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Q: I'm going to a festival from Friday to Monday and I'm trying to pack but I'm sure I've forgotten something. I live in the UK and it's going to be wet over the weekend. So far I've got clothes, wellies, sleeping bag, sleeping mat, tent, food, wet wipes, handwash, dry shampoo, plastic bags, cosmetics/toiletries, tissues, alcohol and a raincoat. Can anyone think of anything else I really need to bring?

tarps, i learned from all my festival days to bring tarps the more the better, one to lay down before you put your tent up so it will stay dry in case it rains and then another one to put over your tent because the the tent covers they come with dont do anything , and bug spray lots of it and extra shoes because the festivals i go to, i always end up getting my shoes mud logged

Q: Hey. Okay so me and my best friend are fifteen, and her mom died this past friday of a blood clot of some form. For the funeral, they have posterboards of random pictures of her and her family. My friend wants to find two quotes that can go at the tops of the boards. Does anybody know any good ones that are good for her mom, or any good sites to look at?

The quotes shouldn't be about like teenage love or anything. They should be moving and promote thought, but also not be dark and gloomy. We (my friend and I) want the quotes to be perfect.

Somone PLEEASE help!?

you don't need a weather man to no witch way the wind blows - Bob Dylan

Life is pleasant. Death is peaceful. It's the transition that's troublesome. -Isaac Asimov

Because I have loved life, I shall have no sorrow to die. -Amelia Burr

if i was no help, go to google.com and type in quotes thousands will come up!

Q: 14/f

My birthday is coming up and I am saving up for a camera. After I get a camera I was to buy an acoustic guitar. It doesn't need to be able to be plugged into an amp or anything, just something simple. How much would something like this cost. Something that is reliable and that can last for years. Thank you.

well.. you can't plug an acoustic into an amp anyways unless you get an acoustic electric..
this is hard question because really the prices varies from store to store and location.. I'd say a normal acoustic is anywhere from $120 to $200 but keep in mind there are a lot of acoustics that are more expensive every store sells them differently. Mine was $190, if you want a cheeper one you can try Ebay.com they always have decent ones with good prices.

17/f

Q: can a girl feel it when a guy cums inside of her?

you can feel the warmness of the cum, well at least i can..

Q: I want to know about this, but I don't want to do it. My boyfrind wants to though. Anywaysssss, when you have booty sex, :P, and the guy pulls his penis out.. Will there be.. "Stuff" on it?

And I don't mean cum, I mean.. Shitt, bahaha.

if you keep your self clean, then no there shouldn't be shaaaaat on his dick hahah. try shitting before you do it haha

Q: why do guys like to give anal sex. I know that most girls don't like it but most guys insist on it. I dont understand why though, just the thought of it to me is gross for both parties...so if any guys could answer this question for me...thanks then

im not a guy but my boyfriend is standing next to me and this is what he said: :" it feels good, it's a diffrent feeling, and it's the best form of birth control" haha, thats why my boyfriend likes it, but i personally don't like it either

Q: does masturbauting give you more pimples/acne?

no.. not unless you cum on your face.

Q: i want to have sex and i'm not old enough.... why do i want to... whats wrong with me??

find someone your age to do it.

Q: 16/F

This is prob. going to sound really nasty but,
when me and my boyfriend have sex on the floor
and im laying flat down on the floor when i get up after sex my pussy makes like a farting noise and it was SO embarrassing. And I mean there is like nothing I can do to stop itt.

Any advice?

it happens when the guy is pumping in and out of you, it can happen even if you arn't on the floor. The air has no where to go is it gets squeezed back out, making the farting noise. It's normal it happens to everyone. You and your boyfriend should be completely comfortable since your having sex, you both should be able to just laugh it off, like my boyfriend and i when it happens we just laugh.. it's not a big deal haha, and if he says anything to you like "gross" well, it's manly the guys fault why it happens haha if they keep taking there penis out and pumping back in, then air gets trapped so, tell him not to do that if he has a problem with it or something haha.

hope that helped

Q: Ok, Im a sixteen year old male.

Me and my girl friend decided it would be romantic to lose our virginity on valentines day- I don't want any lectures about underage sex and what not. We did use a condom.

But she has been complaining about her chest and lower stomach hurting...I'm not wanting to think about it but could she be pregnant? There wasn't a break in the condom so I have no idea...

