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does anyone know where i can get a dress i have to go to a wedding (i need websites of any stores that have dresses) i rate 5 for any anwser

sure i can help you out :)

www.davidsbridal.com

www.spiegal.com

nordstorm.com

brides.com

sukyrosan.com

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im sorry but this probally sounds really gross, but im 13/female and whats a good way i can *play* with my self? and fun techneqes?
(with out the purchuse of vibrators or dildos..im to young to buy them..)
thanks!

www.talksexwithsue.com
look up articles on that website on masturbating

um you ever see the commercial for the KY warming lotion? its like a husband and wife in bed and you see him massaging her back with the lotion..well maybe buy that (its in walmart..and places like that and it can be used as a lubricant to play with yourself..or for massages) so..just pretend your neck is stiff so your mom wont think things and try it out .it will probably feel good

um watch porn while you do it..it might get you in the mood and get you going

immagine your crush is making love to you

lol im running out of ideas ..i hope this helped a little

-melissa-

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Hey all, i have a few quesions... So, me and my boyfriend want to have sex. Hes 15, and i am 14, and please, dont say we are too young. I am a gymnast and have gymnastics every wednesday. We are going to use a condom and even doing gymnastics, could I still get pregnant? I do every event plus conditioning. Is it possible? I am getting the condom. I dont want a box, just one or two. Where can i buy them and do you have to be a certain age? Where could I hide them so my mom would not fine them? Any help is GREATLY appreciated...

you should definately read up more on sex before you do it. you can get pregnent no matter how many sports you play..
i suggest going to talksexwithsue.com if you want to brush up on some things about sex. definately use a condom and make sure you know HOW to put one on...if your not sure go to google.com and make sure you read up on how to put one on.

go to planned parenthood for free ones
go to the store and just buy it..(get an older cousin or an older friend to buy it if your embarassed) ** in drug stores they are pretty much only sold in boxes..but im not the condem expert because im a virgin..planned parenthood might give away condems in their wrappers..so this way you only get one or two*

well IF this were me..i would put them in a pair of socks in some weird secret spot where your mom will never look
(like..underneath all your clothes in your dresser....but if your mom usually puts your clothes in your dresser for you, avoid that idea)

in a barbie doll box
in your bookbag *because why would she be going through there right? *
in your purse
put it in a box then put the box like behind your dresser or something

as long as you dont leave it around somewhere dumb you will be fine

i hope this helped..i hope your 100% ready! have fun! :)
-melissa-

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I'm a very experienced actor. I've been acting since I was 7 and I've been in two proffesional shows, "Les Miserables" and "The Phantom" (a 70's musical version of the phantom of the opera, the andrew lloyd webber show was based off this). Now I'm about to be in the Wizard of Oz. Ok, so we had our auditions. I wanted to be the West Witch/Almira Gultch REALLY badly, so I practiced and studied the show and the movie and the witch like hell. Soon the auditions came and I gave it all out. By all the other girls, I was the very best, everyone thought I was going to get the part. Then the cast list came out. And well what do you know! I didn't get it. a BOY who auditioned for the scarecrow got it! I'm just a human set piece (to be specific, a tree, a flower, and a tornado dancer) and the Lion's haircutter. I'm really sad and upset. And the boy didn't even WANT to be the Witch! I've never been good at auditions, and this was my first perfect audition and I got the smallest part I've ever had in my life! How can I deal with this?! What can I do?! Can someone help me? and please don't say "every role is important" I've been told that a million times by our director. sorry this was long but I'm really sad

OK well maybe talk to the boy and say something like "wow you got the part and you didnt even want it?.." get talking about the subject and once he hears your side of the story about how much you want it...maybe he can talk to the director

if he cant..theres nothing else you can do unless you feel like its appropriate to approach the director about it

if theres no possible way to get roles changed..keep this in mind : you sound like a very talented actress and wow you have some really great accomplishments..one day you will hit it BIG and the director of this play will be sorry he diddnt chose you as the witch. so if it were me i would handle it by staying positive and keeping in mind that the director will be sorry one day...

keep your chin up..and keep up with the acting..oh yea..and remember all of us here on advicenators when you get rich ;) lol

-melissa-

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14/f. I've read on the internet the signs of having depression. I fit many of them. Though I do not ALWAYS feel depressed and hopeless, it comes often. Certain things in my life have caused me pain, and then there's other times where I just feel horribly down, yet I can't point it to any certain cause at all. I don't feel close enough to either of my parents or anybody..come to think of it that I could tell about me having this problem. Yet, I do think that me getting help is a good idea, because I've become very close to doing something drastic more than once. Is there reason to suspect that I really do have a depression problem, or is it just teenage hormones? Is there a way for me to get help?

none of us here are certified phychiatrists , but to me this sounds a little more than just teenage hormones and yes you do have reason to suspect this may be a depression issue. YES there is plenty of help out there for you...

