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Q: im 17 and have a embarrissing problem when i go to have sex with my girlfriend my penis goes soft
and i lose an erection and have trouble getting another one she says she has trouble feelin me
my penis is only 3 inches long could that be the problem even when i masturbate sometimes it takes awhile to get an erection im a bit worried about it is there anything i can do?

First of all let me asure you that size has nothing to do with it. I think your problem is probably due to nerves. Stress can cause you to lose your erection. My best advice to you is relax. Sex is supposed to be enjoyed. Hopefully, you have an understanding girlfriend. If you do, you can actually use your problem as an advantage to improve your sex life. Your girlfriend can help you to regain your erection, just use your imagination. Also when you go soft, concentrate on pleasing your girlfriend in other ways besides penetration, that should help you get hard again. Just relax and enjoy, you're still young and you have many years to perfect your love-making skills.

Hope I helped and if you have any other questions feel free to drop them in my inbox.

(Sorry I took so long to answer, but I was out of town.)

Q: I'm 21 and dating a guy right now. He reminds me of an axboyfriend of mine that died. He was my first and my first love too. This new guy reminds me of my ex so much. He acts the same, has the same mannerisms, dresses the same--as in neither of them ever wore blue jeans---and I'm falling so hard for this guy. I'm afraid of losing him again. I think it's a sign that I was supposed to meet and hook up with him. We're taking things real slow..and that's because we like each other so much...what's your imput?

You need to be careful and make sure that you are falling in love with this guy and not just the memory of the one that passed away. You can't expect him to be exactly like the other guy, the more you get to know him, the more differences you're bound to find. Make sure that you keep your heart open to the prospect of truly falling in love again and don't let a memory hold you back. I'm sure that your first love would want you to move on and be happy.

Q: I have extremley bad cramps... only the problem is i dont know how to swallow a pill. The advice I want is NOT how to swallow a pill but if you know of any really good chewable types of medicine to realive the pain (I'm 15 years old if that helps). Thanks!

I don't know of any chewable medicines that relieve pain, but my cousin had the same problem as you do. She would dissolve tylenol or aspirin into a tablespoon of water and take it like cough medicine. She burned herself really badly once, and needed something stronger than tylenol or aspirin, and her doctor prescribed a liquid pain reliever. Maybe you should talk to your doctor and he'll prescribe something for you.

Q: How long would you be willing to date someone before you either left or proposed marriage to them? You being a 30 something female he being a late 30 something male.

I would wait at least a year before getting engaged, minimum, and 3 years maximum. After 3 years, if there's still no ring, he definitely has commitment issues.

Q: can u send me the actebale food list on atkins.com bc i can tfind it e mail me at volleyballbabeh6@aol.com

I'll send you the list as soon as I get the chance.

Q: Ok, I have 2 years to lose 100 pounds or so! I need help though lol. What is the best diet south beach,atkins, ect. Like what should I do. And do you think it would take 2 years or shorter? And what should i NOT eat. Thanks if you can help me!

I researched both the atkins diet and the south beach diet, before I chose the atkins diet. The south beach diet was way to complicated. I lost 50 pounds in three months on atkins. Go to atkins.com and you'll find all the info you need. There's an acceptable food list and you can't eat anything that's not on that list.

Q: do u sharpen eye liner w/ a regular prencil sharpener?
i didnt kno wanted to kno...

An eyeliner sharpener is basically the same as a regular pencil sharpener. I always use a regular pencil sharpener and it works just fine. Here's a related tip: If you heat up the point of the eyeliner with a cigarette lighter a little bit, you'll get a smoother darker line.

Q: Me n my friend want to write something to the mayor of our town about how we want buses and/or taxis in the town. but we arent sure what to do.. does anyone have any suggestions of what we can do/write to the mayor?

i rate all 5s..

-jules

The most important thing is to be clear about what you want. Tell him exactly what you want and why it is necessary. Remember there's strength in numbers. You can organize a letter writing campaign and get many people to write letters to the mayor. You can also get everyone in the community to sign a petition. Hope I helped.