But I really hope not, I'm not saying that to be mean...But my parents told me if this happened I would be kicked out of my house...HELP.

i don't think its pregnant.

since she was a virgin thats pretty normal to be sore for a few days after sex. You don't even need to be a virgin for it to be sore after sex for a few days its normal. Don't let it get to you. She's not pregnant.

Q: So, me and my boyfriends mom get along pretty good. Except she walked in with me and my boyfriend with me on top of my boyfriend and we were kissing in bed in the dark.
We are a very serious relationship, and I'm never allowed to his house again :(

What willl I do?

try to say sorry to her, and theres not much you can do at this time. You need to let her get over it and she will in time. For now theres always the phone, myspace or go on a date somewhere like the movies since your in public his mom might take comfort on the fact your in public and probably wont do anything.

Q: So...My boyfriend and I had sex the other night. I got off birth control about two months ago and now if somethin happens, hes pressed on getting Plan B. I took it the other night (feb 7). We had sex again last night and he wants to get it again. He never came inside me...and Im supposed to start my period in a few days! I already ovulated this month according to the ovulating calander (they said anywhere from the 21st tul 29th) so i dont think i could get pregnant...but would you suggest I go out and buy the Morning After Pill??

Thanks for your help!

DO NOT TAKE IT, im saying this because your not suppose to take it that close to each other, trust me i did and i ended up with really bad pains in my upper stomach and i had to go to the hospital don't do it and it can mess up your period and make you late if you take it that close, if he didn't cum in you your probably not pregnant wait and see what happens if you don't get your period a week later when your suppose to then thats the time to worry, but right now you haven't missed it so don't worry about it, just don't take the pill that close in time. Go to your doctor if anything and get there advise what to do in your situation

Q: 16/f. So, around the time the new year started, I started dating my current boyfriend. I care about him a lot because we were friends before dating and we can tell eachother anything. Anyways, my dad doesn't like him, at all. He thinks that my boyfriend has "no personality", no direction in life, and only after sex. When I first found out how he felt about him, it really hurt, because he's actually the complete opposite. My dad is also very overprotective in general: I'm only allowed to go to the mall or some other secure location like a friend's house(if the friend is a girl of course), no guys are allowed at my house, and I am only allowed to sleepover at 2 of my friends' houses. Anyways, my boyfriend is quite the opposite. He used to take me to cool stores and restaurants and I would go to his house. However, I did all of that without my parents knowing. He would get very angry if he found out. Recently, however, things started going downhill. My bf came to visit me one day at my house and my dad got furious and didn't let him in the house. After that, he tried seeing me again, because it was our anniversary. He didn't go to my house but waited nearby so I could go outside. My dad found out he was nearby because he picked up the phone in the middle of our conversation. Then he yelled at him and told him to go home. Since that day, I've been grounded. I'm afraid that I'll still be grounded on valentine's day. :( And this all stinks because I think that my dad needs to get over it. I mean, I understand that he's concerned that I'll get pregnant or just hurt in general, but I know that I am mature and can make intelligent decisions. I have really good grades in school and don't do drugs or drink. I help around the house too. But I tried talking to my parents about my bf, but my dad just "knows" that this guy is bad news. It's just really unfortunate because I don't even go to the same school as him, so how will I ever see him if my dad keeps me on lockdown? Any suggestions? Thanks.

You should sit your dad down and talk to him, maturely and ask him why he doesn't trust you, you said you don't drink or anything so if you have never done anything to make him not trust you then he should, also get your mom involved ask to sit down with both of them and talk about it, if your dad would go for it get you, your boyfriend and your parents together for a dinner one night to try to get to know him. Tell him what you told us, how you feel about him and how he needs to let go of his little girl and let you be your own person tell him your plans on sex, and that you know your to young(if thats what you think or want him to lol) let him know that your responsible to make good decisions and if you have a cell phone tell him it's okay for him to call and check up on you if it makes him feel better.

goodluck hope i helped

Q: I'm in 8th grade and I heard a lot of stuff 'bout high school. I heard about cliques (which kinda scared me) and about the work gettin harder and gettin more of it (more school work, that's impossible). So I need some trues or fakes. Are there the cliques? Is the work harder? Is there more work? Will it all be worth it? Am I gonna lose my mind on the first day? (please don't awnser that last one). Ok, 1 more question. What will high school really be like? I fu can help, then thnx. If not, then thnx anyway. Laters!

it depends where your located really, like all schools are diffrent. im from a small town so theres about 560 kids in my highschool witch itsnt a lot and yeah there are so cliques but middle school was a lot worse people in high school are more excepting i think. The work in our school was ALOT easier then middle school i thought by far. The first couple days your there is a little intamidating but just be nice to people and youll be okay it gets easier after the first week

Q: why do girls get cramps when they get their period?

well cramps are when the uterus muscles tighten and then release i was told it was your bodys way of preparing for when the day comes and you give birth there like mini contractions or something like that

Q: okay so my girlfriend is pregnant and she dont get her period does that mean the baby is like drinking the blood?

