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Hey so I have a boyfriend and hes really hot but I like him cause I like his personality. So my friend Allie kept on telling him to dump me and go out with her. She already has a boyfriend and I told him and we are both really pissed at her and we dont know what to do. Should I just ignore the fact that shes trying to steal my boyfriend or something else?

Thanks xo0ox

she definately is not a true friend..if i were in your position i would be furious and i would definately think about whether or not i want to be friends with this girl any more..definately dont ignore it! confront her or something and see what the hell her problem is..no friend should do thaT to another friend.
-melissa-

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well, my boyfriend wants me to go down his pants .. and i will and all . but i dont know what to do when i go down, can anyone help me ?! please !! i rate high for good answers !!

ok so he wants you to give him a handjob? its really not as hard as you think it is!
take your hand and wrap it around his penis and slide your hand up and down the penis..starting off slow then going faster. while doing this let him feel your chest and kiss him..all that good stuff. change your hand position..like go from just gripping it regular to putting his penis in between your pointer and middle fingers and give him a handjob that way. some boys have other techniques and pleasures than others, so when your doing it ask how he likes it and trust me he will show you if he has any tricks you want him to do..(like ways of holding it orr something)

keep in mind the penis is sensitive..dont like crack it to the left or bend it you know what i
m sayin? that would be very painful for him but im sure you already know that lol

also..if you feel him getting wet (precum) run your thumb over the tip of the penis ..he should like that plus this way the penis is wet and easier to jack off harder lol

they say the most nerve endings on a penis are on the first couple inches of it..so keep that in mind..maybe experiment and do a little while of going all the way to the base..then maybe switch it up and do just the first couple inches..play around and see what he likes..

www.talksexwithsue.com

she is a great sex expert and has articles on that website about all kinds of sex related topics..giving a handjob must be on there..so check that out for more

i hope i helped..have fun!

-melissa-
i hope i helped

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its summer and my family is lossing everything even our house i want to stay in my school i want to keep all my friends but where worried that it wont work that we will have to move but i dont want to its summer and our phones shut off and i cant call anyone on my cell [my friends is paying for it]i need advice how can i help my family to not lose everything we worked for what do i do

there isnt much you can do, because its mostly your parents and their finances involved, but there are a few things you can do to help

-dont ask to go places that require money..dont ask for any money from your parents unless necassary (like for food)
-maybe get a job to help out..like if you get a babysitting job and your making $50-80 (or more) per week...then thats a great way to releive some stress off your parents. this way, you can pay for your own stuff with your money (or maybe even give it over to your parents.) if it were me..i would give all the money i make to my parents
-if your old enough to get a job somewhere that would also be extremely helpful to the family

good luck with everything!!
-melissa-

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I finger myself and i can't even get close to an orgasim... i try rubbing my clit and i get excited but i can never get off... any suggestions of how to keep myself busy when the boyfriends not around?

um..try fingering yourself while watching porno...get a fantasy in your head..um get some lubrication or that KY jelly warming stuff.

maybe get a vibrator/dildo if your old enough

call your bf and haave dirty talks lol

get naked and bounce around on your bed as if your having sex with your bf

go to very naughty websites..watch videos or look at pictures

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is anyone else here sick of the people who will say they'll rate and they don't.. or the ones who are to lazy to find a song title on google.. god it's annoying! if you agree answer i'll rate ; ) haha for real though

yeah i definately agree. its amazing how many questions can be answered by simply going to google.com or ask.com and looking it up. i think in the FAQ part of this site it should say something like "for retarded questions go to ask.com"
lol

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OK for the past couple of days i have kind of had feelings for, well my kind of friend. WE have been playing night games for the past couple of days and i know that he likes me by the way he acts. How do give signs that i want to hook up wiht him but it shouldnt meen anything? Anybody know! I rate high for actual answers.

ok signs could be:
-your chillin out and you mention summer hookups and how you want a summer hookup and just have fun
-you could actually get close to him and touch him..like run your hands through his hair and compliment his hair..then go for the kiss...afterwards you can be like "summer hookups are fun..no need to settle down" thats pretty obvious that you dont want it to mean anything
- you could bring up the subject when your hanging out..like say "what do you think about summer hookups with one of your best girl friends?"
-flirting with him..complimenting him..suggesting things like.."lets disappear into the woods for a little while .."

