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Hey!
So I think it's an age old question, but I could always use more opinions preferably from women.
I'm a fit 21 year old in College, but I'm tired of the whole "college" dating scene so I'd like to meet a mature type of women. I'm not looking just to pick up, I'd like a relationship.
Where's a good place you'd recommend other than coffee shops to meet women??
-Thanks a bunch! (link)
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lets see...at a concert. at the mall. at a book store.
go somewhere that you have an interest in also that way you instantly have something in common.
also, if you just happen to catch a girl's glance, and maybe she checks you out and smiles, dont be afraid to approach her and ask for her number. at the very least, she will be flattered.
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So, about this Zeno Pro,anyone have any input on it? You see, i'm sick of my little blemishes i get every so often,as any human being is. But now that i have enough money to buy this,i just want to know,did it work for you? How exactly does it work,and could it damage your skin? thanks :D (link)
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I've never used the Zeno, but I've heard it isn't all that great. I have had success with these red & blue light lamps for acne. However, I think thats more for your whole face treatment, while the Zeno is for spot treatment. I dont know which category you fall under.
http://www.homephototherapy.com/acne/acne-default.htm
that's similar to the one I've used.
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My hair is not volumous, and it gets greasy pretty soon after I wash it. I use tressemmee, and I wash it every other day or sometimes everyday. Sometimes I blow-dry it, but mostly I let it naturally dry out.
I just don't know how these chicks on tv (not even celebrities) get their hair all perfectly volumous, shiny but not greasy, and wavy..
Aggravates me (link)
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To help with the grease, try only conditioning the ends of you hair instead of at the root a few times-it gets greasy at the roots first right?
As for the shiny-ness, I like to put in Garnier Fructis products that are called "sleek & shine" while your hair is still wet. Blowdrying your hair using a round brush will add volume and shine. I have an "ionizing" hairdryer, which supposedly puts "ions" in your hair, which makes it shinier. Or if you dont have time to blowdry it right when you get out of the shower, you can just straighten it after it has been air-dryed. I usually do that-just make sure you buy a product that protects your hair from the heat while also adding shine. I like Paul Mitchell's "Seal and Shine" which costs about $7.
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does a chi straightener really work ? for sure?
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yes, chi's work wonders.
ive had mine for at least 3 years now and ive never had a problem with it.
mine is a turbo, which means it gets hotter so it works better. unless your hair is already almost straight or something, id reccomend the turbo.
also, i got the 1 inch because it lets me get closer to my scalp without burning myself.
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15/f
I like this guy in my class and he liked me over the summer but i'm not sure if he does now. Anyways, my friend kaysy always talks to him and he talks to her a lot but he talks to a lot of girls because he has a lot of friends that are girls. She on the other hand always talks to him and says " Me and him are such good friends, i just love him to death, he is just like a bro to me. " I know she would never do anything like go out with him or anything because she is my really good friend and she even says we would be cute together, etc. But it seems like she is flirting a lot. Idk if it is just her personality like that or not but i can't confront her about it because when i did she said "oh, i'm not flirting, i know he's all yours." And, he talks to a lot of girls so i don't know if he likes me or not. My friend megan said he flirts with me sometimes but i am really confused about it. Today he gave me a hug for the first time and i was really excited but he hugs a lot of girls. How do i find out if he likes me without being to obvious because i have to see him every day and i don't want to be embarrased around him all the time if he says no or something. Also, i am kinda shy so i don't want to do anything that is to outgoing. Thanks! (link)
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okay. this sounds like something ive been through so let me give you my two cents.
first of all, about the guy. for some reason that i still have yet to figure out, guys will like you over the summer, but once school starts everything changes. not all guys are like this, but a lot are. just keep flirting with him and stuff. if youre shy, you can flirt through texts or on facebook/aim that way you dont have to be too forward in person. but you dont have to exclusively flirt with him, play the field. if he hugs a lot of girls, feel free to hug all the guys you want.
now..as for the girl. some girls really claim that they arent flirting because it really is basically all they know. these kinds of girls are...somewhat insecure. I'm not sure how close you and this friend of yours are, but it is definitely possible that she feels like she has something to prove to you. Maybe she wouldnt go out with him if he liked her, but i think she would get a sense of superiority if he liked her instead of you..which could be what shes after. Does she ever do things that make you think shes trying to prove that guys like her/give her attention? just watch your back when it comes to this friend. a true friend wouldnt flirt with the guy you like.
