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okay so me and my "friend" got into this huge fight and we just now have been talking about it and have come to an agrement: to be school friends and let it flow over. at the time it sounded like a good idea but now im kinda like i dont want to even talk to her or be "school" friends with her. and we have this friend thats kinda stuck in the middle but she was never a true friend to me either and now i dont really want her in my life so my question is what do i do? i dont want to hurt them but there are my feelings to consider to! (link)
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first off.. what the heck is a "school friend"?? do you have "out of school friends" and "house friends" and "weekend friends" and stuff like that??? i've never put my friends into categories like that.
if you don't want to talk to your friend over a silly fight then that's your decision.. but i think a small argument is hardly a reason to stop being friends. regardless of how close or not close you two were. if you don't want to be friends with them then why do you care about hurting their feelings? if they are of absolutely no importance to you then why worry right?
i think you all should take a deep breath, cool off, and give your friendship another shot. fights happen so often, and theyr not worth losing a friend over.
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what do i do if the whole family is mad at me and im grounded
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hmm that happens to me a lot.. steer clear of the fam for a little bit.. stay in your room, talk on the cell (assuming you didnt get that taken away) and stuff.. they'll become less heated and upset gradually.. no worries.. it blows over fast
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How do u let a girl know that u like her? she doesnt seem like she responds to my hints. is it just because she doesnt like me or what? if she you think she just doesnt like me how do i tell? (link)
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maybe your hints are too subtle..try going for something bolder next time you flirt with her.. or if you ARE being bold.. it is very posible she knows you like her and just isn't feeling it.. but that's not always the case. girls, like guys, can be TOTALLY clueless. i think that the best way to let her know you like her, is to let her know you like her. and by that i mean you have to tell her straight up. you could think of some cute way to do it if shes the type that will absolutely go nuts and fall madly in love with you (hypothetically speaking of course)or you could just opt for the simple "i like you line" and wait for her reaction. dangle the bait right in front of her nose. if she doesn't bite.. then find another fish who will. i know, it's tough telling someone you like them.. it's extremely nerve-wrecking..but once you work up the courage it's not so bad. and just think of how good it would be if she liked you too.. but was too scared to show it until YOU made the first move? good luck.. hope it all works out for you
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quick question...and speak TRUTHFULLY...you ready?
...is bigger better? NO THINKING! (link)
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umm.. i guess everyone is entitled to their own opinion on this one.. so whatever you think is better must be better..
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Hey Tara, its Ro! =) ok well im just gonna cut to why im writing cuz im confused and durt and i can't stop crying.My boyfriend just broke up with me, wasnt a long relationship, its been 3 weeks but i was really starting to care a lot about him. I dont know what wrong with me! i cant keep a guy anymore. Last Thursday i had this little party at my house and my bf was there and my friends. One of my friends was flirting with jimi so i was getting mad. Jimi asked onf of my other friends why i was mad and she told him that it was because i thought he was flirting with my other friend. So he ran out of the house and took a half hr walk, punched a pole, and a garage door.i cried in front of evenybody.I thought the worst.Then FINALLY wen he got back we talked and i remember exactualy what he said "i really like you alot, i'd never hurt you. you make me feel soo good inside" ... but wtf! he said he wouldnt hurt me & he did. iduno if he see any problem nd i dont even know if this is making any sense i just needed a way to talk to anyone cuz my friends arent the "advice" people nd i cant talk to tem about anything bc most of them have never had boyfrieds and just wouldnt understand. well i think i should make my point a little more, i REALLY like him, i THOUGHT he was different, i CANT be his friend, and since hes 2 years older than me i THOUGHT he was treating me better and was more MATURE ... i thought he ment it when he said he wouldnt hurt me ='/
im gonna stop writing now. i could go on more but i know you got more adivce to give. i dont even think theres advice for what i said , i needed a place to vent or someting... thanks for listening hun (link)
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RoRo,
of course i would listen! there's advice to give for EVERYONE, and i hope that i can give you the advice you need to hear. i don't understand why you are so upset, being that it is only 3 weeks. but it seems like you two really like each other. ill do my best to give you advice because i have never liked anyone that much after such a short period of time, so i can't lie and tell you i know what it's like. it sounds like jimi got a little bit upset that you would think he would ever hurt you. and maybe you are a little bit insecure still, and need to be able to trust him. but he DID hurt you. and that is what you're upset about. because he told you he wouldn't. just because you had one little fight doesnt mean you are going to be doomed as a couple. try talking to him. you both are kind of overreacting. you should have the "trust" talk, and by that i mean telling him that you need to be able to trust him and he needs to be able to trust you.. no relationship works without trust.
you did good picking an older one tho.. the maturity level kind of evens out because boys are idiots :-D
hope everything works for and jimi.. good luck and keep me posted! lemme know how things are going in the big apple!