-you can call a suicide hotline
-talk to your doctor
-school guidance counselor

those are your options if you really dont want to tell anyone..if you can think of one adult..even if its a friends parent..who you can talk to..you have more options..

like seeing a counselor/ phyycologyst
getting proper medicine

dont think just because your depressed your crazy, phycho, etc. bc a lot of people become depressed at one point in their lives or another..dont be ashamed

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hi, this has been bugging me for ages. when i was 13 i got the chicken pox. i went to the hospital and was seen by a male doctor. he asked me to take my top off to have a better look at my spots. i had them on my arms and body. then he told me to take my cami-top off too so i'd be naked down to my waist. i cried but he insisted it had to be done. so i did and he touched my breasts...all this was to confirm i had chicken pox. thats not normal is it?

thats really sick..i've never heard of such a thing! talk to your mom about this..he could get his doctor liscense thing taken away/ If you come foward then maybe other girls will come foward with their stories

-mleissa-

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i got my hair cutt like Kristen off of Laguna Beach..Cause i love her hair and how she wears it..but im 14 and i dont really kno how to fix my own hair cute like i can pull it up wear it down but i dont kno how to wear it like she does..if you kno any websits that might help me fixing my own hair id love it..thanks!

ok i did my best to search for websites that will help and here is what i came up with:

http://www.hair-styles.org/


http://www.1-hair-styles.com/

http://www.hair-styles-secrets-revealed.com/

http://www.hair-styles-fashion.com/

http://www.visual-makeover.com/

http://hair-styles.net/advice.htm

http://www.1001-hairstyles.com/

http://www.americanprohaircare.com/books.htm


im not gonna lie...im definately not a hair expert or someone who knows a lot about hair and good hairstyles..but i hope the websites i found for you were helpful..if they werent inbox me again and i will see what i can do
i hope i helped!
-melissa-

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My birthday was about a week ago, and my mom gave me a Tiffany braclet (if you dont know what that is its like a 400 dollar braclet). A few days after I went to the beach with my cousins and I was wearing the braclet. We were boogyboarding in the waves and the braclet slipped off my wrist. It went with the waves. Now I lost it and I havent told my mom yet. Im not sure how she would react but im scared to tell her. How should I say it? Please help

well first off....did you make any birthday money?\i might use my birthday money to buy the same bracelet..although the guilt would drive me insane.. your mom loves you and she cant stay mad at you forever...one day your daughter might lose something that valuable that you gave her..but of course you would still love her. so just sit your mom down and tell her what happened and maybe make a proposal that you will earn the money she spent on the bracelt back by doing chores like mowing the lawn, cleaning, etc

i hope it works out
-melissa

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im not sure what i should do, a few weeks ago my bf stayed at his mates house who is 39. my bf is 16. his mate let my bf smoke a LOT of weed and he was so drunk he couldnt controll himself.(this has happened a few times whilst stayin at this guys house) my bf has now told me that he is goind to move in with this guy, trouble is it is about 45 mins away from where i live and im afraid i wont get 2 see him anymore. i have spoken 2 my bf and he has just said that he wont do anything stupid but i just dont wanna lose him... any1 got any advice? please? thank you lucee xXx

wow this 39 yr old definately doesnt sound like your bf should be hanging around him..in that kind of environment you know your bf will be getting into more trouble like that

so..make a lil videotape to him telling him how much you would miss him and all your feelings

do his parents know about this? it sounds like this 39 yr old could screw up your bf's life forever..i mean i've had a couple friends and all it took was that one person who did bad stuff..and then my friends took a wrong turn and now they are into the bad stuff also..so0o i mean you could consider talking to them about it

just talk to him and tell him everything you feel..i mean you cant force him to stay..if he goes its unfortunate because he would be screwing things up pretty bad..but at least you gave it your all

i hope i helped..inbox me if you want some more help, i'd love to help as much as i can