....is this a serious question?

anyways the reason she isnt getting her period is because shes pregnant... when your pregnant you dont get your period.. NOT BECAUSE THE BABY IS DRINKING THE BLOOD! when a girl ovulates.. (produces an egg )and it doesnt attach to the uterus then the uterine wall will shed.. causing a period but since shes pregnant the wall isnt going to shed because theres a baby attached to it... If your going to be a father you should probably really no this...

Q: Okay im 17 and i love my boyfriend to death! We have talk about babies a few times and we both want one but our only problem is that we have no money so we dropped the subject, well atleast he did. I really want one but i dont know why. I thought it was just a faze but i been wanting one for awhile now! I love babies. Im going to college to be a midwife and ultrasound tech. Its a possibility that i may be pregnant now but i wont know til this weekend. I dont know how he will react if i was but if im not i may be real upset. I dont really like kids though lol well kids that im not use to. They all seem so bad but my lil brother is one of the baddest kids i know and i love him soo much! Maybe because he was raised around me so he listens to me. Hummm i think i would be a good mother and i know i would love my kid even as it grows cause i mean its mine. What do i do? Do i talk to him about having one? Or just keep praying that the subject pops up and he tells me that he's ready? Im young but i know i can do it. i dont know help? =]

I have that same feeling to, im pretty sure a lot of girls do.. since its out instinct to have kids. My friend got pregnant when she was 16 not meaning to she just had her baby.. she had to drop out of school to get a job.. she literally works all the time and when shes not working shes with her boyfriend and baby we NEVER she her, but we understand. You may seem like your ready but if you dont have a stable job then dont get pregnant its just going to cause problems wait until your out of school with a stable job that brings in good money. im 17 and i wanted a baby really bad, i love my boyfriend to death and i thought we were ready and so did he we tried to get pregnant even but i didn't and im glad for that because im still in highschool and i have a job and so does my boyfriend but its nearly not enough money to support a child. Seeing my friend and how much she has to work just to bring in the least amount of money possible to raise a child is scary, just wait until your older, have a place of your own and are REALLY ready. Think of all the things you do probably now, and how much of those things you will be able to do with a baby... not much. It will be so much easier for you, a baby and your boyfriend if you wait.. trust me

Q: Female.i am very big boned, muscular, 6 feet tall and 15 years old. other than the fact that i am larger than most guys at school, one of the things i hate are my boobs. they have always been saggy, thats even how they grew. i refrain from wearing low cut shirts because if anyone even sees my clevage, ...it just doesn't look nice. I am a 40B and those bras don't even fit right. I have never actually had a bra that fits me right, do to the fact that my boobs are about 2 inches apart from eachother and they sag so much that a bra wont even make them perky. A professional measured "special" bra is not an option for me.what the hell am I supposed to do?!?My grandma had perkier boobs than I do. Even though nobody knows they are like that, it is still so humiliating. i don't think i could ever let a guy see them . What can i do? Does anyone else have this problem?!?

theres these things i saw on tv that you clip on the back of your bra making your straps almost touching and it lifts your boob, it looked pretty cool it also brought them together im from NY so i don't know if you get the same channels or whatever but look for it or type a description in google and try to find it. I also saw another add last night for saggy boobs it almost looked like a gerrtal but for your boobs haha it looked pretty cool you could try getting something like that if its that bad

Q: what's an orgasm??
how do you know when your having one??

an orgasum is when male or female reach there climax( when masturbating or having sex the highest point of pleasure) for a girl clear liquid usually is ejaculated from the vagina. For a male he Comes, as in sperm, semen

Q: i was unresponsible and had unprotected sex. when should i take a pregnancy test? i know 5 days before your missed period but i don't really understand because i don't know if i'm like going to miss it for sure. i'm almost positive i'm not, i just want to be totally sure.