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hey tara,
ok. I had been goin out with this girl for 4 months. We recently broke up because we were getting into too many fights. i love her to death and cant stand being broken up. we have soo much in common its not even funny. we had gone out previous to this time and things didnt go so well. we stopped talking for a while untill we saw each other at a friends birthday party over the summer. after that we were best friends for about 3 months and then we finally broke the ice and told each other that we liked one another. when we started going out, we were perfect for each other and had no problems. as time went on we started getting into little fight here and there and then the fights just kinda became more numerous. we fought like everyday for the last week of our relationship because my girlfriend(now x)thought i liked someone else b/c i went out to dinner with a bunch of guy friends and and that girl she thought i liked. my girlfriend had never been real fond of the girl and she thinks she is a big flirt. i did not tell me girlfriend about the dinner untill 3 nights later when i had the chance. she got mad that i didnt tell her untill then. there isnt alot of trust in that department of the relationship. i also get mad at her when she talkes to other guys - its just a problem i have and i cannot trust myslef in trusting her that she wont flirt with them. so we broke up over those problems and i told her i wanted us to try again and she said no. she said that we had to wait a couple weeks-over christmas break to see if things are better. we still talk as we did when we were going out and still hang out sometimes. i dont understand the whole long break thing and why we still act as if we were going out. now im really afraid she wont liek me any more after the break and that she might start liking someone else in that period of time. she says she wont but i dont know. can u help me out and tell me what u think about this situation and if i should wait that long too see if things get better? i REALLY REALLY want to get back with her if we get the chance. she is so amazing and i cant stand being with out her. please help me out here tara, thanks
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wow. well, if you want to get back together with her as much as you say you do, then you will understand that she needs some space. she asked for it correct? and if you respect her and like her then you'll let her have it. as far as being worried that she'll like someone else and getting jealous, thats totally normal. i think that EVERYONE has those feelings. but not being able to trust her? that's not normal. its one thing to be jealous but its another thing to not know if shes going to make your jealousy nightmares come true. you two still talk, which is good, because it shows that no matter what you can still be friends. but if you want to make it work again in the future, you're going to have to reevaluate some things. you mentioned that you two fought.. well think about what you fought over. and think about how you can prevent that the next time around, or you'll end up right back where you at this moment, which is not where you want to be. to be honest, i would get mad at my boyfriend if he didnt tell me he chilled with another girl until three nights later. but i would understand if he really just didnt get a chance too until then, like you didnt get a chance to tell your girlfriend. now we know that the trust issue isnt just with you, but shes having some trouble trusting you in YOUR decisions also. if you want to make this work again, you both HAVE to trust eachother. trust is KEY in having a good relationship. withouht it, it just wouldnt be able to function. i think you two have a lot of talking to do. and you need to discuss the possibility of getting back together, and what you two can do to make your relationship strong again. just remember, it takes two people to work at having a good relationship, so both of you need to put in effort. i hope that everything works out for you guys and that you are back together before the break. good luck!
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