you dont have to say a word..you can just go for it and afterwards if your cuddling or laying together just say " i love just messin around like this,," or "friends with benefits is fun"

i hope this gave you some ideas or helped you out
good luck and have funn!
-melissa

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Im gonna give my boyfriend a blow job and i was wondering if you know after i swallow the cum..should i still make out with him? Do most girls do that? And if not, what else can we do instead of kissing after im done

well it depends..i mean immagine if he just got done performing oral sex on you...would you want him to make out with you? maybe when your hanging out before your all in the moment bring up the subject and see what his opinion is..if you dont want to talk to him about it..after your done have a mint or something and while your sucking on the mint..cuddle with him or have him finger you...or perform oral sex on you..maybe just chill and watch tv..then kiss him a lil after.

ooor you could take a shower with him and have fun in there..that sounds hot doesnt it? lol

he might be totally ok with you kissing him right after..if you go in for a kiss and you can tell hes grossed out or if he says hes grossed out..keep the mood going and do something else like i suggested..have him return the favor maybe ;)

well hope i helped
-meliss

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Okay, so it all started last year at cheerleading camp. The captain of our squad is fucking hot. The thing is, I kinda think I have feelings for her. I try not to think about her but I cant get my mind off of her. I heard from a few people that she's a bi, so that means i've got a chance. I'm really nervous to talk to her what should i say? This whole feeling is so new to me, i've never even thought about being a lesbian before. But when i think about her, it's just like no other feeling that i've ever felt. I don't even think that i've thought this way about a guy. What should i say to her??
*Signed, confused Lesbian*

ok i dont agree with l angel..if you confront her and she isnt bi or wanting to experiment, she could and probably would spread this around and your life would be a living hell...i dont want to have you get hurt an embarassed. maybe get closer to her as a friend..dont hit on her or make her feel uncomfortable..then one night if your having a sleep over bring up the subject of experimenting..like mention "my cousin was telling me how her one friend wanted to experiment with her..what do u think about that" or something..do this after you guys get closer though

good luck

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okay i know this is a weird question but whenever i see a girls area 'down there'.. well their clit isn't big and it doesn't hang or anything and mine does and it seems big and not mornal.. is this normal and does every girl have this.. i've been really concerned about it for awhile and i just wanted to know

wow this doesnt sound normal to me..but then again its not like i look at girls clits like that because im definately a straight female lol but this doesnt sound normal to me. i would look it up for you and see if its normal but my parents would see the website in my history pages on my computer ...so go on google or ask.com and look it up.

dont worry about it i mean there could be worse abnormalties..i saw a sick show the other day where poor kids had their faces permenantly weird looking, na mean? your area is sacred so the guy who gets to go there shouldnt care anyway

well good luck!

-meliss

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hey there, im seriously feeling sick, what do i do about this guy, i slept with him a few days bak, an we aint spoken since, shal i contact him?? i feel so used.. help me some one, i feel so alone

yes, contact him. if he shows no interest in getting together..yes, you were used but dont feel guilty or dirty because it happens to the best of us. take it as a valuable lesson and dont let it happen again in the future. your not alone, there are lots others in your place. turn it into a learning experience, dont dwell on it..stop making yourself feel bad because whats in the past is in the past..now concentrate on today and tomorro..learn from your mistakes..mistakes is what makes us stronger.

i hope i made you feel better..keep your chin up sweetie :)


***********Update****** thanks for the comment..no, its not easy for someone to see the weak side of you..but its not something to be embarassed over.
talk to him , and if he shrugs you off its his loss.
-melissa-

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okay my boyfriend and i were in the shower together i engaged in oral sex(i gave him head). the semen didnt go near my vagina but it went on my hand and in the bottom of the tub. is there any chance like i could get pregnant. thanks


also what the percentage risk of getting pregnant while on your period thanks

in the shower? thats hot
lol anyway..no no dont worry! there is like .0000000001 chance your pregnent..so try and relax otherwise if you keep stressing..the stress will delay your period and you will bug out thinking maybe your pregnent.

trust me..LOTS of girls would be getting pregnent if somehow the semend could swim into the vagina even if they didnt have sex. so think about that..i mean they would have this shit on the news
headline would be :
"girls getting pregnent from oral sex semen spill"

lol

there is always a chance to get pregnent..but in your case DONT WORRY!

i hope i helped

-melissa-

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i have a lot of questions regarding sex, relationships, and everything in between.. but some questions are too personal to ask.. is there any columnist who has an AIM screen name who can answer my questions.. i'll feel really weird asking them but i have no one here to help me and there's a lot on my mind and i would really appreciate the help..

thanx♥

eatapasty

im here to talk to you!

