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Q: 16/f.
i love to masterbate.
but then i get this really big orgasm, and i dont want to feel horny anymore. i always tell myself before hand that i will continue to masterbate after my orgasm, but i never go through with it. its like i dont have a desire to or i feel like its stupid after i orgy.
:/ is this bad? how can i fix it? i want to masterbate more!

This is completely normal.
When masturbating, your increasing your stamula. When you have an orgasm, it releases all your hormones, which makes you non horny.
The non desire to masterbate, is normal, your just fine, dont worry.

Q: I am 26 years old I was with an employer for almost 3yrs, I left that employer did not finish my notice. I was offered a job by an old friend that did not work out too much conflict Ileft there after 7mos I was offered two new jobs 3mos later, but was not satisfied so I left what do I do next?

Okay.
Little confusing, but I'll try.
Try looking for something that you like doing, such as babysitting.
If you enjoy children, try working at a day care.
Animals?
Apply for a job at a pet store.

Just try to find something that satisfies your needs..something you can enjoy and look forward to instead of something that your dreading.

Hope I helped.

Q: 15/f, going to be a sophomore

field hockey tryouts start next week, tuesday august 5th. i'm running everyday, trying to eat healthy, etc. i am really really really nervous though, and i was wondering what i should do the day before tryouts? should i run still? if anyone has any tips for advice please give them to me, i'm trying to do everything to prepare.

The day before tryouts you need to:
rest..
drink plenty of fluids..
elevate your legs..
mainly just relax..
no stress..

hope I helped

Q: One of my closest friends typed this Note on Facebook:

I'm sick of this teenage girl drama.

If you have a problem with me then just say it. I'm not going to sit around and put up with you "joking around" because I know there's a not just a grain of truth behind it, it's a damn truck load. You people are so immature.

Oh boo freaking hoo, I talk to your boyfriend. What's the big deal? Is he not allowed to have FRIENDS? Do you keep that tight of a leash on him? Shows how much trust you have in that wonderful person.

I've been spending my summer, no, my LIFE, trying to cut you people out of my everyday routine. How do you manage to come crawling back? By tricking me into thinking you're genuine EVERY GOD DAMN TIME. Well, you'll be glad to know that I'm sick of you and I'm not going to be putting up with how immature you people are any more. I'm completely and utterly cutting you from my life for good.

If you see me at school? Don't talk to me. If you see me on the street? Don't talk to me. If you see me in a dream? Don't talk to me. I swear to God, I want nothing to do with you ever again.

Congratulations on succeeding in being the most ridiculously immature, ignorant and self absorbed people that have ever stepped foot into my life. Oh, and for the record, you should feel pretty happy that I let you in my life for that long because you REALLY did not deserve it.

Fin.

=/ I don't know what to say. I don't know who she's referring to but I just want to let her know that it's okay and that I'm there for her. I'm good at caring but I never really know what to say.

Thanks!

What else is there to do?
Ask her if she's alright & if she needs anyone your there for her & your always going to be.

Put two & two together...

Think of all of her friends...
Which ones have boyfriends...
Which ones are jealous....

You'll always get four =]
Hope I helped...

Q: So, I tried putting a tampon in just a few minutes ago, and you see, I couldn't find the hole. Trust me, I searched everywhere with that little plastic top, and the hole was nowhere to be found. Now, I know I have it, because it hurts where there probably should be a hole (thanks to pushing), but it wouldn't go in.

Any magic tricks to easily finding the hole for me? Thanks in advance for answering my awkward question.

16/f

Use a slender tampon, put the tip behind the clit, or where you piss, and gently slide backwards applying a little bit of pressure, NOT MUCH, it will start to go in, while doing this prop one leg up on the toilet seat, so it will widen the hole a little bit.
Hope I helped.
Be careful.

Q: Ok, I'm 15/f.
I have my helix pierced, and then two on each lobe.
I'm 16 soon and my parents said I can get any piercing for my birthday.
Now I'm stuck between.
Something on my ear(tragus, industrial, conch, anti-tragus, forward helix,rook or snug?)
Tongue
Side lip
Navel
Eyebrow

I'm not 100% girly. But I'm not a tomboy either.
So like casual girl :P

Thank you!

Oh, I don't want anyone to be like err what the fuck is a ?
:P

I'm going to look these up & give you a brief description on what sort of image they put off.

My sister got her tragus pierced, it bled. So I don't know what you'll think about that.
It's extremely cute though.

I ABSOLUTELY love the industrial piercing, I didn't know what it was called but I've always wanted that done. It gives off sort of a emo-ish vibe.

I really don't like the conch piercing, it looks like it hurts.

