Hello Everyone. I am Kaci. I am 18. I may be young, but I can give some good advice. If you ever need anything at all, do not heistate to ask. I'll help the best I can.
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17/f. Ive been with my boyfriend for a year and a half but theres a guy in my class that realllly likes me. We have always been good friends but now hes like in love with me and its sooo uncomfortable. He raps and he actually wrote me a song and rapped it in the middle of class, & in the rap he asks me to be his valentine. I dont know how to turn him down without ruining our friendship or make it awkward. Please help! (link)
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You have to be straight up with him. He obviously doesn't get the fact that you are in a serious relationship.
You just need to be like, "I appreacite your effort of asking me, but you know I have a boyfriend; and I only see you as a good friend. I love the friendship we have, so please don't put me in the middle like this."
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What age do most girls loose their virginity? i am 13 is that ok? (link)
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I would say when they are married, but in this time in day, most girls begin to lose their virginity around 16-19.
Personally, you are too young to be having sex. When I was your age, I use to want to have sex, but than I realized that if I got pregnant, I would be TOO young for a kid, and my parents would disown me.
Whats the rush in having sex? Whats in it for you? Have you found a guy who will love you for enterity? DO you want to have regrets?? Once you start having sex, it will be hard for you to stop. Than you will end up with multible partners, and you will never have a stable relationship because guys will think that you are easy, and you probably will be. No guy will want a relationship with a girl who lost their viringity at 13, and no guy will want to be with someone long term because they won't respect you, because you don't respect yourself.
If you are seriously wanting to have sex, than you need to talk to your dad or mom about getting put on birth control. If you are too scared because you think they are going to be mad, than thats a sign that you aren't even responsible enough to be having intercourse.
God forbid that you get pregnant. All it takes is one time. One times and thats it. HOw would you feel walking around your school, pregnant? The mean stares, gossip, and even your teachers looking down upon you?? That stuff really happens. You could always put it up for adoption; but personally, abortion is out of the picture; why blame an innocent child's life just because you wanted to open your legs AT 13, and get pregnant?
Thing long and hard. Guys will respect you more if you still have your virginity.
This is what helped me get my virginity.
I always thought about the day I got married, and went on my honeymoon.
I thought about having my husband, and him telling me that he saved himself me for me. That I am his first, than I thought about me telling him "Oh I'm sorry. I had sex when I was 13, and I've had 12 sex partners" you know how disgusted I would feel??
Luckily, I'm engaged, and me & my boyfriend are both virgins. It was one of the most beautiful moments I have ever witnessed.
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Need advice
I just turned 22 years old very devoted Muslim girl. I am married with a wonderful husband. He works in IT and I am a stay at home mom who is on the internet much too often. I am pregnant now :) I was raised in Jordan. We went to a very good school and Quran school. I learned to memorize most of the Quran at a young age. This is the first time I am opening up about this and REALLY need your advice/
My parents sent me to this Quran boarding school for girls for 3 months out of the year every year since I was very little (I was the only one accepted out of my family. my brothers and sisters leaned from the Mosque). I learned a lot. You see I lost my father when I was young (12 years) and the man who headed and taught the school and his wife where very helpful in helping me heal in ways no one ever did!! I loved my father, he was the greatest man I ever knew. I have 2 brothersand 1 sister all younger than me.
But Abu, the school mater, that trained me—he and I were very close, even sexually in that school. It sounds strange but we kept it secret. He was a very kind man who really knew how to teach well –whatever. His wife was the one who gave me birth control pills to save my family and myself the shame. She said she did it for other girls to. I am very grateful to her for being a mentor and confidant. We kept our sexual relationship till until my family moved to the UK. But this is a shameful thing in my past I don’t talk to people about it but now I have to because it is killing me inside. If my parents found out I would be dead DEAD. I learned ALOT about my body and sex and i am grateful to have learned these things from Abu. it was an amazing sexual experiuence over all. When I got married I lied to my husband like many of the girls I know to say I was a virgin. Otherwise I would never get married. The strange thing is that it has not bothered me or haunted me like I hear on Oprah and others who had these experiences. I do not have ill feelings toward this man and his wife. They are people I still respect because of how ethical and kind they have treated my family through out the years. They paid for all my education and my brothers and sisters as well. They provided meals for us when my mother did not have enough, etc. When we see them as a family we just pretend this stuff never happened. I never bring it up and he or his wife never do. . I asked around if anyone else had my experience and no one would talk about it. It is a very shameful thing for a Muslim Arab girl to talk about these things!! But my aunt, who is about my age, opened up to me and told me she had similar experiences with this man. She is also married now with three children and wants to leave the past in the past. She begged me not to tell anyone about him and to just leave things as they are since we both went through it and we turned out “OK”.
