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ok well i got my period and my mom wont let me wear tampons. the only time i'm allowed to wear tampons is when i go swimming (im on a swim team), but the rest of the time i can only wear pads.
and i only have thongs, so pads are EXTREMELY uncomfortable, so my mom is out buying me regular underwear which i cant stand cuz they give you wedgies and panty lines.
to add to that, pads are soooo loud when you pull them off (and even when you walk) but tampons are silent and you cant even feel them.
my mom says that tampons are dangerous, and they are only for a heavy blood flow. but they make tampons for light flow too!!! and theyre safe to use as long as you change them every four hours.
the only time i'm willing to use pads is at night when im sleeping.
so how do i convince my mom to let me wear tampons?
hmm well you don't mention your age but if your dying to wear tampons sneak them in your house...but just to let you know there are these pads that are made specially for thongs...i don't know if that will help your situation since you said you like wearing tampons
but i hope i helped
This year our "girl asks guy" dance's theme is 'it takes two' aka matching outfits and what not. The dance is tomorrow and my date and i still cant think of anything creative besides 'color coordinating'. Any suggestions? What have people gone as before? nothing too elaborate or time consuming please, because the dance is tomorrow (short notice i know). But please help! its my first and last sadies dance.
cowboy and cowgirl
tink and peterpan
jasmine and aladin
king and queen
pirates
indians
sailors
cops
detectives
nurse and doctor
patient and doctor/nurse
cave man and cave woman
cop and robber
i know it sounds costumish but i hope i helped :)
please don't rate me a 3 if i didn't help much....just don't rate me at all, ,cause i want to keep a good average...
okay a few days ago i joined track and i was wondering which parts of the body lose fat first...is it the buns,the stomach,the arms, or what?because im not overwieght or nothing but i have a big chest and butt...and i just want a flat tummy
my questions are
in what order of body parts will start to show results that i lose fat when i run everyday?
and will i lose my butt and boobs for ever if i keep running?
please put which part of the body starts losing fat in order. for example
1.stomach
2.thighs
3.chest
...and so on
well for me i tone up which is a good thing and to me it seems like 2
1
3
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I will give you my description first I am a small girl, I have a heart shape face sort of like the shape of Halles Berry's I have a small head, I have a caramel complexion my eyes are sort of small but nay way I want to get a afro. And, I don't know how it will look and how people will react to it I would like to know what you t hink about afros as women how do you think they look, and males I would like to know if you find them atrractive or at least decent looking. I would like all opinions and all view on it, I'm on the fence right now.
to me afros are really an interesting hairstyle. For black women (not being racist or anything) i think it looks beautiful. And it gives them an exotic look to them. But i don't know if everyone could pull them off, but you should ask your hair stylist, or photoshop an afro onto your head (it may not look realistic but you'll at least get the basis of what you might look like with one on)
Hi. I'm 13/f. I am a very unhealthy eater and am not active what-so-ever. I am very skinny, just not in shape. I am 5'3'' & weigh about 95 lbs. I am not worried about my weight or anything, just am worried about my health.
This is where you come in.
I need a plan.
I need some breakfast ideas, lunch Ideas
& for dinner, I have no control, but its usually home-cooked & healthy so I should be okay with that.
I need some exersizes also. I am going to try and start running once around my block 3 times a week [my block is small, but I will increase the distance gradually]. I will also TRY and do 30 situps a night. ANY OTHER IDEAS?
Thanks so much in advance.
You shouldn't be worried about your health I am the exact same height but I weigh 100 lbs. Anyway if you want to get in shape thats a great way to start. You could also try taking vitamins in the morning or eating fruit to start your day off. Another idea not sure if this is very good or not, but jumproping. For lunch maybe soup and a sandwhich.
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I hope I picked the right category but here it goes...
Alright so im 13/f and my cousin is 23/f. shes been dating her boyfriend for 2 years and she broke up with him and so he killed himself. he warned her that if she broke up with him he'd kill himself. hes only 23! or was..
anyway, him and her dad didnt get along very well. i feel so bad for him bcuz he was brokenhearted but he was a HUGE JERK! His parents are blaming it on HER! I feel so bad 4 her and im not gonna get into details of what he said but he was like "dont worry baby it's not your fault, you arent doing this to me" just to make her feel worse! what can i do to make her feel better? im kinda shy around her cuz i barely know her but i wanna make her feel better please help!
