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Name: Kelley ♥ I'm a jv cheerleader for my school, Keystone Oaks. it's pretty insane there. i have great friends and a very conplicated family. being loud and obnxious pretty much describes me and my friends. i text all the time. i get annoyed very easly though and random mood swings. trying new things is very exciting and i'm usually up for anything. i love piercings and bright jewlery. i don't go anywhere without my bracelets. i made this not only to give advice but to get it too. nobody perfect. i struggle with tough issues all the time. people need guidance and i'm here to give it and receive it :] IM me sometime uhohxomfg!

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should your boyfriend/girlfriend come before your best friend?

please explain too ♥ thanks.

absolutly friends first. boyfriends/girlfriends will come and go but best friends are always there. just think if your boyfriend/girlfriend dumps you, who is gonna be there. not them of course. your best friends!! :]

i have a thesis paper due on tuesday that i really need to work on and alot of other work to do this weekend. i was planning on doing it friday night. i just got a call from my work, & they are wondeing if i can work on friday b/c there was a "mix-up" on the schedual & neither of the other 2 girls can work. i really don't know if i should...i know it's not my responibility because i wasn't the one orignally on the schedual (the other 2 girls had the mix up) but i would feel bad/guilty telling them i can't. when my boss called i by accidently said "i need to see how much of my paper i can get done today" but I WILL NOT GET ANY OF IT DONE and now she know's i don't have any other excuse. WHAT DO I DO? should i work? if not, what can i tell her?

i think school is more important right now. she will understand that you already have something that needs to be done. just break it to her nicely and offer to work extra if she needs you :]

me and this kid went out a long time ago and he was my first guy that i actually really cared about and then we broke up for about a year and a half..we still talked and i always liked him..i never really stoped...then just recently we went back out..we hooked up on 3/16 and he just broke up with me yesterday because he got a ticket and hes getting his licences(spelling?) taken away and he said that hes won't be able to see me and he has to get a job and he has to move out this summer and he just wants to be single.. it really hurt me because there is no one else i want ..i meann he makes me soo happy and everything..we never got into a fight and i thought our relationship was going great...and i don't know what to do, i just want to be with him ...im so upset about it and i need help on how to deal with it.. hes the only guy that broke up with me..all the other guys i broke up with..help?
thanks in advance

I think for now just stay friends since it seems like he does have a lot to deal with. just try to help him as much as you can with his moving, ticket, job ect. and he will see how much you can help him with everything and realize that he can manage having a girlfriend and all the problems at once. but take things slow. hope it all works out :]

i have been with my boyfriend for five months.
i met a senior a couple months ago and we really hit it off as friends, like we have everything in common and we feel like we've known each other forever. we will talk online and it takes us forever to get off cause we have so much to say and i am the only person he likes to/can talk on the phone with for hours. i sort of have a thing for him but i would never do anything about it because i care about my boyfriend and i'm not that kind of girl, but about a week ago i was hanging out with the senior and a couple of his friends. we ended up watching a movie and i tickled him and he fell back on me and ended up staying there, like we sat there with our heads on each other's shoulders. then later i was complaining cause i didn't have the corner seat on the couch and he said "well here's a corner" pointing to his arm and the couch. he had a pillow on his lap so i ended up laying with my head on his lap and he held my hand. it was soo cute.

but here's my question.
how bad is it that i was cuddling with another guy? i wouldn't want anything to end up happening cause i don't want to lose my boyfriend especially because of a guy that iwll be leaving soon.

well if you two didnt do anything i dont see to big of a problem. just dont let it get any further then that. if your boyfriend does find out do not no matter what lie to him about it. tell him the whole truth and that you would never even think about leaving him for the other guy and you really like him a lot and didnt mean to hurt him. but if he doesnt find out then dont even bother bringing it up. everything will be fine if you dont let it get any further.

OK, so I have this friend Jassy. And she is making a huge mistake. She met a guy over the internet and started dating him. He, of course, lives on the other side of the country. And, being the idiot she has always been, is meeting with him over the summer. Now, if you are willing to travel 3,000 miles across country like he is, you are not 14 like he says he is.

Therefore, my friend, Jessica, and I are trying to convince her not to meet him. Jassy thinks she's safe and can trust him but she can't. Jessica felt the same about her neighbor and he molested her. Her neighbor is someone she's always known. Imagine what someone my friend doesn;t even know could do to her. Jassy keeps saying it can't happen to her. She's just being so ignorant!! What should I do? She can get extremely hurt. Sorry this is long, but my friend is putting herself in danger!

definitly be there for her. no matter what. if you are to scared to talk to her parents then tell your parents and they will for sure do something about it. a good way to get them to stop talking to to block him from her buddylist and delete his screen name when she isnt around. make sure you delete it though because she could scoll down to see who is offline and see he is blocked. if none of that works then in the summer find out when they are supposed to meet and be prepared like having yours and her family around without her knowing incase something happens. he definitly isnt a 14 year old if he is going to travel that far. hope everything is okay and works out. what ever you do just stick by her side as much as you can.