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fell in love with my brother's best friend... 2 years older than me... in college. i'm in high school. can't get him out of my head. he cares for me but more so for my future, making himself believe that he would hurt me and my future if he got attached. i'm already attached. this leads him to only believe that the best relationship would be friends. i agree but it's more difficult than it should be to get over him. boys, nothin' but trouble. (link)
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amen to that sister. boys are nothin' but trouble.. and ain't that the truth! if this guy really cares for you like he says he does, then he beleives the best thing for both of you is to cool it, and you care for him just as much, then maybe you should both take time.. or if you feel hes making a huge mistake (because you know boys are dumb like that) then you need to tell him whats in your heart. have a talk with him. and getting over a guy isnt EVER easy.
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hey tara! ok ive liked this guy for quite awhile now & we've gotten too know each other really well. at first i thought we had somethin goin on just by the way he would talk to me & stuff..hes a huge flirt & even told me that he flirts with almost every girl so i wasnt sure if he liked me "that" way or just flirted w/ me like he did with every other girl. so one day we were chatting online & i dunno it felt like the perfect time to just tell him how i really felt. i was tired of playing games & i was so tired wondering what he was feeling..etc. so i told him that i liked him but he said he thought of me as a friend so i was crushed. & i cant get him out of my head & its killing me. im trying soooooooo hard to forget about him & MOVE ON! its so hard to get over someone when you really like them & cant stop thinking about them constantly. so if you have any ideas to GET OVER HIM that would be greatly appreciated. basically i dont want to like anyone at the time because its too stressful & filled w/ drama lol
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dear tired and hurt,
my dear, you asked me to do the impossible. i can't help you get this guy out of your head. you can't help who you like. i know it's not fair, but not all crushes work out as miracles. in fact it very rarely happens that way. its extremely HARD to get over someone, i'm not gonna lie. it takes time. my only solution for you, which COULD work if done right: find a distraction. look for a new guy. think there's none out there? you would be surprised. try talking to someone you have never really talked to before. get to know someone a little better. and just like that a new crush can develop. then it's out with the old, in with the new.
afraid the same thing is going to happen again? then take a break from guys all together. recuperate from this blow to your heart by spending time with girlfriends and hanging out in groups of guys and girls. the more you're having fun being single, the more you will realize you don't need this guy. it's gonna be tough but you can do it. good luck!
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hey,
there is this girl that i really want to have soemthign special with. i want to put in the time and make her the happiest person in the world. but she doesnt feel that way about me. i can tell that she knows that i care about her and we hang out all the time... but with other ppl there though. she got with a guy on new years and likes him a little and hes an ass. it jsut annoying for all us guys that want something serious. i dont know. it is jstu somethin that has been buggin me.
~romeo~ (link)
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hey romeo, let me clue you in on a little fact. life is not fair. trust me, i KNOW the feeling of wanting somebody and never having them, it's a lousy one. is this guy really an ass or are you just insanely jealous of this other guy? it's ok for her to hook up with other guys if you two arn't going out or are together or anything like that. i can understand why it's bugging you though. you like her, and she isn't responding the way you want her too. it's kind of funny that you mention "all us guys that want something serious" because it seems to "all us girls" that all you guys DON'T want something serious lol.
i can't help you get over juliet, romeo. all i can tell you is to keep trying. maybe tell this girl how you feel. just don't dye a tragic and heroic death for her if she isn't willing to dye for you too.. figuratively speaking. what i mean is, just relax about it and don't worry so much. in the end things will work out for the best. i know it's a cliche but it's good to hope for the best in this situation. keep a positive attitude.
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Im 14 years old and in 9th grade. I have always had boyfriends that are at least 4 years older then me, but latley its been getting boring dating older guys. So now i have been hanging/checking out younger guys. I dont feel like there is anything wrong with that but the guy i am dating right now is 10. I dont have a problem with it but its a big change, especially u know where. Do you think that this is normal? would u? (link)
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wow, well i can understand dating an older guy. the maturity level evens out, if you know what i mean. dating a younger guy is cool, but when you are fourteen and he's ten.. well thats a BIG difference. is a ten year old even aware of the normal stuff in relationships? i mean i don't know because i've never dated anyone younger than me. i don't necesarily think it's wrong, but that doesn't mean i think it's right either. i guess you have to do whatever is comfortable for you. if you like him, by all means go for it. i wouldn't, but everyone is entitled to their own opinion and values.
