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Q: Well, it's been, like, eight months since I've been dating this guy, Dane. He's really sweet and funny... And he's my second boyfriend, so this is kind of big for me to have been dating someone for so long like this.

The farthest we've been is holding hands, and we used to hold hands all the time at basketball games and stuff, in front of all of our friends. People would laugh and make fun of us, but we would just laugh along because in our minds, we both know they have never felt like this before.

Well, when we first began going out, he used to tell some of his friends (who told me) that he was going to kiss me soon, but that never happend. Now, he doesn't even hold my hand anymore like he used to. I'm just afraid; is he embarrassed? Is he scared? Or is he just not very interested in me anymore as much as he used to be?

guys do not read minds. You should just casually say at some point when you're alone together."you could kiss me if you wanted to" that puts the move directly on his part. if he kisses you, awesome! if he doesn't, then maybe you are growing apart instead of closer together.

Q: sorry this is so long!!! i really really like my bf but hes the type of guy that dates alot of girls and i found out he cheated on one two. what i want to know is how do i make sure he never cheats on me or breaks my heart because the last bf broke my heart extremely bad.i really dont want to go through that again! so far its going fairly well and i kind of feel that he really might like me but im still afraid that its just a game hes playing( which by the way if he is hes playing it very well). he is probably the hottest guy ive dated and i really dont want to loose him so how do i make him see that im the type of girl that he can stay truthfull to? that im a girl he can keep. hes not in my grade so i cant keep my eye on him 24/7 so how do i make sure hes not messing with any other girls and esspecially in a way that he doesnt ever find out because i dont want to freak him out or make him think im a stalker. i just want to be with him for as long as i can. any advice will help. thanks for reading!!!

unless the girl he cheated on was treating him like shit, you are in for a heartbreak, if he's the type of guy who dates a lot of girls then why don't you just make sure that you tell him up front that you're a one guy type of girl and you're worried he's not and see what he says. If he professes his love for you, great, if he tries to change the subject it's because he is trying not to lie directly to your face and you should get out before you get hurt.

Q: We got this little slip in the mailbox while we were away from the countys sheriff department and it said to call but it's sunday and there not open and it had a reference number on it. Whats the reference number mean? Could this mean you could be in trouble? thanks.

the reference number is to help them find out why you are calling them,. The sheriffs department is not closed, you just have to call them and someone will answer who can tell you what it's about. Likely something happened in your neighborhood and they want to know if you noticed anything unusual. Don't worry about it.

Q: my school is doing a fundraiser for school supplies for
poor people & my parents found out. so they filled up
a whole BIG barnes & noble bag of supplies.

i don't want to carry a huge bag to school, looking like
a moron for bringing so much stuff (and it's not that i
am selfish and don't want to donate to the poor, but i
don't want to have to sort it all out when i get to school.)

i can't pre-sort because it's in one bag. and i dont want
20939583243 bags inside the big barnes and noble bag.

and i can't submit a little each day either because they
are only being collected on monday.

& DO NOT suggest that i am helping out the poor
because i won't rate you a 5 if you do.

please advice?

rating smating. Help out. you post a question on a free advice forum and bitch about helping others?

Stand out front of your school looking helpless and find a person you have a crush on and ask them to help you.

Q: Well, this is a pretty weird question.
There is this one guy who is 4 years older than me that I've grown quite close to -- over the internet. I know, don't trust strangers you meet online. But I know he's real b/c of cam, pictures, phone, and letter.

I wrote him once & he wrote me back once. We talked on the phone 2 or 3 times/we talked on the mic a lot. He got on his cam quite a lot [G rated thank you very much...except that time he chucked his sword into is door...that was pretty cool].

Anywhos, I talked to him for about a year but then he had to leave for culinary school and things got bleh and I really miss him since I haven't been able to really talk to him for a long time now. I was thinking of maybe txting him or calling him one day...or maybe write him a letter to his home address

He lives in cali & I live in VA. I'm 14 soon to be 15 and he's 18 turning 19 in november.

I haven't talked to him for about half a year now? Okay, 10 months about. Would it be weird if I wrote him a letter?

You won't like this answer but I am going to give it anyway. He's eighteen, joining the adult world, becoming a man and you are a jailbait school girl who is three thousand miles away. Wait till you are 18 and try to look him up, or find a friend your own age in the same state you live in to talk to.

Q: ...Anywho is it possible to give yourself and orgasm i mean i know that sounds really weird but someone was saying something about it and yeah if you can any ways how to??????thanks in advance

some women don't have orgasms till they are in their twenties, many women are wired up differently, play with yourself and maybe you'll get lucky, but if you don't have an orgasm don't worry, it's not unusual.

