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[I didn't know which category this should go under]

Okay so my skin is pretty fair. I'm mostly irish. However, I do tan a little bit. I know this is hard to judge, but how long do you think I could stay out in the sun without being burnt, because I want some color, but I am terrified of getting burnt again. The first time I went out this year, I was out for 3 hours straight and got a wicked bad sunburn.


I know its really hard to judge, so I appreciate any answers. (link)
Tanning really requires experience, just try alternate times, like 20 minutes, then 30 and see when you start to burn.

Burning gets you tanned, as well. Not as fun as just tanning though :(

If all else fails, just try really short periods of exposure :D

Hope you get that good tan.


Hello.
I have selective mutism. I'm f/16 and I was wondering if I could ever get a job? I know people are supposed to get "disabled" people jobs at some point.

I can work pretty well, I just have a social anxiety with speaking. I'm okay being around people.. but what about the interview?

Don't say it's impossible. How can I go about this? Should I put that I have "S.M." on the application?

What job could I do though? Something that would work for me? Someone suggested shipping and receiving.. could I? (link)
There are many businesses (like Target, Wal-mart, etc.) that have something called "equal opportunities"

They give anyone that applies an equal opportunity to get the job. You would have to explain your disorder to them though, possibly with a doctors note?

I don't think you'll have too much trouble getting a job, just ask around.

Good luck!


Me and my sister really would like to have a DDR pad system in the house. Unfortunatly, neither of us knows anything about game consoles. whats the cheapest system we could buy to play ddr on? about how much would it cost? (link)
The primary console for DDR games is PS1 and PS2, other systems that release DDR games are secondary systems, so Bemani/Konami can spread their wealth.

Most stores that sell DDR games sell small packages that come with a game and mat.

The system to buy would definitely be PS2.

Hope this helped!


painkillers are like drugs i guess. well i was just sitting here and thinking do they stay in your system like other drugs? and if so for how long?

ps.. im not taking them i was just sitting here thinking about that lol (link)
Painkillers are indeed drugs. They are about as drug as they get. They block neurotransmitters or inhibit them, which is what a lot of smoked drugs do as well. While they are traceable in your system, unless found at a high level, I wouldn't see why they would be punishable.

Hope this helped!


Does anybody know what age Kiskadee coffee shop hires at? Also are there any other stores that i could work at like a bookstore that arent fastfood, or dunkin donuts or a resturant etc.


15/F

Thanks (: (link)
Bookstores only hire 18 year olds (at least around here) because you work alone a lot and you need to close sometimes.

Being 15 years old, it's going to be difficult to find a job, nonetheless one that isn't manual labor or fast food.

My suggestion would be to take what you can get and with the mere experience of working somewhere before will be more than enough to get you hired where you want to work when you turn 17/18.

Good luck!


I was wondering.. if anyone knew any good Hairspray quotes, from the movie hairspray.
I love that movie. I looked on the internet but couldnt find like any.


thanks! :D (link)
IMDB is the best place to find movie quotes.

http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0427327/quotes

Hope this helps!


whats good stuff to put in a beach bag? (link)
Something no one ever brings but should are a pair of boxer-briefs.

It's not for everyone but there are people that get bad chafes on their thighs (scratches from the two thighs scraping together) the salt irritates the scratches and makes it painful to walk.

I don't know how many people have this problem, but it's a killer. D:

Also, lots and lots of towels, if you don't like being sandy and don't like using the showers, bring a galon of water to wash yourself off.

ALWAYS BRING SANDALS.

Shoes are bad on the beach :(

Have fun!


these guys i hang with always say "well on the way back from dropping you guys off we got a combo..." or "were gonna pick up a combo, well be back"

are they talking about achol? haha i cant figure it out and i dont wannna ask cus id feel dumb (link)
I really have no idea.

They could mean a combo meal. Or it can be sexual.

Try looking at:

http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=combo

That's all the "urban" definitions of "combo" there is.

If you don't make any sense of it, maybe you should ask them?


omggg i really like this guy alott!! and its werid cus his two friends like me, and i could easily have them...but for some reason i want him, maybe because he dusnt act really flirty..i duno. hes like super shy, so i cant tell if he likes me or not, and its killling me!! cus i dont want to 'bug' him if he dusnt like me the least way...ive tried snooping, but got nothing....anyone know how to tell if a shy guy likes you?

(and its not as easy as "hes shy around you so he likes you" cus hes shy around all girls)


thanks in advance :] (link)
I happen to be sort of a "shy guy" so advice coming from me could be valuable.

I'm shy because I don't want to be thought of in a way I didn't want to be.

Put him on the spot to talk to you, GET HIM ALONE!!!

Getting him alone will be the best way for him to open up to you. If he doesn't open up to you, he may not fancy you all that much. :P


I'm a 19 year old female who is getting married soon and I am meeting my new soon to be inlaws now and things aren't going so great. My problem is that we were all outside smoking and I had my fiance's and mine cigarettes and he came over and told me to give him a cigarette. I told him that I would if he would ask me, so he said give me a fuckin cigareete. I kept saying that if he said please and asked me I would so he got mad and walked away. His aunt is over protected and he's a mommas boy. She got mad at me and I feel like I did something wrong when I think I didn't do anything. I don't know how to handle this cause I know he will not stand up to her. I want us to handle our disagreements in private. Don't know what to do please help me....!!!! (link)
If you really love him and he really loves you, his aunt will see that and hopefully she'll respect that.

Obviously the atmosphere around his relatives is different than when around just you. Try to adjust for him but if you find it to be too difficult, don't sweat it. Families have their road bumps, and you're almost officially part of that family.