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So, I've been crushing for... well months, and now things have taken a little turn, we talk more and text and so on and so forth and I'm really excited about it because I've worked so hard for this. But if we ever do end up going out I don't want to be pressured into doing anything I dont want to do. It seems like a catch 22, someone I've worked so hard for, but now don't want to go too far with. I know what most of you are thinking, "TOO FAR?", but I want to keep to my standards even for this person that I have worked so hard to have... what would you do? (link)
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Sounds like someone is having cold feet. I think it's great that you have found someone you really like, and it sounds as if they like you too. You're scared of going "too far" with this person though, and that is totally understandable. I know the feeling of working hard to achieve something and then getting it, it's one of the best in the world. You want to stick to your standards though, and that means that if you two do have a relationship, the other person is going to have to know what those standards are. And the only way they will know is if you tell them. That task can be kind of tricky, but I think you can handle it. As far as what I would do, definitely keep to what I beleive in. And share my beleifs with my boyfriend/girlfriend. I advise you to do the same... so good luck!
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ok if i ask u a question and dont leave my name...can u still find out who i am...?!?!
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umm the chances of that are very slim.. mostly i never know who you are if you don't leave your name
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wow it feels doing this but i really need help...it has been a long time since i have been in a relationship w/anybody and i have a lot of friends that are girls but none of them seem to like me "that" way..what should i do?
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well do u like any of them "that" way? and it's ok about not being in a relationship in a while. i havnt had one in quite a while either, and look at me, im still ok.. i think.. lol. its ok, you dont HAVE to be in a relationship. you just have to be patient and wait for the right girl to come along. don't worry, she's out there and she is probably waiting for you too, even if neither of you know it yet. don't stress out over it, just have fun. remember, patience is a virtue.. a very hard one to follow but still a virtue. wait a little while and the fruit will fall into your hand. i read that in a book and it was good advice so i'm repeating it to you. theres no rush to get a girl. the perfect one will come along soon enough.
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Okay, so there is this girl that I've known for quite a while, we've been friends for 2 years or so I think. I met her becuase she is my sister's best friend sister. My sister and her friend think that she likes me because she always talks about me and says stuff about me. So for a while, I just ignored the signs .. she was just a friend to me and nothing more. Also, she is my sister's best friend's sister and our two families. know eachother very well .. so it would be rather odd if there was a relationship going on there. Except, now, I am starting to like her .. a lot .. and I don't know exactly what to do. Bah, oh mighty Tara that knows everything .. HELP ME! Should I try to tell her how I feel or ask her on a date or something? I'm clueless, really. (link)
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ok well i will try to help you to the best of my ability, considering i have been in your shoes before, though i never actually started to like the person. see, we have these family friends who i have known my whole life, and i am good friends with this one guy, we even spent spring break with them once. they live in new york and we see them every winter and summer. to make a long story short, this guy has had an ongoing crush for me ever since he learned what the word crush was. i have always ignored it, no matter how many times my little sister or his little sister brought it up, because liking the kid you used to take baths with, is just not an option for me lol. still, he is one of my good friends, and having a relationship with him would just be totally weird, considering our mothers have been best friends since college and ive known him forever. so, i know how weird it would be for you to have a relationship with this girl. maybe you should just ask her if she feels anything more than friendly towards you. and if she does, and you feel the same way, great, make it happen. but beware of what will happen when you two break up. your families are so close, you would still see her A LOT and going back to friends after being more would be incredibly hard to do, not to mention totally awkward. think before you leap on this one.. think very hard. good luck
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By the way I think this advice thing is really cool and really sweet of you! ok so neway, I was walking to class one day and i see this really cute little freshman(i'm in 10th)and the reason i noticed him was b/c he looked like this guy from a tv show that me and my friend watch. so i go and tell her and i show him to her and she's like aww yeah he's really cute. so we kinda start this little obsession with him but not really we just thought he was really cute. So it was really freaky b/c the guy on the tv show that he looks like and him have the same name! so this goes on for a few monthes and we're like aww there he is, just kinda being silly. Well the kid starts to catch on...and to make a long story short he now thinks that i like him! which i totally don't #1 he's shorter than me #2 he's younger(which isn't always bad but in this case it is) and #3 we just wanted to be his friend and tell him he's cute! So now he acts all weird when i pass him in the hall b/c he thinks i like him...so what should i tell this kid w/o freaking him out, to clear this matter up...and i've never even said a word to him i just know abt what he thinks through a friend of his. I just want to be friends and tell him he's cute that's ALL! Thanx! (link)
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haha thanks for the compliment! ok well if i were this kid, and there were girls that i saw talking about me all the time, then i would get the impression that they liked me, so its a normal reaction on his part. and a normal reaction to obsess over a cute kid who looks like someone famous. but you gotta set him straight and tell him that you really dont like him, you just lk his looks because hes like the dude from tv lol. so then be exactly what you want to be. tell him hes cute, and then be his friend!