-melissa-

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I am going to be a freshman this year, and I have just started talking to this guy. Well, He is going to be a junoir and i know him from my sister--who is going to be a senior.
I have started having feelings for this guy. We talk alot online, and he is really sweet. But there are two problems. 1)He has a girlfriend 2)He still see's me as a kid.
Now both of those are really..hard. Because I think he see's me more of a little sister, then a friend. And it is so tough to deal with. Because I know i am not brave enough to tell him how I feel. And I know he doesnt feel the same. What should I do?

i would just stay positive..i mean you jjust started talkiing to this guy right? so maybe give it time and hang out with him..he can get to know you better and you can get to know him better...and who knows , his perspective on you might change from seeing you as just a lil sister to seeing you as a really good friend..or even a gf
so dont stress on it..as you get closer, talking about feelings will become easier and maybe in the future you will be able to tell him how you feel..dont worry that right now you cant open up to him..give it some time and you will be able to.

:) i hope i helped you
-melissa-

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ok.. so my boyfriend and i have been going out for 2 1/2 years now... and we are ready to have sex... seeing it as my first time i don't know what to do, at all. how do you start out... how can you keep it from getting awkward?

sincerly,
i am ready

*im a virgin but i do know a thing or two ;) ..so i will try and help you out the best i can*

well you start out with foreplay..do you know what that is?
its all the good stuff before having sex..like oral sex, handjob,fingering, etc.

then when its time for sex, relax and just have a great time..it wont be awkward if you've been going out for 2 1/2 years..it will be special

www.talksexwithsue.com

^lots of great articles on sex and sex related e topics..all kinds of info from oral sex,to sex, lubrication,stds's, everything! its a great website..check it out for more information

i hope this helped! :)
-melissa-

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um like i'm to embaressed to buy k.y warming gel or w/e but what else could i use to lube up my fingers like would vasaline be okay or what? URGENT lol

before you use vasaline..please go to this website and read the article on lubriacation..she is a wonderful sex expert

http://talksexwithsue.com/lubrication.html

here is a part from the article that applies to you...


Please do not use baby oil, hand lotion, massage oil, Vaseline, butter or cooking oil. These oils will break down the latex in condoms, and the creams may have perfume that may cause allergic reactions to both male and female genitals.

Any drug store will have commercial lubricants such as K Y Jelly, Astroglide or Trojan. These are all water based, non-greasy, inexpensive and handy to have on hand.


so i think you should just get the KY Jelly..you could go up to the register and be like rubbing your neck and complaining about the pain..this way the person at the register thinks its for your neck..or get an outgoing friend who doesnt care go to the register for you

i hope this helped
-melissa-

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I go to a day camp, and there is this really nice boy there. His name is Josh, and I like him alot! I dont know what to say though. Im not sure if like he has ever had a girlfriend before and maybe he wont like me back and will never talk to me again. Please tell me what I should do!


-Britt

live with no regrets! if you never talk to him ..you will never know what could have been! so gather up your courage..and mention how you and some friends are seeing this movie and you wanted to know if he would come along..

something like that would work well..give him your number and be like "you seem pretty cool..we should hang out sometime"

dont worry if he doesnt like you back..if thats the case than its his loss! dont just do nothing though, or it will drive you crazy because you will be like "what if i did talk to him? what if he liked me back?" ...trust me its happened to me and i drove myself nuts for awhile... i still think about it

well..i hope my advice helped you out..let me know how everything works out..leave me somethin in the inbox :)
-melissa-

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I have a friend named Bailey. One day she did a prank phone call to me with a bunch of her friends. And it got me real upset because I thought she was my friend. So the next day she called me and asked if she wanted to hang out with me. And she sounded like nothing happend with the prank phone call. And I said, I thought you were mad at me, and she said never! And I asked her why did you prank me? And she said.. it's only a prank, and she hung up. What should I do?


-x Lauren x-

my friends have pranked me before..its all in good fun though and i wound up laughing. They left me a recent voicemail on my FAMILY CELL PHONE about how they were calling from porno USA lol thank god i got to the message first..

well to get to your question..i dont think your friend realizes you didnt find it funny..i think she did it just to be stupid and i dont think she knew you wouldnt take it well.

so0o..try and put this behind you and move on..but if she does this again, that would be messed up because now she knows you dont find it funny. so talk to her and tell her you forgive her but just dont do it again..if shes a good friend she wont prank you anymore

i hope i helped
-melissa-

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ok on the subject of urinary tract infections i think i might have one how do i know what do they do and feel like please help me im very uncomfortable ight know

You urgently need to go to the bathroom. When you go, not much happens, and it burns. Within half an hour you need to go again, just as badly, and the same thing happens, but now, it's getting worse.