Her daughter, Cameron, my niece she is now in Jordan with my family and they are sending her to the same school to learn the Quran. Abu is still teaching there. My sister said it is best to not talk about it and let her experiernece life and sex and everything else like we did. My friends tell me to expose this man. It would be devastating to our family to bring this news out about what he did with me and the other girls because of the shame factor. I would never bring that kind of shame on him, my family or my religion. I respect him. Am I weird and crazy?? But I don’t know what to do because now Cameron is there and my family did not think twice about sending her to that school because it has such a good reputation. My American friends tell me to make my sister take Cameron out of that school as soon as yestersay. I feel so mistrable because of what they tell me I am wicked. But my experience was good over all at that school. But they make me feel horrible!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I am depressed about this. I really want Cameron to learn from this very good school and Abu, but I don’t know what to do!! Please help me from going crazy…I don’t know what to do..i need help to think about this.
PLEASE respond to jjordan2011@mail.com
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Your question is very hard for people to comment on, becuse most of us aren't muslim.
You had a few people take time out of there day to help you, and you keep reposting it.
Quit.
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ive been with my boyfriend for 14 months now. and im completely confused. i have so many mixed feelings. we were so happy in the beginning we were perfect, hes my first everything, and im so comfortable with him its crazy. i love him so much. everything he does is cute and he does everything for me. pays for me puts me before anyone will walk in the freezing rain 3 miles to come and see me. hes the best boyfriend anyone could ever ask for. but heres the issue. we started breaking up and making up ever since the middle of summer. when we fight its usually over jealousy or him getting mad at me because i ditched him or whatever. but when we fight they are huge. he gets so angry and yells and freaks out he alwaysflips out. im just getting tired of all of it. and i see my friends having fun being single and i just wanna be happy again. im not happy. me and my boyfriend always are fighting and now im starting to reject him and hes freaking out even more sayin gi dont love him or care about him or anything.... and he thinks i want someone else which i dont! i cant take our constant fighting and breaking up and making up anymore cause i feel like he just pushed me away cause he freaks out over a lot of little things. but im confused..... if i leave him will i be happy or regret it? am i supposed to break up with him? cause i love him so much and he does everything for me... i dont wanna take the mistake of dumping him cause what if we were supposed to be together in the end........ im just so confused and i need some help :( (link)
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The fighting is normal. Not all couples are perfect. No one can tell you if you will regret it or not. Thats something only time will tell.
Personally, 14 months is a long time. You've been with him the same amount of time as I have been with my boyfriend. Trust me, we use to make up and break up all the time. I'd get mad, and break up out of anger, and he would get mad at the smallest things and just flip out.
You need to take some time apart from him. Give yourself some breathing time before making a decision of leaving him.
Thats what I had to do. I was in the same position as you are. I'm 19, and ALL of my friends are either pregnant or single. I won't lie, I miss being single, but I realized that being single does nothing for me. Yeah going out and partying is fun, hookin up with random guys is fun, and not having to worry about hurting someone you love is great. But at the end of the day, those things didn't matter to me. I'm committed for the long run, ya know?
I don't care if I miss out on parties. I don't care if I can't do some of the things my friends do. At the end of the day, I'd rather be snuggled up to my boyfriend that waking up with a hang over, or whatever.
I hope that makes sense to you? I hope it didn't bore you, but I was trying to make a point. Your age and your boyfriends age can also have a big impact on what should be done.
Like I said previously, you need to sit down and think about whether or not you really want to be without your boyfriend. Sit down and talk to him, if you feel like crying, CRY. But you need to let him know that you want a couple of days to yourself, and let him know that just because you are taking time apart doesn't mean your doing anything your not suppose to, and it doesn't mean you guys aren't together. Let him know that you are going to think long and hard about your relationship with him because the making up and breaking up is becoming too much. Tell him you want him to do the same thing. Tell him that you guys aren't going to see or talk to each other for a couple of days and while this is going on you want him to think about his relationship with you.
I know it seems like a lot, but please trust me. I promise you it will help.
Than on Friday, or Saturday- go out. Just the two of you. Go to dinner, and than to a movie. After going a couple of days without seeing him or talking to him, than you should find yourself missing him. Once you see him looking all nice, it'll feel like it did when you first layed eyes on him.
If the two days go by, and you aren't thinking about him, or missing him than that is a sign that you aren't interested in him anymore.
During those two days (or however many days you wanna take off from him) do NOT hang out with friends. Don't do anything. Sit at home, go to work, school...whatever- so you can be isolated and figure out what it really is you want.
After those days are up, take how you feel from there. If you feel like you really missed him, at dinner discuss what it is in your relationship that needs to be fixed, let him know what it is that is going on in the relationship that is bothering you. Let him do the same. Try not to put all the blame on him either. Try to look at it from his point of view. Word it like "Our relationship hasn't been the best lately, and its because of both of us, but something that has really been bothering me is the breaking and making up.../ how when I do something stupid you blow up and when you do something stupid, I blow up"
That way he doesn't take it offensively.