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ok. I had been goin out with this girl for 4 months. We recently broke up because we were getting into too many fights. i love her to death and cant stand being broken up. we have soo much in common its not even funny. we had gone out previous to this time and things didnt go so well. we stopped talking for a while untill we saw each other at a friends birthday party over the summer. after that we were best friends for about 3 months and then we finally broke the ice and told each other that we liked one another. when we started going out, we were perfect for each other and had no problems. as time went on we started getting into little fight here and there and then the fights just kinda became more numerous. we fought like everyday for the last week of our relationship because my girlfriend(now x)thought i liked someone else b/c i went out to dinner with a bunch of guy friends and and that girl she thought i liked. my girlfriend had never been real fond of the girl and she thinks she is a big flirt. i did not tell me girlfriend about the dinner untill 3 nights later when i had the chance. she got mad that i didnt tell her untill then. there isnt alot of trust in that department of the relationship. i also get mad at her when she talkes to other guys - its just a problem i have and i cannot trust myslef in trusting her that she wont flirt with them. so we broke up over those problems and i told her i wanted us to try again and she said no. she said that we had to wait a couple weeks-over christmas break to see if things are better. we still talk as we did when we were going out and still hang out sometimes. i dont understand the whole long break thing and why we still act as if we were going out. now im really afraid she wont liek me any more after the break and that she might start liking someone else in that period of time. she says she wont but i dont know. can u help me out and tell me what u think about this situation and if i should wait that long too see if things get better? i REALLY REALLY want to get back with her if we get the chance. she is so amazing and i cant stand being with out her. please help me out here tara, thanks (link)
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wow. well, if you want to get back together with her as much as you say you do, then you will understand that she needs some space. she asked for it correct? and if you respect her and like her then you'll let her have it. as far as being worried that she'll like someone else and getting jealous, thats totally normal. i think that EVERYONE has those feelings. but not being able to trust her? that's not normal. its one thing to be jealous but its another thing to not know if shes going to make your jealousy nightmares come true. you two still talk, which is good, because it shows that no matter what you can still be friends. but if you want to make it work again in the future, you're going to have to reevaluate some things. you mentioned that you two fought.. well think about what you fought over. and think about how you can prevent that the next time around, or you'll end up right back where you at this moment, which is not where you want to be. to be honest, i would get mad at my boyfriend if he didnt tell me he chilled with another girl until three nights later. but i would understand if he really just didnt get a chance too until then, like you didnt get a chance to tell your girlfriend. now we know that the trust issue isnt just with you, but shes having some trouble trusting you in YOUR decisions also. if you want to make this work again, you both HAVE to trust eachother. trust is KEY in having a good relationship. withouht it, it just wouldnt be able to function. i think you two have a lot of talking to do. and you need to discuss the possibility of getting back together, and what you two can do to make your relationship strong again. just remember, it takes two people to work at having a good relationship, so both of you need to put in effort. i hope that everything works out for you guys and that you are back together before the break. good luck!
