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okay how much does it usually cost to get your hair thinned at a salon. i want tog et it done. and how long does it usually last and does it actually work? also does it damage your hair at all and like what do they do?

It's like a haircut, so I guess it would be around the price of one. I think it will last maybe 5 minutes to 10 minutes? Yes it works. I don't think it damages. It's just a razor comb. They comb a part of your hair, and the bristles on the comb cut off a few pieces.

My poofy hair went byebye.

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ive had my braces for over a month and the color bands they put on them some are fading and some fell off? I dont know how it happened but could anyone tell me what they did that and im not going back to the orthadontist for a month

Yeah certain foods make it fade. It will happen anyway. You need to go back to get new ones put on. Sometimes the wire might slip out forward and slow the process. I had one come off and that was okay but if you have more than one.. You need to go back.

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13/f
ok well my parents must still think that i am 5 or something b/c they never let me do anything by myself or with friends (in other words, without them around). like go to the mall or movies. how can i get them to let me do things on my own. i am not lying about things to them. when i say i want to go to the mall i am telling the truth. anyways, thanks in advance!

Well you are young.
I can understand the mall but the movies?

You have to show them you are responsible and trust worthy.

You should ask them if you could go to the movies with friends. Ask them to buy your ticket and maybe, that will get you in?

Right now.. they are being protective. They don't want someone to hurt you.

Do you have a cellphone? Or do your parents?

You can always ask to go somewhere and have them call you and whatnot.

Do you ever ask why they don't let you? Is it because of an age thing or what? No parents with you?

You can be like.. I want to go to the movies.. I have a phone with me. I will be with my friends. I will get out at blahblah time.
Can I go or do you not trust me?


Maybe you should ask that... it could bring up a whole conversation..

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ok i just turned 13 a week ago and i'm in 7th grade, and i havn't had a boyfriend yet...i'm pretty sure its because... i'm ugly, i mean i wear glasses i'm 5'0 or 5'1 and i'm fat... (135) waht do i do??i cant talk to a friend or cousin or aunt, and my mom passed away. so i live with my dad. what should i do?? please please please help me.

People usually get boyfriends in 8th grade or in highschool. If you get a boyfriend now, it would be setting yourself up for a "heartbreak" because guys at that age are immature and they dont know what they want.

You aren't ugly. Everyone is beautiful. Some people just expect everyone to look a certain way. [Those people are stupid]

I'm sure some guy likes a girl with glasses. It's pretty cute. And..Who's short. A guy likes someone shorter than them! And you aren't fat. You have skin on your bones. Guys like that! It's unattractive to be all bony and super skinny. It's not cool to hug a girl and feel like you are going to BREAK them.


You dont need a boyfriend right now. If a guy doesnt ask you out, it's because he's a loser. Haha. Some guys are shy too.

If you want to lose weight, jog every day and eat healthier foods. Eating speeds up your metabolism. Not eating makes you gain weight and it's unhealthy.

If you need someone to talk to, there's a lot of people on advicenators willing to.
Just write to their inbox or get their AIM SN, msn, etc.


Btw, High confidence is a good thing.

So think better of yourself. :]

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my boyfriend and our mutual best friend [whose a guy] snuck over my house last night about 12:30. i told them my parents were still awake go back but they said no theyre half way there. so they said well wait on your street untill they go to sleep then you call us and meet us out in the back so im like ok.

well im listening for my parents to come back up. its 1 in the morning and i just fell asleep. i woke up at 10 today and just fell into shock i looked for my fone under my pillow, i had NUMEROUS texts voicemails and missed calls. i feel terrible what do i do? im embaressed and scared to call them because he sounded really mad on the voicemails.

ugh

Just tell them that your parents took a long time to go to bed. So you fell asleep while waiting. Tell them you're sorry... It was an accident though. They should understand that.

You should make it up to them.

Plan a special thing. Like movies or do something they like.

Or make a cheesy card saying sorry. Maybe it will bring laughs?

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ok so i got my self in a siruation where...i just cheated on my boyfriend...and before that night i was a virgin and now im not. and like. i dont know what i shoudl do. I didnt really want to have sex with the guy...but i was in a situation where i had to be sorta quite and i was saying no...but i dont think he heard me or maybe he just didnt care. but like. he didnt use protection and im not on birth control. and im pretty sure he pulled out before...but like. i just dont know what to do and im freaking out.

I dont think it's cheating.
It sounds like RAPE.
You didnt want to
and You said NO.
Tell your boyfriend that.

Go out and buy a pregnancy test.

You should also go to a doctor to get checked out.

