(17/f) Okay so since I was 12 I have been diagnosed with depression. Throughout the years I have been put on medications but I always get the strangest side affects, so I really don't like taking them. I used to be suicidal like 2 years ago but not anymore. Though I still do suffer from depression on a daily basis. I'm getting sick of always feeling like this though and I really don't want to resort to taking medication again. Any tips on what I can do so I don't have to feel like this day to day? Anything is greatly appreciated :)
I know exactly how you feel... Side effects of anti depressants are sometimes hard to deal with...
I beat my depression by doing things i was passionate about. It happened to be writing. I love to write, so whenever i felt like the world was getting on top of me i wrote... Not about anything in particular... Just what was bothering me or what was clouding up my head...
So you need to figure out something you're passionate about and use it to your advantage when you're feeling particularly down.
Take walks to clear your mind. Eat well, exercise... Talk to someone about how you're feeling... Having someone as a support person is always a help...
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ok in the last msg i did i think i was ot clar enogh ......
ok how do i say this .....
ok i got it .....
im in the midle of an affair.....
i dnt no how to prepare for when HIS WIFE FINDS OUT ABOUT US.....
i mean shes not the loveing type.....
or at least the quite one....
there is trutfuly no love there....
hes just there for the baby ,,,,
in other words....
what they trully sy to each other ALL THE TIME is I HATE YOU ..... GET THE F**K AWAY FROM ME B***H ..........so i dnt know how to deal with it when her 200pound self comes to me about it.... i mean i know i have to own up to it ..... but then wahat ?
can some one just help ?
Im not here to judge you... I had a fairly long affair myself...
Is he telling you that there is no love? Is he telling you that its all they talk/fight about...?? Are you certain that their marriage is so rocky or could he be just telling you that to stay in your pants, so to speak??
Has he told you that he is going to tell her? Perhaps she doesnt need to know that its actually YOU...
If she finds out and knows its you she will be angry. You're the one in her eyes who ruined her marriage and broke up her family...
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my bffl is going out wit this guy but when he asked her out he said he liked someone else dose this mean he wi cheat on her.
also he told her not to tell any 1 about it wich is weird? And he lately has gone thro a lot of gf. I don't know what to do and I'm woried about her
16 femel
There's nothing really you can do... If she wants to go out with him then she will, no matter what you say.
I think this guy is a player. Like maybe he wants to get into her pants or just wants her so he can get his numbers up.
I dont think it means he WILL cheat on her. But if this other girl he likes decides to be with him i think he will drop your friend like a hot potato.
You can tell your friend how you feel and hope she gets it, but you cant force her to do anything.
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i was just wondering how to whole breastfeeding works..like do they just suck on ur boob? i dont get it..
Ok, when you're pregnant your body has hormones that make the breasts ready for making milk. When the baby is born you put it to the breast and with careful manipulation get it to suck on the nipple(and as much of the surrounding area as possible so not to cause PAINFUL cracks) which causes the pre-milk substance Colostrem to be releases which is what the baby will drink till the actual milk comes in.
So yeah, basically, the baby just 'sucks on your boob'.
Its a wonderful bonding experience for mother and baby and i'd recommend it to ANYONE who is having a baby.
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if you're drunk and a guy takes advantage of you ..like he kisses you but then you push him off..is it cheating?
No. It is not cheating. BUT if i were you i'd tell your boyfriend about it.
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i have seen people do this before; where they take a single comment that someone sent them and put it as a picture ( like put it anyway). can anyone tell me how to do that?
it would help :/ thanks
I agree with that answer below but on mine i have to press CTRL + SHIFT + PRINT SCREEN
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im 14, female obviously, and i have a problem. i have had my period for a little over a year. i get my period REALLY heavy, as in i have to change my pad every hour, even really heavy ones because they feel disgusting if i dont. I want to try tampons and ive tried before but they wont go in! i thought i knew what hole they went in but aparnetly no, because it wont go in more than an inch and it hurts so badly while doing it. ive asked my mom to help me but even SHE cant get it in...and shes been using tampons for 30 years. ive considered menstrual cups, but i cant use those until something goes IN my vagina. Does anyone have diagrams or advice for me? and the reason i need tampons so badly is because im a swimmer and its such a pain to carry around so many bulky pads...THANKYOU
The best thing i could advise is get a mirror, check ourself out down there and lay on your bed and see what you're doing while you're doing it... Tampons should come with a little diagram and instructions. When you're trying to insert, aim for the base of your spine, so upwards and backwards.