Q: my brother had this little tiny paper bag in his car which is now my car, the little container paper bag, is all different colors and it has like indian? writing printed on it, and all different colors, at first i thought it was a fire work, but i opened it, and it had a whole bunch of rolled sticks, kind of like joints but pretty small, but instead of like white paper there wrapped in like a dry green leaf, and i can feel something inside them, are they joints? or something else? , please only answer if you know what your talking about, or have messed with drugs before?

sounds like incense to me. people usually dont keep weed in paper bags all rolled up cause it will dry out too quickly.

Q: Hey I was looking for some cheap manikins. http://store.storesupply.com/webapp/commerce/servlet/CategoryDisplay?merchant_rn=631&cgrfnbr=225219
I like the female ones they have on that website but they're really expensive. Does anyone know where to find one's like that only cheaper? Please don't say Ebay. Thanks.

IF you live in a city, go to the Mall and ask if they have any old ones at the major department stores and if not ask them if they know of a wholesaler in your area that sells them.

Q: 14/f
I dont want any stuff like "omg you're wayy to young" "wait a year" because i dont wanna hear it.

So heres the deal, me and my boyfriend have been together for 7 months. tonight we tried having sex for the first time, notice the word tried. We arent allowed to in the first place so it was a little hard. He brought a condom. So we made out did foreplay, that kind of stuff, foreplay was rushed, we had a limited amount of time. He put the condom on and his penis started like geting unerected. So we were sitting there trying to get it into me. Didnt work. So he takes the condom off and I give him head again. He puts the condom on. And his penis get unerected. Well, this happened 3 times all together and by then I was pissed. So his penis wouldnt go in, I wasnt wet enough, and it kept getting unerected.

So my questions are...
Is this normal?
Has this happened to anyone before?
Why do you think it did that?

Please help me
Sorry it was so long
thank you :)

Everything everyone has said so far is totally correct. and to add, I would say that if you're not wet enough that means you're not into it so why do it? but if you're gonna do it anyway then I suggest getting some lubricant to make the process easier on him and you. KY is the most common brand and please, please, please don't try skipping the condom to see if that works.

Q: what is the most beautiful combination of words in the english language?

"tastes just like chocolate"

Q: So i did stuff with my ex boyfriend who has a girlfriend then i told her cuz i felt bad about it but i still really like this guy but anyways she wont let him talk to me anymore now..how can i get him to talk..ive tried emailin he wont write back he doesnt see them cuz she deleted them first or he just doesnt write back he knows my voice on the fone so he hangs up wen he knows its me and hes always with her wen i see him ..i really need to get some answers from him, but i cant get him to talk..any idea?

You totally can blame him for avoiding you since his girlfriend probably told him to. You are going to have to talk to his girlfriend and have her there when you talk to him since he can't be trusted and neither can you.

Q: My USB key has become write protected so I can’t save anything else to it or change what is on it. I can’t seem to figure how to take the write protection off. Anyone know?

the is a brand name software called Bartons virus removal that works for that issue. But if you don't know anyone that has this if would be cheaper to buy a new usb drive.

Q: 2 questions..

i got the Plus White 5 Minute Speed Whitening Gel [in the toothpaste-like tube] and was wondering if anyone's used it and how well it works?

also, i brush my teeth everyday and use whitening toothpaste but my teeth are really yellow! its so embarassing i try not to smile in pics and stuff bc it looks like i smoke or something. its awful! i drink milk 2-3 times a day so i get a lotta calcium and stuff. but its chocolate + i drink tea a good bit but can that really be staining my teeth that bad? i know tons of people who drink choc. milk and tea and their teeth are still white! ahh its aggrivating.

you should brush at least twice a day and try to avoid the tea, chocolate shouldn't stain your teeth.

Q: What are after morning pills?
And I heard that if you drink 2 tablespoons of vinegar before you eat...then I don't know. What's the purpose of drinking 2 tablespoons before a meal?

Thanks very much and don't feel obligated to have to answer both =]

the morning after pill is a form of contraceptive that is taken after unprotected sex to prevent pregnancy.

Taking vinegar before meals is often used as appetite suppressor much like diet pills.

