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Well i have this friend lets call him fred... Yesterday i was talking to fred when i found out that he had tried to kill himself tree times already... but the worst thing is he is only in 7th grade... what can i do to help him? please help..
I had a friend just like Fred. We weren't very close but I ended up helping her in the end. Maybe you can do some of the things I did so you can help your friend. For starters, we'll review some background information about suicide attempts. Most people try to kill themselves because they don't feel as if anyone cares about them & are very unhappy with their current life. You could help Fred out by talking to him & telling him what a great friend he is. Suicide is a serious situation & there are 2 ways that a friend can help out. One is, like I said, hang out with him & make him feel loved & needed. Let him know that if he did kill himself, you would miss him. The other thing to do is to tell someone (an adult like a parent, or someone you trust) about his condition. They'll be able to talk to him about it. Communication is the best way to go! In fact, you could even be the one to sit with him & have a talk about his feelings. Good luck & if you have any more questions, feel free to leave one in my inbox. =]
I'm going into high school next year and want to try out for cheerleading because I've been doing gymnastics for a while. Does anybody know what requirements are needed to make it on the team?
Well I'm a gymnast-gone-cheerleader so I'm hoping maybe I can help you out. It's very similar to gymnastics except more dance oriented. You move constantly for about 3 minutes in a standard routine. Having a gymnastics background puts you way ahead of the game. Especially if you're toned & strong. Another aspect of cheerleading is obviously having spirit & quite the voice. As a cheerleader, you'll need to be ready to shine. Preformance is a huge part too. If you're squad is competitive then you'll be spending great amounts of time in front of an audience. If it's strictly for your school's team then you won't have the same dependibility on overall image but you'll still have to be comfortable in front of a large amount of people. In that case, you'll have to be extra peppy & be able to get the crowd involved. Basically, along with the stunts, tumbles & moves, personality is important. You'll have to be outgoing & very expressive. Good luck! If you need anymore advice on cheering (or anything else for that matter), feel free to let me know.
ohk so i was really upset one day because it is almost a year that my best friend passed away (rip) and i feel so sad right now, so then i took the blade and i cut its not a big deal or anything i also wanted to see how it felt like. well now its like a craving to cut and i keep doing it and im not even sad its just addicting. i feel so gay and stupid because i think im just doing this for attention ! god what should i do ?? and dont call me lame or poser because i alreay know i am !
First off, you're NOT gay for feeling unhappy & then taking action. Everyone is curious to see how something feels sometimes & cutting is just one of those things. Cutting is usually a very secretive thing used for attention. I can completely understand where you're coming from though. Especially since you lost someone very close to you (R.I.P.), different emotions may be triggered. I was feeling especially sad one day and lightly ran a blade up a down my arm. I didn't break skin or anything but I liked the daring feeling. Obviously, cutting your skin isn't healthy & you'll want to find alternative ways to vent. I recommend talking to someone (as hard as that sounds). Even though school's out for the summer, other friends who you trust alot or even your parents may be able to help you. If you don't want to open up communication in a verbal sense, you could write poetry, songs or stories. Drawing is also another way to express your feelings. Cutting really can't be explained, but I know in some cases, when you've lost someone, you crave love that isn't there anymore. I reccomend spending alot of time in social places, try to make some new friends even though the one who passed away is irreplacable. Good luck & if you ever need help, feel free to leave a question in my inbox.
hey theres this boy at my school named troy and he likes me but i hate him because he always makes fun of me and i told the principal because it got really bad and he admitted it to the principal how can i tell him i dont like him with out hurting his feelings ???????? and im 14 female
P.S I really need your help on this one
Hey hun! I've been through this before so you definitely found the perfect girl to help you out! Well, love is a complicated emotion at this age. As you know, guys can be really sensitive to rejection. I wish I could tell you a way to say "no" without him getting hurt but unfortunately there is no proven way. I can however help you out in making it less painful for him, perhaps lightening it up a bit so he doesn't get too upset. Let him know that you just don't know him well enough to get into a relationship. Plus, tell him that your feelings get hurt when he is making fun of you. Let him know that you'll get to know him as friends though. This will give him hope & maybe soften the blow. It may seem like the last thing you want to do is "get to know him" but why don't I share my story, it just may change your mind.
