cant see them much in the winter, but in the sun you can and i think they make me look more tanned.
Ive heard alot of people say that freckles are really pretty, so dont worry, but if you do really hate them, then stay out of the sun/wear high protection sun lotion, use a concealer that is just slightly lighter than your skintone (not so light you can tell when you wear it, but light enough that it covers the frekles) or just use bronzer to go over them so you can see the freckles faintly, but not much.
Hope i helped,
*+*TropicalBabe*+* &hearts

Q: hey, this is a dumb question but im gonna ask it. why do people tend to eat when they are bored? caitt♥
Ive done this before, you do things when you are bored right? So people eat when theyre bored because they have nothing better to do, and also if youre sitting around doing nothing then youre more likely to notice that youe hungry, if you were busy then you would take your mind of it.
Also, its effortless to just grab some food!
Luv,
*+*TropicalBabe*+* &hearts

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