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Alright, I'm 16 and I have been dating my bf for about 2 and 1/2 weeks. Everything has been going pretty good. I feel like I've known him forever and we are falling head over heels for eachother. His family loves me and my family loves him. It's been perfect. But it seems that everytime we hang out little things bug me about him. Like his friends for example. Most of them play girls and he acts a little different around me when they are with him. Another thing I don't care for is that he can be pretty insensitive about my feelings and is pushy about things. He says and does things and doesn't think about how it might be taken the wrong way. Like yesterday my twin sister pissed him off so he kiddingly yelled at her and then when she said a sarcastic comment back he went over to her, turned her over, and started punching and slapping her ass real hard. And I found it extremely weird and inappropriate because whenever I think of someone grabbing, slapping, or punching someones ass its usually someone they are into, because he does the same thing when we play fight. So it totally disgusted and pissed me off. When he did that it made me offended and mad. My last bf would walk by girls at the mall when I was with him and smack their ass but I never said anything about how it annoyed and upset me because I figured that if I let out how I felt that it might screw things up. Even today we got in a sort of fight over the way things were going between us. As in how fast we were moving physically. It is always me who intiates these small skirmishes and that's what worries me. Most of the issues I have with him happen because I have been through alot of shit with guys in the past and I try to protect myself by not putting up with shit. I just don't want to be the person that fights about shit all the time and feels like an overreacter. But I know that if I keep things to myself that it will end up building up and building up and the issues will never get solved. So is there any way that I can relieve these issues without feeling like I might be causing my relationship to self-destruct?

there is a diifference between overreacting / self destruction and having valid reasons for being mad. your reasons for being mad are valid..

your right that keeping the issues inside of you will make it keep building up..so what you do is express your emotions to him next time he does something that annoys you. You also mentioned moving fast physically..well next time things get romantic if you know what i mean..stop it where you want it to stop. dont let it go further

the next time he annoys you like touches a girl or smacks her ass...anything like that..say something! you learned your lesson from the last bf you had (who sounds like a real asshole by the way) so you learned your lesson ..dont let it come back to get you again! life is beautiful because you take bad experiences and learn from them...and not let them get you again

i hope what i said helped..inbox me if you'd like

-melissa- :)

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My brother is forced to move to Hawaii on tuesday for 3 years cause of military orders. he isn't able to take the dog with him because of the rabie policy in Hawaii and the money issue of getting the dog tested(my parents won't let my brother borrow money.). He asked everyone he knew to take care of the dog but they all said no. I wanted to take care of the dog but my parents told me and my brother that they hate animals and that I won't be able to concentrate in school and that school is my top priority. I've tried talking to my parents about it but they always get pissed off and yell at me. So my brother has no choice but to send him to the animal shelter. How can I persuade my parents to let me keep the dog?

if it were me i would definately use the arguement that

-your brother is serving his country and doing a good cause..being brave and all..and all hes asking for is to know his dog is being taken care of and thats not a lot to ask for
-i would propose a plan to take care of the dog AND at the same time be able to keep up with school work
example plan : get home from school..do homework for an hour..take a ten minute breeak to walk and feed the dog.
sometin like that

make a plan to have the dog sleep outside in a doghouse or something during the summer


i hope it all works out for you!

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If you (16) like a guy (17) thats in a relationship, where his girl-friend (16) is having a baby, But he says he loves you too, What should you do?!?

well first off hes in a relationship..so i wouldnt take things any further until he breaks up with her . i know shes having a baby so i wouldnt do anything with him until he breaks up with her..hopefully he wouldnt just dump her forever..he would still support her and everrything (im assuming hes the father)

i would not cheat with the guy..i wouldnt do anything until he ended the relationship with the girl (the being together as a couple part anyway)

i hope ii helped

-meliss

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theres this guy troy. i really like him and he likes me i think. we hung out today and he took me out to lunch and i donno we get along really good. and we were totally flirting. the only problem is..its my best friends ex boyfriend. their still friends a little..but she broke up with him...its notl ike he broke her heart...she treated him like shit. she doesnt know how lucky she was to have to boy like that! he drove to see her all the time, doesnt cheat, always called, and never canceled on her. hes soo hott too.and he met my mom today. and she likes him to. and were hanging out friday...and when he walked me back to my door today he gave me like the longest hug EVER...but hes my friends ex!! err idk what to do..help?

