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I just feel guilty and not myself. I'm like disgusted with myself.
there was this girl that I like, she showed a little interest at first and got my number, i would text her once in a while, then she just started ignoring me alot, like she would reply right away if a said something stupid, that's how I could tell she was getting the normal messages. But I feel bad because after a while, I sent a message saying "I guess you'll just ignore me so I could stop trying to text you" then she said sorry & that she was busy. Then I said "Yeah indifference is obvious" then she said sorry again. Then I said sorry. But I feel like a major douche now. Then today I texted her, she texted back a few times, and right when I felt like talking more she started ignoring me again, so then I sent her 14 empty messages on purpose. And then I sent a very very long message. And now I'm just ughh. like why did I do that. THEN REPEAT it in a worse way. I just feel guilty and not myself. I'm like disgusted with myself. The message wasn't that bad, it just told her how I felt.
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You learned a hard lesson here. Don't come on too strong with girls or needy. You'll piss them off or make them feel suffocated if you do. She may have been genuinely interested but now probably isn't over this.
A normal person would wait and see if she used that number you gave her first before sending a text. You don't want to appear too eager. Writing her saying she was ignoring you doesn't come across as mature same with the indifference quote.
If you send a girl a text wait for her to write back people are pretty busy and may not have had time to read all their messages. She's probably nice but I can see people getting really pissed if you sent them dozens of blank messages out of anger.
What you ought to do is tell her you do like her but acted in an immature way about it when you thought you were being ignored and leave it at that.
You might not have her as a friend or girlfriend but it's better that than her telling a bunch of girls about her experience with you. I would be concerned with that. You feel disgusted at yourself because you knew this was wrong behavior but did it anyway.
I'm being BLUNT as it's the truth. This feeling will wear off soon and you'll have learned to take a different more mature approach with girls you admire.
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Hi there,
You were feeling hurt and confused, so you acted upon your emotions, hoping that something would come of it. However, keep in mind that like guys, girls like a challenge too (it's just human nature). When a guy constantly texts a girl, she feels as if there is no challenge involved because she already knows that he really likes her and therefore, there is no mystery left. I understand that it is difficult because when you like someone, you want to talk to them; nevertheless, keep in mind for the future that it will be more rewarding in the long run if you hold off a little.
Something else to keep in mind is that even though you like her, I would not feel bad if nothing comes of this; you want to be with someone who is interested in you and, even if it sounds cliche, eventually, you will find a girl who really really likes you. If this girl does not, then it just was not meant to be; it is nothing against you, but it just was not the right time.
No need to feel disgusted though; you're only human and just did what you felt would be appropriate. However, if you say things like "I guess you'll just ignore me," girls feel attacked and it will push us further away. If she does not respond, I would not try texting her again, but just wait and see. In the end, what is meant to be is what will happen.
Skylar :)
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