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Q: ugh i have that flap on my arm (upper) what are some things i can do to get ride of it!?

Exercise.

Q: how can you tell when a guy likes you?

i have this one guy and he pretty much flirts with me ..and he says all these sweet things

I think he likes you. Either that or he's playing games with you. Ask him or get someone to do it for you.

Q: hey...my mom is older than some moms and im only 13 aand im scared that something bad is going to happen to her while im still young.

Well unless you were adopted she can't be THAT old. Like old as in in her fifties or old as in around senior citizen age (65). If she's in her fifties you really have nothing to worry about except maybe cancer or diet related things (of course there can always be car accidents or other non-health related reason that can happen to anyone.) She's still kind of young in today's standerds. If she's older, like 65 or something, then it also sort of depends on how long her relatives lived. If you can get ahold of records or some info from you're mom it can say alot about the genetics in your family. Anyway, just enjoy every day you have with her and have her go to the doctors often, like once a year. She should be fine then!

Q: Omg help me someone please.. i am in 8th grade and there are these 2 girls in 9th grade that hate me.. they hate me because last year i put prep by one of their picture in the year book.. but i put kewl by her picture also.. i didnt mean "prep" in a bad way at all.. i mean even i a prep.. this girls friend i was never really close wit but now she hates me cuz i did that to her friend.. the girl who i called "prep" was my friend before.. not really good friend but friend.. i have tryed sayin sorry and tellin them i didnt mean it in a bad way but they still hate me.. what should i do!?!?

signed,

hated*

You've done basically all you can do. You've apologized but they've turned a blind ear. All you can do is continue saying sorry and hope one day they believe you. Apparently they take offense easy since Prep would only be offensive to really goth people I'd think. I'm sorry you lost a friend out of all of this and gained two enemies but if they were that mean anyway maybe you're better off without the girl.

Q: Well recently i got about 3 tattoo's and im 14. All of my friends got them too. i live with my mom and she was completly okay with them. Somehow, my dad found out about them. He foundout the name of the guy who did them, and where he lives. He told me he was going to have him arrested. If i am ever the reason somebody gets sent to jail i dont know what i would do. i feel so bad i just wanna die! what should i do!?

He can't get arrested just because he gave you tattoos. He could get in some bit of trouble if he did it without parental consent. And if he does get arrested for it, it won't be for that long of a time, because its not that serious.

Q: ok.... i need to rdo my room... liek i need a new comforter...and like accesories.. i share my room... so i have no space at all...now.. whenever i ask for this people tell me to go to pbteen and like those places.. i do not have that much money.. i need something cheap but also something that is good... like i already checked out jcpenny, sears, macys,ikea,target,etc... so if u have any others please tell me.. or even if you have some ideas of how i could do it.. im a girly girl.. i love pink and neon green.... i hate stripes.. so maybe u can give me some ideas if you don't know any websites...
automatic 4z or 5z unless you are rude

Riss

Do it with a theme! Say, maybe a pirate theme. YAY FOR PIRATES!!! Or really, any themes are fine. It doesnt have to be expensive either, but like you could have the them of purple or the theme of smileys or the theme of pirates.

Q: my friend is 13 and she had sex with a sixteen year old and she got pregnant because her cheap boyfriend couldn't spare the extra 3 dollars to buy the good condoms and it ripped, so now she's all excited about having a baby and i told its nothing to be excited about and i told her that when your that young and have a baby that its not very safe and you could die is it true?

and by the way i love my friend to death and i have know clue what to say to her about the whole thing and she's mad that everyone is calling her a slut which she is!

I think there is more of a risk with having a baby when you are younger, but you should be proud of you're friend by doing the right thing and keeping the baby instead of having an abortion. I'm sure she's very torn up inside and is actually upset about it and is acting. If you are her friend I think you should be there to support her and not call her a slut, give her a shoulder to cry on. She's not exactly a slut anyway, she is young and she thought she was in love and did a stupid thing, but a slut is when you sleep around with alot of guys.

I hope everything goes okay with your friend and also have you mentioned adoption for her. She may be a tad bit TOO young to KEEP the baby and it would be a very kind thing to do both for the baby, another couple, and herself to put it up for adoption. Just remember, be there for her, she may just be in shock for the moment but soon it will settle and when she FULLY understands what's happening I'm sure she'll be upset so just be there for her and everything.