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Ever since I was little, like before I was a year old, it has been me and "Kay". Not soon after it became me, Kay, and "Lindsey," and it has been like that ever since. We were really close when we were younger, and now we're growing apart! But that's not the worst part.

Kay is starting to joke about being emo, she listens to songs that are unlike her, and she is just altogether different. Sometimes it seems forced, like she is trying to be someone she's not. Recently, she has brought up the subject of cutting. I know she hasn't, but she said she likes snapping elastics on her wrist and feeling pain.. and I'm scared for her. I can't picture her cutting herself, and I don't think she can picture it either. I'm not sure why she's acting like this, I know she often gets angry at her mother, I dunno if that means anything.

I don't mind people being different, but I don't want her to start hurting herself! Please help..

The big trend lately is to be EMO or SCENE. whatever that is. Maybe she has fallen under that... because it seems to be cool.

But this is just a phase. It's like going goth. I've had many friends go through this. If you are really close to her then you should keep being her friend and support her.

There's always the option of making new friends. It always comes to this.

Sometimes people do things to get attention or just do it because.. well.. everyone else has done it. Maybe she feels left out.

But yeah, the elastics thing is a lot better than cutting.. but if you see signs of baggy clothing or long sleeves or her.. grabbing her wrists whenever the sleeve goes up.. She may be cutting.

It would be best just to talk to an adult about it, if you ever see a cut.

Maybe she likes the songs though, just because it doesnt seem like her.. doesnt mean she cant like it.

Everyone changes. She is just changing in a big way.

I bet you changed too.. you just didnt notice it.

It's best to make a lot of friends.. a big variety. You usually lose your first best friend though. Unless you are like.. glued to the hip.


Just hang out with her. Do something she likes.. Like go out and go to the movies.. something.

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13/f/8th grade. i want to naturally lighten my dirty blonde hair. i dont want to use dyes or bleaches or anything like that. what can i do?

A natural bleach is lemon.

You can get some lemon juice.

Start off with streaks. You get a piece of foil, put it under the piece of hair. Get a makeup brush to dip in the lemon juice and apply it on. Put on a lot. Roll up the foil and get a hair clip to keep it up.


Do it all over if you can. You could stay out in your backyard or anyplace.. out in the sun.


You could also use a hairdryer though..

But it obviously won't get light in just a few minutes.

It might take an hour to see the difference.

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Is it weird to wear black shoes with a dark blue dress? I have these really cute black heels that I want to wear to homecoming because they make me taller (my date is over a foot taller than me) but I found this cute knee-length blue dress that I want to wear. I have clear heels with silver on it but they're not as high. Any opinions? Thanks a lot!

Just wear whatever you want. It will look good anyway. Im sure he wont care about your height, I think they like it when they are the tall ones haha. He will probably be paying attention to your face or dress. The height and shoes, he may not notice as well.

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I found a sidekick 3 on ebay for 9 DOLLARS!!!!!!
It says it's so cheap because they got it for a cheap price from a wholesaler?? Please tell me if this is a real sidekick 3 and its really 9 dollars!!

http://cgi.ebay.com/WOW-NEW-WHOLESALE-LIST-for-Sidekick-III-3-more-Make_W0QQitemZ330029335164QQihZ014QQcategoryZ102492QQrdZ1QQcmdZViewItem

It's just a list. Not a sidekick.
It's not fake or a scam, since the seller didn't say it was an actual sidekick.

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i am 14/f and i have acne.. but not like MAJOR acne but i have some small ones and when i eat some certain foods like junk food and fried and hot foods, i get bigger pimples, what are some good treatments or face washes? or zit cream for the bigger pimples?

i had the same problem.

I'm using Clean and Clear products. My face is a lot clearer.

I dont think cream would be good for the big pimples because it usually dries it out and makes it worse.. stays there longer.

But you could try toothpaste..

I usually try to bring it to a white head, by using the hot washcloth trick.

You can always try using a piece of ice and putting it on the pimple, it usually makes it smaller.


I'm using Clean and Clear's exfoliator and all my small pimples are gone.

Yeah pretty much every other fash wash has failed. Clean and Clear seems to work good.


Proactive is also good if you have use it correctly and have a good moisturizer with you.

Sometimes laying off the products helps your skin.

Eating healthy will make your skin a lot better.

Foods don't cause acne... unless it's greasy and you touch your face.

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i have this like bump/pimply like thing on my vagina. could it be an STD? im like freaking out about it. what could it be?

if you are sexually active, then go see a doctor.

But if you aren't, there's nothing to worry about.It could be a pimple or ingrown hair. Those go away sooner or later.