Ever since last year I'd hated this guy. He was annoying, had a bad mouth, was rude to my friends & I & overall I just hated him. Sometimes though, we would talk & we started to get close. He had feelings for me & I could tell. He was starting to treat me differently when we became friends. Now we're best friends & maybe one day more. I'm not telling you to say yes but maybe become friends. That way, he won't be so hurt. & once you're friends, you can always talk some sense into him about the way he treats girls ;]. Good luck hun! ♥ If you ever need help, I'm here.
hey well me n this guy started going out and he broke up with me cause I guess he just tstpped likeing me but we wer going out for like 3 weeks and I had liked him so much to the point where when it came to him asking me out.. I cared soo unbelivably much for him! after we broke up I still cared up for him and still do what can I do that will get him back or help me get over him because I am really heart brokenn.. and is this like weird?
Unfortunately, part of love & life is pain & sorrow. It happens to all of us & we all react differently to loss. I'm sorry you're going through this time right now. Like I said, it affects us in varied ways. Once a relationship ends, there is slim chance of it having a revival. There are, however, ways for him to maybe regret what he did or start liking you again. The best way to get an ex-lover's attention is to start hanging around other guys. Once he sees that you're on the market & others are into you, he'll feel jealous & see what he's missing out on. Maybe then those feelings will develope again & it will be your choice whether you want to reignite the flame.
Another option would be to best console yourself & let love take its course. Things like this take time & heartbreaks are hard. If you ever need anyone to talk to, I'm here. Just leave me a question in my inbox. Good luck hun!
I want to do this pageant, but I don't Know how to ask my mother and father. I've never really been into pageants, I've always been more into acting and singing. I think it would give me more self confidence. But now that I'm turning 15 I started to like all that pageant modeling stuff. I just dont know how to ask them and to let me go. Also what are some tips that I should know. I've never done this before. They also want to do an interview, so does anybody know what type of questions they ask? It said no past experience is necessary, but I would appreciate some tips and things to remember because I don't want to mess up. Also, Im a little self concience (sorry about the spelling!) I have bad eczema ( pronounced eggsema ) and It's always been an issue for me. Do you think that doing this pageant will give me more self confidence or make my self concienciousness ( again sorry about the spelling ) worse? Thank you!
Pageants are a great way to get involved! They make you more confident in front of audiences & a great overall person. Sounds like you, similar to me, come from an preforming background but are a bit self concious. It's totally normal & I believe pageants will bring you out of your shell. Talk to your parents are the pro's & con's of participating. Find one local & work out all the details before hand so they can see how much you want this. Parents like it when you go to the extra mile & have everything prepared. Interview questions can be anything from where you see yourself in 10 years to your opinion on worldy events. The best advice I can give you is to be yourself. Sounds cliche` but judges love it when you're natural & not trying to be something you're not. Good luck & I'm sure you'll do fabulous! ♥
Okay people think that i stuff my bra when i really dont and then people are like oh i saw it but i really dont what should i do?
Signed,
Screw this
.P.S. I rate high
Obviously, people are saying that because they are jealous of you. At this age, girls want to look "developed" & if another girl is then they'll go off the handle to make sure she doesn't get credit for that. Be confident because that'll scare them away. Make out like you don't even care, despite the fact that it really does bother you. People only say mean things to make themselves feel better & to watch the reaction of others. If you're not providing any entertainment or getting mad about it in front of them, they'll leave you alone. Also, if they make a comment of "seeing you do it", tell them that "it must have been a reflection of them even though no matter how much they stuff, they'll still be flat chested". Good luck! Remember to be confident! =] If you need any help, I'm always here.
everyone at my school says cheerleading is a sport and some say it isn't a sport..don't answer this question if you are going to write something mean or stupid. so is cheerleading a sport? and if no why is it on espn?