See what you guys can BOTH do to make it work. A relationship takes two people, not just one. 14 months is a long time to just throw it all away. Make sure it can be worked out first before you call it quits. Personally, thats the only reason why I've ever had regrets. I left a guy, without working it out, and realied that it could have been resolved, and than I always wondered 'what if'.
If it can't be worked out, or it isn't getting any better. Bring it to his attention. Things won't change over night. If you see no progress, and you feel like its doomed; than leave him.
Danger Nerd gave me a couple of more ideas that could benefit you.
If you do leave him, you may be happy at first, but after a few weekends of going out with your friends, you'll realize the 'fun' gets old. You'll think back and maybe wish you had someone to cuddle up to on a rainy night, or even when your friends start to get boyfriends, you will think back on this guy who gave you everything and anything just so you could go out.
You know, you could always bring your boyfriend along. Have your girlfriends bring some guys and go on a double/triple date. Or schedule a girls day, and have him go out with the guys. Keep your self under control and don't cheat. It's just to let yourself breathe and him too. One of the worst things anyone can do is ditch someone. If you have orginially made plans with your boyfriend and than you cancell to hang out with your friends, thats pathetic. You would get mad if you had plans with your loved one and he ditched you for his friends. Would you not? Sometimes you have to think outside of the box, so problems can be resolved. One major thing that I have learned from being in a relationship for 14 months is that sometimes you have to put your feelings aside and focuse on your lover's feelings. Its tough because you will start to get upset or offended, but its a part of love. It's a part of sacaraficing *sp*
Another thing that I learned from my current relationship, is that you aren't going to be happy 24/7. He will do things to piss you off, just like you are going to do things to piss him off; you guys are going to yell and going to fight, but its the fact that you guys keep making up that is amazing. It shows real love. It shows that you guys can make it through everything as long as communication is used properly. Without communication, a relationship is nothing. I kind of wish your boyfriend was on here asking a question so I could get it from his point of view. I wish I could talk to both of you to figure out what the real problem was, so I could help you guys. I see hope in your relationship, but you have to see it to, girl!
I also agree that you need to let your boyfriend read your post, along with DangerNerd & my post; that way you won't have to explain alot and he can get a better understanding of what is going on.
Follow your happiness. But as of the whole having fun thing, I wouldn't really care about it. Than again, it depends on your age as well. When you get older you realize that something just aren't all that there made up to be.
Good Luck.
Sorry its so long.
If you need anything else, I'm here to help. Just inbox me.
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I guess about two days ago or something I discovered a feeling of a lump in my throat when I swallowed. It was at the top, back of my throat and I continuously swallowed and got it to the bottom of my throat but it wouldn't go any further. Then it came back up to the top....It's really annoying. It doesn't feel sharp or anything, just a mushy lump that doesn't want to move. I REALLLLY hope it's not a bug because that would descusting....oops I spelt that wrong...I think. Well, my mom said not to worry about it but that's what she says about everything so Help? THANKS!!!! :D (link)
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I've had this for months. It's like a sensation of something being stuck in your throat. It is really annoying.. I went to the doctor for it and sadly they can't do anything about it. It can't be seen, and it doesn't mean your getting sick. When I had this happen, I looked it up on google; and you'd be surprised how many people have been through it before. Try gargling salt water, with hot water; and if that doesn't work try eating apiece of bread and getting that to push it down. If that doesn't work than its Acid Reflux. Its nothing serious, its just from spicey food or acids that you eat.
Look it up more on google and you might find somethings to fix the feeling of something being stuck in your throat. Mine comes and goes; depending on what I eat. I'm not a doctor so i don't know if yours will be the same way.
Just try it out and see.
Something that helped mine is taking a medicine for Acid Reflux. It's a capsil pill and its blue/green and pink. Im not too srue what its called, but everytime I took it, the thing in my throat went away.
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Okay I really need help, I'm just now starting out to do hair [went to school, got licence etc] well I have a client soon with 100% grey hair but she colors it herself let's say a level 7.. and now wants to add highlights throughout. well that was the middle of January and she is coming ln a few days.. what I would like to know is, will the bleach lift her hair evenly since it being a 7 is so light? I use blondor bleach btw.. Idk, I'm just really nervous. I don't want to mess up you know? Or do I need to strip the hair? I don't want to go through that long process if I don't have to.. and I know everyone's hair is different but just from experience has anyone dealt with this before?? (link)
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All I know, is that you NEVER put bleach on gray hair! It will make it white, and nasty looking. If you did her hair like that, she would never come back to you.
Your best bet is to ask the person who instructed you in Beauty School.
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I need help picking a prom dress! I have medium/tan skin and long darkk brown hair if that helps
Http://www.promgirl.com/popups/biggerimage.cfm?cataId=PD&productid=737949&imgindex=1
http://www.promgirl.com/popups/biggerimage.cfm?cataId=PD&productid=639771&imgindex=
http://www.promgirl.com/popups/biggerimage.cfm?cataId=PD&productid=747915&imgindex=1
Thanks in advance :) x
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I just went to prom not to long ago, and let me tell you. Strapless dressing are hell! When your dancing its hard to move without having to pull your dress up.