Q: okay i'm 13/f and i think i really like this guy.. he's like the sweetest person ever, and he's always flirting with me. i've hung out w/ him out of school a few times, and i have a great time, and i just can't stop thinking about him. the thing is that my BEST FRIEND is in love with him and i know he likes me more than he likes her. she's always like "why doesn't he like me?" and i feel bad for her and stuff, and i want to hook them up, but he really only thinks of her as a friend. i tell her that he's stupid not to like a great girl like her, but it's hard b/c i like him too! i told her that i sort of like him, and she told me that i shouldn't. wut do i do?

It's funny, because when I was that age I was in a group of friends, and we all liked the same boy, and we all knew we liked the same boy. While we were in competition with each other, we kind of respected the girl who got chose (we actually kind of passed him around) and it wasnt that big of an issue to us because it was just girls liking a boy. Sorry for that trip down memory lane lol but maybe if you could talk to her like that you guys could get something like that! But anyway, if not, it sounds like to you're friend that she would be really offended though. I'd say tell her there are plenty of boys out there that actually DO like her, and it's not doing her any good being stuck on this guy that doesnt like her. Help her get out with other boys and then when she starts liking him less take the chance with the guy and go for him and then she'll be less offended because she might have her own boyfriend. Then you can look back on it and laugh!

Q: My little sister is almost 13 (I'm 16) and is in the 7th grade. She got this boyfriend over the summer, some guy who's in her math class, and she really likes talking about him. I'm starting to worry about her. Is this age-appropriate? I'm homeschool because I'm blind, so I don't know about these things.

It's just puppy love I'd say. That's the way I used to act when in 7th grade, that's when guys were new to me and stuff. But if she's starts talking about sex or any other stuff along that line, even making out is a little mature for her age, then I'd say it's getting a little out of control.

Q: So ok i had sex um like two weeks ago....Down there is kinda like all red and it looks like someone like burnt the first layer of my skin off. See after i had sex it got real ichy(i thought maybe he cut me with his finger nails down there does that make you ichy?) But today after my shower i seen that there was like a lump but its like a pimp but its not one its just a blister looking type thing. I herd from people he had STD's and he does fuck and isnt safe...Are thease signs of a STD?

Yes

Q: 16/m ok i really need help on this one im stuck and dont know what to do i love my gf to death and we have been going out for 11 months but she works at a local gym called lifetime as a swim instructer and the other day she walked out and a guy walked out with her and she knew this guy but he walked her all the way to her car and when she got in her car the guy reached for a drink inside the car and as he did that he kissed her on the lips she said she didnt kiss back and pushed him away and i talked to some of her freinds and she told me the truth but i feel like i need to do somthing and the fact that she came forward and told me about it. she started out by saying that she really doesnt feel comfterble telling me this because i could meke us worse but its tearing her up inside so she told me. and im really glad she did this but i want to beet the crap out of the guy not only for kissing her but he made her hurt and made her scared to tell me somthing she went 2 days with this inside her. what do i need to do

p.s hes a soph. in college and we are soph. in highschool

You're gf seems to be able to take good care of herself, and you seem to be very protective of your girlfriend which is good! Right now I say that she can took care of herself and to let it go, but if this guy does anything else, then you may have to go do something about it yourself!

Q: my bf just broke up wiht me, and i am throwing up cuz of it, and i also can't breath wen im crying. what can i do to help?

Give it a few days and I'm sure you'll get better. It's probably very hard to deal with and you are probably very heartbroken so you're reactions are justified. Just give it some time adn talk to some of you're friends to help you get over it and maybe try to rest and stuff. I hope everything gets better for you!

Q: Has anyone tried the stridex power pads? Do they work? Thanks! LOve ya.

Yeeeeeeeehno.

Q: first time you have sex is it better to have it with a virgin or a already experienced guy?

Don't have sex until you're married and you won't have that problem because it won't matter you'll love the person.

Q: really weird problem - really need help. been with my bf for about 10 weeks.. everything is fine except the kissing. ever since we started going out hes know i've got a problem with it - i don't even know what it is myself but I just hate it! im really nervous and want to kiss him but... don't... at the same time! i get really worked up over it... once he got annoyed but he tries to be understanding... i really want to talk about it but what is there to say? what should i do??