Q: Hey, well I go to a Church and we are having some problems getting more people come to our youth group. My brother asked me to figure out some stuff girls can do at youth group. Because the guys always play sports and the girls dont like it so we dont play and were bored. So what are some of the stuff girls can do? I thought about cooking..like making a quick snack for all of us but thats all I have. If you can help me with more ideas I'd appreciate it. And if you go to youth group at a church, what are some of the stuff you do? Thanks so much and I rate all 5's!

xo_sherry_ox

How about doing craft things like making jewelry or painting t-shirts.

Q: I think I like my ex boyfriend again..but I'm not really sure if he likes me the same way anymore..we broke up a lil while ago, but sometimes when I see him I feel like I wanna be with him again, but whnever we don't talk..it's like it's awesome just being friends..it's mainly just whenever I see him though! I can't talk to him about it, because I'm afraid he might not like me the same way anymore, and I'll feel like a complete fool!! We're going to homecoming together, but I'm not sure if that means anything! What should I do?

It's important to consider why ya'll broke up in the first place. Enjoy the friendship that you have with him, and if it's meant to be more than friendship let nature take it's course. As I've said before, Follow your heart and everything else will fall into place.

Q: hey u guys im a 15 year old male, and i was of course playing truth or dare with mostly grls and a few guys, and a grl dared me to go in the bathroom right then and there and SHAVE MY LEGS! well i wasnt gonna turn down a dare so i did it, but im wunderin if i should like wear pants to school until they grow back cuz usually guys wit shaved legs r gay, or do grls think is hot??

Just do whatever you're comfortable with. If you're self conscious about it, then wear pants, but if it doesn't bother you, don't worry about what anyone else thinks.

Q: ok well i dated this chick and we dated for 3 months thas my longest relationship and she was my first love and well she left me for her ex bf but lately shes been callin me a bunch and flirtin w/ me and actin like were datin again and i dont know wut to do, should i keep this up and see wut happens or should i do sumthin cuz i dont want to be the "other guy" and it kinda looks like thas wuts gonna happen

There's nothing wrong with being friends with an ex. Just make sure that it doesn't go beyond friendship. Also make sure that she knows that you aren't interested in pursuing a romantic relationship while she's still involved with the other guy.

Q: i took a girl on a first date with a girl and she is a sophmore and i am a freshman. she made me pick the movie and i accidently picked a blood and guts movie. she said she liked it and i asked her the next day for a second date and she said yes. do you think this is a second date out of pitty?

Some girls do actually like those kind of movies. If she said yes for a second date, then she's probably interested in you. She could have said no, or made up some excuse, but she didn't. This is not a pity date.

Q: hi..im 15 years old..n i weigh 124 punds..i want to lose 10 pounds so bad!..i hate mi stomatch..do you kno how i could lose 10 days in a month??
i use to throw up .. but i dont nemore..i want to do something healthy

plz help!
thank u..sam

You can try the Atkins diet. It worked for me. Just go to atkins.com and you'll find all the info you need.

Q: ok has anyone tried the south beach diet? if so..did it really work, was it hard..how much did you lose and how long did it take you. i really wanna try it but if it dont work i dont want to waste my time on it! thanks.

I thought about going on the South Beach diet, but after I read up on it I decided it was too complicated. I went on the Atkins diet instead. It's strict, but it's easier in a way because it gives you a specific list of acceptable foods. I lost 50 pounds in 3 months. If you're interested in the Atkins diet you can find all the info you need at Atkins.com. Good luck!