If you try and try and still dont succeed, maybe you need to see a doctor to see if you're all normal down there...
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i had sex with my bestie he did not put his dick all the way in and per-cum came in but my cherry did not pop can i have a baby
Dont be stupid. Of course you can be pregnant.
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hey im 15.f
i have 2 questions to ask in this.
so heres the story (and oh yea who ever answers ill rate high because i really need help)
my boyfriend and i have been going out for about almost 2 weeks and those 2 weeks he fingered me. i gave me head and we had sex. alot of sex. my question is can i be any chance pragnet since we didnt use a condom the very first time and we were in he shower and he felt like he was gonna cum so he pulled out and waited a little and then we went agian. but he never came. that same day we used condoms but we had sex twice after the shower incident. then i came over agian yesterday and we had sex twice again but with a condom he came but we had a condom and everything was fine. but im just worried that what if i am pragnet and if there is a chance i can be.. because since the first time in the shower my mood changed and i got a small pain like all the way in mmy lower stomach by my vigina. im really scared and i dont know what to do im going to wait ffor my period to come but i dont know by then it might be to late.
another question is i regret having sex with him so much he says he likes me a lot but i feel like our relationship is moving wayyyyyyyy 2 fast and it old him that he said everything is fine and that he wont leave me because we had a thing in the past where i was dating my other boyfriend and he tried to convince me to break up with him so he must like me but idont what to do bout the sex ...and the moving fast
any help ill rate high thank u so much =]
All i have to say is sucked in. If you're pregnant its your own stupid fault. How can you have unprotected sex then say "im scared im pregnant"???
If its not on its not on. If you're not pregnant by some miracle... then next time use a condom!!!
Sorry for being so blunt but theres so many girls on this site who are just like you... Having unprotected sex and then whinging about possibly being pregnant. Use your brain and you wont get pregnant!
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You answered my question on to parent or adopt, thanks I had a few more questions over the past few weeks.
How can I finish high school and raise a kid?
Also I know how people treat me now at school with the rumors and drama and all does that settle down at all?
And should I let my teachers know, so maybe they can help me get my grades back up to where they should be?
If you dont know an answer thats fine just curious thanks:)
I wont lie, its not going to be easy. The people at your school will probably never stop teasing or harrassing you. But you need to be strong for your baby and hold your head up high. Yes, you got pregnant and thats something you may regret but it happened and you cant change it. Im not sure what services they have where you live but in some places they have specialised schools for people who are young with kids and they can take them with them to school. Telling your teachers might be a good idea. Maybe there are places that can help with schooling and they can refer you.
Maybe for some people adopting out their baby is the best option. You need to think hard about it though. If you give your baby up, you wont ever see it again. If that is something you can live with then maybe you should. Being a parent isnt easy. But having a child and not being a parent is something i couldnt imagine!!
Good luck!
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Why do you have to go to the gynecologist once you've become sexually active?
I'm very curious. I've read everywhere online about the gynecologist and when you should go, and it says once you become sexually active you should go see the doctor each year (even if you're under 18). Why? I thought you only have to go if you're having problems or something.
Please help! I'm getting confused.
To check for STDs and cervical cancer... Make sure you're healthy down there... ETC.
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So I m 15 almost 16 and pregnant, my baby is due in late October early November. My boyfriend and I would like to stay together and raise our baby, and do the best we can we know it will be hard but we are up to it. He is a senior and graduating and taking over his dads company so money isn't an issue.
My parents are the issue, they don't like my boyfriend and think that if I have this baby and keep it then I will hand it off to them to raise. They want me to put the baby up for adoption. I think this would be very hard and I think I would regret it. What should I do? Im very confused on what I should do I don't know if I should just give the baby up for adoption or try to talk to my parents more about keeping it.
My parents always have said and still say that I am a smart enough girl to do anything I want and put my mind to but if I say I want to raise my baby and keep it they say i can't? Why are they going against what they have always said?