Finally, there isnt a real way to find out if he likes you. Just when you talk to him you have to figure out how hes feeling. Like does he say/do certain things to you that he doesnt other girls? Its really up to you. But dont go the second grade route: getting your friends to ask his friends if he likes you. because that will get back to him..and things could get awkward.
but its up to you.
Hope Ive helped a little :]
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I love the show 'Gossip Girl', and have ever since I watched the free pilot on iTunes. It's really interesting. I just want to know, because of the Writers Guild Strike, do you think that there will be a second season? Because I want to know if there's going to be anything to look forward to, since I'm like going to die if 'The Thin Line Between Chuck and Nate' was the very last episode of all. Thanks. (link)
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I love that show too :]
but im pretty sure that when it was signed on, they signed for a full season, so once its over it should keep going.
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I have been up since 7 this morning, and was tired in the early evening...but now the tiredness has subsided, although I should be asleep by now. I am pretty stressed out, and sometimes have a hard time falling asleep when I'm under pressure. I keep getting caught up in little things like reviewing for an exam, or going online, when I should be getting ready for bed. The minute I'm tired enough to go to bed, I'll get distracted with something or other, and then I'm wide awake.
So...what do you do when you are physically very tired, yet wide awake, and all you want is to sleep? Any tips on falling asleep easily? (link)
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For me, drinking milk or camomile (sp?) tea really helps. Also, before you go to bed, try not to think too much. Dont worry about tomorrows test or the events from the day. I sometimes go to my like "happy place" lol just imagine yourself somewhere peaceful, or even with someone, where you can feel calm and at home. whatever works for you. oh and i always fall asleep better when its pitch black.
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ok well im having my birthday party soon and i have no idea what to do! since mine and my friends birthdays are 4 days apart, we're having it together, we were planning on going to the mall, but OF COURSE
my friends mom had to say NO! its sooo annoying because we were planning for a really long time, and we had this really cool plan for the mall. So any ideas??? btw im 13, so nothing to overrated lol :P
thanx in advance :) (link)
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hey, im having my birthday party today, and im doing this like fancy italian resteraunt type of thing at my house. my parents are cooking all this food, and are gonna serve it and all. if you like the idea, you can message me and i can give you more details or other ideas.
ya, like what i did was we had bread and that oil stuff they have at italian places, caesar salad and some kind of pepper/tomato soup (you can pick basically any soup you like) and for the main course you could choose any or all of either chicken parmesean (my dad bought these already made frozen breaded chickens and just added some cheese and prego sauce on top and cooked them) spaghetti and meatballs, and fettuccini alfredo. for desert there was strawberry cheescake. and then for the other cute details, we brought out all our fancy dishes/silverware, i learned how to fold napkins all fancy (just google it), i downloaded some italian music, the centerpiece was floating candles. i made menus and little name plates for each person and where to sit. we also served sparkling cider, which looks kinda like champagne so its cute. it went really well :] all my friends were impressed.
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I'm a female and I'm 17. I'll just get straight to the point. I like this guy...a lot. More than I have before. The thing is, I really want to tell him that I have feelings for him and it seems like he may feel the same way but I'm still afraid of that famous phrase "I only like you as my friend" or something to that extent. The other part of me is just telling me that I should just forget about him and move on or whatever. What do you think? Tell him? (link)
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unless yall are already really close friends, and this would mess up that friendship, i would tell him. otherwise you will always wonder, which is way worse than finding out that he doesnt like you like that. at the very least, he will be flattered.
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15/m
ive been trough many relationships, im a nice guy siriously, well every girl ive gone out with well they all ended up being bitches or something like that and they all broke up with me for dumb reasons like we wern't french kissing by our third day of going out and stuff like that, but this year i met this girl i thought she was different she told me she liked me but that she couldnt have a boyfreind till shes 16 so i told her i would wait, a few weeks later she told me she rather be freinds i told her it was alright but the other day i found out she has a boyfreind already, my point is, it there any girls out there who arent like that who are nice, pretty smart, and have a great personality? or why is it so hard to find someone like that? (link)
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im 16/f and i know enough girls like that to understand where you're coming from. But believe me, there are some genuinely nice girls out there, you just have to wait for the right one to come along. It might seem like they are all that way, but think about the one you just told us the story about. Maybe she told you she couldnt date until she was 16 because she didnt want to date you, but didnt want to hurt your feelings, and didnt think youd be willing to wait. I know the truth is always better than lying like that, but maybe she was only trying to spare your feelings at the time? I'm sorry that girls suck sometimes. But hey, boys suck sometimes too. Everything happens for a reason, stay positive :]
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So I have an amazing boyfriend. I seriously think that I am in love with him. And this new kid came into my class and he is cute and funny and extremely nice. I am an all around flirty person, and I can't help but flirt with him naturally. We talked a lot today and I can't help but like him as more than a friend. I don't know whats wrong with me, I LOVE MY BOYFRIEND!! I really want to stop liking the new kid because things between my boyfriend are great. What can I do. I feel like such a bad person for liking someone besides my boyfriend.