Now, if you get the dressed fitted just fine around your breast area, than you may be okay. Mine was fitted perfectly, and I kind of had some problems.
Now, with your skin complection and your hair color I'd say the second one. Although, it would be better to find a dress that fit your body structure better. We don't know what your body image looks like, so it may be a tough call.
Of all the dresses, the third one is the prettiest.
But if your short, you won't be able to pull it off. It's for someone with long legs.
If you aren't skinny, like super skinny, than none of the dresses will do anything for you. That material shows EVERY flaw in your body. If its too tight, it can even show the outline of your belly button.
Than again, you will need to try on all the dresses. YOu may find that none of them look good on you; so make sure you don't order them online and you actually get fitted for them.
Personally, I don't like any of the dresses, but everyone has opinions. I could really help you pick out a good dress, if you sent me a picture of your body structure with clothes on. You don't have to add your face but it would make it so so much easier to match you to the right dress.
Btw, I work in a place call Venace; its wedding gowns, prom dressings, and even party dresses; I've been doing it for years, so I can pretty much match anyone with a dress. So I don't want you to think I'm weird, I'm just trying to make srue you have a night you will always remember and be the most beautiful woman there!
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I like this boy in my class. I don't know if he likes me back. We are friends. And chat on bbm. I want him to like me coz he is really cute. I don't want to flirt. Plz help me (link)
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You can't make someone like you. Either he does, or he doesn't. No if, an's or but's about it.
If you really like this boy, than you need to tell him. You can tell him in a note, on BBM, or in person. It's up to you. He could already like you, and is just shy to admit it.
If you want him to realize that you like him, than your going to have to flirt. Flirting is an easy way to show someone your interested, although it can get read wrong.
So since you don't want to flirt, than either tell him you like him, or ask him if he likes you.
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I have this "friend" and her dad abuses her alot..... shes thinking of suiciding... What should "she" do? (link)
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I'm assuming this is about you, according to the quotatin marks. If it is you, or 'her' than 'she' needs to tell someone she trusts about her father. It isn't right. She needs to get him help. Suicide isn't the way to go. Shes going to let her father get the satisfaction by her losing her life? She was given a life for a reason, not just to kill herself when things get tough. There are other ways out. If she scared to talk to somene, than thats her fault.
Either she can continue to get beat, or she can man up and get help.
Either way suicide isn't the way to go. I'm sure if she died, her father would miss her terribly; and even if he wouldn't; his loss. Don't waste your life because some 'man' beats you. The reason why I say 'some man' is because a real father wouldn't do that. He is no father. He is a coward.
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My boyfriend and I have been dating for 6 months and for Valentine's Day I came up with the idea of making him a love coupon book. I've run out of ideas!
He's a very goofy person, and we have a lot of inside jokes. One of the inside jokes is "tag". He and I play tag back and forth by kissing. He kisses me, and I'm it, I kiss him, and he's it, and so on and so forth. So for one card I put, "I'm 'it' for a whole day." Also, another code name is "grand prize" which is a french kiss. I am always very reluctant and refuse when he tries, even though I do like french kisses, and I think he'll really enjoy the coupon for that, "Grand prizes all day!" We are sexual, but not too much, and at times I'm a very paranoid person and I don't get fully naked often, so I decided to make that a coupon as well. "No clothes for a whole night!" and also a free back scratch, blowjob, and cowgirl position ;)
I need some more ideas that aren't so intimate. I do have some ideas, but we don't go out a lot since we're usually both broke. Any creative ideas would be gladly appreciated! (link)
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Free 5, 10, or 15 minute lap dance/strip tease
free 10, 15, 20 minute massage
Free shower together
free cooked dinner (where you cook him dinner)
you could even do a breakfast in bed, or his favorite dessert/
Movie night, of his choice
I did the coupon before, and my boyfriends top 2 favorite where, "Mystery Pleasure"
While we were home alone, I blind folded him, and tied his hands to the bed so he couldn't touch me
and I began kissing him up his body, giving him a blow job, rubbing myself on him, and even sexually kissing him; he loved it! He said that was the most arroused he had ever got. It made me feel good.
Than the other one, was a scavenger hunt.
Basically when we had the house to ourself I made him go outside, or in a bedroom I wasn't going to put clues in;
and I'd make a scavenger hunt. Than the prize would be me naked in bed, waiting for him.
For example:
One clue would be "you like my legs super smooth, so find the object that I would use" than I'd add something like "hurry up baby, i want you so bad" something sexual so he would be anxious and do it quickly, than he'd go find my razor and there would be another hint. I did 15 of them, and the last one was a clue to were the key to the door was so he could get to me. ect.
if you need anymore ideas, let me know!
