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If im 16 years of age is it legal to have sex with someone the same sex as me?? And how can i get tested for STI and STDs?? (link)
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Your family doctor or a registered nurse can do the tests. Here's a link about how they conduct them. http://kidshealth.org/teen/expert/birth_control/std_testing.html
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im always talking to this other guy in gym just as friends and this other guy always comes up to us and just stands. but hes kinda awkward and stiff & i hate that. but after winter break i came back in sweats and a sweatshirt & barley any makeup & my hair was in a bun & he came up to me & he's like "melissa you look beautiful" & i'm like "thank you" & hes like "well you look beautiful like always" & im like "thanks haha" & he just walked away. he talks to this one girl whose my friend & i told her what happened and shes like yeah hes a really nice guy. & she told me he had a gf but they broke up. but he told me about me being beautiful after they broke up. do you think he's just being nice or what? i mean i think hes cute but he acts stiff (idk how to explain it) & he hangs out with weird people. (link)
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Weird people? What do you mean? Maybe they are different from you or your friends and NOT deserving of the "weird label" others have branded them with.
Maybe if you talked to his friends and got to know them and draw your own conclusions you would see they're pretty cool.
They may really like you and be good friends. Give them a chance. And even if you didn't like them it's not a knock against him.
If you like this guy and he's complemented you it's a good sign that he at least wants a friend. Guys however, are like girls we don't go around calling someone beautiful if we don't really mean it to get her full attention.
He probably does indeed like you but is extremely shy and scared. He's an introvert so appearing awkward around you goes part and parcel of being scared of rejection etc.
What to do? Try setting up a party, go bowling, to the movies or whatever and see if he will come when invited and spend time getting to know him. If he doesn't want to come than you know without telling him your feelings that he isn't in to you.
While at this party or group event get him alone and say "You know I really appreciated you calling me beautiful the other day. Nobody has done that before. It was really sweet. I know you went through a breakup and didn't know how to interpret the comment or other signals. Are you interested in being friends or something more?
That's perfectly okay to ask of him so you at least know. If you both dig each other it will kick-start the dating process. It's a good thing either way and sometimes a girl has to grab the bull by the horns with a shy guy and just ask him what he really wants here or vice-versa for guys with a shy girl. Let me know how it works out.
He could have just been nice but I think you know there's more to his behavior and how he's acting all shy around you than that. Just talk to him and show him everything's okay.
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ok so today a boy asked me out but he just got dumped by my best friend last week and I only like him as a friend but I have NO idea how to tell him no but still be friends I would appreciate if you gave me advice ASAP I promised I tell before I go to sleep Thank You I am a girl 13 years old
~RaeleneAndZayn (link)
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Tell him "Look you just broke up with my best-friend about a week ago. It isn't fair for me to go out with someone she just broke up with and I won't. I like you but not romantically. If you want a friend that would be great but if not I'm just not into you that way. Sorry."
I would have to think he can't possibly have genuinely loved her or you for that matter as he's jumping from her to you or whomever else really fast and likely just to have someone rather than nobody.
If our friend kicked him to the curb there has to be a bloody good reason for it. Find out. Even if you dig this guy consider him poison for now at least. Why? If you got involved you would piss your friend off perhaps for good and ruin a friendship. She may have dumped him but believe me hurts still for having done so.
What you should do is tell her you are friends with this guy but that he put you in a tough spot and asked you out immediately after the break-up. Tell her you said "no way" but that this guy has a lot of nerve and you aren't interested and set him straight. She needs to know.
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Hey im a 15 year old boy from London.my girlfriend will be giving me a blowjob in a bedroom in 2 weeks at a party and i will be trying to get her to let me cum in her mouth.is it wrong to kiss after this? Even if she drinks water? Also i have a 4 inch penis..is that long enough?Thanks (link)
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You NEED to talk to her about what she's okay with before you engage in this activity. Explain you never had this kind of sexual activity before and wanted to know what she is okay with doing and what she isn't.
Not every girl wants bodily fluid in their mouth and may insist on condoms. Rather than try to convince her of the other ask her if she's okay with that and then if not accept her decision.
As far as kissing goes immediately after it's a turnoff for a lot of people and your partner may or may not view it as gross. There's nothing wrong about kissing afterwards but I would recommend waiting until she's freshened up.
As far a size goes you're normal anatomically and it's enough to enjoy this kind of activity. No worries there.
