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I'm a 19 yr old mainly agnostic ex philosophy student with rather strong views about a lot of things. I'm very liberal, love the diversity I live in in London and hate that America hasn't separated church from state.
I'm engaged to the love of my life, but agree it is a little bizarre to get engaged at 18.
I'm confident, quite literally crazy, caring and crippled. My manual wheelchair is called Sebastian and he gets scared when he goes too fast, my electric is called Jermaine (after the Flight of the Conchords character) and he really does not like ice.
I can read Braille and I know basic sign language because I believe everyone should be given equal chances. I dislike it that money doesn't have Braille on it.
I'll do my best to help out with your situations, I've been in and seen many a family conflict, I've had my fair share or love life crises, I've had about every illness known to man (could tell you a lot of amusing stories about psychiatric wards) and I'm "The Queen of Hair Dye" so hopefully I'll have some idea about advice. If it looks like I don't give lots of advice, it's because I only advise on things I know about. I also detest poor spelling and grammar so although having dyslexia makes me a bit hypocritical about this.

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i need a song that will pretty much get the point across that you're an a**hole who messed everything up.

please lol

"Dickhead" - Kate Nash

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i heard this song along time ago...and the music for it is on one of the new " kay " commercials.

and in the music video the girl is on a truck, and shes playing the piano, and the song goes something like this:

makin my way down town, and im homebound...and thats all i remember of it.

thanks alot!

Its definatly vanessa carlton, 1000 miles.

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is their a way to track who has been to a page on a site from an outside source dont say o thats illegal no its not the internet is an open resource you can do it completly legally but i dont know how

Im afraid trackers do not exist, they are rumours made up for publicity etc. The only way you can find out what computers (not even people, only computers) have been on what websites are to find out what websites the computer has been on from that computer. There is no way to track which users view your myspace profile etc.
Take care xx

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What should you do to make sure cuts (like a huge one amlost across the forehead) heal quickly without getting infected and doesn't leave a scar?

Oxygen or no oxygen? (bandage or no bandage)

Well, if it very big or deep you should get it checked out by a doctor so it can be stitched or stuck back if need be.
What you want to do is use something like surgical spirit or TCP to steralise it. This will hurt but will stop it getting infected. Then use an antiseptic anasthetic ointment (like savlon or germoline if you're from Britain or they have them wherever they are)
I would then cover up the cut until it begins to scab or heal, then the plaster should be removed to allow it to heal, keep using the antiseptic cream to moisturise it and this will hopefully reduce the scaring.
Take care, hope it heals well xxx

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what does agnostic mean? truefully i sont know what in the world that means hehe

Ahh.. philosophy, my specialty. Agnostic is often taken to be a person not knowing if they believe in god or not but strictly it means that you believe there is not enough evidence to make the decision and that it is impossible to know either way.
Hope that helps xxx

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Well my friend recently went to a gynecologist and was tested for endometrio cancer and cervical cancer. They werent quite sure if she had it so they sent the information out and she will find out in ten days. But for 1 month I have been bleeding and my period doesn't ever last that long, so now I'm worried I have the cancer too. First off, I feel I might have got it because me and my friend shared a dildo one night, I know bad idea, but we weren't thinking. Is cervical or endometrio cancer transferable, and if so does anyone think I could have gotten it from that? I don't really want to go get checked cause I'm terrified of doctors. So if anyone has any information I would love to know, or any opinons, and adivce would be helpful too. Thanks and please hurry I'm scared.

You can't have caught cancer from sharing a dildo but having a period for a month can be a sign of something wrong, and even if its not it could cause something going wrong. I had a period for about a month and it had no underlying cause but I had to see the doctor and they fixed it and they also checked it hadnt caused anything else, like low haemaglobin or iron levels which are very important yet simple to sort out. Therefore my best advice is to go to the doctor however much you are scared, you need to get checked out love.
Take care xxx

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is it possible to have physical symptoms but not emotional?
because i have all symptoms for physical.
but absolutely N O N E for emotional.
is this depression or something else?

thank you :D

I'd say its probably something else. There are a lot of illnesses and things that have the same physical symptoms, and the main feature of depression is being depressed, hence the name.
However, you can have depression if you feel numb, like detached from enjoying things, but that again is an emotional symptom.
I'd speak to your doctor about it and maybe he can prescribe something for the physical symptoms
Take care xxx

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What antidepressants are approved for teenagers? And i'm talking someone who's 17, not 13. Thanks.