Also is there any way to get this pregnancy off my mind? I feel like everything I do I start thinking about the arguments at home and just being pregnant it keeps distracting me when Im at school and work and even when Im at home trying to fall asleep my mind just keeps wandering...
Sorry its long but just need help.
I think you would regret giving your baby up. If your boyfriend is doing the right thing and money wont be an issue then i would say go for it. A child is a wonderful gift! I am a mother, and i fell pregnant at 17 and i wouldnt change anything!!
People say you have your whole life ahead of you to have kids... Well i say you have your whole life ahead of you to have a career and further your education. You're having a child RIGHT NOW. Its a magical time and people should be supporting you. I guess your parents would be shocked at having their 15 year old daughter pregnant but once they see their grandchild in the flesh their whole world will change and they'll love it like their own.
DO NOT let anyone force you to give up this child, because you will regret it!
As soon as you begin to accept and embrace your pregnancy you will start to feel better about it.
Good luck. Im also due in October with my second child.
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I was just wondering why people ask questions about their boyfriends and other innapropriate things that no one needs to be talking about. Doesn't anyone agree with me?
I absolutely disagree.
There are young people out there who need to know things and they just cant ask their parents. There are alot of things i wish i knew at 14 that i know now that i MAY have known if i had a site like this.
The only things i dont like is people asking things that are easily looked up on google. Or people asking if they're pregnant cos they had unprotected sex. They shouldnt be wasting their time on here they should be googling it for themselves or running to the shop to get a test.
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my boyfriend and i tried having sex for the first time (both virgins)
and either he was too big or i was too tight but we couldn't get it in
any advice with that?
You're both virgins so its ok for this stuff to happen. Practise makes perfect when it goes to sex. Just do it again. Get his penis in your hand and help it into your vagina... SLOWLY! If it doesnt work, do it again... Just keep trying. Seriously, sex is all about trying new things and having new experiences. Everything isnt supposed to work first time.
Oh... and use protection! Condoms have lubricant on them that helps it go in smoothly.
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ok im not going to sugar coat this or anything im just gonna straight up tell you how it is. i need to get something off my chest and i want to hear what you have to say about it. im putting myself out there so, try not to be too harsh :/ i really appreciate you taking the time to read this and help me out.
16/f
been going out with my bf for 1 year and 6 months. let me just tell you for sure we definitely are in love, no questions asked. we go to different schools but only live 15 minutes away from each other and we make it work. even though i truly do love him, i have mildly [nothing horrible] cheated on him on several occasions.
okay, back last year when we were going out for about 4 or 5 months, i started to talk to this guy, G. he was blatantly flirty with me all the time and i guess sweet talked me into a situation i did not want to be in. one day in school he texted me saying to 'go to the bathroom' and meet him outside in the hall. so i did, and we were just walking around the school talking. we sorta got slower at the staircase and he turned around and kissed me. i kissed him back but it was just 2 short pecks held out for 2 seconds each id say. it felt like the WEIRDEST THING ever, i didnt like it. but it was almost like he had me brainwashed because i kept talking to the guy. over a break like the easter break or something when no one was home he snuck over to my house and i let him in... i kept him in my room because my brother was home and if he saw some guy in our house he would get me in trouble. so he almost forcefully laid me down and started kissing me. no tongue or anything, just kissing, like long pecks i suppose? so i felt sort of violated because i was very hesitant and it made me feel uncomfortable. right after i got up and didnt let him push me down anymore and told him he had to leave and i made him leave my house. i only told my boyfriend about the kiss in the hallway and i twisted the story and said that the guy kissed me but i did not kiss him back. eventually i realized talking to this kid got me nowhere but into trouble so i ended all contacts with him. so that was over. my boyfriend was upset of course but forgave me because he still doesnt even know the whole story.