I have the SAME PROBLEM! Only I'm not with a boyfriend bc I'm scared of how I'd one would react. I'm going to check your answers right now! Oh- best of luck with your problem!

Q: okay heres the downlow. Whenever my boyfriend is around girls he always flirts with them, even if i'm right there. then when i talk to him about he'll either say i never did that or oh i'm sorry i won't do it again, but he never changes! I don't know what i should do. Part of me wants to break up with him and another part of me doesn't! So what should i do!!??

I'm 13,Female

You've already talked to him about it and he doesnt seem to be fixing the problem, so talking to him again wouldnt help at all. I think the only solution now is to break up with him. You're 13, plenty of time left in your life, its not good to tie yourself down to one guy anyone, certainly not if he's going to stay commited to you! Play the field for a while and enjoy yourself.

Q: ok i have natrual brown hair so i have brown eye brows but there thin and im dying my hair blonde((not blonde blonde )) well if anyone has ever seen Laguna Beach then my hair will be like LC's do u think it will look good?

Almost everyone who dyes their hair blonde leaves their eyebrows brown. It'll look fine, unless your eyebrows are very very dark brown like practically BLACK, then it might look odd.

Q: what happens when you get raped?? im totally scared of it......HELP PLEASE!!!

When someone has forced sex with you. As in if you say "no" but they do it anyway, you've been raped.

Q: hey. well this might be confusing so i'll apologize now. in novemeber of last year my aunt got married. i hated my new uncle. i know, thats rude but its also true! i loved my aunts old boyfriend .. he was great! they were going out for 6 and a half years! he was so funny too but then they broke it off. then my aunt met this other guy who she is now married too. he's okay i guess but hes such a freak! he totally changed the relationship between me and my aunt. before they met eachother me and my aunt were best friends!!! now we cant even have a simple convorasation with out him standing there & making sure everythings appropriate.

heres a little about him:
- hes a Church freak ( i guess theres nothing wrong with that .. )
- we have to listen to religious music ( and since he wont let me listen to B96 or KissFm .. i asked if i could listen to country music and he said 'no!! if you want to listen to that sh*t .. get ur own ride!' )
- he wouldnt take me and my grandma to fannie may because he said 'Jesus didnt sacrafice his life so people could waste their money over the stupidest f*ckin things!'
- we have to pray before every meal.. even if were in public. this one time my sister started eating before we prayed and her punishment was she had to say the prayer , she couldnt eat her lunch ; and for the rest of the month she had to go to church 3 days a week.
- he treats me and my sister like were 3
- he wont get cable for the same reason he wont take us to fannie may

what should i do about it? i cant talk to my aunt about it because i know she'll get so mad. how can i learn to like him? please answer.. ill rate high for good answers!!

love,
I HATE HIM!!

Don't spend as much time with your Aunt and Uncle.

Q: Alriteee heres my problem... i have a babysitter person that lives wiht me because my parents work long hours and we need soemone to cook clean etc. And he has a gorgeous brother!! when i say gorgeous i mean GOORRGEOUSS!!! But my parents and his paretns dont want us to meet! We have been talkin online and through e-mail lately but thats it. We are planning to hang out this weekend, but his last e-mail he talks about this girl that likes him and he doesn;t know what to do...and asked for my advice!! i dont think he likes her, but idk!! SHould i still meet him this weekend and hang out? Should i get it across to him that i like him even tho we haven;t met yet!?!?! What should i dooo!!???

by the way i am 16 and a female

Go meet him. Because its not like his an internet creep he's your babysitters brother. Anyway, just try and see if there is any connection between the two of you. And if not, than maybe you will be able to woo him sometime, or maybe you guys just werent meant to be, with the restrictions applied to the two of you a relationship would be kind of hard. So if there is something between you two there is, but if he doesnt like you I say find a new guy.

bio

Hi, I'm Jen. I'm a 15 yr. old sophmore at my highschool. I'm just an all-around-average girl (okay, I'm not THAT average) I enjoy giving advice and asking it lol. I play the trombone in my school band and jazz lab, I sing in the chorus and in my church choir, I have a few friends but not a crapload...and I'm always there for my friends with advice! Sometimes its not always what they want to hear, but I always mean the best. So, ask me a question and I'd be glad to answer!
JEN!!