The only antidepressent that is licenced for under 18's (in England where I live) is Prozac. Its a serotonin reuptake inhibitor, it makes more serotonin available in the brain which improves mood.
If you want to know more about it there are many websites, just google it, or if you want more info, I'm on it now so just drop me a question in my inbox.
Take care xxx

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So I'm 14/f and my fried is 15/f. I love her to death. I've known her forever and I would never abandon her.

She suffers from depression and is on 'happy pills' but she told me that she doesn't think that they are working b/c she calls her bf of a year a few times every month at night with her suicidal ideas. And then there's the whole body image thing. She's 5' 3" and 98lbs--underweight, I know. I did the BMI thing. But she still thinks that she's fat & sometimes doesn't eat saying that she is 'not hungry' when she skipped dinner the night before and breakfast. Then there is her sister--she's very close to her family and I don't mind that. What I do mind, however, is her sister [18/f]. She basically smokes pot & just does a lot of [random] guys. She's not the picture perfect sister to look up to [although she seems very nice and cool].

Anyways, her mom wants to send her to a nutritionist [dieting issue] but hasn't yet. But that's not the main question. I want to bring into her parent's attention that jer medicine isn't working sometimes and I'm afriad that she is going to hurt herself someday. And I'm afriad that she'll get dragged into the drug world and what not. I'm just really worried about her and I want to help her but I don't know what to do...I mean I doon't wanna be super friend and straighten out everything but I'm just afraid that I might lose her one day

I have clinical depression too and so I know what it's like for her. You need to speak to her about it and you find out if she is still taking her medication and either way, you need to persuade her to go back to the psychiatrist.
This needs to be done sooner rather than later, depressed people have habbits of getting worse dramatically and rather quickly.
The fact that she is calling her boyfriend when she is suicidal is a very good sign though because it means shes still being rational in some respect.
Also speak to her parents so they know what is going on and they can also persuade her to go to the psychiatrist.
Take care, and I hope your friend gets better soon.
xxx

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I'm a fair redhead, and I never know how to do my makeup for different occasions, like daytime/nighttime, etc. I don't know what colors work for me either. If anyone knows any websites with makeup tips that cater to redheads, as well as how to do "smokey eyes" and whatnot, give it here please!

I was a redhead and generally, the darker its going to be wherever you are going, the darker the makeup should be. Green eyeshadow should work well on your skin. I wouldnt do too much to the lips, focus on eyes. If you do too much to the lips you can end up looking like a whore so keep it to lip gloss or shades similar to your lip colour.
Hope I helped, take care xx

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Is it really a real show or just some set-up fake reality tv show?

It is a reality tv show, and it is set up and but it is a real show.
Real people are auditioned and sing live and are judged by the celebrities and are voted for by real people
Hope that answers the question

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I want to pierce my own lip and belly button.
And I can't go and get it done professioally.
So, can you tell me what to do [in general]?
So it won't get infected?

AH MY GOD DO YOU NOT FEEL PAIN!?
Sorry about that outburst, just thinking how PAINFULL THAT WILL BE!!!

To be able to pierce it yourself you will need piercing clamps and peircing needles, I dont know where you live so i can't tell you where you could get them but google it. Theres lots of websites.
Idealy you want an autoclave but they cost LOADS of money so the best way to steralise the bars will be to put them in the steam over the kettle for at least 5 minutes, then swab with surgical spirit.

However there will still be a very high chance of it getting infected. I would very very strongly recomend getting it done professionally. Infections are hard to avoid and can be very very serious.
Take care, hope all goes well! xxx

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I recently broke both of my arms, I had a terrible dislocation and fracture on my right elbow and both bones in my left forearm are broken. This happened in a rock climbing accident(i've been climbing for 5 years and I decided to go without a rope one day) Anyways, the injuries aren't too serious and the bones should heal and be even stronger by the time it's done healing. However, I do have a serious dilemma. With both my arm in casts, how do i wipe my own butt when I go to the bathroom? (in case you're wondering, it took me a looong time to type this question)

Ahhh, I was in this situation! Ive never known anyone else who broke both arms! its a tad tricky, but if you put your arms forwards kinda under you you should be able to reach.
Good luck and i hope you heal soon xxx

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I just had surgery and one of my cuts isn't fully closed on the outside. the inside is, of course. I have a green pus/gunk on the incission. It's near my bellybotton because i had liproscopic (sp) surgery. anyways, when i put an obsorbant on it, (fyi, toliet paper, cottonball, stuff like that) it obsorbs green stuff. i'm not sure if my other 2 incission are infected, and connot use them to detirmine if my one is, because they still have the tape my doc put on them on them. yes, she just taped me up, my mom assumes she just sewed the inner part. Do you think it's infected?