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my neighbors gave me an offer and they said they would pay me $5 a week if i walked their dog every day. i've been doing it for 3 weeks and they havent gave me any money. i keep bringing it up in a hinting way like "do you want me to walk your dog around noon or later on?" and they will just say"whenever you want ." my family and their family is really close since we live next door and im basically a second family to them and i dont want to be rude and be like okay wheres the money but hinting is not helping either. i want to bring up the money subject but i dont want to seem pushy or desperate or rude so what do i say?? they owe me $15 so far and i really would like the money. =/

That's really not hinting.

Just ask them how much money you get by now.
And if they mess up the numbers.
You can say, "But I thought you said you would pay 5 a week. And it's been 3 weeks."

Or you can jokingly say, "hey wheres my cash?" and rub your fingers together.. and smile/laugh.

It won't be rude though.
Because they need to do their part of the deal or it's unfair.

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my dad whos a doctor told me by age 12 50-80% of your body is its adult size, at least if you dont gain a lot of weight or give birth or lose a lot of weight or get surgury. I am 13 and im about 5'6, i have C cup breasts, and about 40 inch hip/butt measurment. im i finished growing? i have no way of knowing because my entire family is large.

Nope you are not finished growing until you hit 18 or 20 years old.

So yes, you may get bigger around the waist, taller and maybe get up to a D Cup. Or there might small changes.

If your family is large then most likely you will be too. So yeah..

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i have acne, but none of the fash wash things ive tried have worked. what should i do?

Take a break off of face washes.

You can either go to a dermatologist or buy proactive.

Proactive works if you use it correctly and you have a good moisturizer.

Clean and Clear products are good if you can't get Proactive.

Just use a product once a day.. every few days.
or when it tells you to.

Lookie here-->

http://www.cleanandclear.com/index2.html

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13/f/8th grade. i really like those leggings (or some people call them footless tights). i love the ones that are really bright neon flashy colors or patterns. i also like tights or fishnets that are unusual or iddly colored. does anyone know any good websites? and please dont tell me american eagle.

actually.. hot topic is pretty good.
here's the website..

http://search.hottopic.com/search?p=Q&ts=custom&w=leggings+fishnets

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search up 'leggings'

store.delias.com/

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I found some in 'Anchor Blue'
but there website has nothing.

....
there's not a lot. you can go into any store and find black leggings though. sometimes with lace on the bottom.

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hi
i really need help finding articles on the seven wonders of the world. my teacher told us to find at least 7 scolary articles on our subject. i looked but couldent find articles only info from like wikipedia. this project is worth like half my grade and i would love any help at all.
thanxxx

http://www.infoplease.com/ipa/A0001327.html

There's more links on the bottom about it.

Just use google..I looked it up and came up with lots of results..
--
You should go to a library too
and ask for help from someone.
They could help you find articles.

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help im only 14/m and like wen im like writing on white paper i see like strands of my hair on the paper and like if i shake my hair loads more hair will come out plz i think i mite go bald if it helps i use gel and fibre putty (together) my hairs not that long its like 7cm please tell me wat the problem is and how to make it go away :(

Maybe stop using the hair products..

But it's normal to lose hair.
You're supposed to lose about 100+ strands of hair.

But if there's HUGE CHUNKS coming out .. go see a doctor.

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Alright, so.. i have been going out with my boyfriend for almost 8 months now, and i still cant get over the fact of some of the girls that are his friends. They are much much more prettier than i am, and i just think they like him and they ALWAYS flirt with him and i get really pissed off and i want to like kill them (not literally i just feel that way). How can i stop being so jealous?

Yeah I felt the same way.

The thing is, since he's with you. He really likes you and the other girls are .. about nothing to him.
Just think.. he picked you over them. So maybe that's one way to get rid of jealously.

And it won't cause problems, if you get upset about some girl. And he won't get all weirded out or anything. You shouldnt tell him about the jealously or he might feel like you can't trust him. Even though, you don't trust the girls.

It's hard to stop being jealous.

But since he's with you and he has these special moments with you, it's more important then the time he spends talking to other girls.

If he's talking to some girl and she's flirting. You can put your arm around him or go up and kiss him.. So they see he is "yours"
And if the girl continues to flirt you could say something like, "I would like it if you would stop flirting with MY BOYFRIEND"

something along the lines.

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OK. My cousin is asking my boyfriend questions on her email with the subject of "kissing". It's my boyfriend and my cousin. They might be dating behind my back cuz they are good friends and they see eachother everyday.

Just ask your boyfriend, if your cousin has been sending him emails.

If he says no, then tell him.. thats not what you saw.

And maybe that will get the conversation someplace.

You could have always checked the email out. Because it does seem a little bit suspicious though.


You can confront your cousin about it. Like.. has my boyfriend been emailing you?

You know..?

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