Frequent and urgent need to urinate
Painful urination
Cloudy urine
Lower back or abdominal pain
Blood in the urine

i got this from a verrrry helpful webiste..it explains everything from symptoms,causes, to treatment...check it out..i hhope this helped!

http://www.estronaut.com/a/urinary_tract_infection_facts.htm


-melissa-

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This is a long story, theres a shorter question if you want on my next post this is all the details thou ....I'm 14 F, and I really like this guy and we were talking on IM yesterday and I had already told him that I liked him and he said he liked me but that was a long time ago and we kept saying that we'd do something like go to the mall or movies but we never did. So yesterday we were talking and I was like who do you like at the moment, and he's like well theres alot more people flirtin around with me than I am with them. Then I asked like who, and he wouldn't tell me (I knew I was one of them) so anyways I begged and pleaded with him to tell me who else, and he never did, but then he said i wont go out with anyone who likes me right now (meaning me) so then i changed the subject and asked him why he went out with his ex girlfriend and he said it was a long story, then i asked why he liked his ex (its a diffrent question) and he (suprisingly) answered me he said because she was "fun" and he was bored and i was like 'fun meaning..?' and he said like she was just flirty, and i was like oh.. like talking flirty or something else? and he said like something else, and i was like 'what?', and he said like 'touchy' flirty, and i asked would you ever go out with some one like that again? and he said yeah if i could find someone then i said "this is soooo uuuunnnnnfffaiiirrr, yyoooouuu doooonnnttt knnnooowww what i would do if i actually saw youuuu i feell likkke a sssllluuut for saying this but its true!" then he asked what would i'd do if we were alone, then i said id do anything except for sex or stuff with sex in its name (i thought about it like 4 days before and i was going to tell him that i wanted to do stuff but i didnt know how to tell him, got that out of the way) (then i asked him what he thought of me saying that and he said he was intrested, which im glad because i want him) but ive never done any thing before and i dont really know what to do, or what there is to do....

what is there to do like between making out and sex(anykind)???
and if you want to tell me how, that would be more than helpful if you explain what it is

If you give an answer ill give you a 5, no dumb crap thou please!

www.talksexwithsue.com

^definately go to that website..shes a wonderful expert who even has her own talkshow...on that website she has articles on fingering,handjobs,oral sex...and tips on how to do it..so definately check that out


ok so the guy can touch your breasts..lick them and suck them

you can give him a handjob which is like masturbating for him..if you dont know how tell him to put your hand on there for him and show you how he likes it...he will be more than happy to show you

he can finger you..you can show him how you like it and he will be more than happy to listen...getting fingered is supposed to feel good..but if he fingers you and it hurts your vagina..tell him to do it softer and he will listen

you can give him head (oral sex) This is done by you sucking his dick.. (there is a very good article on this on talksexwithsue.com ..so i would check it out because the article is VERY helpful and informative)

he can eat you out (perform oral sex on you)

i hope i helped..definately check out that website though, its a ton of good information i think you would find helpful

any more questions? inbox me :)
-melissa-

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Okay, so i think i asked this question wrong last time, so im guna re ask it.