HELP PLEASE.
Love,
CONFUZZLED :/ (link)
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Lots of people often think they fall for someone else while still with someone. The key is not to let it really get to you. After you get over the initial infatuation, you realize thats all that it was, an infatuation. This new guy is new, and exciting while your boyfriend is more stable and the usual. You're not a bad person because you can't control how you feel. You can however control how much you talk to/flirt with this new guy. Have any other friends in the class? Try focusing more on them. You can include everyone in the conversation, just don't have anymore 1 on 1 time with the guy, and try not to think about him. If you find yourself thinking about him, just think about what you love about your boyfriend instead. Hope I helped a little :]
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heyy!
ok, long story short, i want to break up with my boyfriend. We have had a horrible relationship-since february- and we barly talked to eachother.. I want to move on and become avaliable, so in order to do that, i need to talk to him to break up with him... but im not sure how to even talk to him, let alone break up with him face to face.. I'm kinda shy and so is he, but i really dont want to break up with him on the phone or on AIM because i think that is just rude. I dont think ill be able to call him because he doesnt have a cell phone, and i dont want him to get off the home phone and have to confront his mom- if she is home- so the only time i think i could break up w/ him would be during school, but i dont know when where or how to do it. I've herd from my friend who confirmed with him that HE wanted to break up with me. At first i wanted to just let him do it, but i would rather be the dumper rather than the dumpee.. i hope that made sence =]
Anything will help, and sorry if that didn't make very much sence..
Oh, and im 14/f by the way!
Thanks in advance for everything!! (link)
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hmm. for the when, id do at the end of the day that way its not on his mind for the whole day and mess up his day. maybe even on friday, so he has the weekend to kind of cool down, even if he does wanna break up too, ya know? Where? doesnt really matter, probably in the hallway, and then you can just both go your seperate ways (emotionally and literally lol) And the how, if he wants it too, you shouldn't have too much explaining to do. Just tell him honestly how youre feeling, and only say you want to be friends if you do.
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Well, I am in high school, and have never had a boyfriend. I feel really weired sometimes because all my friends have had one. It isn't like i never talk to guys, because i have like a million guy friends. I don't see why guys don't like me for a girlfriend. I am not like a total geek im really pretty popular and a cheerleader, and all but, why are all the guys always friends, and none of them interested im me as more than a friend. I don't think im ugly but im starting to wonder. So any advise or things to help me. I just feel like im going to be single for the rest of my life! I really do not want to not be able to go to my homecoming this year. I don't think it is becuse I am fat or anything but I don't know Im 5'4" and about 110 pounds. Sorry this is a little weired! Thanks in advance! (link)
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Okay, first off, youre not fat, and if youre a cheerleader I'm pretty sure that a lot of guys would love to go out with you/go to homecoming with you. Second, you don't need a guy to go to homecoming. you can have fun just going with friends in a big group. Its always fun to just get all dressed up, no matter if theres a boy or not. Last, if you want a guy to ask you to homecoming just act into him. Guys will want to ask a girl who they think will say yes, cause just like the next person they don't like rejection. Compliment him, talk to him, ask questions about himself etc. (without coming off as a stalker/interrogating him lol) just keep it flirty casual.
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Okay so my boyfriends birthday is comming up and i want to get him something really special if you guys could help me out i would really really apreciate it.
I REALLY NEED HELP! (link)
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Guys are the hardest to shop for. So here's the no-lose situation. First, make him something fom the heart. I know, corny and over used, but you just can't go wrong! Some kind of scrapbook with pictures of yall, or even just a collage of pics. You could write inside jokes in it, or corny stuff, or whatever yall are into. Or something else creative that you think would work for him. But you should also buy him something small, so you don't come off as cheap you know? Key into his interests. Know his favorite band? Buy him a CD. or iTunes gift card if you dont know his fav band, but you know he downloads. A movie is always good too. Whatever he is really into, or obsessed with, get him that relates to that. If he loves your local baseball team, buy him a shirt from them or even tickets. Not only will he get a cool gift, but he will know that you care about him and know his interests.