The anti-tragus is different. I like it too though. =]

The forward helix, I would be worried about getting that caught in something, like sunglasses, or my hair.
Ehh.

The rook piercing looks similar to the anti tragus?

& as for snug, its the same thing as the conch.

I had my tounge pierced, it hurt severly. It was hard to take care of, due to the soreness, and I would bite it when I was eating. I took it out after two years and its just now growing up.

Side lip..I like it too, I don't know how a person would like it though, seeing that it would be right in the way.

I have my navel pierced, and it didnt hurt at all. It took forever to heal, but I'm not an easy healer lol....

OMG! MY FAVORITE! Eyebrow, I would so do this if my mom would let me...

but she wont...=[

Anyways I just gave my opinion, seeing your a casual girl, I'd go for something on my ear, or my navel..nothing too drastic.

I really hope I helped.

Q: IM 14, Female.
I am going on a cruise next year in Rome. I am so excited...the thing is i want to meet a guy or at least have a guy friend. Ive never kissed or had a boyfriend, i used to have guys that were my friends, but after sixth grade they stopped. I dont know what to do! Maybe im dorky. My friends are friends with popular kids but im not. Am i fat? Or ugly?
Description:
113 lbs
5'2"
Long Brown wavey hair, not gross hair i take care of it
green eyes
small nose
A size boobs
my friends say im gorgeous, but ive never seen a guy glance at me.
And how do I know if i act dorky, or dress weird?

Your DEFINATELY not fat...and judging by your description, your not ugly either.
After about the 6th grade, guys hit puberty, and it hits them hard. Mixed emotions, everything goes ballistic. I wouldnt worry too much about this.

If your around your friends, dont try to be something your not, just be yourself, if they're true friends, they wont care how you act.

As for the guy problems, I wouldn't worry about that either, guys dont tend to come out with their feelings.. especially around their friends.

Hope I helped.

Q: after having sex, the next day if your stomach hurts and you feel fatter and bloated what does that mean? because i have been feel this way for about 5 days. i dont remember anything when i was having sex because i was drunk and someone took advatage over me. and it was my first time. im really scared about this.

This usually doesn't happen to me.
Seeing it was your first time, you may just be paranoid, and scared.
Or, maybe your just fixing to start your period.
Wait a week or so, and get tested, if you havent started, but DONT STRESS! Stress can cause a missed period.

Hope I helped.
Goodluck.

Q: I have social anxiety disorder and wish i could put my feelings into poems, but i absolutely can't right poetry, so i would really like to find some communities or websites or whatever where there are poems, essays, entries, etc. written by people with social anxiety disorder about how they feel, etc.

Thank you!

Click on this link.
http://www.social-anxiety-network.com/socialanxietystories.html

It looked very helpful to me.
Idk what you'll think about it though.

Q: my boyfriend finishes in my everytime we have sex for like a whole year he has && I never became pregnant..&& I dont even take birth control or anything to that extent..is anything wrong with me? I want kids in the future is this a bad sign already that I cant?!

Maybe your boyfriend is "shooting blanks" or not producing sperm. Which in this case cannot get you pregnant.
Nothings wrong with you, I just wouldn't plan on having kids with your current boyfriend if I were you, & if this keeps up.

Sorry.

Q: Can a guy really tell if a girl has how they say been around..How they say it "loose" during intercourse or anything??

My personal opinion. I don't think a guy can tell unless the girl tells him before hand. Every girl has a different vagina. Some are extremely tight, while others, are loose. Sure a girl is more loose if she's sexually active..in time she will tighten back up though.
Hope I helped.

Q: So uh what the hell is the best straightener around? (preferably one that can curl)

1. CHI?
2. Sedu?
3. GVP??
4. HAI?
5. FHI?

questions

1)did i miss anything?
2) which one out of the five would you most recommend from experience or "you've heard"?

Thanks. im sorry im just reeeaaally confused on what to buy everyone says chi chi chi! but i heard sedu was really good and celebrities use it.

also they say that 3. GVP was a knock off of CHI and i think cheaper? BUT WORKS HELLA GREAT.

i think my top three would be chi, sedu (but does this one even curl hair??), and GVP.

what do you think?
should i change my order of the best? or recommend something else?

but dont forget to answer the questions! thaanksss :)

I would recommend CHI. I myself don't have one, but one of my friends does, and she uses it very often, her hair is extremely curly. It doesn't frizz, break off or burn her hair... and it doesn't take long to straighten.

Hope I helped.

Q: Ok my 3 good friends are coming over tommorow and I haven't seen them in awhile. Well I've been looking on the computer for good scary movies and can't find any. All the scary movies are cheesy and stupid. I really want to find good scary movies. I have seen most of the 8 horror films to die for and that was a joke. If you can help me find some good scary movies that would be great.