ps..when they broke up i told her shes going to regret it cause hes such a great guy...and she was like then you can have him..but she said it sarcastically...omgg i dont know.. :(

dont go any further without having a talk with your best friend. if she finds out you two have been hanging out, she might not handle it well...she might be totally fine with it..but dont take those chances.

tell her you like him and you want her to be ok with it before anything goes further..if shes weird about it..dont go out with this guy until shes ok with it

-melissa-

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Sorry its kinda long... My boyfriend and I get along really good but he thinks I have too many guy friends. I am pretty good looking *not to sound big headed, its just what people say* so he thinks that whenever I go spend time with him I will cheat on him. He doesn't trust me at all. Just the other weekend I went to see my guy friend I have known since I was born. He moved when we were 6 so I go visit him all the time. My b/f called me every 30 min. to make sure I wasn't cheating on him. He didn't even want me to wear a bathing suit infront of my frnd. Of course while I was there I didn't cheat on my boyfriend. Is there someway I can make him trust me with my guy friends?
Thanks for the help.

ok getting along great with your bf when its you two is great, but thats only 1/2 the relationship. the other half is being able to be apart and trust the otherr. your bf is most definately lacking the other half and this is not your fault and this isnt something you can fix. its something he needs to work on. trust is an essential part of any relationship..whether its romantic or just friends. if your bf cant start to trust you, im sorry but i would honestly dump him because he needs to understand that you have a lot of guy friends

i hope i helped
-meliss

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i always call my bf. He nerver calls me! whats up with him?

he could be shy
it also could be that maybe hes not a phone type of guy. it doesnt mean that he doesnt like you..it just means he isnt the type of guy to be on the phone all the time. i have friends who love the phone ..(too much) and friends who never call..but i love them anyways

so he could be shy, could be hes not a phone guy..

dont worry

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okay, so my soccer team is having a pool party and the boys team will be there too (varsity, jv, and freshman teams for both the girls and guys) and its on the 7th. i'd like to get in the pool, or atleast in my bathing suit, but i shaved everywhere down there one time and i got really bad razor burn and it itched and was so irritating for ever! my mom and i dont have that kid of relationship where i can just be like "hey i'd like a bikin wax take me to get one please" and i dont know of anyone who could take me to get one, so how i could i "clean up" down there and get rid of some hair on the edges so it wont stick out when i'm swimming? thanks for any help you're able to give. 14/f

hm ok..try putting lots of lotion on after you wet the area in the shower.. (do this while in the shower) and then shave...apply more lotion when you get out

maybe just trim it down..

maybe wear shorts as bottoms

sorry if i wasnt much help...

-melissa-

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i met a girl who i started to become friends with and then i found out that i really hate her because she treated me like crap...then one of my best friends started becoming good friends with her but the person started treating her a lot nicer because my good friend is really popular at our school [we all go to the same school] part of the reason why i think my good friend is friends with her is because her parents are divorced so she has trouble geting places [movies,mall,etc] and the person's mom would drive them anywhere
so my good friend asked me one day if i liked the person and i said no and shes like why and i said because she treats me like crap
so then one day online the person asked me do you talk behind my back and i'm like no then shes like if you do and tell me i wont get mad so i said do u talk behind mine she said no
a day later...i was getting a bit angry with my good friend for another thing so i went on her screen name and read her mail one message was from the girl and she said that i am such a liar then a day later i checked it again and it said that my good friend wrote back saying i no shes such a liar...i'm tempted to change my friends password so she cant get back online..wut should i do about everything else though? will rate high

alright..ive learned that keeping feelings bottled up only leads to more anger..so if you let it all out, you will feel much better. Tell the friend who is being used that the girl is using her and everything..and tell the other girl your feelings on her..how your being treated like crap, etc. get it all out and out of your system..and then..mmooove on from the drama. find a new group of girls and hang with them..becase a drama free life is a happy life.

thats what i would do.
hope this helped?
-melissa-

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