Q: when you dont cuss [unless youre seriously pissed] and you come from a family that doesnt cuss [if they do its hardly ever, and only the words damn and hell, honestly], would it be rude to ask your boyfriend if he can ask his family to tone down the cussing. these people seriously say everything in the book, quite rudely, and its WAY WAY WAY often. like every other sentence no lie. my boyfriend tries to keep it down around me, but his mom and step dad are the worst, and it intimidates me to be around them when theyre like that. should i just live with it? my mom would flip if she knew i was being exposed to a family like that, but i go to see him not them, but it makes me rather uncomforatble to hear "older mature civilized adults" use such vulgarity and talk about people the way they do. agh. 16 female.

Ask your boyfriend to ask them to tone it down. But as someone who is afflicted with this particular habit myself I probably wouldn't do it if asked, especially in my own home. I like to think that language is an art and the words are what color the picture and sometimes harsh colors provide the desired effect. This is probably something you have to live with just don't pick up the habit yourself, your much better off being polite.

Q: do girls like giving blow jobs, or is it just something that girls do cuz the guy asks them to?

boys like getting them, some girls like giving them and some like making the boys happy, some wont do them at all for all kinds of different reasons.

Q: I have a boyfriend,and were both kind of new at this thing! My parents think Im not quite old enough to date him, but I can be his girlfriend!!! Were also both really shy around each other!!Im 13 And female

What can I do to convince my parents to let me date him?

What can I do to be less shy around him?

PLEASE HELP!!!!!!!!!

stop stressing over it. At your age "dating " should only mean that you and him promise not to kiss anyone else. other than that you're just friends like you are with the rest of your friends. Your parents thoughts about you being too young stem from the fact that they don't want you being sexual at your age which is pretty reasonable.

Just think of him as a good friend and act that way.

Q: okay my names kayla im 15 and im a freshmen in high school/ i played soccer when i was in 1st grade to 6th i sadly stoped when my parents got devorcde and my family just moved and im attending a new school and they are haveing freshman tryouts in about 3 weeks i really want go out for the team but there are a lot of kids trying out and i need advice on

what are some ways to get in fast shape for soccer ?

what are some skills will they probley require to make the team ?

what are some soccer moves (tricks) that i should know?

what are some good ways to practice ?

i really want to make this team for a ton of reasons i truly love soccer please help me :)

thanks kaylaa

I agree with the previous post but I would stress even more the endurance part. Run, everyday, run more, run run run.
it being the Junior varsity if you can demonstrate basic skill and have endurance you will look good, just practice a little with basic ball control enough to not look clumsy and run your butt off.

when tryouts start and the coach makes you run, lead the pack so that he/she notices you.

Q: Ok so i told my best friend that if she starts "talking" or going back out with a guy named Jay that i wouldnt talk to her anymore.

And the reason i told her that is because for one, he is rude to me and is an asshole to me.

2nd reason is when jay and my best friend went out they fought almost EVERY day and when i tried to have a conversation with her, ALL SHE WOULD TALK ABOUT WAS THE SAME THING OVER AND OVER AGAIN.. about how they fight abt the same thing. and i got sick of it.

Third reason is that he changed her attitude towards me and more importantly her parents.. he would get mad that she couldnt hang out like everyday (because she has strict parents) and so like he would make her go ask her parents then she would just end up gettin in a fight with her parents bcause she wanted to hang out with him. (and this happen almost every day too)

4th reason, they only knew each other like a week or two and he kept tryin to do stuff with her and she wouldnt.. and he WOULD get soo mad and start a fight about it almost every time they hung out bcause she wouldnt ever mess around.

anyways i confronted her about all this and finally i sayd well if you want to go back out with him then DONT TALK ABOUT HIM AROUND ME... and seriously i dont want her goin back out with him because i know its goin to end up the same way.. but i want to know if i am doing the right thing and if i am not.. then what should i do and what should i tell her?

don't stop being friends but don't sympathize with her anymore either. if she goes out with this guy and they fight you get to say two things to her

1. I told you so.
2. So why don't you dump him then.

that's all you say on the subject, everytime she talks about him say one of those things and she will get the picture.

Q: i was wondering how come when i go onto the myspace homepage it doesnt connect sometimes? when i try to sign in itwill say something like the user has been locked for 15 mins or something. everytime i try to sign on it goes to the page cannot be displayed? how can i fix this?

the only time MYSPACE lockes a page for fifteen minutes is if the wrong password is being entered multiple times in a row. Someone is trying to hack you so i would definately make sure your password is something they will not guess. pick a random word out of the dictionary and put a number on the end.

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i am a work in progress but i pay close attention to everything. I feel it is a good thing to share the knowledge i have acquired in my travels to anyone asking and it brings me pleasure to do so. i have lived in California, Alaska, Idaho, and New Mexico and been married and divorced. I have no children of my own but have fostered several .