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i was told that if you are under 18 that you can recieve free birth control.. is that true? and can you get denied birth control? and what do they do before they give you it? (link)
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I've never known a place to give free birth control. I know if you go to a health clinic they will give you free condoms; they may give you free birth control pills, not sure.
And you can NEVER be denied birth control; thats like them saying "we want you to get pregnant".
The only way they'd refuse giving you a type of birth control is if it is dangerous to your health or some sort.
When you go to your doctor and ask for birth control, they take a blood test for a pregnancy test to make sure you aren't pregnant before they prescribe it to you.
Thats about it.
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I have been best friends with this guy for three years. He's my rock, he gets me through everything. We text everyday and hangout every weekend. I have no romantic feelings for him, I think. All I know is I wanna hook up with him sooooooo bad. He's expressed how he doesn't want another relationship for the rest of highschool but that he'd really like a f*ck buddy. I wanna volunteer! Haha but how do I do this without making things AWKARD? I really don't think it'll ruin friendship. We've both admitted were extremely attracted to each other. And I really just want a no strings attached kinda thing. Help?? (I'm sixteen, girl. He's 18, boy). (link)
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This is a bad idea. First off, if you and this boy have sex, its known as rape. Just because he is an adult and you are a minor.
You will do what you want to do, but let me tell you something from experience. I was 15 and I was bestfriends with a 17 year old boy. We were inseperable. We were so attracted to each other, but feelings weren't there.
So we became friends with benefits; the first time we did something sexual; I began to develop feelings for him. When he started liking another girl, I got so jealous.
I'm not saying you will develop feelings for him, but there is a chance. Your not even sure if there are romantic feelings; you question yourself.
Figure that out before you do anything.
If you realize that you don't have any, than go for it. Like I said, you will do what you want to do, and the only thing I can do is assist you and help you with your decision.
So, casually bring up him wanting a fuck buddy,
and be like "You know, I've been thinkin, and I want the same thing. Something casual with no strings attach" wait for what he says, and than say "We should be each others since we are already comfortable with each other."
and see what he says; if he is against it, don't take it to heart. Just be like, why? Once he answers it, be like 'I understand. If you ever change your mind, I'm here ;)'
I hope I helped. If you need anything else, please don't heistate to inbox me.
Good Luck!
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i am 14 and my bf is almost 14. we have not tlked in bout a week. i feel like he is trying to avoid me. wat do i do?? any body have any advice?? (link)
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If he's avoiding you than you need to break up with him. Any guy who goes a week without talking to their girlfriend obviously doesn't wanna be with her. Save your time and your love and find someone who deserves all the things you have to give. I'm sure you can find someone else. You deserve the best and don't let anyone tell you different!
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For about three years, he’s been really close to this girl. She’s sixteen, a junior. I knew when we first started talking that they were very good friends, and I could tell in just the way he talked about her that she meant a lot to him. But he assured me it was strictly a brother-sister type relationship. And while I trust him, it’s still been hard to always see it like that. She’s absolutely gorgeous, and a really sweet girl. I know I’m not ugly but she just has this way about her… she’s very very small. And he is very very very protective of her. And I don’t know, he doesn’t get that kind of protective of me (shes one of those, damsel in distress type that all guys love to "rescue" all the time). He is always taking care of her… And while yeah, I don’t need taking care of exactly, it still feels weird. Basically before we started dating they would talk on the phone or text every single day, hang out every weekend, he took her to prom… they were inseprapable. And he has reeeeeally cut back on how much he’s been seeing her. And I haven’t had to ask him to do that, and I know he doesn’t like it, but he does it. And while he doesn’t’ complain about it, or even acknowledge it, I know he misses her. But honestly, I don’t know what to do. I’m scared he’s gonna fall in love with her or something. I want him to be happy but I don’t want to get involved in his friendships or do anything that might break us up. And I feel selfish and guilty because I know she needs him and I know he really cares about her… but what am I supposed to do!?
On a side not, this girl and me do no get a long AT ALL. It’s a long story but she basically hates me because of something that happened between me and her friend…, which… well it’s complicated. But I don’t necessarily like her either? Yeah… so me hanging around her is kind of out of the question. (link)
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Well you should have made your question more clear. You asked what you were suppose to do, and I told you. If you don't like it, and you can't get use to it than leave him. Nothing will change on his half. He will continue to see and talk to this girl. You either gotta learn to deal with it and get over it, or you need to leave him.
If you believe that not seeing her as much is hurting him, than tell him to go see her more. Obviously if he's hurting from not seeing her, he's interested more in her than he is you. No one should be hurting from not seeing just a friend; he has feelings for her, but he probably is oblivious to it; or hasn't ever really thought about it.
