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Guilty?
Okay, so i think i asked this question wrong last time, so im guna re ask it.
-- Theres this boy whom i meet thru a friend at the movies a week ago. And we really hit it off, so he came over the next night. That night we played the "question game" and now i feel like i've known him forever. So when he was over he was like a family guy, and this made me really happy! Because most of the time when i have guys over to meet my family, they just get annoyed and want to be alone. And coming from a family of 5 kids, i need a boy who will enjoy being around my siblings. Well anyways, the next night he came over.. and we were chillin on my couch and like cuddling and watching movies. I have a messed up knee && just had surgery so i couldnt do nething else. Well he kissed me and that was that. I was happy because for once i felt like i found a guy who cared more about being with me && getting to me then "getting with me" Because in the past i've had shitty relationships && ended up gettin really hurt, so i've kinda been scared of relationships since. But neways, the next day he came over and we watched movies again and just madeout. Then the next day (4th day) he came over.. and we were all alone in the basement. And watching movies.. and he was like playing with my pants line..tickling me cuz he knows i like it. Well he was messing around and like stuck his hand in my pants like an inch.. and i laffed and said.. YOUUU TEASEEE. and he was laffing && slowly went down farther. And then before he fingered me he was like, is this okay? ANd im like yeah. Cuz like really felt like i knew him, && i completely trust him. So i let him. And at the time it was cool or wateva. But then, i was thinking about it. And i was like wow, this is exactly what i shouldnt have let happen. I dont want another relationship where its all bout getting some. or being used. Then i was really upset about it.. so i talked to him. And he felt bad so he promised he wouldnt do it again until we were BOTH ready for it. And so far its going good. We've just been kissing .. and we've hugn out the past few days. So i know that he dont really care that we dont do nething. But i still feel guilty. What do you think i should do? And what i did, was that wrong? HELP PLEASEEE
--guilty.
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I think you are lucky.
He is willing to wait and go slow for you. He asks, to be sure you are okay with everything. He likes your family, and loves you.
Be happy! Not guilty.
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WHhat i think you should do is to continue with this awesome relationship..you are really lucky to have such a wonderful guy who isnt just interested in doing stuff
do NOT feel guilty..you used excellent communication by talking to him about it..and he did the right thing by making it clear he wont do anythign like that again until both of you are ready. dont feel guilty..you did nothing wrong! you guys really have some great stuff going in this relationship..keep it up! :)
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what you did was not wrong! i've had a similair situation happen.. and we've been dating ever since. if he doesn't care about getting physical with you, then i say he's a great catch! if you come from a large family, and he's a family guy, that's a major plus in your relationship. your siblings and parents will grow to trust him and like him more each time he's over. if he actually talked to you about it and felt a little bit guilty, that's awesome because that's a rare quality in boys. it shows that he can handle the situation, and you guys will wait until the time comes and you think it's right. what you guys did was not wrong, so you shouldn't feel bad about it.
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