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14/f
Me and one of my best boy mates have recently got together, I mean very recently, only a few days ago.
And we're both really shy so it's not going anywhere. I mean, we don't really act like we're going out apart from the fact we generally walk around together and hug when we say goodbye.
If we were alone I'd be much more comfortable, but we havn't been alone since we started dating, and I feel really self-conscious in front of everyone else.
What should I do about it?
xxx (link)
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About the being alone part, I agree with the other people-just schedule a date. At your own house, you'd probably feel most comfortable, so maybe less shy/self-conscious. But anywhere will do. One of the cutest date ideas is a picnic in the park. But anyway, as for the shy part, since yall are both shy, you both probably are nervous and what not. Are you holding hands yet? If not, when your hands bump into his, just go for it once, and grab it. That will give him the go ahead to start holding your hand in the future (hopefully). Oh and if you have a mutual friend with him, it wouldn't hurt to mention to them whatever it is you would him to do/change, and say you wouldnt mind if they passed on that information to him.
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I was just wondering, do you think it's better to play hard to get with a guy or flirt with him and make it sort of obvious? My problem is, I want this guy to know that I like him, but I don't want to come right out and say it. I want HIM to tell me if he likes me. Sometimes I think I act clingy around him, and I think he may be getting bored with me. I want to play hard to get, but I don't want him to think that I DON'T like him, because I do. Anything I can say to him? Or just any advice at all would be great. (link)
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This really just depends on the guy. Some guys want to know they are liked, while others might get bored with a girl labeled as "clingy".
Definitely dont stop flirting with him, but just not like all over him. You could try flirting with another guy when you know he can see you. Kinda play the field. If he is "getting bored" thats one way to fix that lol.
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For some time now I've been feeling as though my relationship is ending. We have been together for almost 2 years, and slowly we have started fighting all the time over the stupidest things. Most of the time when we are together we are either fighting or having an amazing time. We still have fun and talk and laugh and hug and kiss, its just some times i cant tell if we are dwindling. Please help (link)
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the only thing i can think of, is how much time do yall spend together, on average?
try spending more time apart, and when yall are together, maybe you will appreciate each other more, and not focus on the small negatives, but rather the big picture, and the positives.
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well i'll make this short
i think i like this boy. i sit next to him in one of my classes and we talk occasionally. he is not what you call "cool" but hes cute and nice. he's friends with geeks and popular people too but i feel that liking him is not a good choice.. is it ?
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its definitely a good choice. However, it's not like you choose who you like. I mean, you kind of just fall into that kind of thing. Guys that are a little "geeky" are honestly better because they arent really shallow, or judgemental of you. You can just be yourself around him. Nice boys are the best, jerks, no matter how hot, are not worth your time. And plus, you date who you want, no matter what ANYONE else says. Even if your friends dont like him, but you actually know him, date him anyway. Even if the "popular kids" dont approve, or think yall are the "coolest couple", date him anyway. The only reason you have not to date him is if YOU don't like him.
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13/f this may sound stupid, but i really don't like braces, they gross me out and soon I have to get braces. I know theres pretty much no way i can get out of them, and i can't use invisiline or anything. the only thing that will work for me are real metal braces. Is there a color or something that will make it look less gross? And is there a way that I could make the whlole braces process go quicker. Any tips or just anything about braces would be greatly appreciated. (link)
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i had to go through that too. u can get the white braces, which dont show up as much, but u can still see them. If you get pretty colors, people (at least at my school, since over half the population gets braces at one time or another) might even compliment them. like my friends always seemed to like it when i got rainbow colors. If you have to go through rubber bands like i did, tell your orthodontist to give you the heaviest kind they have. It will hurt more at first, but its one of the only ways to make it go faster. other than that, braces take a while and kinda suck. But now i have my retainer in, and im pretty glad i got them cause my teeth look pretty now =] its worth it, in the end. try to keep that in mind.
sorry if this wasnt much help, but theres not a lot one can do in this situation
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ok well my best friend is like all over what i do like she does whatever i do like she even has an advicenators and like its so stupid what do u think i should do? (link)
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Honestly, you should confront her, in a kind, yet to the point way. Tell her that you are flattered that she admires you so much, but she needs to be her own person. If you dont tell her, one day it will all build up, and explode and could potentially ruin your friendship.
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