You also have another choice. You can put the stupid drama you have with this girl aside and try to be friends. Sit down and talk with her. Figure out why she doesn't like you; (you may think you know, but there could be more too it) get her point of view. Try to make things civil to where if you guys hang out together that it won't be akaward. Sometimes you have to sacrafice and do things you don't want to do for the sake of others. Obviously, she doesn't know the whole story as to what happen between you and her friend; she probabyl only knows her friends side, which is bad talkig you. Get it straighting out.
Hopefully this advice is a little better for you. I'm sorry I didn't answer your question correctly the first time. Next time make your question more clear, so you get more accurate advice, (:
I hope everything works out for you. Good Luck.
-------------------------------------------------It kind of sounds like your boyfriend has already made feelings for her. If my boyfriend had a bestfriend that was the opposite sex, I'd be kind mad since he spent more time with her than with me.
Your boyfriend should be showing more attention toward you. She doesn't need him; she needs to get a life and stop relying on your boyfriend to make things better.
I honestly think this is a bad situation. I don't see how you tolerate it. It's different to have a friend that you hang with occasionally, talk to accoasionally, but not almost every single day.
You need to tell him how you feel. If he doesn't like it, than that means he doesn't respect you or your feelings. He should atleast put a hold ont he firendship with the girl; like cut back on it.
If he doesn't, than tell him that he should be with her not you. Seems like he's more scared in losing that girl and not his girlfriend.
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So i have been dating this guy for about seven months (im 16 he's 17). I have decided that this is the guy I want to lose my virginity too. But im waiting till its been at least a year before i do. He's amazingly sweet and tells me he loves me for me and not how i look. But he's never seen me without closes on and my clothes usually cover up my "chub". Im not hugely big...but i would say that i am over weight. And last week we got into a heavy make out session and things got pretty heated. Now im just affraid when we finally do "do it" im gonna look stupid. I dont know how to handle this, help anyone?
PS: I dont need any talks about how i should be waiting anyways, so thanks but ill decided when im ready (link)
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You know, you seem pretty smart for your age. Waiting a year to do it? Thats great. Some girls will rush into it within a few weeks. It's great to know that you respect yourself, and your virginity.
I was in the same boat your in. I don't find myself completely fat and nasty, but I am over weight. I was uncomfortable with my body;
What I did to release some of the tension with how I felt about my body is before we would make out, I'd take some pictures with my phone or camera, and send them to him while he was at my house; than after he saw it, I'd delete it from his phone.
That was the only way I could become okay with my body; he loved it. When a guy says he loves you for who you are and not your body; 9 times out of 10 he means it.
You could always have sex with the lights off, and start off with some clothes on. But that isn't romantic to me.
Or you could do another thing that I did;
I'd show him what parts of my body I hated the most. I love my byofriend, and I respect his thoughts and stuff, so I'd lift up my shirt and I'd show him the couple of stretchmarks i'd have on my belly, and he;d kiss it;
I'd get in my underwear, and I'd show him my legs, and he'd smile; i'd show him my boobs becuase they are small, and he would get an erection.
He fell in love with all the parts of my body I hated, just like your boyfriend will.
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Hi so my name is Bailey I'm 13 and a female. So yesterday my boyfriend who is 15 we made out after school and dry humped eachother and were being all sexy with eachother and we almost went back to his placse to have sex and my little sister saw us making out and dry humping. (she's 11) So she has a boyfriend too but he's 12 and the other day her boyfriend came up to me and said " I want to fuck u im just dating ur little sister for you. Kiss me and bite. Fuck me and it'll be a delight'" So i got all freaked out and was about to go tell my little siste r when he grabbed my boob and squeeezed it (im a size C) and told me not to tell and he was joking. I told my sis but she didn't believe me. (I MEAN WHAT THE FUCK THIS KID IS A 12 YEAR OLD BASTARD) I slapped him when he came over to my house for my sister ( he claimed) the next day. After he started makking out with me and I couldn't help it. Then 1 hour later my boyfrind came and the 12 year oold told him to 'back off and that i was his' They got into a fight a 12 year old and 15 year old while my little sis and I watched and hoped my Mom wouldn't be home anytime soon. She was still mad t me though for thinking I was making stuff up about her and her boyfriend. How do I get my sister to believe me and break up with the bastard? Also how do I get that bastard to stop squeezin my boobs and trying to fuck me? HELLLLPPP i love my boyfriend and dont want hm to be mad cause i told him this story and he is trying to protect me. Also i forgot to add that tody my sis's bf told me to meet him at his house tomorrow at 10 for some "fun" (he lives 3 houses away) ANY ADVICE??? Thanks (link)
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There are so many things wrong with this.
Lets break it down for you.
You are too young to be having sex, you and your sister both. You are suppose to be setting examples for your little sister, and your being a bad influence.
It could be that your sister has seen you guys do this stuff, and she told her boyfriend so he figures if you do it with your boyfriend, you'll do it with him; and you probably will.
