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I'm Steph. I love helping people and I have a great interest in music, I play the piano well and I hope to be a vet nurse one day. I am easy to trust and whatever you say to me personally will be strictly confidential. Thanks for reading! :) x

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Has anyone ever had sex with a blind girl?? Can you describe it as in depth as you feel comfortable depicting your encounter?

I can't say I have nor intend to but I'll happily try to help! In this circumstance, it is VITAL for communication. I'm sure if you communicate, it'll be a better experience for both of you.
Best of luck!
x Steph x

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ok, i like this kid named nikk....and he said i mean alot to him but my 2 best friends like him too and one of them denies it but i kno she does because she was cryen when i gave him a hug. i just dont kno what to do because i want to be with him but my 2 best friends do too....HELP!!!!

Why not talk to your two friends about him? Say that you like him a lot, your friends are probably thinking the same thing about you. However, one thing to bare in mind, priorities. What means more to you...a boyfriend who says you mean a lot to him or two friends who get jealous just because you give this guy a simple hug? It sounds like your friends have some jealousy issues. Surely friends are supportive of each other and just want the best for one another...I'll let you decide!
Good luck!
x Steph x

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well i started writing poems and songs about sucide and dieing and cutting and popping pills! im sucidal?? PLZ HELP!!
(( and plz dont tell me to go see a counslar or therpist because my family doesnt know and i dont want them to find out))

Alright, calm down. First off, ask yourself why do you start writing these poems about these topics. Do you feel that you'd be better off dead? Do you just want attention? It could also be due to the 'time of the month' but I won't go in too much detail as it's personal. How long have you been doing this? Do you feel better once you've written a poem? Sometimes people feel better to express themselves in a way where they write about a topic to make the feel better. Many people literally can't write a poem about love and romance but can publish a book on self harm and suicide.
x Steph x

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i've liked this guy for 4 years, and i've always thought he kinda likes me. i'm not so sure though, because he's had girlfriends in between, some of his friends say he likes me, some say he doesn't. he asked me out over the summer, but i wasn't sure if it was real or not, so i played hard to get. then i found out that it was real. i'm not sure if he likes me now, but every day i like him more and more, and i don't even know why. i feel like everyone is liked, except for me. how do i get over him, or feel better?? please help, i rate high! 13/f

Not bothered about the rating - I'm just here to help!
Why not compliment him or smile, perhaps say to him "One of your friends said that you fancied me...do you?". I know it may seem a bit forward but some boys are useless - they can't take a hint and literally need it spelling out for them! So, why not just be open with him, what have you got to lose? We live once, at least make the most of it! :)
x Steph x

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There is this boy I have been going with for two months and his mom found a new house and is moving. When they move he will be tranferring to a new school. They keep setting these dates of when it's going to happen. Every time that date comes they don't move. When I found out he was moving I cried for two whole days. I really love him and don't want him to leave. Then he asked me if he actually does leave will we still be together. I really need some advice on if I should stay with him.

Long distance relationships can be difficult. I'm not going to tell you what to do, but I will advise that you talk openly to your boyfriend. Trust becomes the main thing rather than physical. You must trust that he won't do anything a boyfriend shouldn't do whilst you're seperated. Why don't they move on the date they say? Are you 100% that he is leaving? To sum up, talk to him, tell him how you're feeling and what thoughts are running through your mind.
Good luck!
x Steph x

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Sorry if it`s long I`ll rate 5`s!
I love my mom and all but she really bothers me. I am 13 and I`m kind of mature for my age. My mom said I could get my belly button peirced a yeah ago and she said yeah after I turned 13 and now shes saying no. I turned 13 April 25th and its so unfair I`m getting to really hate her so now she asked " What do you want for Christmas?" and I said. " A new cell phone and a my belly button peirced" and she goes "Your not getting neither your phone is fine."
My phone is a peice of sh1t and falls apart like 5 times a day. And I really want my belly button peirced and she said yeah last year so it`s completely unfair. My little brother gets everything he wants its unfair to me.
How can I convince her to let me get my belly button peirced? And how can I explain that she is unfair to me?
Thanks in advance. I`ll rate 5`s!!

Hey, no worries about the rating - I answer because I want to help! :)
Why not tell her that you feel betrayed because it feels like she lied to you and just said "yes" last year to shut you up? Sit down and talk to her and explain calmy that your phone is falling to pieces, even show it to her if you must.
Best of luck, I know it isn't easy!
x Steph x

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Ok I wear glasses like all the time cause i need them for long distance so when i read i take em off but basically i wear them 24/7 so is it possible to get contacts even tho i take my glasses off when i read?

It is possible! Why not talk to your optician? :)
x Steph x

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I just started highschool and I was out for 3 weeks in the begining of the school year. I am usualy out once a week because I get so depressed my body just gets tired emotional and physicly that I just feel like staying in bed all day. Also I fight with my teachers alot so much they might have to expell me and change my school just because im having such a hard time in school! Is there anyones I can change these problems?