Ok, well my boyfriend and me met at camp in 2005 summer. So we've been going out since a few weeks ago. We never really talked to eachother but my friend knows him and goes to school with him and my friend would call me and tell me what he said. But we never talked face- to -face and he broke up with me because i told my friend Secrets and then she told him!! He broke up with me because the secrets were gross....

But i was wondering if anyone could help me get us back together that would be awesome!

I RATE 5'S!

well i would try to talk to him yourself instead of threw your friend. just tell him that your really sorry that you didnt tell him and that you were keeping the secrets from him. and keep telling him that you really want to be with him and that your really sorry. if he still has feelings for you it shouldnt take long to get back together if he excepts your apology. i hope everything works out

okay so theres this guy. . .

awe. if i was you i would probably just let things be for awhile. if he starts to fade away then that means that he might have liked you but not sure anymore but if things stay strong like they are now theres probably a good chance that he likes you. guys throw a lot of mixed signals to girls that dont know how to handle them haha like us :] but anway just let things be for awhile. if your friend cares about your friendship she wont do anything with your love so things should turn out okay. hope i helped

okay so i couple days ago i had sex for the first time. and it wasn't technically "sex" i mean it was because he was in me but only for like 2 or 3 minutes. and he didn't cum in me or even after at all. we didnt use a condom but he didnt cum or anything and he knows for sure. and i am supposed to get my period in 2 weeks and today i had a really big sticky like thing of discharge in my underwear does this mean that i am going to get my period or what exactly was it i have seen it before but this time it was a lot.

some guys can't even tell when they do or not so never ever trust that i recomend if you do that again please at least wear a condom. you probably arent pregnant but there could be a chance but very low. but the discharge is probably just coming bigger and more since you just expanded your hole from having sex so its easier to come down. but that probably means that your gonna get your period soon. if you dont get it in the time or maybe a week later i recomend you get a pregnancy test also. hope everything is alright

if you have foundation and then under eye concealer,which do you put on first?

thanks.
5's for your answers

i usually put on foundation first before anything just to make sure that its all even and everything but it really depends on the order of how you put on your other make up. like if you do foundation first thing then i recomend putting it on after. but whatever works for you

There is a guy I really like (who also has the slight potential of liking me back). He's very funny and actually very polite and nice. However, he doesn't seem to be a very devout Christian, because he cusses. Even though I cuss sometimes, I feel like he may have a bad influence on me in that way, and I know from Bible study that I'm supposed to surround myself with people who share my beliefs and are going to be a good influence. But there seems to be something wrong with that, because if I cuss now and then, I may be a kind of bad influence on others too, and they wouldn't want to be around ME either. I guess what I'm trying to ask is...would it be okay to continue to flirt with this guy and (if it works out right) date him? Sorry, this was kind of long and confusing... btw, I'm almost 16, if that helps any.

I think that you should follow your heart. if you think that you like him a lot then continue to try to be with him. we all have our bad habits once in awhile. the bible also says god wants us to be happy. so if you are happy with him i don't see it as to much as a bad thing. just don't pick up his cussing habits tho. hope i helped

okay so i have been working at this job for 2 years now and one of my managers became like my best friend we talked about everything and hung out all the time, and all of a sudden she started being so mean to me and actually made me cry! she wont help me get days off that i need and she talks behind my back well now i have another job but really need both jobs for the money what should i do thatis reasonable should i ignore it because that always is harder to do!! HELP

I would try talking to her calmly about it. like nothing mean or argueing or anything because you don't want to lose your job or friend. try to look at little things though. like maybe ask around seeing if like her personal life has something wrong or family or something. but if i were you i would just keep being nice to her and try to talk to her to see what is up. hope i helped

OK so im only 14/f and im pretty skinny. I have stretch marks on my inner thighs. Nobody my age that i know has these.. is this even normal? and summer is coming up soon and its like oh there goes wearing a bikini, because its embarrasing. Is there anything cheap that i can get at a local store that will get these away. Its like when you have a baby its that bad but on my thighs. Its really embarrasing so i always wear shorts. Is there ANYTHING that will help??? Please i'll rate 5's!!!

i know the other girls said this too but Cocoa Butter works really good. always if you go tanning like in a bed it helps blend them into your skin. your not getting fat your just growing. my friend has them the same place and shes really skinny. its no biggy. just try that and tan a bit. they should be gone in no time. & people really don't notice those things as much as the person whos body its on so even if they arent all gone by summer, a lot of people won't notice :] good luck!

I'm f/16, and I was just wondering...The first time I've heard it hurts a lot. Depending on the person of course. For example I've never even wore a tampon, so will it hurt alot for me when I lose my virginity? How much will it hurt, and how much will the pain last for? Will you even feel at least a bit of pleasure anytime in the first time?

