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Q: Okay every time I'm out in the mall I hear this same version of "Santa Baby". But when I look on itunes, there's like a million different versions, but not the one I keep hearing at the stores! I know that's not much help, but does anyone know who sings the one that's being played in the stores right now???

Well..

I would suggest typing ''versions of santa baby'' in google, or just listen to various versions until you find the right one... =]

Q: when you have sex, does the boy always pop your cherry or can it just rip it a little? i dont know because mine is not popped i dont think.
also what makes it popped? mine doesnt have a split going all the way down the side. does that mean my cherrys not popped?

Basically what she means is, no it wont necessarily pop, or it could already be popped, you cant really tell just by looking.

If it pops during sexual intercourse you will feel it, it wont hurt for long, you will just have some small bleeding

Q: Now i know this question is really stupid. But i never learned it in school(im 14-9th grade) and if i ask my parents they wont tell me and i want to know. so....
How EXACTLY does sex work? i know like the basic stuff like this goes in there. but what else is there? like postions and types ect.

Sorry it was so dumb of a question but i want to know...

Sex is the most mysterious and adventurous type of sport in my opinion.

Its not a dumb question, and to be honest, I dont think there is a right answer, because it all depends on you and how you do it.

The best way for you to find out about sex in detail, is googling it.

Try googling sex posistions, or purchasing a book on sex positions.

The most common sex position when you first start having sex is Missionary, on top of each other laid down. And if you know the basics on how sex works theres nothing more to know, apart from sex positions and the fun you can have with sex.

Like I said google any questions you have, they always have the best answers!

Good Luck

Q: I'm a junior now. I've gone through at least one guy/relationship each year. One really hurt me.

I'm in a new relationship now. This guy is amazing, so sweet and funny. We are really open with each other and it's so different from my other relationships. I can't believe it lasted to 5 months. It's almost 6 months now and it's scaring me. I don't know how to get rid of this.. feeling..fear. I'm so scared that it's going to hurt really badly if this ends.. because I feel as though I'm too attached already. And since this relationship is without any abuse of some sort [verbal] it's the best I have ever had. I'm just worrying over things and trying to prepare myself. But I'm tired of doing this. One of my past relationships lasted over a year but I was still "with" the guy for another year or so, just not official, if you know what I mean. :/ 8th grade to the middle of 10th grade. And he hurt me so bad throughout the years and I'm afraid it's going to hurt worse in this relationship.

I don't know why I'm suddenly having this fear. I've dated 7 people and he's the first guy to actually treat me right.. and listen to me. He's patient and kind, he's actually willing to watch disney/chick flicks with me .. he doesn't make fun of me. He tries to make me smile and laugh.. and he tries to see me as much as he can.

It just seems too good. We haven't had any fights either. I'm not one to fight and in my opinion, I don't think it's healthy. For my relationships I guess. Others? Sure.. My friends always push the idea on me that fighting is a must in a relationship. They try to make me feel like our relationship is somewhat flawed.. and it makes me think that they are jealous sometimes.. because they always pick fights with their boyfriends.

How do I get rid of these worries?

Im having the same problem.

The first guy that I have found that treats me right, genuinely cares about me and would do anything for me.

But I have worse fears, as Im his only ''proper'' girlfriend, and he lost his virginity to me, so the chances of us staying together long term I know is low.

But I try not to dwell on it, try distracting your mind, and when your with him, express how bad your feeling and how worried you are.

I know its not much but what helpsme is thinking about all these people that have been together since they were 14/15 and are still together in their 60's, 70's +. The more we dwell upon the bad thoughts, the less time we have to have fun.

So make the most of what your getting

Good Luck

Q: whats anal sex?>..

The male places his penis inside your anus and penetrates you in the same way he would during vaginal intercourse.

Q: this is kind of an embarrasing question... but whats fingering? do they actually stick their finger in the hole?

also, how do girls masterbate, and if they stick something in the hole, how deep do they go?

i tried sticking something in the hole but it like hit something and it was like only an inch deep...

Basically yes its sticking something in a hole.

But thats not what its always about, most girls rub the clitoris.

By sticking something inside you, its just imitating a penis, but depending what you place within you is going to give a different feel.

I wouldnt suggest using anything random.
Common ones to use are hairbrush ends.
I havent ever tried this myself but I would still recommend using a vibrator(dildo)

Its probably just your vaginal wall that you have hit, perhaps the object used was to large.