next incident came in the summer, we were going out for 8 months. i went on vacation with my family to the bahamas at a resort. i made out with/kissed 3 boys within the vacation. nothing was passionate it was just regular kisses. out of curiosity i suppose? spur of the moment? the feeling of carelessness that the summer gives you? i was on vacation and i would never have to see these people again? im not sure why i did it but these reasons seem logical. right after every time i told the boys that i had a boyfriend and that i felt horrible that i did that. the first guy, B, it was his last night. we were walking on the beach at night after a teen activity that the resort had, and it was my first night there so i was naive. he said that he had never slow danced on the beach before and he asked me to. i thought it was the sweetest thing ever so i did as we listened to a song on his ipod. he kissed me 2 or 3 times that night, nothing passionate, just kisses. and he was really shy and inexperienced and would ask me if i was bad and stuff. i told him i had a bf and we both felt really bad and he understood because he had been cheated on before. the next guy was a total jerk, i was going back to the hotel room to get ready for dinner and before that i was with a group of my friends. he said he would walk me back and i thought that he was just being a gentleman, the naive person i am. little did i know he had other intentions. when we got to my door he leaned in fast and kissed me and grabbed my ass. i was insulted by this so i pulled away after a second once i realized what was happening. then i left him and went into my room. he later told my friends from the resort that he made out with me 3 times and that i let him grab my ass a lot, which was obviously a lie. the next time was with a boy, N. my group of friends was in the poolside hot tub one night. he put his hand on my leg and eventually i sat on his lap playfully because we were all friendly like that i didnt see harm in it at the time, but now i realize that is completely leading on. my friends ditched us thinking we wanted to hookup. once they left we started making out, i did think he was attractive but his personality was a jerk and he just wanted to get with girls, but anyway, after 7 seconds or so he started to go into my pants [ i was wearing full tank top and jeans bc i got pushed into the pool with my clothes on before] and i stopped him right there. i realized then that it was wrong and definetly did not want to go any farther. we met back up with my friends. later on a friend told me that he had said that 'he wanted to f*** me before i left" and that insulted me. it made me realize he wasnt a good guy. so then i went home. i told my boyfriend i didnt do anything and that one guy B tried to kiss me but didnt and lied about it and the last guy tried to get in my pants but i didnt let him. thats all i told him, basically a half lie. still bad i know.
the last incident occured around christmas time, we were going out for 1 year and 2 months. this time i didnt do anything physically, but emotionally. my bf and i were fighting a lot, had a rough patch if you will. i just felt unhappy a lot of the time so i turned to another boy. we had just met and just started talking through insignificant means, like facebook, IM, and texting. he started to tell me that he liked me and would also sweet talk me as the first guy did. it sort of persuaded me into liking him. i did find him attractive and i did like his personality. but i learned from the past mistakes and knew i would not kiss him. we wanted to hangout one time to get to know each other, as friends of course, even though we had little crushes on each other, but he respected that i had a bf and didnt want to mess it up'. i felt my bf couldnt know about it because he would feel jealous or start worrying, couldnt blame him though. so it was originally set up that we would hangout at the mall with other people. he would bring some friends and i would bring some. i was supposed to bring my friend jenny but at the last minute she couldnt go so it was just me. he had 2 of his friends with him, and we saw other friends while we were there too so it wasnt any sort of a date. my bf thought i was just at the mall with jenny though, bc that was the original plan. but thats all he knew. anyway, this guy and i never kissed or did anything innappropriate. i did later admit to my boyfriend that this kid and i were talking and that i had developed a crush on him. my bf and i had a long talk and i eventually ended contacts with this kid and stopped liking him, and things between me and my bf got better. i am completely over that guy. but i can tell my bf is still hurt that i could like another guy so easily and he probably feels insecure, which is understandable, i would too.
so there it is. he really only knows half or even 1/3 of all of that. i have a terrible conscience inside that reminds me of this stuff constantly. i was in denial with my self for a while and would refuse to think that i did any of that stuff, i just couldnt deal with it, i was so upset with myself and still am. i know i should tell him one day... sooner is probably better. but i am SO scared. he told me a few times that if i ever cheat on me he would be so devastated and heartbroken and it would show that 'i never loved him'. but that is not true at all. i KNOW i love him with all my heart, i dont know what i would do if he broke up with me, i would be so incredibly upset. i dont want to lose him but i know that what i did was very wrong and i am truly sorry for it. it was a mistake and i meant nothing by it, i never loved anyone at any point in my life but my bf. i used to be so naive and curious and just stupid and i see that now, ...i know i will never do those things again. i am just so afraid that if i tell him everything that he will just start thinking... and it will end up with us breaking up or something to that horrible effect. i really need advice on this. thanks so much for your time.
I think you have problems with guys. Perhaps you feel the unconscious need to have attention from guys. I dont know, im not a psycologist.