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Hey im a 15 year old boy from London,my friend is having a party in a few weeks and he will give me and my girlfriend a room.dont bother sayin we're too young im not going to have sex!!she said she will give me a blowjob,she wants to be fingered but wont let me eat out...any tips for giving her an orgasm with fingers only?:) thanks (link)
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We can't post that kind of thing. There are minors on this site. However, try talking to her before doing anything. She's the expert on her body and what she does or doesn't enjoy. You have more chance of ensuring she's happy that way.
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I dont know why, but everytime school starts my stomach hurts. I think its nerves, because im scared ill throw up. That causes it to hurt even more!
I tried medication, but it didnt work. What do I do?! (link)
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Chances are the anxiety has or will make you throw up if not taken care of. I know from having acid reflux that is severe what to do when that feeling and taste in your mouth first begins.
My doctor recommended this to me. When you first feel like you are going to throw up pop an over the counter ant-acid like Tums or Zantac. It will coat your stomach and stop the taste and feeling. It won't make you in the least drowsy at school. If it's really intense and the above mentioned doesn't work a Gravol for Children will work.
I'm not a doctor but just relating what I do so you shouldn't ever take our advice or mine as an official medical diagnosis. You DO NEED to see a doctor even with this in mind to figure out what is in fact causing the throwing up or desire to. That's utmost important. They rule out ulcers, internal issues etc and can put a scope down in severe cases to figure things out.
Odds are this is all related to something you are afraid of at school. Is someone bullying you hon? Are you in a class you aren't doing well with? Teacher picking on you? Tell your parents and counselors and get it out in the open and work on the anxiety and this problem will fade into the mist.
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Hi I have no idea if I have my period and I'm 14 but I'm quite small and am a late bloomer but its kinda dull yellowish brownish and then light brown in the middle it's not sticky or anything more liquidy but not sure and kind of scared to tell my mum (link)
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You should NEVER be scared to tell your mom ANYTHING EVER! That's what she is there for to help you with stuff like this.
You might feel embarrassed about it but just remember your mother was 14 once and likely as scared as you are about periods and discharge. She also knows what is normal and what might be signs of an infection or your actual period.
I know this sounds icky to you but it's best to show her the stains and that your underwear is always wet and ask what she thinks it is. Normal discharge (non-period) is usually egg white color a bit yellowish from what I've read (I'm a guy) and does not smell.
If it smells it's a problem. The fact it's also brownish has me concerned but mom will know for sure. If it's something signaling an infection a doctor can clear that up but really should tell mom. Your mom is probably expecting all this to come up with you eventually. Don't be scared be in the know.
If it's hard to talk to mom try asking an older sister, a friend's mom, aunt, grandma or someone you really trust about periods and discharge colors. Perhaps a female from this site might have more info.
I also recommend you go to www.scarleteen.com as it's a site by professional sex educators for teens and parents where there are tons of articles on this and a way to ask questions of people who would know this on their message boards that they staff. All info is 100% factual and monitored.
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Ok so, i have heard constantly that being gay is a sin, but i couldnt find it in the bible, plus i dont even understand WHY its a sin in the first place! Can somebody please help me understand? (link)
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You already do understand. People are born that way even if religious folk think otherwise. It's NOT something a person chooses to be. It's just who they are and it's okay. The whole sin thing is the belief some in society hold that relationships, sexual activity, marriage should be between man/woman.
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Okay, so ive had this Vagina smell for a while. Im not sexually activ, but every time when i use the bathroom, it seems that my underwear are always WET and my Vagina has a weird smell. to me it stinks! i shower EVERY morning, because if i dont it will get smellier. is it my underwear, soap.. What is it.. What can i do.. Can You help me??? is it my "cum" coming out? (link)
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Any time there is a stink like you describe it often is an infection of some sort. It's something to tell your mom about.
Although embarrassing she's a woman and will know plenty about vaginal discharge, smell and what you are experiencing. She can take you to a doctor and get it treated which is best for you. It's NOT easy to talk about with either your mom or a doctor and both know this but it's necessary to get this seen to and mom's seen this area of your body before.
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I am 22 years old and have never had sex or have I ever managed to successfully insert a tampon. I have never masturbated by sticking anything up there... and I fear that through not using it, my vagina has closed up. How possible/prevalent is that?