-- Theres this boy whom i meet thru a friend at the movies a week ago. And we really hit it off, so he came over the next night. That night we played the "question game" and now i feel like i've known him forever. So when he was over he was like a family guy, and this made me really happy! Because most of the time when i have guys over to meet my family, they just get annoyed and want to be alone. And coming from a family of 5 kids, i need a boy who will enjoy being around my siblings. Well anyways, the next night he came over.. and we were chillin on my couch and like cuddling and watching movies. I have a messed up knee && just had surgery so i couldnt do nething else. Well he kissed me and that was that. I was happy because for once i felt like i found a guy who cared more about being with me && getting to me then "getting with me" Because in the past i've had shitty relationships && ended up gettin really hurt, so i've kinda been scared of relationships since. But neways, the next day he came over and we watched movies again and just madeout. Then the next day (4th day) he came over.. and we were all alone in the basement. And watching movies.. and he was like playing with my pants line..tickling me cuz he knows i like it. Well he was messing around and like stuck his hand in my pants like an inch.. and i laffed and said.. YOUUU TEASEEE. and he was laffing && slowly went down farther. And then before he fingered me he was like, is this okay? ANd im like yeah. Cuz like really felt like i knew him, && i completely trust him. So i let him. And at the time it was cool or wateva. But then, i was thinking about it. And i was like wow, this is exactly what i shouldnt have let happen. I dont want another relationship where its all bout getting some. or being used. Then i was really upset about it.. so i talked to him. And he felt bad so he promised he wouldnt do it again until we were BOTH ready for it. And so far its going good. We've just been kissing .. and we've hugn out the past few days. So i know that he dont really care that we dont do nething. But i still feel guilty. What do you think i should do? And what i did, was that wrong? HELP PLEASEEE

--guilty.

WHhat i think you should do is to continue with this awesome relationship..you are really lucky to have such a wonderful guy who isnt just interested in doing stuff

do NOT feel guilty..you used excellent communication by talking to him about it..and he did the right thing by making it clear he wont do anythign like that again until both of you are ready. dont feel guilty..you did nothing wrong! you guys really have some great stuff going in this relationship..keep it up! :)

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..alright so this has been bugging me forever, and i cant really ask my friends this question because they are going to support me of course but here it goes. In the past, i've had really cruddy relationships with guys. I've been in relationship where i've been used & gotten really hurt from it. But recently i meet this new boy. The one thing that completely seperates him from the rest of the boys i've had interest in is that he's not all bout getting in the pants. I meet him thru a friend at the movies, and there was sparks.. so the next night he came over. && meet my family. They all adored him. And like we didnt even do nething. He didnt like have the urge to leave the family and be alone, which i totally liked because no parents were home & we could have easily gotten away with "gettin with eachother" the next night.. he came over and we layed on my couch and cuddled. And nothing happened. And we were alone. No one was home. He didnt even try anything. The next day he came over. We just made out and i called him a tease because he always tickled me by my pants line and never went down. && thats just what im used to.. boy just goin straight in. Soo when he didnt i was like wow, even tho i wanted him to. So the next day he came over again, and we were all aloneeee for about 4 hours. We didnt do anything til the last hour, and he asked me why i called him a tease, and i explained. And then he ended up fingering me. Because i wanted it. And i was all happy with it or wateva. Then lator i realized, wow maybe i relaly fucked this up. because he wasnt like that, and i provoked him to be. I told him how i felt and he felt bad and said that he wudnt do it ever again and thought i didnt mind. Not to mention while he was doing it he kept asking if i was okay with it. And i said yeha, cuz i was. And hes been over every night after that.. for the past 3 nights and he hasnt tried it again. Do you think he likes me, or just wants to "get iwht me" HELPPP please..sorry sooo longg.. but i will rate 5's for sure!

those are pretty good signs that he likes you..dont let this one go, hes special :)
i know what it feels like to be used ..crappy feeling..so enjoy being with a guy who isnt all about doing stuff...it will make it that much more special when you do stuff
:) man i wish i could have what you do..well best of luck with this guy because he sounds great!
-meliss

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O.K. Can somebody ive me any tips on how to play with myslef? Like, i read this question and it said to rub a girls legs and touch her cclit, i did that to myslf and it felt good like i like to imagine things. Can anyone give me stories? or like stuff that i can do to myself?

please no stupid ass questions. Or websites...NONE! ill rate you a 5 for atleast a try!

well the best advice i can say is to experiment and do all kinds of weird things until you find something that really works for you

girls on here have told me they like to watch porn while masterbating and immagining the guy is really making love to her

i hope that helped..have fun!

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well all of my friends wear special underwear, thongs, and i dont like them ,but i dont wanna tell them that, they'll call me granny, but im also not allowed to wear them, and when i do i feel uncomfortable and guilty thinking wut would my parents think if they know im wearing them, HELP ME!

dont wear thongs and the other stuff if your not comfortable wearing them! wear whats comfortable,what your used to, and what your allowed. You dont have to wear thongs..dont change for anyone! your friends shouldnt make a big deal ..i mean its just underwear? and underwear isnt something friends need to be sharing with each other..
just my opinion

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