I dont want to judge you, because i have done similar things that you have described (only worse). I discovered that as much as i thought i loved my (then) boyfriend, i really didnt. The cheating ended up eating away at my insides and i left him with disastrous results.
You need to tell your boyfriend. Because it will eat away at you. If he leaves you then its probably best. You seem to attract guys attention ealsily. You may love him, as you say, but if you really honestly loved him... You wouldnt have even LOOKED at another guy!!
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how do u make myspace letters larger
you need the code...
Lucky for you i know it!
~font size="+1"~ INSERT TEXT HERE ~/font~
Instead of the ~ put > and < around the words so it forms like a bracket where the ~ are. Its the only way i could write it in so you'd see the code not the effect.
Obviously you'll change where it says "INSERT TEXT HERE" to whatever you want to write.
You can put whatever number where the 1 is to make it alot bigger or even change the + to a - and make it smaller...
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I'm trying to find a babysitting job but I don't really have any expirience with young children. I got a response to babysit a 2 year old boy from 9-5 3 days a week and I don't even know how to take care of a 2 year old! Do they need changed? Do they eat normal food? Do they talk? Please give me tips so I don't sound stupid asking the mother questions like that.
All kids are different and its up to the parent what they eat. The mother should tell you what to feed him and when he usually eats. Dont be afraid to ask because you're not expected to know everything and the mother will probably like you more if you ask questions.
My daughter spoke at 2 years old but she was (and still is) very advanced for her age. The child should still be able to explain to you what it wants though.
The majority of 2 year olds arent toilet trained so he will be requiring changing.
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So me and this guy have only been dating for a little while and well me and him started to make-out last night and I told him I wanted to take things slow. I don't like to just jump into things you know? Thats not who I am. But he kept pushing and pushing to have sex and I kept telling him no. Well he just started kissing me again and I thought he understood that I wasn't going to have sex but then before I knew it he was pulling my pants off and started having sex with me even though I told him no. I didn't know what to do. I pretty much just shut down.... I feel completely horrible now. After that happened last night I can't stop thinking about what happened and I don't know what to think or what to do. I feel completely used and ashamed..... I don't know what to do now. I feel like it's my fault.
Firslty, IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT! Secondly this guy needs to know that what he did was wrong. You said no and he should have respected that. What he did was rape. You can report him for it and he can be arrested and charged.
I feel for you. It hasn't happened to me but it has happened to friends of mine and i can only imagine!
I'd encourage you to go to the police. However if you decide not to, then you need to tell him that what he did was wrong. And let other people know what he did to you. Other girls need to be warned!!!
He's gonna tell you that you were into it or you asked for it... And he's going to make up lies about you and call you a slut and deny the accusation to the police but stick to your guns and know in yourself that you are a strong person and you know you're not a slut and dont believe his lies!
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how do you pick up a really good guy who wont hurt you?
My best friend would say you cant...
I'd say it takes ALOT of hurt before you get the one you want.
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3 days from today I am going to be admitted to the hospital to prepare for induction. I can reschedule for a later time, but the doctor thinks its best to do it now since the baby is already 7 1/2 pounds and will probably be 8 pounds by the day of induction.
I just am curious to know what being induced is like. My mother was induced 20 years ago, and she says it was a very unpleasant experience. However my doctor assures me that now the process has changed and they administer the medicine in a way that mimics natural labor.
So I would just like people who have been induced or know people who have been induced recently to share stories with me. Because I am really starting to freak out, and just need to know how induction compares to natural childbirth.
Thanks! and sorry this is so long.
Im not sure but this is probably a bit late... My induction was painful. I was in alot of pain straight away and learnt that the pain wasnt even labour, it was just pains that come from the gel they use. Looking back i'd rather have waited (i was 9 days overdue with no sign of labour).
BUT... I havent experienced natural birth. Im pregnant now and am hoping for it to happen naturally. There could be pros and cons for each side though...
At least being induced, you're at the hospital and theres no chance of anything happening away from medical help.
No idea if this helped any... Or if im too late...
Let me know how it went...
Good luck!
p.s:
The gel they used was for the induction. I think it was called Prostin. They put it on your cervix. I didnt have an epidural because one little slip and your a paraplegic. I sucked on the happy gas all night though...
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