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confused
15/f
I like this guy in my class and he liked me over the summer but i'm not sure if he does now. Anyways, my friend kaysy always talks to him and he talks to her a lot but he talks to a lot of girls because he has a lot of friends that are girls. She on the other hand always talks to him and says " Me and him are such good friends, i just love him to death, he is just like a bro to me. " I know she would never do anything like go out with him or anything because she is my really good friend and she even says we would be cute together, etc. But it seems like she is flirting a lot. Idk if it is just her personality like that or not but i can't confront her about it because when i did she said "oh, i'm not flirting, i know he's all yours." And, he talks to a lot of girls so i don't know if he likes me or not. My friend megan said he flirts with me sometimes but i am really confused about it. Today he gave me a hug for the first time and i was really excited but he hugs a lot of girls. How do i find out if he likes me without being to obvious because i have to see him every day and i don't want to be embarrased around him all the time if he says no or something. Also, i am kinda shy so i don't want to do anything that is to outgoing. Thanks!
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I've been through this, girl.
My best friend was friends with this guy that I really really liked and she knew that I liked him. Him and I would flirt and text allll the time but she'd STILL always call him and that pissed me off! Then she'd say to me "He's like a brother to me, I loveee himmm" BLAH I hated it! Well, him and I kept texting and talking on the phone and we eventually went on dates and then he asked me out :) and we've been together for 15 happy months :))
So here's what I think about your story. Your friend, whether or not she knows it or she's just competetive by nature, is competing with you. She knows you really like him, and she probably knows that you're really shy, right? She probably has a really jealous personality, no? She wants to see if she's more desirable than you. So I say, prove her wrong. Don't let her stop you from pursuing him. Keep flirting and talking and he'll eventually get the picture.
He's obviously just being a boy and trying to boost his ego by being around a lot of girls. Stand out from the other girls, try to make yourself more than that to him. And if you do, you don't need to find out if he likes you, he'll make it apparent.
Sorry for the reallyy long response! I just really want to help you because I see a lot of myself in you, and I reallyy want this to work out for you!
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okay. this sounds like something ive been through so let me give you my two cents.
first of all, about the guy. for some reason that i still have yet to figure out, guys will like you over the summer, but once school starts everything changes. not all guys are like this, but a lot are. just keep flirting with him and stuff. if youre shy, you can flirt through texts or on facebook/aim that way you dont have to be too forward in person. but you dont have to exclusively flirt with him, play the field. if he hugs a lot of girls, feel free to hug all the guys you want.
now..as for the girl. some girls really claim that they arent flirting because it really is basically all they know. these kinds of girls are...somewhat insecure. I'm not sure how close you and this friend of yours are, but it is definitely possible that she feels like she has something to prove to you. Maybe she wouldnt go out with him if he liked her, but i think she would get a sense of superiority if he liked her instead of you..which could be what shes after. Does she ever do things that make you think shes trying to prove that guys like her/give her attention? just watch your back when it comes to this friend. a true friend wouldnt flirt with the guy you like.
Finally, there isnt a real way to find out if he likes you. Just when you talk to him you have to figure out how hes feeling. Like does he say/do certain things to you that he doesnt other girls? Its really up to you. But dont go the second grade route: getting your friends to ask his friends if he likes you. because that will get back to him..and things could get awkward.
but its up to you.
Hope Ive helped a little :]
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