I hope they treat you more like a valued family member. And good luck!


well..my ex i dated him when i was young and i was so stupid i messed things up he used to hate me well dislike me i guess but then we became friends again and im older now that i relized what i had and now i regert it cause i miss him..but now he has found him someone else they have been together awhile and he relly loves her me and him talks every now and then i have told him so many time s to come to my house and see me cause i miss him and he said he dk cause he dont want his woman mad but but he came by today and i wasnt home so i called him he said u know anyone for my cousin he is single and wants someone and i said my frined theycan meet she is here and i said u should relly come see me tommrow and he said well only for my cousin so what do you think i still have strong feelings for him id do anything to be with him again he is the man of my dreams and i think he knows that but i mean he showwd up outta the blue today he said he was in town lettin his cousin shop (link)
Be his friend. Show him that you've grown up. It's doubtful he trusts you right now. And you can't snap your fingers for him to like you again, so just wait it out. Be his friend, show him that you can be a good friend, then maybe you can convince him that you can be a better girlfriend.

Good luck, I hope it works out!


im 13 and theres this guy in my class ( lets call him bgrove) ive known bgrove since kindergarden and our friendship is ok. tonight ive just had this feeling inside me thats telling me i should ask bgrove out to be my boyfriend but the thing is i dont have any feeligns for him at all. i only like him as friend
so my question is what are these feelings and why am i having them (link)
You may find comfort in bgrove that makes you feel "safer" with him. While bmiller does the opposite.

It could be unconcious revenge towards bmiller or you may like bgrove more than you think. :P

Try not to do anything drastic (like asking bgrove out) until you know what your feelings mean. You're really the only one that can learn the true meaning of your feelings.


okay so i am around 5'3 and i weigh around 130.. i have stomach fat and i have been doing crunches for a long time and they dont help that much.. my question is, what can i do to lose this stomach fat? (link)
Give it time, keep working out, eventually your stomach will get smaller and smaller.


OK I've tried everything I possibly could to fix this friendship but I can't. She's impossible!! She even signed on to my crush's xanga and left me a note telling me he liked me when it was really her. How do I rekindle this friendship? No smartass answers. I rate 5's! (link)
Tell her how you feel and that you never wanted any of that to happen. If she believes you're sorry for what you did, if you did anything. She'll try as well.


I know a girl, who i played soccer with and who was in 1st period with all year during school, and it seems like we have a lot in common. The only problem is that she is a senior, and i am a freshman. I've always been nice to her, being that she is an upperclassman, and she has always been nice to me. I think we could be really good friends, but i feel like something is holding both of us back. Could it be because of the age difference? If anyone wants to know more to answer the question better, comment me back. (link)
It might not be so much of the age but the social problems with "dating a freshmen" you should ask her if she thinks different about you because you're a freshmen.


i'm turning 16 soon and i was wondering what are some jobs that hire 16 yr olds that arnt too public...lol i mean like not mcdonalds where everyone goes. thanks =) (link)
It's tough to find a place hiring that isn't too public, unless you find a place that isn't very busy..like a furniture store or pool supply. Some place that people visit on occasion.


Hey im gonna start watching Inuyasha and Trigun. I have a Inuyasha book (not manga) and it explains the basic story line..(How Inuyasha stole the Jewel of Four Souls and Kikyou pinned him against a tree for 50 years and kikyou came back recarnated as Kagome. And Kagome and Inuyasha and Keade have to venture out to find all the shards and jewels..? At least thats what I think)

Is there anything i should know. It would help
ILL RATE ALL 5'S!!!!!!!!! (link)
If you start watching now on Adult Swim, the series on weekdays just started but Saturday nights show new episodes which are about a hundred episodes ahead of the weekday ones. Trigun is an awesome show, they only show it on Saturdays though. If you are watching them somewhere else from the beginning, that's cool. You don't need to know the stories if you watch the show from the beginning, it explains everything. Happy watching. :P


-I'm extremely tiny - 5'1, and thin - about 120
-and my breasts are size 34E / 34DD
-theyre so big it looks weird
-there is NO bathing suit top out there that will cover me
-at cheerleading i have to wear a regular bra and TWO sports bras on top just to support them
- i cant wear button up shirts cause they pop the buttons
-if i dont wear a bra, they hang down and it hurts
-i exercise, RUN, i eat healthy, plus im a cheerleader, and my boobs are STILL big
-everyone in my family has huge boobs, but still...
-i dont have back pain or anything, theyre just huge and embarrassing

is there any way i can exercise to make my boobs smaller? No breast reduction. I'm only 15. please help, i HATE it. (link)
Those...are blessings. Haha. You're going to have to deal with them, it's not like they are unnattractice or anything. Be proud of them until you're able to get rid of them.


There is this boy I really like..He is 2 years older than me...this guy has been known for doing things with other girls .....but I don't think some of it is true....Lately he has talked to me and acted like he liked me so i guess you can say he has flirted with me........but there are 2 people standin in the way ....1)his girlfriend Chrystal 2) His ex-gf and my best friend Bethany......i don't think his relationship with Crystal will last long so ......If they break up should I try to go with him or should I wait on him to ask me??
Signed,,, TrueHope10 (link)
If this is your friend's ex you're talking about, they aren't together for a reason, it's safe to assume one of them made a mistake. Are they bitter? He's known for doing stuff with girls which means he's probably a pro at acting innocent, don't fall for his lies. Be cautious.


Okay- so my boyfriend is going to Florida for 14 days and he's flying. He's really scared and I wanted to write him a letter for the airplane ride up there. I don't know what to put in it! Please give me just a few ideas. Thanks --- I rate HIGH! And give feedback if you want it! (link)
Just make him miss you. Write down good memories, a picture, don't let him forget what he's leaving. ;)




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