I am only having serious problems with it now because my boyfriend and I have tried to have sex a few times - the first time his penis would just not go in. Whenever he was fingering me it hurt a lot... and recently whenever I have been trying to put in a tampon (I have been using pads since my first period at age 16), it just cannot go in (I don't even know if I am putting it in the right place).
This whole thing is really upsetting me. My boyfriend says he understands and that we will try again but I think he just thinks I am scared - really I am just scared that it will hurt, or that he just cannot get it in...
I am prepared to go see a doctor and see if they can do anything to help me? CAN THEY HELP ME? Or is it too late after so many years of never stimulating/using that area...
I have also tried masturbating recently but I just find it uncomfortable and again nothing seems to fit in my vagina.
So desperate. (link)
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Relax. Breathe. Exhale. You are 100% fine. Your vagina cannot close up at all or change in such a negative way if nothing has ever entered it. Every virgin would have that problem and none do. So it's not anything of that nature. Anatomically you are fine. Has nothing to do with not masturbating either.
There is actually a condition some women have with vaginal muscles that is actually controlled largely by paralyzing fear of pain that is talked about in the tampon problems insertion guide from Being Girl's site (I think Tampax operates it or Playtex either way...) It's called Vaginismus and it's when the muscles clench tight making it hard to insert. See link: http://www.beinggirl.com/article/problems-inserting-tampons/
If that may be the case I would talk to a gynecologist if the article doesn't help as they will have answers and see this lots. It's not easy to learn tampon insertion from everything I read of it but it's easier if you are able to relax. Talk to your gynecologist about inability to insert a penis, tampon, finger, anything.
As far as fingering goes he's being far too rough if it's hurting you. As far as masturbation goes we can't go into detail. You may want to focus on clitoral stimulation and not insertion as lubrication your body naturally produces from that can help in the other area with insertion. And that may be your whole problem sex/otherwise beyond fear lack of lubrication or arousal,
As I said, I'm a male so I'm hoping other females who experienced the same issue will help and add a perspective on this that I can't but I do think the article above will start you searching in the right place for an answer. Also check out Scarleteen as they have sex educators there who you can ask this question too as well www.scarleteen.com and provide answers and tips. It's a site meant for teens and parents and could yield a lot of support.
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ok so im 16 and statrted cutting at 12 years old and now that im in highschool its worse and ive paused- but i want to stop. can you give me tips? yes i have a therpist. (link)
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A therapist although they mean well and aim to help cannot do the work of a psychiatrist. This is what you need and NO you aren't nuts nor need to be to see one.
This is a mental health issue where an illness and a constant compulsion to self-harm is driving it. What you need is proper counseling from one a diagnosis and reason for doing this and a clear plan to combat it with medication.
What you need to do is see a family doctor and ask for a referral to see one or better yet visit an Emergency Room and tell them your history with cutting and inability to stop and that you really need support to do so. They'll have someone there on-call who can set everything up for you with proper treatment and send you back home. Nothing to fear tons to gain but you have to want to work with them and the treatment badly and I can see that you do. Let me know what develops. Hit my inbox up if you need further support.
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I am 27 years old self-dependent working girl. i am in relationship with a guy from last 8 years. now i informed my family that i want to marry him only so they refuse my request and fixed ma marri8age with a guy to whom i rejected 1.5year back. Now the situation is damn critical for me i can’t hurt ma parents to do court marriage and not even leave ma love. That’s why i decided to finish my life....
pls suggest me some easy way to commit suicide. (link)
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If you don't want to marry someone you don't like and do not know than don't. I understand in your culture that this is the norm. It's hard to do but tell your parents you can't be with someone you can't stand for eternity.
Tell them why won't you allow me to be happy with someone I genuinely love? The relationship is a decade old and thriving. Marry whom you wish and if they give you grief or disown you (not likely) than you're a grown woman who can live on her own, support herself and he can for you.
Killing yourself is the stupidest idea you could entertain here. No matter how monumental a problem seems there is a solution even if it doesn't come evident easily. Death is too high a price to pay and not the solution to any situation. Stand up to your family and as the other person below said NOBODY can make you do a damn thing you don't want to. They can apply pressure but that's all.
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Ok so Im 13/f and last night, I got a text from the person I least expected it to be. It was this girl named Rachel. Me and her have had some differences in the past and we dont talk often and I never trusted her before and never talked to her because I get so jealous of her whenever Im around her! She texted and invited me with a bunch of other people over to her house after school friday so we can all have dinner and get ready for the dance together. I asked my parents and they said I could go so I said to her sure.