I don't mean to sound mean, but you guys are ten years apart. She's probably going through some really deep and sad emotions right now. I think she would be better off going to a therapist to talk about it or a psychologist. It doesn't seem like something you could help your cousin with (no offense) especially since you mentioned that you barely know her. If you see her just be friendly to her and i'm sure she wouldn't want to talk about so don't mentioin it.
im 15/f im looking for cute little boutique shops that don't really have a chain of other clothing sotres and carry designer clothing. I live in orange county (ca) and i really like the type of stores where there very up to date with fashion and carry designer clothing (some recognized some not) i already know four boutique shops (rebel, modern romance, dali boutique, and lola rouge for whoever is familiar with those) but what are some more boutique designer clothing.
so what are some more of those type of shops? (ps i would be so happy if they were boutique shops for juniors) thank you so much for answering
try some online
fashionchateau.com
ronherman.com
etc
i saw this product on tv where its a light you put in your mouth and it whitens your teeth (my teeth aren't yellow or anything and i brush and floss every day) but i was wondering if that thing worked. Because i tried all teh whiteners out there (crest, oral b, simply white, etc. And i think i want to try the light you put in your mouth for like a couple minutes or seconds or somehting and your teeth are whiter ( i don't have enough enamel on my teeth to mix baking soda and water, do that type of stuff etc.) but can anyone tell me what that teeth whitener light is called and if it works if anyone has ever tried it...thanks
you could go to the dentist to get your teeth professionally whitened and another product is called the white light i think..(sp)
my friend is totally against kissing and making out before high school. i am only in 7th grade but for our school people make out all the time. when im talking to her i tend to tell her that im against it too, because i am. but my boyfriend kissed me the other day and i was so happy i ran into the cafeteria and i was about to tell her but then i remembered and acted like nothing happened. i dont know how im going to tell her and i want to tell her because i dont want to keep something like this secret from her. help please!
she should respect your morals and ethics, just because she doesn't believe in making out or kissing before high school doesn't mean she should be angry or soemthing like that ( i would tel her) and if she gets mad tell her that those are her feelings, i mean its not like you had sex in 7th grade. But at the same time you could also keep it a secret that your boyfriend kissed you cause its between the two of you and has nothing to do with your friend.
I don't know why and it's kinda gross but lately like everyone in my class started wearing thongs instead of underwears and even the teacher! I don't get what's so good about having a peice of string hanging up your ass. Is it like because when you're wearing something that's not jeans that the lines on your thongs wont show up as much as an underwear would? Or is it cheaper or something?
there not comfortable, your just used to them like the other user on here said down below. But I think it could also be a conscience issue, i feel better about myself wearing a thong then regular underwear under jeans, cause of having a panty line, I had the feeling your feeling right now, but 3 years later i am wearing them a lot. But some girls use it the wrong way, meaning i saw this one girl the other day at the mall and her thong was close to her belly button (the string) and it was obvious that she knew it was like that cause she kept adjusting it so it would look like sexy or somehting (but it could send the wrong message) some girls like to use it for attention to get guys, which is really tacky.
i want to strip my hair of its color. i reread over and over this hair color removal online stuff but my sister is 23 and was like "never buy that stuff offline". and so is there any thing i can use that i can get at like kmart or some store to get the dye out of my hair?
i think its very dangerous to strip your hair, you doing it yourself. It is a very hazardous process, so i suggest going to a real salon stylist, cause you can permanently damage your hair, if you do it wrong. (i know i'm probably not the answer your looking for) but if you really want to do it from a bottle or whatever go to your local beauty store or drug store.
whenever im shopping in V.S. i always see really cute lingere (sp?), you know bras & thongs & little strap/hooks that attach the two. anyways online i dont see any of that! idk why, anyways the point is.. i want to show my boyfriend a couple of the outfits but i cant b/c there are no online pics.. so are there any other stores with similar lingere & a website with pics. thanks
3wishes.com
fredericks of hollywood (sp) .com (type it in on google)
google lingerie
sorry if i wasn'tmuch help, but depending upon your age i think it would cause a lot of awkwardness if you bought something at victorias secret if your like 16 and under. (Didn't mention age)
( o whoops sorry) when i read your question i thought you meant like intimate sex lingerie if that makes any sense
I have a friend who I have been very close to. We never hungout so I don't know very much about his personal life, although I have known him for years! And just twenty minutes ago, he tells me that he has a son. I asked my other friends if they knew about this and they said yes. Even people who aren't friends with him knew! I feel completely upset and I just wanted to cry because I have been his friend for so long and he just now tells me (his son is several months old; not just 2 or 3 days old). Should I really be upset over this? Or is it better just to get over it and move on?