Cheerleading IS a sport! I'm a cheerleader & anyone who says it isn't is WRONG. Cheering takes tons of stamina, hard work & determination. Have you seen those pyramids & stunts? Cheerleaders are usually stereotyped as girly girls who are ditzy, air headed non-atheletes who worry about what they look in their cute little uniform. Well, that's a lie because as a cheerleader, I know the kind of work & struggle that goes into the sport.
my ex bf is having a party, he broke up with me and i want him to notice me, without making a big deal, there will be alot of people there..what do i do?
--noticeable
The best way to get a guy to see what he's missing is to be overly confident. When you're at his party, start dancing with alot of other guys & talk to them. Most likely, your ex boyfriend will start to get jealous when he realizes that you're on the market. Just make sure you're as confident and self assured as possible. Spend some time with alot of other guys & try to do this somewhere near him. He'll notice you if you try to be noticed. Good luck!
Ok I'm 13/F . I will be starting a competative swim team tomorrow morning and it will last all summer. I will have practices 1 hour for 3 days a week and a swim meet (competion) every Thursday for 3 hours. My question is, can I expect to lose a few unwanted inches on my stomach, thighs and legs with all this swimming? (Im hoping maybe 2 maybe 3 in on thighs, 1 or 2 on stomach an 1 or 2 on arms) I'll rate!! :) thanx!
Yes, definitely! Swimming is one of the BEST sports for weightloss. Doing laps will keep you very lean & in the best shape! Have fun swimming!
Ok well me and my best friend both like the same guy!!and like its big time like,so u cant stop liking him.hehe confusing i know.and so like he was saying he wants to "do stuff" with me then he turns around nd says he wants to "do stuff" with her adn tells her not to tell me because he doesnt want to ake me mad.and like we just want him to pick one of us because its getting like jealousy.but if he picks one of us then one of us will get jealous but we want him to soo like hehe whta do we do??????thanks soo much and ya i know its a little confusing! 14/f
p.s. i really really like him!
I've been in this situation too many times to count. I'm going to give you the best advice possible. It's going to be the total truth. This boy is playing games with the two of you. If he's saying he likes you then turning around and saying he likes her then there is obviously a problem. It's not worth your friendship. If you really like him & want this to work out then one of you is going to have to confront him & tell him to pick. You'll have to choose whether it's him or your friendship. If it helps, talk to your friend about it. Just a warning, friends are forever but relationships end. Good luck though! Sorry if I sounded stern it's just, I've watched some of my great friendships end because we both liked the same guy & picked him over eachother.
I normally do not ask questions about guys on this site, but I just have no clue what to do.
My situation is that my boyfriend went out with this girl from his camp last year (they broke up b/c they wouldn't see eachother for a whole year). Well, this year he is going back to camp (she is too), and the camp holds a hotdog/hamburger barbeque thing where everyone pretty much has a date (although it's not neccasary to have a date, but everyone does have one). He asked me if he could go with this girl from last year. He told me that he "sort of" wanted to go with her (I'm guessing this is my language for "I want to go with her but I don't want to seem to eager about it b/c it will probably make you mad"). My problem is that I am afraid he is going to start liking her again, and I won't be able to do anything about it (after all, I will be miles away; I won't be able to stop them flirting or anything). I am just scared of losing this great guy.
My question is- am I being jealous and should I let him go with this girl to the barbeque? Or do I have a good reason to be worried?
Thanks I appreciate any answers!