Q: ok see i knew that i would be seeing my boyfriend on friday (last friday) so i didnt eat rly anything all week maybe 3 things..seriously! and i only drank water and see when i saw my boyfriend he said i looked thinner!!...i was happy and i was wondering what are other bad things that'll happen if i keep up what ive been doin?? plz dont say..you'll die or get sick!! it made me feel better about my self cz my stomach wasent as big almost flat

Eating disorders can cause a wide variety of problems including irregular periods that can lead to infertility, brittle bones, heart problems that can lead to heart attacks and strokes, kidney failure, liver damage, blurry vision, dizziness...the lists goes on and on. Is looking good for a guy really worth all these risks? Absolutely not. If you want to lose weight to feel better about yourself there are healthier ways to do this. Following a healthy diet and exercise routine will help you slim down safely. I personally recommend the Atkins diet and walking for 30 minutes at least three times a week, and drink at least a gallon of water a day and green tea sweetened with Splenda. That worked for me and I lost 50 lbs. in 3 months.

Q: Does anyone know any good diets that actually work? Any exercises?

I lost 50 lbs. in 2 months on the atkins diet. You can find all the info you need at atkins.com. I walked for 30 minutes at least 3 times a week.

Q: I don't know where to put this. Anyway, when I wash my hair I just use normal shampoo, whatever is in the shower. But my hair is sensitive, I have this scalp...thing and it makes my hair look really dirty really easily. If I use too much moose, gel, or spray, it looks oily and dirty and makes my scalp flake. Nasty, I know. But I was wondering if there are any shampoos or products I could use that aren't that strong, but would give my hair a really straight, sleek, shiny look without making my hair look greasy? Thanks for any help.

Pantene Pro-V Smooth and Sleek is excellent.

Q: hey, i'm that one girl that u gave advice to , the 225 lbs girl, um i have a question for u, like what kind of stuff did u eat? and like how many calories a day? how much water did u drink a day? stuff like that!

do u have msn? do u think u could help me on there little by little on there? thanks thanks zeek666_1@hotmail.com

o0tina0o

I never counted calories or fat grams. I only counted carbs-no more than 20 grams of carbs a day. The atkins diet is a strict low carb diet. I ate lots of meat and salads. And other things like broccoli and cauliflower with cheese. If you go to atkins.com there is a list of acceptable foods, and you can't eat anything that's not on the list. Also I love to cook, so I made up my own recipes using only the things on the list. There is also a book with all the guidelines that you can get for about $6.

I will e-mail you with additional info.

Q: (I asked this question to everyone before, but I have certain favorite columnists so I'll just ask them now)
Okay, well, there's a guy I know from MSN who I've been talking to for about a year now, friend of a friend, never met him in person. Last year we mentioned that it might be interesting to actually meet, though he did think that it might be a little awkward, but twice our plans got screwed up one way or another so we just dropped the subject. I didn't speak to him all summer because his computer broke down, and when he came back on I thought maybe I'd mention our idea again. He said he thought it might still be weird, but I said we should give it a try anyway because there was nothing to lose. He agreed and even suggested a place we could meet. A few weeks later, on a Friday, I said how about Sunday and he said yes, but we didn't decide on a time or anything, and come Sunday I didn't see him online until the late afternoon and he didn't even bring up our half-made plans. Anyway, the point of all this is that I really don't know what to do, whether I should keep trying or not. I really want to meet him because I like his personality but for all I know he finds me annoying. I don't know whether to let it go for another while so as not to seem desperate, or if I should just confront him and ask him to just tell me whether he wants to meet me or not so I can go from there. I really don't want to sound pushy. Sorry this was so long, but any advice would help. Thanks.
P.S.:Before I got answers about being careful because i don't know him. This is true, but I'm just telling you now that there's no need to worry about him being some old perv, I know 2 of his friends and random people who went to school with him, he ain't armed or dangerous, folks. :)

I think you are definitey more interested in meeting one on one than he is. He might just be scared that you won't like him in person. Maybe you should just keep being on-line friends and once you get to know each other better he might come around. I think on-line friendships are awesome because you can get to know people without physical appearance getting in the way.

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I can give advice to anyone of any age, because I'm still young enough to be able to relate to the problems that teens face, but I'm not so young that I haven't had to deal with adult issues. So if you have any questions, just drop them in my inbox, and I'll answer them as soon as I can.