I suppose it's mainly about coping. You have to stay strong, even if your body feels like it can't take it. Maybe talk to a support teacher about how you're feeling or someone you trust.
Best of luck!
x Steph x

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this isn't really a big deal but im really nervous about it--
okay, so i go to a private school, and i have since 6th grade.(im in eighth now)And today we just got some serious news. Our school is also a church, and the church is moving to a different building next year. They pay for half of our school, and we're a poor school as it is, so we cant pay for it all on our own. So there's this school thats about 15 minutes away from my school, and its huge.Its really nice inside, and they have air conditioning (which we dont have) and its super nice there. But im so nervous because its a whole new school, new people, and im not so great at making friends. Im outgoing and hyper and stuff but my weakness is making friends, and im not really good friends with anyone in my class, so i really wanna make friends there. Im also scared that i'll get lost because its so big!please give me advice i rate all 5's!

Don't worry about the rating - I'm here to help!
I'm sure there are MANY other people thinking exactly the same thing to you. Making friends can be difficult but you have to put a brave face on and introduce yourself with a big, fat smile on your face. Create conversations with people. Smile at people passing you by, even if you don't think you'd want to be their friend anyway.
About geting lost, it happens to us all. On your first day, why not stay after school and see where all the rooms are?
You'll be fine and remember, confidence is helpful!
I know my advice is easier said than done but try it...you could get some interesting results! :)
Best of luck!
x Steph x

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Okay so theres this guy, and i have liked him for the longest time. He knows too but he acts like he just doesnt care. He tells me he likes me and says all this cute stuff then the next day he tells me he doesnt like me. He always hurts me but i would still do anything to be with him. He said the reason why he doesnt like me is cause i have a rep. of being a slut but it really isnt true at all. How do i get him to like me, and know the rep. isnt ture?? Im 14

Why not write him a little note saying that he shouldn't believe everything he hears because most of it isn't true? Ensure to give him this note on the day when he says 'cute' things! He shouldn't judge you nor should he believe un-true rumours...tell him that. You never know, something good may come out of this! :)
x Steph x

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Well there is one girl kathy that i have known for 3 years and were good friends you know were there for each other. And then there is this girl brittany. Well Brittany and me have a good bit in common. And i was talking to her and she said that tomorrow she is going to go to a birthday ball and dump the boy she is currently going out with and ask the boy she really likes out, which is me. Well the thing is it seems ALL my friends are enemies. not just say britaany and kathy. But i really dont know what to do. I dont think kathy will stop talking to me by no damn means cause of what all we been through together and the fact we have been there for each other. But i really wouldnt mind going out with brittany since we got a good bit in common. And also as far as me and kathy i have wanted to go out with her since like last october and feel like one day something could happen between me and kathy but really dont know when. So my question is should i go out with brittany since it seems we got alot in common or wait and hope something happens between me and kathy? Eithere way i really feel me and kathy will be there for each other i really do.

If you have this gut feeling about Kathy, why not go with it? Isn't it better to wait a long while for something you feel you think you should have rather than just go out with the first person who likes you and have a bit in common with? I'll let you answer that yourself but if it were me in your position, I'll be sure to stay close to Kathy but still be friends with Brittany...
Best of luck!
x Steph x

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I need advice! My middle school is soooooo boring! All my friend's schools have cooler teachers, more freedom, and fun activities and dances on friday nights. What does my school have? Zippo. We have teachers who aren't interested in making school atleast a little bit fun and interesting, classes that are terribly boring, and no social events at all. We don't even have any free time. The only time we can talk is at lunch which is only 25 minutes long and isn't even lunch, its at 10:30! i kno i can't transfer cuz im doing really well academically and i have a lot of friends. What to do? I RATE!

I'm not bothered about the rating - I'm here to help if I can! :)
What's the choices? You can't move yet you can't stop what's going on. How about writing a letter to your headmaster saying that you want to have a social event, perhaps you and your friend could run it. That could liven things up a tad perhaps! If not, then you have your friends and school isn't going to last forever! :)
x Steph x

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I'm 13, and there's this guy that I REALLY like. I told him, he doesn't like me back, but we're still friends. There's a dance in 3 hours, and I'm not sure whether I should ask him to slow dance. I mean, we slow danced last dance, and I'm afraid that I'll look like I'm desperately trying to "win" him when I'm not, especially considering the fact that he knows that I like him and that he does not like me back. Do you think I should, or would I just look like a loon? If not, could you give a good reason?

Ask him to slow dance, take a chance!! Life is short, take every opportunity given to you, if he looks uneasy, tell him it's only a friendly dance...
Happy dancin'!
x Steph x

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okay my boyfriends 17th birthday is on tuesday, and i really dont know what to get him!..im stressing over it and everything!..i really need ideas, im going shopping on saterday with my friends, so im getting him something then, i want to get him something good, but i really dont know what..and it cant be too pricey cuz i havent gotten allowance yet. but if anyone can give me some ideas it would be GREAT!..