Hey hun, I'm going to be completely honest with you. You need to talk to him about this because it could grow into a major problem. It's okay for you to be jealous because it's really not fair what he's doing to you. He's YOUR boyfriend, not this other girl's therefore he shouldn't be trying to bring her along as his date. If I were you, I would let him go to test his trust. Tell him he can go with her but only as friends. If it turns into anything more when he gets back, tell him he's going to have to make a decisian because it's not fair for you to have to deal with this. Tell him how much he means to you (guys like to feel needed & loved), & that you really don't want to loose him but if he would preffer to be with her then so be it. Once you say that, he'll think about it & realize he only sees her during camp & that you're the #1 girl in his life. Good luck! ♥
Ok i have this friend whos a guy his name is Josh and i think he likes me i mean he flirts with me and always complments my outfits and the other day i didnt feel good and i wore sweat pants and a baggy t-shirt and he said i looked great and he alwayz sitz next to me in math it not bothering me but now i feel weird when im around him and hes not going to my high school next year hes not moving but i think i like him but what i want to know if he likes me thnx
From my perspective, it sounds like Josh has a crush on you. It may be a simple school crush, maybe more. But he's definitely got some feelings for you. I would confront him about it. Guys love to feel needed. Even if you don't want to be really forward about "dating", invite him to the movies or to hang out as friends. If you take it slow, then things could change for the better. As for him moving, tell him how much you're going to miss him & that you have to keep in touch. Maybe you could even suggest spending lots of time together before he leaves. Have fun & good luck! If you need more help, let me know!
my best best best friend in the whole world since kindergarten is turning into a big JAP! she has so many fricken juicy hollister abercrombie etc clothes its soo annoying. we'll call her sally. so i'm not the most popular girl in the world but i'm not a complete loser. i'm a little ditzy and crazy and dorky but thats who i am. thats how all my firneds are. she doesnt seem to accept us though. all she cares about is being popular so she doesnt even say hi to us anymore. she doesnt care when we leave, and she follows her rly popular friends around. she doesnt hang out with me and my other friends anymore. its like she doesnt care that we exist. but shes so fun and nice when shes not busy being careful about being popular. i want her to be the same sally she used to be. over last summer, she started changing alot and getting much jappier. i didnt say anything--i didn't think it mattered. it's gone too far now-- what should i do?
Sorry this is happening to you. It happens to alot of people because others change & you can't control it. It's sad for girls to desperately want to be popular that they forget about their true friends but it happens. Let me tell you a secret about the in crowd. Whenever they take in "fresh meat", it never lasts for long. Unfortunately, you're going to have to make the decisian whether you want to accept your friend again once she comes crawling back to you. If I were you, I wouldn't. She's not a true friend & you deserve better than that. Show her that you don't need her & don't act needy at all. If you prove that life goes on without her than she'll start thinking about things more in depth when she realizes she's not needed. If you need any more help, let me know :).
ok..I've known this guy for about 9 months. Ever since i met him, i've liked him a lot. when i told him i had feelings for him, we went out immediately. we were crazy about each other until another kid, *nick* started hanging out with me. i dumped the guy for *nick*, which i knew would be a huge mistake. the other guy was heartbroken, and to be honest i was too. i went out with *nick* for about 2 week then broke up with him because i still had really strong feelings for the other guy. so then me and the other guy went back out with each other for about 2 weeks total and then he broke up with me. He was the first guy i actually cried over. so now hes going out with another girl and i feel like a piece of crap because i still REALLY like him but i dont think he knows it. It's killing me how much i still like him and i've tried so hard to see other guys but NOTHINGS working..I REALLY NEED SOME HELP!!
First of all, that's how he felt probably when you dumped him first. But don't worry, I'm not going to be mean & lecture you. We all make mistakes & I'm here to help you out :). I would go up to him & tell him that the two of you really were meant to be together. If you can't talk to him in person, try doing it online or over the phone. Tell him the truth & be as gushy as possible. That way, he can really see the love you have for him. Guys like to feel needed so if you apologize for breaking his heart first & make it seem like a huge mistake then he'll feel that you really want to get back together. Good luck!