You made out with YOUR SISTER'S BOYFRIEND! What kind of sister are you? You had no choice? BULL SHIT! You could have pushed him away and went and locked yourself in another bedroom or something.
Than at the end, you say...'he wants me to meet him at his house at 10 for some fun, any advice?'
Like you are considering it! You aren't being a good girlfriend, you cheated on your boyfriend, and don't say you didn't, becuase you did. You made out with your sisters boyfriend, and not once did you push him away. You just went along with it.
Your boyfriend should leave you. You are too young for him anyways, especially when you were messing around with a 12 year old.
Your sister isn't going to believe you, because I can promise you, she thinks your the reason why he's doing this, and that is partically true.
And you know, you don't seem to be coming off as someone who is mad about this, "he grabbed my boob (im a size C)--why is that information about how big your boobs are important? Are you bragging??
If I was your sister, I'd beat the hell out of you. You should be ashamed. Like I said, set a good example for her, don't lead her onto the messed up path you are on.
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Right now I have a friend's dog that she is giving up because she doesn't really have the time/space to take care of him. He's a mix - Australian cattle dog and I think he has some German Shepherd in him. He's a year old, updated on all his shots and he's been neutered.
Anyways, he's been abused and is really skiddish, but not at all aggressive. My parents agreed that we can take him in for a couple days and see how he acts around us, our house, and any kids in our family.
He's happy when he's outside it seems but his tail is barely up. My friend says he's not much of a tail-wagger but to give him time. When he's outside and I'm running around with him he seems to be in his element, but when we are inside he's scared of everyone in the household but me, and even me he's not completely used to yet.
He seems very depressed a lot of the time and like he'd much rather stay away from people than interact with them. Well, my parents don't like that. My fear is that he won't open up to me or them and my parents won't want to keep him, when I think this could be a great home for him. He obviously has a lot of trust issues and has been hurt/moved around a lot and if I tell my friend that we aren't going to end up keeping him, then she will really have no choice but to bring him back to the shelter.. and I'm dreading that.
My question is.. is there any way to make a dog happy/more comfortable? I'm trying but it's like people around him aren't approaching him much except for me due to the fact that he's so 'anti-social'. I'm willing to give him a fair chance and see how it goes but my parents seem already set in the fact that they don't want to keep him.
I really don't want to have to give him up and risk him not having a good home and a lot of attention.
This also may sound silly but do vets give any sort of medicine to make dogs less anxious or afraid? To make them more comfortable and social??
I'm trying to make him as comfortable as possible and he absolutely loves me and follows me everywhere but he seems to feel scared unless he's near me.. I'd like him be able to open up and I have no idea how. I really don't want to have to give him up and risk him becoming more depressed..
Also, his name is "Ranger" (my friend named him that) but before that I guess his abusive owner named him "Bob"... so she changed his name and have been calling him Ranger now ever since she's had him. I've been saying his name a lot to make sure he knows it and even when I pat my legs and motion to him to come over to me he doesn't always come. He will look at me sometimes but it's like he's not all that responsive.. but I know he's just scared and hesitant. That's another thing my parents don't like. He will come to me sometimes when I tell him "Come here, boy" or "Come here, Ranger"... but not always. Mostly, he will just lay on his bed or tag-along with me when I walk around the house. Also, I will take him for walks and after the walk I will bring him inside and leave the front door open with the screen door closed still and he will just sit by it and stare outside for awhile like he wants to go back out.
So I take him back out sometimes but it's like he wants to stay there and I can't always take him out and I don't want to just tie him up outside right now because then he won't get any social interaction from us and he won't get used to the inside of our house. (link)
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I was in the same boat you were in. I had a st. benard. I rescued him from a shelter. He was abused so badly that everytime he saw someone who was a man, he would shake and cry for no reason. Turned out the person who abused him was a man.
Anyways. After a couple of weeks, he began opening up to me. I baby talked him, I showed him as much love as I could.
I gave him treats, almost 5 times a day, if not more to show him that he's a good dog and he has done nothing wrong. Every time I'd go to pet him, he'd flinch. Guessing I was going to hit him.
He's depressed. You have to treat him like a member of the family. Have your family members in the household spend time with him. Most dogs like this won't cause harm. They are just expecting the worse, ya know?
If he doesn't come to you, than go to him. Or go pet him, and than try again. Play with him.
He's probably distant because he doesn't know your family well. He's probably scared and nervous.
It took 2 weeks of bonding for Diesel to open up to me. It felt like forever, but I worked at it for hours, and hours a day.
Praise him for good things he does, even when he doesn't let him know he's a good boy.
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well i want to babysit but i have no idea who needs a babysitter i am almost 14 and i am very good with kids if any body has a job for babysitting tell me my name is Tannika mcgrath and if you want to look me up look me up on this website www.facebbok.com and go to the serch bar and type the name tannika mcgrath!!!!!hope somebody will help me get a job!!!! (link)
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To be honest, if I had a child, I wouldn't leave it with a 13 almost 14 year old. Your still a child yourself. I wouldn't think you would know the responsiblities of taking care of a child that is younger than you. When I was your age, I wasn't even allowed to stay home by myself; therefore most parents won't allow you to babysit there children.