Thank you so much!

Halloween
Texas Chainsaw Massacre
Wrong Turn
Silence of the Lambs
When a Stranger Calls -freaks me out..you may not like it though-
What lies beneath
Ghost Ship
13 Ghost---realllyyyy freaky

Q: ok im 14 my boifriend is 16 which means he will be 18 when im 16 can he go to jail cause im under age and should i break up with him till i get older

it all depends where you live.
some places its illegal.
other places it isnt.
i just turned 15.
my boyfriend will be 18 THIS november!

but my parents are okay with our relationship, infact, they LOVE my boyfriend.

like the person below me said...
DONT get caught having sex.
then he could go to jail.
but..as long as your parents and his parents are fine with it..
there shouldnt be a problem

Q: i want to use a tampon. But im scared to DEATH!! lol im kind of a person that if you look at me, i looks like i do. So i cant really ask my friends for help. And id rather kind of leave my mom out of this for the first time because i like to do things on my own so i can learn. So how do i do this. Because yes, iv tryed before but it hurt so bad and then i couldnt find the hole...So wheres the hole. How do i make it not work. And what kind should i use.
Thanks =]

I never told my mom when I used my first tampon.
I went to my aunts, I stay there a LOT, and I just started there. If it hurt when you tried it the first time I suggest you to prop one of your legs up on the toilet seat. As for finding, "the hole", Start behind your clit, "the pisser", and move the tampon backwards applying a little bit of pressure, not much, until you hit the hole, you'll know when you hit it. As for what to use, it all just depends on how you bleed. Seeing that its your first time using a tampon, I would use slender, just for first time sakes, while still wearing a pad or panty liner, just for precaution.
Once you get use to the tampon, you can try regular, whatever you feel comfortable with.
& be careful!

Q: what are the names of dogs that are born little and stay small throughout their life. i want a cute little pup that will stay small and easy to deal with :) help! :)

Miniature Pinchers would have to be the cutest puppys I've ever seen.
Other than that..
chihuahuas, yorkies, toy poodles, cockerspaniels, biewers, shihtzu, maltese..
hope i helped.

Q: My gf and I have had oral sex together a couple of times and I wanted to do something a bit OFF THE WALL our next time. I was thinking about adding some whipped cream on her. What I didn't know was is there any danger to her health if the cream went inside her. Could she get sick some how?

If I were you..
I'd make a trail of whipped cream on her belly leading down until I'd say her panty line.

Stick a ice cube in your mouth, & go from there.

works wonders.

Most foods (with the exception of spicy ones) are safe to smear on the outside of the genitals, but be a little careful with oily foods if you're using condoms, since oil breaks down latex.

So whipped cream shouldnt hurt

Q: i need help i babysit and the child acts really sweet while the parents are around but hes a devil when they leave what should i do

signed
baby distress

You should first have a talk with the child.
Explain to him that if his behavior doesn't change that you will approach his parents and explain the situation to them.
If that doesn't work, play games with him, do stuff that he wants to do.
When he acts well reward him, when he doesnt put him in time out for however old he is, if he complains, double it.
Hope I helped.

Q: i am a female and i just had sex with my boyfriend and it burns when i pee what does that mean?

This happens to me.
I don't know why, but it does.
Give it a day or so, it will go away.

Q: I am a 22 year old female. I have been with my boyfriend for 2 and a half years and everything in our relationship is good except he has a problem with my sexuality. It is REALLY hurting the relationship. I feel as if sex is more of a chore then anything else. We still have sex a good amount, but not as often as he would like. And he knows I do not enjoy it (dispite my acting haha). It's not that sex feels bad or anything, it actually just doesn't feel like anything at all. I can enjoy myself sexually by myself, but have never really gotten pleasure out of sex with any of my partners in my life. Maybe I am masterbating wrong, therefore my boyfriend cannot get me excited? I know that I am supposed to tell my partner what feels good to me, but I don't even know where to start. Nothing really feels that good.

This problem has really been wearing down on me and my relationship lately and I could really use the advice. Thank you for your time!!

Just try to find out what you like, while having sex with him, maneuver, and find out what styles you like best, or what positions, fast, slow, deep, shallow.
When my guys ontop of me, I sort of do a roll with my bottom half, works wonders on me =].

& While your having sex, think of your sexual fantasys, talk dirty with him while he's doin his stuff.

You said "I know that I am supposed to tell my partner what feels good to me, but I don't even know where to start."
You've been with this guy for two and 1/2 years.. it shouldnt matter what you say to him.

Just dont think about it, get in the mood.
Foreplay.
Go down on him, & let him go down on you.
Discover what makes you feel good, and what doesn't.
& tell him.
Hope I helped.

bio

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