It all depends on the size of the penis & the size of your hole. haha you probably wont feel to much pleasure from it. maybe alittle bit at certain points and the pain will hurt the worst the first time it goes in and then you will probably get used to it. it will be uncomfortable most likely more then pain. the tampon shouldnt really have to much of an effect because its a lot smaller but if you are really unsure then i recomend you try a tampon just to see what it feels like to have something up there if you have never. make sure you think of the consquences first. stay safe

Lately i have been "wet" down there more often and its even when im not horny or anything. why is this?? im 13/f

its probably just discharge. if it gets really bad like you feel like its your period you might want to tell your mom or just wear a panty liner.

I'm going to get in big trouble if my mom sees the marks on my chest when we go for my fitting for my gown I'm wearing in my cousins wedding. I've only got two days to get rid of the hickys my bf gave me near my boobs. Any ideas on what I can do?

Becca
13/F

--during the two days put lots of neosporin on it or proxide and put a bandaid on so its not to exposed to air and such. the neosporin or proxide will ususally take it away..

if its not gone by then which it should be practice using cover up. like put it on and make sure it all blends in and you cant see it just incase its not gone.

usually they only last a few days so it should either be very faided or gone..

hope i helped

hey, there is this guy i really like. he is really shy, so i can not tell if he likes me. He stares at me alot, sometimes from the corner of his eyes, but when he notices i see him staring, he looks away. sometimes, after he looks at me he will smile. sometimes he blushes too. i have never talked to him, and i think, if he likes me, he wants me to make the first move but im really scared. what are some signs that a shy guy likes you? and if you think i should talk to him, what should i say to him? write back asap ♥

Signs:

stares alot, tries to like stand near you but not make it look like he ment to, talks to your friends more then usual, when your talking to your friends he will come up and mess around with one of your friends to get your attention, and smiles whenever you make eye contact in a shy way.

personally i think you should start talking to him. like maybe one day on purpose run into him but make it seem like an accident and just start a convo like that. then just keep it going by like asking if he likes anyone and little things like that. once that conversation is over and like a new day or something just go over and sit by him and it wont be as akward since you guy have already talked to eachother. keep it simple at first but then im sure if he does/did like you then he will probably make a move like ask you to a movie or something..

hope i helped

I am going on a double blind date. My friend who i am doubling with has met both boys but i havent, we are going to a movie. Can you give me some advice on what to do and say and stuff?

well the best thing to do is act confident like you already know him basically and like you have been on a lot of dates before.

try firguring out like things that he likes like sports but just asking him like do you play any sports or anything and then try to talk alittle bit about sports. just about enough to show him your interesting in him.

you can talk about your friend and the other kid. and like try to be in a conversation with your friend and the other boy a lot if you notive ackward silence between you too.

talk about before and after the movie. talk during the movie but not a super much like before and after cause you dont want him to be annoyed if he is actually trying to watch it but if he seems more interested in you then talk some more.

dont try to look like you tried hard. look nice but not like high heels or anything. like cute not classy. it will make you look like your desprete haha.

but what most counts is just be yourself =]
good luckkk

i want to know if you are going to makeout with someone for the first time how would you do it? to make it look like you have done it before with out over doing it!!???

okay well just act confident like you have done it millions of times. and just go for it. usual the boy takes control so just copy him basically. and if your worrided about where to put your hands which most girls do, well if he puts his hands on your back or anywhere just either put them on his shoulders or his back. good luck

oakyy whats better tell me in your own expernice what is better reading the note or give it to the guy? Because the guy that iam going to see in a couple of weeks i wrote him a letter and i like him and we have known eother long enough so . So i was wondering maybe you can give me ideas what should i do because first of all the place we are going to be at is going to be alot of people there and plus i don't know should i read it or not because i don't want other people hearing it you know? So i want ideas how do it so i won't have to feel like an idot. If you mind giving your ideas or thinking that would be great..Thanks for your help!!

Lauren

hah well i have a few ideas:

1. just forget the note. i dont think you shoud like read it from the paper or give it to him. you can just tell him whenever you guys are going whenever your alone, just whatever comes to mind from the heart

OK so, right before Christmas my freind broke up wtih her boyfreiend. They had only been seeing eachother for 2 weeks. She then told me sometimes in January that if me or any of my freinds went out with him she would be mad. Well, we aren't really freinds and more and over the weekend I kissed her ex. I don't know if I should tell her or just keep it to myself. Like, if someone else told her would it be worse? I like him and have liked him since January.

personally i wouldnt tell her.. and if she does find out just tell her that you like him and that them two are over and she needs to move on.. wel of course in a nice way hah so theres not to much to worry about. but if she has a problem its just jealiousy.. she'll get over it, yeah your supposed to stay true to your friends but you cant let a boy come between you guys and if thats the case then its not a true friendship. but go for the guy. im sure shes not going to get to mad over something little like that. good luck.. hope i helped

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