Try purchsing a vibrator and see how it feels.

In terms of depth, with a vibrator you can go right down to the bottom. with your fingers, however far you can reach and feel comfortable with.

Q: I love make-up!

I love using color, but don't really know how to. I always use more than one color.

I like brands such as MAC, YSL, Chanel, Benefit, and Smashbox.

If someone could give me tips, and even pictures where they label it, and tell you the steps on how to use and do the product its be great!

Also, I have blue eyes, blondish-brownish hair, and freckels. If that helped?

Anything is helpful, thank you.

With Blonde hair its always best to use lighter colours, such as:

Green
Sky Blue
White
Silver
Light pale purple

But not light pink.

The only dark colours which would usually suit blonde hair is:

Hot pink
A really dark but glittery blue
Or a seaweed green, but with slight glitter init to make it seem lighter.

In some exceptions, black can be worn, but this is usually only with Silver or White.

If you wear a darkish shade of eyeshadow, wear a dark eyeliner, usually black is best.
If your wearing light blue/green eyeshadow, wear an emerald green eyeliner. Or just a light blue eyeliner.

Always wear makeup that bronzes your face, not making it orange , but so when you apply eyeshadow it stands out and makes you look stunning.

Try and colour coordinate your clothes with makeup.
Such as if I wear a blue top, with white trousers, and blue flip flops, I will wear 2 tone eyeshadow, blue on one half, white on the other, I dont mean to different colours, such as one blue eye, one white, I mean use blue eyeshadow AND white eyshadow on the same eye, just split in half, it looks great.

Here are some bebo picures of my makeup when I model:

http://bebo.com/PhotoAlbumBig.jsp?MemberId=19974251&PhotoAlbumId=4030657714&PhotoId=4326244522
http://bebo.com/PhotoAlbumBig.jsp?PageNbr=1&MemberId=19974251&PhotoAlbumId=4030657714&PhotoId=4033911148

Also, with blue eyes, its good to use a light green eye shadow as it brings out the blue in your eyes.

Good Luck

Q: does any one know where i can get a starter kit or subscription card for xbox live for the original xbox not the 360 and if not do u have an extra

Try Ebay, or ask any gaming shop :)

Q: idk why but ive never been able to say those 3 words to my parents.. or even to my closest friends. i mean.. i dont have the type of friends who'd say that all the time and i wasnt brought up that way either. i mean, obviously i love my parents and my good friends.. and i've tried to work up the courage to say that i love them.. but then i chicken out.. like i feel like its so cheesy or something since my parents never really said that though i knew they loved me and my siblings. how can i get better at saying it? cause my dad is in a different state right now, working on a new company, and sometimes i miss him and i think of calling him and telling him i love him but then i also think thats too mushy for me.. and ive never said it before to him so its weird. same with my mom. i mean sometimes im stubborn and stuff.. so me saying that.. why is it so hard for me???? i wish it was easier. i mean maybe if i had a really good boyfriend that i loved it would be easier to say it in a romantic POV, but idk. how can i get better at this like.. mushy stuff?

13/f

Hehe. Well I love you really isnt spose to always be mushy!

To start, try saying it to your favourite teddy bear or object.

Or randomly if your talking on msn etc, just add a ''luv ya xxxxxx'' when your about to log off.

Your parents will be used to you not saying it if you have never said it. Aslong as they know you love them then its not a big deal :)

But yeah I suggest saying it when your about to leave the situation or practicing on a favourite teddy or object

Good Luck

Q: How can i resize my picture so that i would able to put it on my profile?

Thanks!

Instead of resizing your pictures, just print screen the picture and cut it then save it as jpeg andits a much smaller document.

Q: 16/f
My boyfriend and I had sex. His parents found out, how they found out is a long story that wouldn’t mean much to you. Anyways…to the point; I have never been so embarrassed in my life. Does anyone have a story, about their parents or this partners parents finding out, to share with me, so I don’t feel so dumb? Or any story at all that is. It’s silly I know, but I need something that helps me know... I’m not the only one whos parents have found out. Thanks :)

Well..I dont have a story about them knowing I had sex with my boyfriend, however Im pretty sure my mum overheard my conversation on the phone about being on the pill.

But I would say from experience of other embarressing things, you need to not think so much of it, the more your thinking of it, the more nervous you will get.