Ideas:
- A favourite cd of his favourite band/artist
- A mixed tape/cd of all his favourite bands/artists
- A box of his favourite chocolates
- A football/basketball depending on which sport he likes
- Alcohol

Happy Shopping!
x Steph x

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A friend of mine is avoiding talking to me. She says that she isn't talking to anybody who needs help/advice or anyone whos going through things because she has her own stuff to deal with. So, yeah, we're having problems because I should be able to count on her but I just can't. We're both in theatre, and both doing Costumes for this next show. So basically, i'm stuck with her. Plus i've been sick and i've missed some of the crew calls. Should I just quit costumes?? I would do the show after this, but I don't feel like being on her crew. I enjoy sewing and making costumes but.....

Why should you stop doing something just because some girl wants to be self-obsessed and selfish? You do what you want to do and maybe he civil to this girl. It's a shame that she wasn't a good friend by listening to you and trying to help you. If you enjoy sewing and making costumes, then you do it, girl! :)
x Steph x

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here it is short and sweet:

im a 15 year old girl. sophomore in high school.
ive never had a boyfriend..not because of my looks...because ive been in love with this one guy for over 2 years, but he has always had a girlfriend and he has a 1 year anniversary coming up next month. its taken time...but ive gotten over that after telling him i loved him and having him not giving a shit. so now ive had my eye on this one guy whos a junior...hes really cute...but a couple problems...he know who i am...but i have texted him annonimously droping hints and hell prob find out my name but he still wont know what i look like. so how do i get to know him (whos pretty popular). im shy and i dont do well with guys.

Make yourself noticed to this guy. Make conversation, ask if he's alright, what his favourite sport is, if he's had a good weekend, what he wants for Christmas and so on. But, please, bare this in mind:
Isn't it better to not get your hopes up, so if something happens, it's unexpected rather than getting your hopes up high and being disappointed which can then lead to heart break?
Best of luck!
We have one chance in this life, make the most of it! :)
x Steph x

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what does 143 mean?

143 Records is the record label of producer David Foster. 143 is a sub-label of Atlantic Records. The numbers 1-4-3 are derived from the words "I Love You."
x Steph x

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Ok i have two questions. so number one. ok i have this friend.. ok well he took my twin sisters virginity."they went out for a long time" anyways but he is always flirting with me. i find that wrong. but also he bothers me so much because he surely doesn't act like someone in highschoo. he acts like my little sister and he just does the stupidest things and ive been noticing it really bad lately. anyways so like ive been like "avoiding" him well not really just not talking to him as much but i mean i just don't know how to tell him how i feel or if i should even say anything to him, because hes always been i guess a good friend of mine.

second question: Ok. i started Birth Control for an ovarian cyst like 4 months ago. but i go off of it for a month then started back up about 2 months ago. but my periods just aren't normal. Ok i was on my period for a week like i was suppose to be then i was off for a week and then got back on it and i have been on it for 12 days and still counting. and its really bothering me cause i don't know why and my doctor keeps saying we need to check stuff cause its not normal when im off of it but im trying to tell him its the other way around but he just doesn't listen. so anyone had this happen or know why this is.
sorry this is so long. please help.

1 - Tell him. If he's bothering you, be straight with him but don't be nasty. Advise him to stop flirting with you because you feel uncomfortable. See if that stops him.
2 - Tell your doctor that it's the other way around. I haven't experienced that myself but perhaps it's your body trying to get used to the newness of it as you have stopped talking the pills.
x Steph x

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sry its long but ill rate 5's unless its mean

okay well on thursyday of last week i asked this guys ian out and he said no because he doesnt like me in that way. well i tried and it took me like 2 days but i got over it. well wednesday we had study hall instead of band and ian took my seat so i sat beside him and me and him talked the whole time and then his friend matt who was on the other side of him told me that ian liked me and then i saw ian yell at matt for something and then today in math class eric (( ians best friend and my cousin)) told me something and i think it was about ian and then ian yelled at him and i think he told him to shut up! whats going on here!?

Perhaps Ian is in denial. Maybe he realised that you liked him and suddenly payed more attention to you because he knew this. It seems like he likes you, compliment him, flirt with him (if you still like him that is!) and see how he reacts, if it's good, then perhaps it is true...You could always ask Matt or Eric what Ian said and ask them what's going on, maybe they'll let you in on the secret!
x Steph x

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i've liked the same guy on/off since like the 5th grade...lets jus say im wayyyyyyy past the 5th grade(im a sohpmore in HS.) (we never dated)Anyway he recently moved and has been dating like a bunch of other girls and i have been thinking i need to move on...so i guess my question is how? like what is going to make this depressed feeling go away. lately i've just felt really numb how can i feel good again? i know it sounds pathetic but i always believed that like i'd always have him.

Not bothered by the rating - I'm here to help..if I can!
I know how hard it is to get over someone that you like and believed loved (perhaps you did?) when they're right there. Want to know the answer? Time. It takes time which is really tough. I know it's probably not what you want to hear but there are more important things for you to do in the world rather than mope about someone that doesn't seem interested anyway. Why go through more heart ache and get your heart broken more when you can be the strong one and turn over a new leaf?
Best of luck, chin up and face the music!
x Steph x

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