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one day i didnt have any lunch money and i knew this one girl did cause she always does but when i asked her if i could borrow a dollar ( i even offered to pay her back double the next day) she said no...so i stole it,shame on me, i no,i paid her back the next day though,and (i dont no when this part actually happened...)but now my other "friend" had some money stolen from her purse and since they knew about what i did they are blaming it on me,i know i didnt do it, and i told them that i dint but they say they dont believe me and they cant trust me anymore,it really hurts, the girl i originally took a dollar from i didnt like anyways but the one that has money missing was my friend so its not like i wouldnt tell her about it even if i did(which once again i didnt)and they dont believe me,now were not even talking since they cant trust me,which means i obviously cant trust them anymore then...kinda getting long,so ill sum it up,Please Help (link)
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well.. i can see why your friend wouldnt trust you. stealing is stealing, no buts about it. have you ever heard the story of the little boy who cried wolf? well, in case you havnt, let me fill you in. there was a boy and every day he cried that he saw a wolf, and every day they village people came to his rescue, and he would laugh and laugh because there really was no wolf. well one day, the little boy saw a wolf. he cried to the villagers, but they didnt listen to him because they thought he was lying. so the boy was never seen again. see how it kind of relates to you? you stole once, people are gonna think you did it again, even if you DID pay your friend back. you made a mistake and now i guess you have to pay for it
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When a boy gets dumped by a girl shouldnt he ummm take it like a man n just move on (lk yeah he can still have feelings 4 her) but now lk moop around n cry everyday 4 lk 2 weeks??!?!!?! lol (link)
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haha well i guess every guy has a right to cry, but if hes doing it in public 24/7 for 2 weeks straight.. thats a BIT much..
lol ashley but for one person in particular, i know EXACLTY who you are talking about and he needs to get his act together and SUCK IT UP.
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Hey, I used to be really good friends with this one girl, wont say her name. we could tell each other everything and anything. but then just the last few monts shes started acting like she's too good for me and my other friends, that she was also friends with. it just seems like she only talks to us when she wants something, be it attension or something like money for lunch. its making me sad how we're drifting apart. we've tried talking to her but she doesnt see what she's doing...what should i do now? (link)
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what exactly is she "doing" that she doesnt see shes doing? maybe you should try talking to her again. the first time you may not have been clear enough and maybe she didnt get the message. how does she act like shes too good for you? just because she hangs out with other people too? maybe your a little bit jealous that she has other friends also. and she IS free to make her own choices, even if they are not the best ones. so try talking to her again, and see what happens.
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why are girls like no good? all they do is complain and stuff. it feels like all they are is a lost cause and guys should all just turn gay. i'm so respectful with them and all i get in return is shit. its jsutannoying. like why are girsl so stupid and brain dead... are they as stupid as i think or are they just not interested and want me to like figure it out on my own?
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i can see your point, but girls are NOT brain dead. they are FAR from brain dead. well some may be brain dead, and others may be just blonde and easily confused (ahem, me) and others are totally brilliant but just dont want to let on how smart they are. girls tend to hide their intelligence and be secretly smart, not that i would know because im not too bright, but a lot of my friends are smart. its funny how you say that girls just complain and stuff and theyr brain dead. because we girls think that guys are cocky and all they want is a peice of ass, and they dont respect us at all (even though you claim to respect us) and that a guy doesnt like you if your'e smarter than he is. so, i think its just one of those things about the opposite sex that you guys will never understand about us girls, just as there are many things we will never understand about you.
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Ok, so, there's this boy right (gosh, that phrase is starting to get a little cliche), anyway, I've known him since 6th grade when he started crushing on me. I never really had feelings for him, but I loved talking to him! He was really funny, and I felt like I could tell him anything! I know he liked me, and he knew i knew, half the time we were fighting, but when we weren't we'd talk for hours. Now to explain the past tense and to make it a long story short, he doesn't talk to me anymore. We got in a fight over something, and it just got worse from there. I'm in 9th grade now, so we've known each other for 3 years, and I know so much about him that I wish he would talk to me. I don't know what do to because I've explained how I feel and he just doesn't even want to hear it. What should I do?
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boys, can't live with em, can't live without em.. so what if its cliche? its the gosh darn truth aint it? it sounds to me like this guy has been crushing on you real bad, for a very extended period of time.. 3 years?? he must really like you. you said that you knew he liked you, and he knew you knew, but even though both of you knew, did you talk about it? because not talking about it can start brewing troubled waters deep under the surface, and get worse and worse until it finally spills out, which must have been your major fight. and now you two dont talk anymore. you mentioned that you loved him as a friend because he was basically an awesome person and a great friend to you. so why were you two always bickering? it seems to me that with a great guy like him there would never be any fighting. but was it maybe a communication issue? maybe you need a better approach at telling him your feelings for him. and if you have already done all you can, then its his problem. if he wants to lose a great friendship, then its his loss. because he needs to get over the fact that you are simply his friend. and you cant be upset about it. your not responisble for his feelings. whatever you do, dont feel guilty about not returning his affection. maybe you should try talking to him again, and tell him whats in your heart and that you really want to be his friend. if he doesnt get it, then even his friendship isnt worth your precious time. you said you could tell him anything, so go ahead. tell him anything. heck, go tell him EVERYTHING. hope it all works out.. good luck
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