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hey there, im seriously feeling sick, what do i do about this guy, i slept with him a few days bak, an we aint spoken since, shal i contact him?? i feel so used.. help me some one, i feel so alone
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Don't call him or anything. Because if he did just use you then he'll know that you are hurt by it, and you don't want him to know that.
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Yes, contact him........
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The first thing to do is see a doctor or a clinic. Right now you don't know exactly HOW you're sick. You could have an STD (sexually transmitted disease), or you could just have...well, ANYTHING, since you didn't describe your symptoms. It could be a cold.
If you're afraid that you caught something from this guy, the odds are pretty low that whatever you're feeling is from him. It takes more than a few days for symptoms to develop from an STD.
If you have reason to believe that you already had an STD, and might have given it to that guy...then it's even more important for you to KNOW. Which means you need to see a doctor or go to a clinic as soon as you possibly can.
Once you know what's really going on, you can decide what to do about it. The doctor or nurse can help you with that.
KNOWING is better than *worrying*.
I'm sorry that you feel alone and used. That's a terrible feeling. If you have any resources available - family or friends - perhaps you could talk to them. If you're not comfortable talking to them about this particular problem, even just spending some time with them might make you feel better.
I hope that your illness is nothing serious. Please try to take better care of yourself. Good luck!
PS - Wait a minute: maybe I misunderstood you. If you're not worried about an STD, maybe you were just asking if that guy used you.
My guess is, if he slept with you a few days ago and hasn't called you since, yes. He used you.
But if he's the kind of guy who would do that to a woman, he's certainly not worth your time. I hope you don't mind if I suggest that it would be a good idea to take things a little more slowly next time, so you don't get hurt. Best of luck.
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yes, contact him. if he shows no interest in getting together..yes, you were used but dont feel guilty or dirty because it happens to the best of us. take it as a valuable lesson and dont let it happen again in the future. your not alone, there are lots others in your place. turn it into a learning experience, dont dwell on it..stop making yourself feel bad because whats in the past is in the past..now concentrate on today and tomorro..learn from your mistakes..mistakes is what makes us stronger.
i hope i made you feel better..keep your chin up sweetie :)
***********Update****** thanks for the comment..no, its not easy for someone to see the weak side of you..but its not something to be embarassed over.
talk to him , and if he shrugs you off its his loss.
-melissa-
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