Although, Im really not sure if I should go? Should I tell her I have a family thing and back out of it? I know shes trying really hard to be my friend and get along with me but Im not sure if I wanna be her friend. Shes so pretty and nice and funny but I dont know what to do. She even asked me if peperoni and cheese pizza is fine to eat and I told her Im a vegetarian so she said that we could all just have cheese pizza. So should I hang out with her and a bunch of people from her "group of friends"? (link)
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Don't judge a book by its cover. EVER. That's exactly what you are doing to her without trying to know who she really is. The girl you never spoke with before, thought too popular, was jealous of etc. may be the sweetest person inside and right for a friend.
She invited you for a reason and really does want to know you. It would be bloody foolish not to go and see what happens and if you hit it off. Hell you may even have fun and find numerous friends including her. She's even willing to bend over backwards to make sure you don't have dietary issues with food choices.
GO! ABSOLUTELY! You have ZERO to lose here. Your problem is an irrational fear of not being liked or liking her. Even your parents see this as a great opportunity. Just remember she's as scared of you as are her friends of NOT being accepted or liked by you so it goes both ways. Who knows you might get a new best friend or several. Let me know how it goes. Hit my inbox up.
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Over the past year I have developed some unusual ways of thinking and behavior that I have no idea how to handle. I have become more and more socially withdrawn. I never leave my house, and rarely get out of bed. My fiancé has been trying to get me to be more active socially and physically, but I somehow always end up staying home. This has gone on for over a year and has become worse and worse as each day passes. It's not that I'm scared to leave my house, I just don't want to deal with people, and I am paranoid that everywhere I go people are watching me, talking about me, and judging me. Next, I have become very unorganized. I used to be a complete control freak and now I have piles and piles of clothes everywhere, dirty dishes, food wrappers etc, and I have no interest in cleaning because I know where everything is. Next (This scares my fiancé the most) I have become very paranoid and scared about demons. I think they are out to get me. I somehow convince myself that when I open the door to my room, or the shower curtain, or when I look in the mirror a demon will appear and try to hurt me. I constantly think about this and it keeps me from getting out of bed, getting out of the shower, and looking in the mirror. When I lie in bed at night and close my eyes, I always feel like a demon is hovering over me. Or when I am home alone, I feel like they follow me around and end up running everywhere I go. The fear is paralyzing. Next, I have trouble concentrating and communicating with my fiancé and family because my head is so cluttered with thoughts. There's always a million different thoughts going on at once, some I can make out, some I cannot. Some are whispered thoughts, and some are screaming thoughts that won't go away. They all have different tones of voices, some more aggressive than others. I don't know if I am making any sense. This is my most recent symptom, and it's keeping me from falling asleep. These symptoms are starting to ruin my life and I don't know what to think of them. I know they are not normal. What do you think it is, and what are some steps I can take in dealing with this? (link)
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You are NOT well my friend. I say this having gone through bipolar disorder and the mental health system. I cannot tell you what ailment you have but you are in or headed for crisis.
You MUST get some help. This won't go away on its own. Hearing voices directing you to so something or non-stop thoughts rushing like a freight train in your head is symptom for a variety of mental-illnesses as is paranoia and irrational thoughts of people or things out to get you.
What you MUST do and the most sensible thing to do is go to an emergency room tonight. Tell them exactly what you told us here and don't hold a thing back. An on-call psychiatrist will interview you at length about when this started, the beliefs, voices, and constant thoughts.
He or she will then figure out which illness you have and hold you at the hospital 72 hours for observation in this instance and figure out medication and treatment to get you well.
What likely will happen is this: Based on the symptoms above they will keep you in hospital for a rest and to get better and rid of all the symptoms and paranoia and then release you. It does take time but you absolutely have to get it done.
They do this because those voices and the illness can lead you to harm yourself or in some cases others so they aren't taking chances as it is indeed a dangerous situation left untreated and is definitely a situation for the ER. Drop everything and get a medical assessment.
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My parents say I'm too young to have a Facebook while all kids my age already have one? Should I be embarrassed? (link)
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Facebook's legal policies on young people is that you must be 13 and above for one. If you are younger than 13 and even if your friends are it's not allowed by the site and designed that way to keep kids safe.