Another thing, most parents want their babysitter to have their own transportation. Which you don't. They want someone who can be there, even on short notice. Say you were sleeping, it was 7 o'clock in the morning on a Saturday, the parents to the kids you were babysitting called and said they needed you right then, you wouldn't be able to come because you don't have a ride.
I'd wait ti'll your a little more mature, and have your own way of transportation.
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I am a very emotional person, and moreso, I am a teenage girl. In my past relationships, I was left heartbroken and abandoned, cheated and lied to, promised so many things that were never fulfilled. I know this will be a long question, but hear me out.
My first boyfriend was fake. I was a freshman, and he was a sophomore. I met him at church one night and thought he was the most amazing person. However, I quickly learned he wasn't who I thought he was. He manipulated me, used me, and brought me to the point where I ran away from home for him. He pretended everything in our relationship, constantly on and off, always using me for his needs and not caring about mine. I finally broke it off for good with him.
My second boyfriend was my friend at first, and he was the same as my first. He was fake. Never kissed me, never touched me, and always talked shit about me. He faked the whole thing. It hurt, but I moved on quick.
My third boyfriend was my best friend at first. I liked him a lot because I could talk to him openly. We eventually went out for about three months, but he was very overbearing, obnoxious, and pressuring. He would always pressure me to show him my boobs. I was hurt and then thought he loved me and accepted me for me, but then he was a coward and broke up with me with a lie, saying his dad hated me. I've never even met his dad... But later found out he broke up with me because I was negative.
My current boyfriend is probably the best thing that has ever happened to me. We had a lot of hardships before we got together. I've known him since I was a freshman. Our friendship started on Facebook mostly. He would always cheer me up, and we started texting each other over the summer. I quickly fell for him, but I was so scared to tell him, so I was stupid and dated another guy. That relationship lasted three weeks, because I broke up with the other guy because I was in love with my current boyfriend. It was hard for him to forgive me afterwards, but we worked it out. He then decided to date a girl that lived by him while I was on vacation, and he called me, telling me, and I cried, telling him I was madly in love with him and I only want him and he can't date her. He earned my trust back, and we've been dating for about five months now. He is everything I have wanted in a guy. He is so patient with my insecurities, my negativity, and my sensitivity. He makes me laugh and makes me feel loved. He never yells and goes out of his way and spends every moment with me. He is so thoughtful, funny, and witty. I fell so hard for his charm and I continue to. I sometimes think I don't deserve him, but he treats me like gold. I can be my true self around him, not afraid of revealing my secrets or goals. He embraces the things I like, and he even got into a few bands I love, and he bought their merch t-shirts and such at the mall. It made me really happy. He never gives up on me when I get insecure. He sticks with me no matter what, and he never ever pressures me to do anything I don't want to. I just feel so comfortable and beautiful around him. I can't believe I found this amazing person who truly loves me for me.
I cried just a few moments ago, because I love this person so much and I'm so glad that I have him because I don't know what I'd do. I see him in my future and in my dreams and in everything I do. Is it normal to get very emotional and tear up when thinking of how lucky I am to be with him? (link)
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The title says it all; You are more than lucky. Girls don't usually find these type of men until they are in their late twenties or thirties.
I am sorry you had to go through that. My first boyfriend raped me, and always called me fat; he than made me have an eating disorder, and I was in rehab for years.
Guys don't understand the impact they have on females. All we want is for someone to love, respect, and cherish us back; What's so hard about that? Ya know?
I don't know you, but I am so so happy for you. It is perfectly normal to be this emotional for someone. You are truely happy inside. You have found yourself someone who deserves to be your lifetime companion. I was the same way when I finally met my boyfriend of 1.5 years; I believe God gives you all those crappy relationships, so when someone as amazing as the men that we have come along, we know how to truely appreciate them! Congrats!
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I have been talking to this boy on facebook for a while and it is my friends, friend. We both like each other and live about 3-4 hours away from each other. We really want to meet each other and want to become in a relationship as soon as we meet. I dont know how to tell my mum or anything.. i really need advice please! (link)
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I wouldn't persue a relationship with him. Long distance relationships never work out. Your mom will more than likely be against it, and if she isn't than how will you see him?
With the way gas prices are, I highly doubt you guys will be able to meet up all the time, like a good, healthy relationship would.
I'd stay friends with this dude, but nothing more. Your setting yourself up for heartbreak, and you don't deserve that.
If you wanted to, it would help to know the ages of you guys; it would be a little different than.
I would know if you guys could drive, or if your at a reasonable age to stay together at each others house for a weekend;
so if you would like to send that information to my inbox, I can help you out a little more.
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