Ok heres the deal, Yesterday I got really drunk and I didn't know what I was doing and I got on a bus and I saw some people I knew, Well there was this one boy that my friend knew and she told me about..and I sorta told him that I thought he was cute..and He was like who are you and I was like uh *my name* and I was like yeah well i know ur name and he was like how the hell do you know my name and now he prolly thinks im a big stalker! What if he says something on monday about it! ill be so embarrassed I just don't wanna go to school its gonna be horrible! so my question is how can I avoid the terrifying situation? or how can I face him ugghh
signed
HELP
We all face crazy situations that we want to run away from. Unfortunately, they all catch up with us in the end. My advice is go up to home (I know this may seem insane at first) & tell him this: "I just wanted to apologize for my insane behavior last night (insert laugh here). I was kind of, well, drunk. I didn't mean to come across kind of stalkerish or anything. It's just that you're a friend of my friend's & I don't want you to get the wrong impression of me." If you handle it calmly & maturely then he will probably be impressed & understand. If you try to avoid him & play keep away, he might suspect you are being a bit stalkerish & now that he's onto you, you're trying to hide. Good luck! If you need any more help, let me know.
i really like my friend. we flirt alot and talk about stupid things and i dont think he likes me because
1) i know who he likes and its not me (but i dont mean to sound concieted sometimes i say i like sum1 just so i dont have to admit that i like them)
2) hes 1 of my best friends and hes like a brother to me.
16/f help me please!
I was in the same position for a while. I had a big crush on my guy friend but he would always talk about this other girl he liked. I would say I liked someone else so he wouldn't catch on that I was really liking him. It worked for a while but then I realized something. He could be feeling the same way. Maybe he's telling you he likes that other person so you don't think you like him. And since you guys are close, that's even better. Get a friend to talk to him or maybe you can. Be honest or just hint. Sometimes it has to be us girls to take the first steps because guys are too afraid. Good luck! ♥
im a 13/f i have this problem like i cant keep a boyfriend......i start to feel weird and i let them go but like i want a b/f so bad ...i love boys with all my heart....i love makeingout but sometimes it dosent even get that far i dont kno what to do...and spar me the "your lesbo" im not
please help
At this age, it's hard for alot of us to keep steady relationships. Especially since it's new to many of us, the idea of being comitted either scares us or just feels outright weird. My advice to you is to maybe tone it down a bit. Keep guys as great friends. You'll get to spend time with them but you won't feel as weird. If you're close enough things might upgrade but since you'll have been friends prior to the relationship things will be more comfortable. Good luck!
There's a guy I like that I'm good friends with. When I started to like him I wasn't AS comfortable around him. When we were just friends everyone said he liked me but when I started having feelings for him & acting different, he started liking another girl. He doesn't know I like him but I think he can sense that I'm acting different. I've never been the really confident, self-assured type like the girl he likes. How can I be more crazy & fun around her? What can I do to make him see that I am confident too?
Put assurance in yourself. Tell yourself, I'm gonna win his heart! If you believe in what you want to do, then NOTHING and I mean NOTHING can stop you. Flirt a bit, be comfortable with yourself. When you're around him, try to always look & feel your best. It may sound shallow at first but if you look good & know it, you'll feel good too. Even if you're not the "worry about fashion" type, wear something you feel comfortable in. If you're not worrying about how you look at that moment then you can just be yourself & not feel self-concious. Good luck!
there is this dog in my grandma's neighborhood.
this dog is not properly cared fo. what should i do?????!!!!!!
signed help
First, I would find out where the dog lives. If it has a home, take down the address. Visit www.peta.org for information on stopping animal cruelty & what you can do. If it is a stray & does not have a home, contact the local Humane Society & tell them about this dog. They will be able to come by, take it in their custody. They will then feed it, wash it & treat it if it has any illness. After that, they will find a home to take it in. It's great that you're concerned & it's suprising to know just how much one person can do for an animal. Good luck!