Imagine you were them, they would think about it for a while, but thats not what would be on their mind all the time.

Its like you seeing somebody fall over, you would laugh and it would be on your mind for half an hour or so, but then you would forget about it.

Im not saying they will forget, but they are thinking about it alot less than you are :)

Q: why is it bad to be on the comp when there is a thunderstorm goin on?would anything happn to you or jus your comp?

Yes most definitely and i unplug mine too. any lighting strike to power lines or even the phone lines can fry your computer.

Most surge protectors only stop up to 150,000 volts. lightening is usually much more than that and will allow the excess voltage to leak past them.

Also if your hand happens to be on the mouse or keyboard and a strike does hit the powerlines then computer, your going to get a nasty shock.

Q: ok say i had a tampon in and i put a vibrator on my clit and climaxed. is that safe? i didnt put anything in my vagina but is it ok to have an orgasm while you have a tampon in?

Yes of course :)

It makes no difference whether you have a tampon in or not, providing you dont try to put the vibrator inside.

Q: I'm 16/f, used to be bestfriends with a 16/m. We were extremely close, the best of friends, we no longer are. We've grown apart due to random fights, and idk why. But anyway, I cry all the time over him. It's like mourning a loss, but really it's just a friendship. Basically, I've tried since February (when we were no longer best friends) to maintain a good friendship with him, and it's real hard.

I've come to the conclusion that continuing being his friend is the wrong choice. He's the only person that makes me cry, I always feel like I'm never good enough for him, I'm tired of being hurt. Would you say cutting all contact with him, not seeing him, etc, would help me forget about him & allow me to no longer be his friend?

To completely cut him off from your life wont help to start with.

You need to really limit how often you see each other to begin with, make it less and less gradually, then decide whether the friednship is improving or not.

If its not improving then cut contact, if it is improving then keep it at a steady lever ofseeing each other not very often, and gradually build it back up. :)

Good Luck

Q: this guy who went out w/ my best friend stated talking to me when they were going out and after she broke up w/ him he was being really nice to me and a good friend but today he started being really mean and said the only reason he talked to me was because i was best friends w/ his g/f....and now im feeling really used and dont know what to do

Ignore him, and stay away. Theres no reason why you have to communicate with him. If you ignore him he will realise how pathetic hes been.

He will either apologise or just ignore you, either way your not getting hurt :)

Q: I have a problem... I don't exercise enough. I am not fat by any means, but that's just because my metabolism is really fast. I just do not enjoy going to the gym, there are no team sports to play around here, and I don't know if yoga will be enough (i mostly stretch and breathe). any suggestions of something I can do to get motivated or a new kind of exercise I could try doing? I don't like to sweat if I don't like what I'm doing. Any help appreciated!

Horse riding =D

Its a great way to excercise muscles :)
If you horse ride then do some situps.

Or dog walking if you have a dog, go to the woods and jog about with your dog.

Or swimming with friends :)

Good Luck

Q: its so hard for me to not be able to see my best friend in the whole world. he and i got really close in the last semester of middle school. those were the most special and unforgetable months of my life with him but now i wont get to see him that much anymore. we're going to different school next year so i wont get to see him everyday anymore. its summer now and here i am at home missing him so badly. we talk to eachother almost everyday but i just want him back beside me. its kinda hard to explain my feelings for him since i dont really even know anymore....i saw him nearly 3 weeks ago and i tried to see him again last week but he couldnt and this week he cant go to this one party. im just so sad about the whole thing. when i heard i might be seeing him again i got so happy all of a sudden but it really sux. someone help me please. btw we were never in a relationship but i used to like him and he doesnt like me.

As has already been said, you need to plan a day out, or maybe find a weekend you can play, so you can spend the whole weekend together :)

Even if its a while away, make it worth the wait and find some great stuff to do for that weekend.

However, as much as you love this guy, dont make him your everything, cos if he goes or doesnt see you as more than a friend, then you will have nothing and it will hurt you more.

If the weekend goes well then perhaps make another weekend. And see if he feels anything for you :)

Good luck

bio

Well...

Im just under 6'0, Im a model, I enjoy horse riding, figure skating, and shopping :)

I have blonde hair, blue eyes & Im a slim build.

Im your average teenager who has suffered the same as any other teenage and much more, or maybe much less compared to some :)

Ill give you my answer as I feel is correct, if its a question I have familiarity with then you will get an answer which I find best suited :)