If you are older than 13 you should talk to your parents like an adult showing your maturity and no whining if they don't see it your way.
Explain to them that you fear being left out as this is how your classmates socialize and plan things such as parties, sleepovers, movies, everything back and forth.
Having said that a lot of people have been cyber-bullied, had issues with privacy, photos, status updates they shouldn't have said, hacking etc. They may have a negative view of Facebook based on that and not trusting others.
However, perhaps they don't even use it themselves or know how the settings and overall site works. If that's so encourage them to get their own accounts and fiddle around in there with settings to determine how secure you would actually be using it. They may not think you are mature enough yet.
You need to find out what their real objection is and find a way to address that fear and maybe reach a compromise. Although you may not like this too much perhaps they will allow you to have an account if you show them what you're putting on it, the status updates, and any messages you get that you feel uneasy about.
Then give them your password and let them monitor your page for a few months to see that all is well and you're being responsible on there and that nobody is causing any problems for you on your account. You also want this account private for friends/family and not something the whole school knows for bullying reasons etc. But you can block people.
Find out why your parents feel the way they do and go from there. There's no embarrassment in not having one either.
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Hi, I'm a 14/male in high school (UK). Now, I don't think I really fit in, I have friends but they aren't good friends at ALL. To be honest, I wouldn't even class them as my friends. I want to get home schooled and really don't want to go back. My parents have finally (kind of) come round to the idea but they want me to go back on Tuesday and I really don't want to so I said I'm not going. I don't want to cause trouble for him but I just can't cope at school I don't know why. Don't fit in and stuff I guess, I want time to sort my appearance out and try to boost my confidence which is really low right now. Should I go ahead? The way I think of it is:
Option A) Go to school, stay with no confidence, stay with bad friends, no social life but get a few more GCSEs.
Option B) Home educated, try build confidence, away from 'friends' but a few less GCSEs and no social life.
I really am willing to try and sort my life out, but I just can't go on there. What would you do? (link)
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I have a different approach having been home-schooled over brutal bullying myself. There's NOTHING wrong in my mind with doing that IF and only if you are supervised and receive all the same credits as everyone else does when course are done you have to be bloody motivated though and make learning and completing courses priority number 1.
My second IF is that you absolutely MUST have a social outlet and exercise as well that replaces the one you would lose at school. This means being involved in karate, drama, parks and rec courses for young people to build on that.
Third IF: You NEED to work with a psychiatrist not a therapist or psychologist on what's causing all your social problems and ways to overcome it so you can actually function as believe me home-schooled or conventional schooled it's going to dog you until you learn to thrive.
Finally, rather than leave school automatically explain to your parents and current educators on Tuesday in a meeting why you feel compelled to leave and ask them if it would be possible to send you to a school that gives adults credits for high school either in the day or the night. You'll find great friends that way who aren't apt to judge you much like I had. That's a better option as you are socializing with people who are actually mature who may be slightly older as well as adults with jobs. Maybe that's your ticket.
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Hi im a 15 year old boy from britain.i have many insecurities about my penis.it is 4 inches long,i have a very tight foreskin and there is always some substance on the top of my penis and a green/yellow substance in my boxers everytime i check.some times the substance on the end is a crusty substance which i pick off and move on,but sometimes it is a wet substance(not semen) which smells quite bad.i am getting a hand job in 5 days and need to know if its such a problem that i should tell her i dont want to.also since i cant retract my foreskin am i causing an infection?Very nervous for a long time,and want to know if i should see a doctor..thanks (link)
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You should definitely see your doctor pronto. You NEED to be able to clean your penis and retract the foreskin to clean the glans.
If you can't what happens is that a yellowish cheesy consistency discharge called smegma hardens on the penis, the glans and the ridge area beneath the head. This hardens and can and does become crusty and has a smell. And it sounds like there is quite the buildup. As far an infection goes (I doubt) but if there is one a doctor will tell you.
I know you're 15 and probably embarrassed by this or not taught how to care for an uncircumcised penis or that if you can't retract the foreskin it's a BIG deal.
You probably dread the doctor and they understand it's NOT easy for people young and even older to show them private parts of the body. It's for the best though. They can see what's happening and loosen your foreskin for you.
They usually make a small incision they call a dorsal slit to loosen it and make it easily retract so you have no more problems but you do need to retract and clean the head and areas the foreskin covers every time you bathe from thereon. Unless you have some extreme problem don't worry they aren't going to do a circumcision.