It could be that he didn't want to tell you, cause maybe he felt awkward since you knew him for so long, or else maybe he had different feelings towards you, and thats why he didn't want to reveal it. I could see why your upset. SOrry if i wasn't much help
how do i know when im ready for sex?
me and my friend snuck out the other night
to meet my boyfriend [ we werent going out then ] and he wanted to 69 + feel me + finger me a such all i wanted to do was make out. but i really didnt know how to say "no" and we just didnt end up making it there. but i wanna know why he wants all this if were only 13 ! and we just turned it like him a month and a half + me two weeks ago . its insane i really dont know what to do. cuz in school he never talks to me , or hugs me or anything and my friend said that she told him to hug me and then he was like why ? and she was like just do it. and he said only if theres a reason + and she came up with something an was like " she thinks you dont like her" and then his friend said " what do you mean he dosnt " so why would he wanna do all that if he doesnt like me + am i even ready to do anything like that? like ive made out before + kissed but hes different. HELP ! !
britnee
you guys are way too young to think about "69", being fingered, etc. It looks as though (and i hate to break it to you) that he could be using you. If he would have liked you, you would expect the least of the things he could do is hug you. But I also think you should talk to him one-on-one privateley, and maybe discuss what your feeeling; like ask him if he did something like this to you, why doesn't he talk to you, treat you well, etc.
14/f
tomorrow, im getting a blood test. the thing is, i HATE needles, and i HATE looking at the thing and seeing my blood, which means basically, i hate blood. and afterwards, i am paranoid for the whole day looking at where the needle went in, and i feel like its hurting, but im actually causing myself to FEEL like its hurting. i have no idea what to do to make myself lmore comfortable. any suggestions?
you should ask your parents to buy you some pills that help you relax. I hate planes, so i take some of these pillls (don't know what there calledd) and your deffenently not as fearful as things. But there basically pills sthat help you relaxx (not like sleeping pills) This is only a suggestion (i don't know whether you shouldn't take any sort of pills, but you should ask your parents/gaurdians,etc)
it's complicated.
anyway, first things first. i'm sort of... ugly. my nose is too big, it's uneven and almost witch-like. i have one of the most pointed chins i have ever seen; it almost goes past my nose when i smile. my smile is ugly too, it's not right.
i'm not looking for an answer like surgery or whatever.
it's just that my looks could seriously affect my opportunities in the future. right now, i have my circle of friends, and everyone knows me and my personality. but i leave for university next year; i'm afraid that my looks will be like a hinderance to my making friends, i'm shy until i get really close to the person before i become myself.
i dunno. i'm probably the most hideous woman i've ever seen.
was there a question in there? there was. i hope this doesn't get deleted... i'm seriously worried about it.
well, if you wnt to as a graduation present you can ask your parents for a nose job or chin job. Because it can affect your self confidence but you should talk to your parents/gaurdians about it.
Hey!
I'm going ice skating at rockefeller center, a great place in the city, with the boy i like, his friend, and my 2 girlfriends. I really want to impress the boy i like but not be so obvious. I dont know what to wear, or how to act at all.
PLEASE GIVE TIPS!!
well if you've never been ice skating before (meaning like everyday) it would be hard to impress him, umm don't fall
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ok so which straightener do you think is the best
sedu
coriolis
solia
http://www.folica.com/appliances/flat_iron_top_10_sellers.htm
im going from this site please only answer if you have one of the straighteners above thanks in advance
iv'e tried the solia and i was not really impressed by it. It made my hair frizzy and staticky, and it didn't really straighten. Honestly the best type of straighteners are CHI...that's just my opinion
okay so for halloween, i was having a few friends over and we were going to go to six flags. but one of them couldnt go because she was already "going with her family" and 2 other ones bailed out the last minute to go with her. before we left to leave, i asked my friend why she invited the other 2 since we could've all gone together, and she flat out told me off and called me a b**** for not hanging out with them! now i admit that since high school started (we're freshman!) i've been busy. im in choir, dance, the school vb team, and soccer.. and well these 3, but mostly the 1st girl, really have nothing to do as far as extra-curricular. she's fat and often gives me trouble about how thin i am. i was very upset because we used to be real close, but i got over it and left ready to have fun. when we saw them there, they waved to the other girls and shot me dirty looks. now at school the main girl is getting people mad at me, but if i run into them or something, they ask me why im mad at them! i've found out that at least 6 people were mad at me, because this girl told them i was mad at them!! do you think she's just jealous or something? shes trying to make my life a living hell.. and it's only worked a tiny bit. she even told my boyfriend / bestfriend that im a slut, a b****, and possibly cheating on him!? well, i need advice on what to do, im trying to ignore it but i think i might be too shy to tell her off or anything! HELP!!!
i was in your exact (almost exact) situation. and the answer is yes she is jealous of you. but she's telling otehr people that your mad at them to secure her popularity position, and she doesn't want you to take her spot. if she has more problems with you, visit your counselor, i think that will help, or even tell a close friend of yours to get their advice (since i don't even know this girl)
i'm ordering jeans from abercrombie and fitch and i can't figure out my size. i'm an xs in the a&f clothes and i think i'd be a 0 or a double zero in their jeans. i'm ordering off the website and i can't figure out what the 'L' and the 'R' next to teh sizes are. can anyone help?
L long
R regular
S short