I would say that that is most definatly infected. Go to the doctor as soon as possible to get antibiotics from them as infected surgery wounds can be very serious.
So in short - Go to the doctor as soon as you can.
Take care xx

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1. for those of you living in the uk, do you know if an A-level in history would be required in order to study law?

2. is there a way in which one could do 'double-majors'? for example, i want to study english literature and law.

3. ucas points. say, i wanted to go into a university like oxford or cambridge - how many points would be considered good etc?

thanks

Hey,
1. No it wouldn't be required
2. For Degree level? Yeah its called joint honours and most university places offer them, but you might find it hard to find a english lit and law seeing as law is usually a very intense course.
3. Oxford and Cambridge dont work out things on ucas points but the average oxford or cambridge student has 512 points. If you want to go to oxford or cambridge you will NEED 3 A's at A2.
Hope I helped xx

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My ear on the right is blocked from me hearing from it. I can probably assume water, wax, and soap is trapped in it. I am not getting any pain from it, because I have been using antibiotic and ear wax removal drops for the past few days, but it's still not helping with me hearing from it!

does anyone have any at-home methods I can try to get rid of this? I have already tried tilting my head for hours, including overnight. So any ideas?

I know I might need to see a Doctor but before doing so I would like to try some new ideas to see if that will work before I consider going to one.

Thanks in advance!

I have a brilliant solution thats always worked for me, put a couple of drops of sunflower oil in your ear and then put a ear plug in, leave it in overnight and hope it doesnt come out over the pillow and you should have an unblocked ear in no time

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i have a blood clotting disorder and i want to get my tounge piersed.

my mom said i could be a issue
but were not docters!

and i cant check with a real docter cause my mom said shes not letting me get it piersed just yet untill im older (she thinks it looks tackey) and so i just would like to know about body piersings and how it will effect me.
i personally dont think something as little as a piersing will make a serious issue.

can a body piersing be harmful least i have a blood clotting disorder? ( the only piersing ive gotten is my ears (2ce) and attempted my belly button but it got infected badly)

I would strongly suggest not getting your tongue peirced if you have a blood clotting disorder, even though it is really cool. The tongue very often bleeds lots anyway and takes a while to heal properly, when one of my mates had hers done it didnt stop bleeding for 4 days. If you have a blood clotting disorder, this is likely to make the complications even higher with the risk of very large blood loss, so overall I would say it probably isnt worth it.
Also if your belly button got badly infected, it could show that your body doesnt like having peircings, which is a bummer, i have that and cant have any done, buttt its safer not to risk the infections again because especially in the mouth they can cause serious medial difficulties like blood poisoning.

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This is an odd question,
but is it likely that if you are super stubborn or, I dont know, really blunt, that your kid will have it?


Or atleast some of you and your husbands qualities? or do they have their complete own?

There is a lot of debate about if personality is decided by genes or upbringing, either way, up bringing is still important. It is likely that if a child sees its parents acting in a particular way then they may gain that particular personality trait but it is in no way definate, for example my parents are not tidy people at all but my brother is very very tidy

Hope I helped xxxx

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alright. soo i've been peeing a ton lately. i usually go 4 or 5 times a day and lately ive been going 7+. I don't think I've been drinking excessive liquids. This has been going on for about 3 days. It doesn't burn when I pee or anything... I know that that's a urinary tract infection, I had that once before when I was a little kid. The only thing I can think of is that its the week before my period, but I don't think it'd make me pee this much, since I don't usually pee this much before my period.

So yeah... anyone have an idea whats wrong? I know that if it is a urinary tract infection you have to go to the doctor pretty fast or else it can turn into a kidney infection or something.

Ohh and idk if this relates but on Christmas I had these horrible pains in my stomach in the morning and I was like curled up in a ball and nauseus and idk why.. it kind of came back through the day but not as bad and not for as long. Since then I've been okay.

Thxx

Unless it hurts i shouldnt worry, you're meant to pee 7+ times a day anyway. Unless it hurts then i think you're alright.
Try drinking more when you're not on holiday too, you need to pee more often

Hope its all good hun xxxx

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I got my blood pressure results from this machine but before I could check the normal numbers I had to go home. These are my results:

Systolic= 107
Diastolic= 060
Pulse= 093

Can someone tell me what systolic and diastolic means and give me the normal numbers for each of those 3 so I can see if my results are normal or not? thanks in advance

well the systolic is the pressure when the heart beats and the diastolic is the pressure between beats. The average is 120 over 80 and seeing as yours is 107 over 60 thats quite low
You have a high pulse though, this might be because you were stressed or had been excersising lots?

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