What will happen is that a doctor will refer you to a urologist and they will make it so you can retract it easily. It's quite common and I heard this explained to someone who asked a question of sex educator Sue Johanson's call in show a long time ago so I know it's sound advice.
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Okay so I'm 13 and my pubic region is a dark brown. I read online that this is totally normal since you started your period. I started my period sometime last year (when I was twelve) in the middle of the school year. Recently this summer (2012) I started using tampons. And even more recent (oct. 2012) I started shaving. I'd like to know when does the browness of your pubic area go away and how can you help it to becoming normal like most girls have it, like your skin color. And how to shave my pubic hairs without infections and irretation and ingrowns and stuff. Also one more question is that one of my flaps (the right one) is longer abd stretched out more than the left one. I'm really scared and I've had it for as long as I've known. No I haven't had sex or been raped, TRUST ME, but I don't know if that's normal or not. Please answer the questions for me please thanks. (link)
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I'm not a girl however, I do have the answer for one of the questions you asked and hopefully it will put to rest any worry you have about your labia. Quite normal for one to be longer or shorter than the other.
Here's a great article answering all the common questions kids and teens tend to ask about it. It's from Scarleteen which is a resource by professional sex educators and published authors for parents/teens on puberty and sexuality.
http://www.scarleteen.com/article/advice/giveem_some_lip_labia_that_clearly_aint_minor
As for the shaving, skin colors etc. I know someone else will likely address that but you might find the info you are looking for at the site the article comes from as they do explain exactly what's going on "down there" quite well on the site. Excellent resource (I don't work there) for people with questions they can't ask easily of parents/teachers and 100% verified for facts.
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What is a easy way to kill yourself with no pain or anything (link)
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Can I ask you why you are asking this? What's going on in your life that is leading you to be thinking of suicide? I would like to help you. There's always a better way.
The things which seem insurmountable right now can and will get better. I have a hunch that you are depressed or have another form of mental illness that you haven't had diagnosed or treated properly that has led to this.
I know you won't want to but the best thing you can do for yourself (been there) is to go to an ER and tell them you have thoughts of wanting to die that never go away and have asked others be it online or off about ways to die.
They will treat you in hospital, make sure you pose no harm to yourself and get the illness that's causing this crap in your life in balance. That's better than death believe me. The psychiatrist there is your friend and will only be working to make your life 10 times better than it is now.
If you need to talk about what you have been thinking or experiencing please write me in my inbox as I can assure you 100% that yours is a life worth living even if it doesn't look like that right now. It gets better and I hope you get medical help ASAP and realize that.
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there was this girl that I like, she showed a little interest at first and got my number, i would text her once in a while, then she just started ignoring me alot, like she would reply right away if a said something stupid, that's how I could tell she was getting the normal messages. But I feel bad because after a while, I sent a message saying "I guess you'll just ignore me so I could stop trying to text you" then she said sorry & that she was busy. Then I said "Yeah indifference is obvious" then she said sorry again. Then I said sorry. But I feel like a major douche now. Then today I texted her, she texted back a few times, and right when I felt like talking more she started ignoring me again, so then I sent her 14 empty messages on purpose. And then I sent a very very long message. And now I'm just ughh. like why did I do that. THEN REPEAT it in a worse way. I just feel guilty and not myself. I'm like disgusted with myself. The message wasn't that bad, it just told her how I felt. (link)
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You learned a hard lesson here. Don't come on too strong with girls or needy. You'll piss them off or make them feel suffocated if you do. She may have been genuinely interested but now probably isn't over this.
A normal person would wait and see if she used that number you gave her first before sending a text. You don't want to appear too eager. Writing her saying she was ignoring you doesn't come across as mature same with the indifference quote.
If you send a girl a text wait for her to write back people are pretty busy and may not have had time to read all their messages. She's probably nice but I can see people getting really pissed if you sent them dozens of blank messages out of anger.
What you ought to do is tell her you do like her but acted in an immature way about it when you thought you were being ignored and leave it at that.
You might not have her as a friend or girlfriend but it's better that than her telling a bunch of girls about her experience with you. I would be concerned with that. You feel disgusted at yourself because you knew this was wrong behavior but did it anyway.
I'm being BLUNT as it's the truth. This feeling will wear off soon and you'll have learned to take a different more mature approach with girls you admire.
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